This extraordinary moment we find ourselves in is difficult for a number of odd reasons …
It requires us to shelter in but comes at a time of year when everything, even nature herself, is ramping up, bursting out with new life, not slowing down.
It disrupts the routines in which we find safety, security, and identity.
It disrupts work, which challenges more than just our bank account but also our sense of value and usefulness.
It disrupt school, which feels like an assault on the future.
It denies us some of our freedoms, which feels like an assault on our way of life.
It threatens to separate and isolate us from meaningful relationships, but it also stops some from being able to run from certain relationships. Forcing us to live in closer quarters—perhaps uncomfortably so—with less than ideal relationships between spouses, siblings, parents and children, and perhaps most challenging of all … between us and ourselves.
The philosopher Blaise Pascal once said, “All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” I’ve always suspected he may be right. A recent study in the journal Science found that many people would rather self-administer an unpleasant electrical shock rather than sit alone with their thoughts for 20 minutes.
So, this extraordinary moment we find ourselves in is difficult for a number of odd reasons. For most of us the question is not whether we can dodge the virus but rather how long will we be able to dodge ourselves.
But even now there are reasons to celebrate. With this crisis can come (and I’m quoting my friend, Psychologist Jenifer Rafeedie here) “gratefulness, the freedom of lowered expectations, a sense of creativity in figuring out how to do things differently, a sense of resilience, empowerment, and a renewed sense of appreciation for all we had before this happened … there are, no doubt, some things I should keep when this is over.”
And if we’re flipping this crisis on end and looking for silver linings then we cannot neglect its most unexpected gift … time. Time—not the economy, not our paycheck, not even our home—time is the world’s most valuable commodity.
I think Tolkien put it best …
“I wish it need not have happened in my time,” said Frodo. “So do I,” said Gandalf, “and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”
My wish for you, my friends, is that you stay safe, that you Keep Calm and Shelter On. Before you know it this too shall pass. But while we wait my wish for you is that, as always, you take advantage of the time you’ve been given to build yourself a beautiful life.