Knowing Her Sexually

Are you ready for Season 2? It's a sex tip season!

On this wrap-up of our first season of Knowing Her Sexually, Chris and J discuss what the men in marriage ministry had to say about women's sexuality, including what surprised us and what we took away.

• • Kevin A. Thompson's personal website
  • Change the Odds - Kevin A. Thompson's new website
  • Intimate Covenant - Matt (and Jenn) Schmidt
  • Gary Thomas's website
  • Gary Thomas's Substack newsletter
  • Stupendous Marriage - Stu Gray
  • Awesome Marriage — Dr. Kim Kimberling
  • Heaven Made Marriage - Scott (and Jenni) Means
  • Still Becoming One - Brad (and Kate) Aldrich podcast
  • Aldrich Ministries - Brad Aldrich marriage coaching
  • Dave Barringer's Website
  • Our Webinars (all about women's sexuality and value-priced!)

Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

Dave Barringer, pastor, podcast host, and author of Mosaic Marriage, spoke with us a while back about foreplay in and out of the bedroom. We revisit that episode with a few fresh takeaways in our season of talking to men in marriage ministry about women's sexuality. Take a listen!

Resources

• Dave Barringer’s website
• Launch Point book site
• Mosaic Marriage by Dave Barringer
• Marriage Monday with David Barringer on Apple Podcasts (available through other providers too)
• Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work? – KHS Ministry
• Discover Your Love Language® - The 5 Love Languages®
• Freshen Up Your Foreplay – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• What Wives Long to Hear from Their Husbands (In Their Own Words) – Hot, Holy & Humorous

It's filling up! Only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

We talk with Stu Gray of the Stupendous Marriage Show, cohosted with his wife Lisa, about what he learned about himself and marriage while recovering from porn, what honesty can do for marital intimacy, and how women are different—in life and in the bedroom. Take a listen!

Resources

• Stupendous Marriage Podcast
• Stu Gray's Links
• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John M. Gottman, Ph.D. and Nan Silver
• Men Are Like Waffles—Women Are Like Spaghetti: Understanding and Delighting in Your Differences by Bill and Pam Ferrell
• Sex Begins in the Kitchen: Creating Intimacy to Make Your Marriage Sizzle by Dr. Kevin Leman
• Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy? by Gary Thomas
• The DNA of Relationships by Gary Smalley
• If Only He Knew: A Valuable Guide to Knowing, Understanding, and Loving Your Wife by Gary Smalley
• "But the one who prophesies speaks to people for their strengthening, encouraging and comfort" (NIV). 1 Corinthians 14:3, all Bible Gateway translations
• Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor E. Frankl
• Dopamine: What It Is, Function & Symptoms (clevelandclinic.org)
• "The human heart is a perpetual idol factory" (originally, hominis ingenium perpetuam, ut ita loquar, esse idolorum fabricam). Institutes of the Christian Religion, John Calvin, 1.11.8.
• Why I Sometimes Don't Care about the Orgasm - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Episode 49: The Orgasm Gap
• Episode 67: Making Sex Pleasurable for Your Wife, with Gary Thomas

Psst—only a few spots left on the fall Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise with J. Parker!

We welcome Matt Schmidt from Intimate Covenant, a sex-focused marriage ministry and podcast. He talks with us about how he and his wife addressed her past sexual trauma, what the goal of sex really is, and why hubbies should attend to afterglow.

Resources

• Intimate Covenant
• The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma, Bessel van der Kolk
• For Husbands of Sexual Abuse Survivors: Insights from Patrick DeMuth | The Forgiven Wife
• What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 10 Things to Do After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• After the Lovin': What Happens after Sex? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Intimate Covenant's 6th Annual Retreat

And hosted by J this fall...

Hot, Holy & Humorous Marriage Cruise

Kevin A. Thompson is a husband, father, and marriage (and men's) pastor at Bayside Church in the Sacramento, California area. Originally from Arkansas, Kevin has been a frequent guest on Focus on the Family and Family Life. Chris & J talked to Kevin about why it's still important to pursue and woo your wife (first, heart; then, body).

Resources

• I Wouldn't Sleep with You Either - Kevin A. Thompson
• Kevin's Full Website: kevinathompson.com
• Friends, Partners, and Lovers: What It Takes to Make Your Marriage Work by Kevin A. Thompson
• Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last by Kevin A. Thompson
• Fearless Families: Building Brave Homes in an Uncertain World by Kevin A. Thompson
• Stay In Your Lane: Worry Less, Love More, and Get Things Done by Kevin A. Thompson
• Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? | Hot, Holy & Humorous (with Kevin preaching on sex!)
• Happily Book Review: Contrarian Advice for a Great Marriage | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Would Your Spouse Say You're a Christian? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Are You Owed Sex in Marriage? | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Why I Won't Just Tell Your Spouse to Have Sex with You Already | Hot, Holy & Humorous
• The Worst Way to Get Laid | Knowing Her Sexually
• Friends, Partners, & Lovers: Great Resource (review) | The Forgiven Wife

And learn more about J's Hot, Holy & Humorous cruise October 14-21, 2023 HERE: https://hotholyhumorous.com/cruise-2023/. Space is limited!

Scott Means of Heaven Made Marriage began marriage ministry in his church and has now expanded to a website, books, and videos to reach more and more couples. Listen to his conversation with J and Chris about the bridal paradigm, intimacy, and vulnerability.

• Heaven Made Marriage
• Scott's books
• The Bridal Paradigm - Heaven Made Marriage
• Pursue the Path of Intimacy - The Forgiven Wife
• Guy Talk: The Importance of Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
• Guy Talk: Mismatched Sex Drives - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
• Guy Talk: A Wife's Beauty - Sex Chat for Christian Wives

Dr. Kim Kimberling has been married for 53 years and has counseled marriages for over 40 years! His ministry, Awesome Marriage, has reached even more couples with its honest, biblical, and practical insight. Listen in as Dr. Kim talks with Chris and J about sexual expertise, empathy, accountability, and more.

Resources

• Awesome Marriage University
• Achieving Awesome Sex in Marriage: The Christian Sex Course | Awesome Marriage
• Awesome Marriage — Marriage, Relationships, and Premarital Counseling with Dr. Kim Kimberling
• When "I Feel..." Statements Don't Work - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• The Power of Sexual Empathy in Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Support Groups for Men and Women | Small Groups Online (Live Free Ministries)
• Episode 148: Sex Scheduling 101 - Sex Chat for Christian Wives
• Praying Before, During, and After Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• A Prayer about Sexual Temptation - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for wives, but still relevant)

And a reminder...

Check out J's Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise—setting sail in October!

Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

Gary Thomas, theologian and marriage author, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What differences between men and women can help you cater more to your wife's pleasure? How can you unleash the power of the five senses? And what does "simmering" have to do with sexual desire?

Resources

• Gary Thomas's Website
• Married Sex: A Christian Couple's Guide to Reimagining Your Love Life by Gary Thomas and Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC
• Simply Sacred with Gary Thomas | Substack
• Man vs. Woman: The Differences - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Newsflash, Hubbies! She Loves Foreplay. - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• How Do You Like to Be Touched? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• My Favorite Feeling During Sex (And It's Not Orgasm) - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Episode 33: When Sex Hurts Her
• The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God (mentioned by Gary)
• Episode 60: Use the 5 Senses to Help Her Engage with Sex
• The Only Woman in the World - Gary Thomas

And a reminder...

Click to learn more about the Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise!

Support us on Patreon: KHS Ministry | creating podcasts, blog posts, webinars, and more | Patreon

Brad Aldrich, marriage therapist and ministry leader, joins us to discuss what he's learned about women's sexuality. What does connection mean for wives compared to husbands? How do connection, curiosity, and past trauma impact sexual intimacy in your marriage? Take a listen!

Resources

• Aldrich Ministries
• Still Becoming One Podcast with Brad & Kate Aldrich
• The 7 Year Itch (Episode 27) - Still Becoming One
• Unfinished & Beautiful with Kate Aldrich - Hot, Holy & Humorous (oldie but goodie!)

LEARN MORE ABOUT THE CRUISE WITH J. PARKER AND BRAD & KATE ALDRICH: Hot, Holy & Humorous Cruise (hotholyhumorous.com)

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