Knowing Her Sexually

Communication is another way couples connect, and how well your wife feels understood can have an impact on her sexual interest. Today, we talk about what wives want most in conversation with their husbands.

J. Parker is one of the speakers, with 5 Steps to Better Sex.

• Why She Communicates the Way She Does (and It May Not Be What You Think) – J’s guest post on The Generous Husband
• When Men and Women Struggle to Communicate – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 11 Tips for Husbands – The Forgiven Wife
• You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen
• Spiderwebbing – Dr. Emerson Eggerichs (video)
• It’s Not About the Nail from Jason Headley (video)
• Understanding the Wife’s Code from Jeff Allen / Dry Bar Comedy (video)
• Conversation? Sex Roles Reversed from Jay & Laura Laffoon (video)
• Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations about Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker

The next time your wife shares something with you, ask her what kind of response she’s looking for from you. Does she want you to just listen, to suggest solutions, or something else?

Plenty of husbands feel their wife pulled a "bait-and-switch," meaning she reeled him in with sex and switched to disinterest. What happened?

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Resources

• Why "Why" Matters - The Forgiven Wife
• Where Did Your Sexual Interest Go? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 7 Reasons You Don’t Want Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous (written for wives, insight for husbands)
• Lessons Learned from Premarital Sex - The Forgiven Wife
• Why You Feel Worse Than He Does about the Premarital Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous

This Week's Takeaway

Write down 2-3 reasons why your wife's sexual interest may have changed.

WHEN you have sex can have an impact on the quality of the experience. J and Chris share some ideas on how to think about the timing of sex.

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Resources

• How Do You Manage Sex When Your Schedules Are Different? – The Forgiven Wife
• When I Rejected My Husband’s Advances Outright – Hot, Holy & Humorous (repeats the story J told about being awakened)
• 5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous

This Week’s Takeaway

Ask your wife to choose the day and time of your next sexual encounter, and put it on both your calendars.

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Does your wife believe you when you tell her she's beautiful? J and Chris talk about some of the struggles women have and then give you some ideas on how you can help your wife.

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• A Wife's Breasts Have History! - The Forgiven Wife
• How My Husband Sees Me - The Forgiven Wife
• The Only Woman in the World - Gary Thomas
• The Most Beautiful Woman in the World - My Beloved Is Mine!
• Husbands, Help Us Feel & Be Beautiful - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• You Say Your Wife’s Attractive, She Says No. Now What? - Hot, Holy & Humorous

Tell your wife three things you find beautiful about her, and be specific about why.

How can you introduce new sex positions in your marriage?

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Resources

• Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - The Forgiven Wife
• "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design
• Why You Should Try This Sex Position - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Should You Get a Sex Pillow? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Sex pillows and wedges
• Sex Position Cards
• The Cookie Sutra: An Ancient Treatise: That Love Shall Never Grow Stale. Nor Crumble.

This Week's Takeaway

Suggest to your wife that you each come up with a position that you'd like to try, and talk about what appeals to you about that position.

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What are some ways you can pray for your wife—and what does prayer have to do with sex, anyway?

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• If You Don't, Who Will? - The Forgiven Wife
• 11 Tips for Husbands - The Forgiven Wife
• Climate Change - The Forgiven Wife
• Who Are You Praying to Change in Your Marriage? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• I’m Praying for My Sex Life. When Will God Answer? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Praying for Unity in Your Marriage Bed - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Praying Together for Your Marriage - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker (conversation guide with prayers)

Pray for your wife.

What does “make-up sex” mean for a wife, and how is that different from what it may mean for you? We explore this topic with our special guest, Julie Sibert of Intimacy in Marriage.

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• Don't Touch Me: I'm Angry! – Hot, Holy & Humorous (much older post)
• Q&A with J: How to Handle Arguments in Your Marriage – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• What Detractors Have Taught Me about Resolving Marriage Conflict – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Intimacy in Marriage, Julie Sibert's website
• Better Sex in Your Marriage Video Series – Intimacy in Marriage

Next time you experience tension or conflict with your wife, be the first to initiate resolution, reconciliation, and/or restoration. Make sure you really make up before initiating the make-up sex.

We asked wives what they wish their husbands understood about their sexuality, and they came through! In this episode we share their responses with you.

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Resources

• Webinar - Helping Your Wife Want to Have Sex
• Hot, Holy & Humorous question for wives (just for your reading enlightenment, guys!)
• Honeycomb & Spice community (If your wife wants a safe place to talk about sex with other wives, this is the place!)
• Episode 5: Getting Her to Talk About Sex
• Episode 6: Does Choreplay Work?
• Yada, Yada, Yada…Talking During Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Speaking Seductively to Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 101 Words for Your Private Parts (But No Curse Words) - Hot, Holy & Humorous

This Week's Takeaway

Share with your wife something you wish she understood about your sexuality—and maybe ask her what she wishes you understood about hers too.

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Romance novels, movies, and TV shows promote myths about sex that we must correct, but also give clues on what kind of intimacy appeals to women. We discuss illusions and insights of romantic stories.

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• Common Myths of Romance Novels – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• What Romance Writers Teach Me About Sex – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Why Being a Good Father Turns Your Wife On – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? The Forgiven Wife
• A Shaded View of Romance – The Forgiven Wife
• A Romance Book You Can Read – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• Movies to Inspire Romance – Hot, Holy & Humorous
• A Marriage Movie: My Review of THE SONG – Hot, Holy & Humorous

Watch a romantic movie or show together and discuss what you like about it.

It is said that sex starts in the kitchen. In other words, husbands who help out in the kitchen get more sex. In this episode we talk about what is true about this idea—and what isn't.

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Resources

• A Place Deep Inside - The Forgiven Wife
• Climate Change - The Forgiven Wife
• Is Vacuuming Foreplay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous
• 4 Research-Based Tips for Better Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous

This Week's Takeaway

Ask your wife, "What can I take off your plate for you?" Visit our website: khsministry.com