I'm sitting in it. And the feeling is great. Reflection time!

Have you ever had a moment where the direction was just not playing it out? Stuff was happening. Emotions on the high, stress levels through the roof?

The typical way is to invite your mates round for a good old whinge and pity party. In reality, no one turns up and nobody cares. The typical illusion anyway. Sitting around the work coffee lounge or office water cooler and spewing misery left right and centre. It's fucking toxic.  And it becomes a competition between workmates of whos the most miserable one.

Its been well over 6 years since I have worked in a team environment. Being so independent that teamwork in my industry does not make the dream work. Every man for himself and nobody gives a rip about your problem. Reality check.....

In my glory days as a meatworker, I would partake in on floor whinge sessions or out in the durrie shed having a cry on how much of a dickhead the blu hat was and the union needs to do more, need more strikes etc. Public outcry. etc

So here I am sitting in my stuff. Reflecting. The stuff has gone sideways. Why not. Perfect timing to catch this for an episode.

When was the last time stuff went sideways for you? the temptation for a dummy spit has risen.

Well perfect. Press play and check-in. Let's reflect.....

Journey on...

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Midweek check-in 4,5,6,7 Shit! I'm out of the agreement
Weekly check-in. How are you all feeling right now?

I have found that going week to week is draining and a long time between drinks. Run out of gas to quick. Think of it as a mid-week top-up.

Yep, I have been out of the agreement on this. Haven't kept up with this project for four weeks. I will model how to get back in so you know what to do if your get challenged.


Where are you at right now?
Five core emotions. Happy, Sad, Mad, Fear and Shame as the orbit. 

Where do you need support/Accountability?

Join as I model this and answer midweek check-in questions to keep in check for the week on progress.

1. How do I feel about what's happened so far?
2. How do I feel about what's happening the rest of the week?
3. Im excited to focus on...
4. I will create space from...

Regular weekly check-in helps create accountability. Accountability is crucial in achieving milestones.

Societal Expectation Vs The Reality to Change

Change, growth. It's painful. Or it can be.

What makes it challenging is Societal expectation that Second Chance Beings must change and our toxic culture makes it clear every time a case goes through the media that change and anger are clear.

The question is are you ready to change? Are you? If so at societies pace or your own growth?

Let's dive deep into this topic in this episode. Our cultural conditioning and peer pressure does it really lead to change, growth and unity? Or does it lead to division, isolation and retribution?

Hold that thought for a moment and press play on this episode. From myself who has walked this path and I witness many men, I visit in gaol walking a similar path.

Change is painful. Change is positive growth. Change is also a journey self walked by oneself. Not at the pressure of culture.

I am an advocate of change for the better. But only when the individual is ready. Anything else is just an opinion.

Journey on....

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Are you trying lately? How's that going? Having much luck moving forwards?

Didn't think so. "There is no try. Only do". -Yoda

Let that land for a bit. The journey of growth is tough. But lets cut the cards. Growth only happens with progression. Healing only happens through being challenged in a healthy manner towards growth.

Join me on this episode as I dive deep on procrastination on how it's a stalling point towards growth. I am a procrastinator at the best of times. It's paralysing at the best of times. But I have found a way through it. Even beyond walking the journey battling mental health.

I share steps that have worked for me to break through procrastination and push forwards. 
I work 60 hours a week on the road, 20 hrs a week part-time uni degree and 10 hours or so into this podcast and The Second Chance Man. Its all about progression. 

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Not Long into 2021 Can you believe it?

Already counselled a friend of mine who lost her friend, a respected father to suicide.

Why????

Couldn't overcome their mask and yes I say mask of not knowing how to reach out and ask for help.

2021. Asking for help particularly during a crisis is a surreal challenge that can have devastating effects.

It's also a two-sided situation. As a man who still struggles at times to do this very action its also up to those around to learn how to read signs, language and body language.

And persist even when the answer is no.  

This episode Craig dives deep into why asking for help is still a struggle even if not harder and surroundings can play a pivotal role in support.

Prevention is the key to saving a statistic. 10 men a day commit suicide. The next stat maybe someone you know and or love.

Journey on....

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Midweek check-in 3
Weekly check-in. How are you all feeling right now?

I have found that going week to week is draining and a long time between drinks. Run out of gas to quick. Think of it as a mid-week top-up.


Where are you at right now?
Five core emotions. Happy, Sad, Mad, Fear and Shame as the orbit. 

Where do you need support/Accountability?

Join as I model this and answer midweek check-in questions to keep in check for the week on progress.

1. How do I feel about what's happened so far?
2. How do I feel about what's happening the rest of the week?
3. Im excited to focus on...
4. I will create space from...

Regular weekly check-in helps create accountability. Accountability is crucial in achieving milestones.

Relapse

Let's have a conversation about it. The journey to healing is never a straight journey to recovery.

There's always going to be ups and downs, circles, backwards, forwards, u-turns. If anybody does think that the journey is a straight line they are wishing or have not lived as of yet.

Behaviours like addictions follow similar if not identical behaviour patterns. There's always that temptation to fall back onto old habits or get caught up in old environments.

Let us dive deep on this one. Not focus on addiction but actual behaviour.

Inmates out of prison, those on probation/Parole orders and even good behaviour bonds pose a great risk to reoffending. 49 to 71 per cent reincarceration between Australia, NZ, Britain and the US because why?

You guessed it. Relapse in behaviour. Lack of emotional support/accountability is the cause.

Let's dive deep on this episode as I have experienced relapse myself and gone through the system twice for a similar but not the same case.

Journey on....

Midweek check-in 2
Weekly check-in. How are you all feeling right now?

I have found that going week to week is draining and a long time between drinks. Run out of gas to quick. Think of it as a mid-week top-up.

Since this is the first week its first point of accountability to launch it as I missed last week.

Where are you at right now?
Five core emotions. Happy, Sad, Mad, Fear and Shame as the orbit. 

Join as I model this and answer midweek check-in questions to keep in check for the week on progress.

1. How do I feel about what's happened so far?
2. How do I feel about what's happening the rest of the week?
3. Im excited to focus on...
4. I will create space from...

Regular weekly check-in helps create accountability. Accountability is crucial in achieving milestones.

Midweek check-in 1

Excited to launch a new mid-week series. Weekly check-in. How are you all feeling right now?

I have found that going week to week is draining and a long time between drinks. Run out of gas to quick. Think of it as a mid-week top up.

Since this is the first week its first point of accountability to launch it as I missed last week.

Where are you at right now?
Five core emotions. Happy, Sad, Mad, Fear and Shame as the orbit. 

Join as I model this and answer midweek check-in questions to keep in check for the week on progress.

1. How do I feel about what's happened so far?
2. How do I feel about what's happening the rest of the week?
3. Im excited to focus on...
4. I will create space from...

Regular weekly check-in helps create accountability. Accountability is crucial in achieving milestones.

Being Triggered Part Two on this journey of Triggers. How my Environment triggers me.

Part one we focused on the internal or intrinsic triggers.
Part two focuses on Extrinsic or external triggers.

Triggered from the outside lately?

Read something in the media, a court case and gone WTF? Tempted to jump on social media and post something reactive? A violent response? Boom... You're triggered externally.

Maybe something else triggers you. A certain sound, smell or even colour. A sensation maybe.

DV victims are often triggered by screaming as that invokes survival mode. Rape victims can be of touch or the sound and pitch of a certain voice.

My triggers were screaming cattle and puppies as I lived two separate experiences in this.

I sat down with Brisbanes Top Criminal Psychologists for a mentoring session in picking the brains of two experts on both Part one and Part 2 of these episodes. I wanted to dive deep on this topic. These two experts helped me forge my current path of Uni and my own obsession with trauma, motives and studying human behaviour.

"Humans and animals are wonderful experiments happening in the current moment of time".

Grab something to take notes for this one as I extract wisdom from experts.

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