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This week Anne and Alison talk with IFS therapist Madeleine Warren about the parentified child.  We interview Madeleine Warren, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) about parentified children. This is a relationship children have with their parents in which the child takes on the parent’s role of emotional caretaking in the absence of the parent doing this for the child. This can result in children being labeled “mature for their age” or “an old soul”. These children often grow up feeling that they may not even have any needs, which Madeleine shares with a  humorous and personal story.  Madeleine Warren has a private practice in Evanston, Illinois where she works with individual adults and couples, many of whom have a trauma history and/or histories of childhood parentification.  She is also an Assistant Trainer for the IFS Institute and runs IFS Consultation Groups for trained IFS therapists.  She has a life partner who is a survivor, and no children, although she has been honored to offer some re-parenting and to facilitate inner-parenting with her clients.

00:00 Introduction with Anne and Alison

20:00 Interview with Madeleine

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Anne and Alison welcome back beloved guests Tyler Tamai (from Ep11 and Ep16) and Kevin Anonymous (Ep20) to cohost about the 80s parenting and cultural environment that led to our messiah complexes. We look at the popular films that shaped our worldview towards saving. What's a reasonable amount of saving? What amount is a mental illness or psychosis? We dive into the psychology and child trauma of saving. We look at Jesus' mental health (the OG Messiah) and lastly, we explore what demons are to us.

00:00 Intro with Anne and Alison

17:00 Science Corner with Alison

19:00 Conversation with Tyler and Kevin

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Anne and Alison interview Dr. Donielle Prince about holidays in the United States like Presidents day and the legacy of historical racial trauma and violence which complicates celebrating said holidays. We talk about the messiness of engaging with social justice and racial equity work and how to stay in the work. Most importantly we talk about why we need to keep doing this work. Listen to this episode for a new way to celebrate Presidents' Day in America.

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Anne and Alison talk with Dr. Claudia Luiz,  a New York-based psychoanalyst about the nature of mental illness, emotion dysregulation, trauma, and how normal feelings can make us sick. Claudia makes complex mental health topics accessible and conversational. This conversation is not to be missed. You will feel less alone in your crazy world after hearing Claudia's vulnerabilities and wisdom. 

Dr. Claudia Luiz, a clinical psychoanalyst, is the first-place winner of the 2006 Phyllis Meadow Award for Excellence in Psychoanalytic Writing; a 2008 Writer’s Digest Award; and is an NAAP 2019 Gradiva Award nominee.  Her book, “The Making of a Psychoanalyst” (Routledge, 2019) was reviewed in the Journal of Modern Psychoanalysis as “arguably the best lay book written on modern psychoanalysis,” and at New Books in Psychoanalysis as “poised to create a seismic shift in consciousness.”  Dr. Luiz practices in New York, and teaches at the Boston Graduate School of Psychoanalysis and the Academy for Clinical and Applied Psychoanalysis.

00:00 Intro by Anne and Alison

27:00 Interview with Claudia Luiz

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Anne and Alison process a heavy week of the loss of the life of loved one Kevin Elder, who had struggled with severe mental illness and substance use disorder. Anne compares his life with the life of her brother, John Romine. They interview another Kevin, who has chosen to keep his last name anonymous due to the nature of his work with psychiatric patients. Kevin Anonymous is a psychiatric nurse who sees some of the most intense mental health cases at the hospitals he's worked at. We talk about how the care for the people who are just "too much" for society is simply not enough—we are not offering true care to those most in need. We process the grief of having tried to help and love and finding that it wasn't enough. We talk about the strong link between child trauma, mental illness, and substance misuse disorder (addiction).

00:00 Intro with Anne and Alison

44:43 Interview with Kevin the psychiatric nurse

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Anne and Alison interview Maria Sorensen about her early substance misuse and how her recovery journey informs her work as a trauma and substance abuse therapist. Maria shares that she started abusing substances at age 10 and went into recovery at age 21. Alcoholics Anonymous, Adult Children of Alcoholics, and 12-Step communities were vital in her recovery. She talks about denial in her family and estrangement between family members as a result of that denial.

Maria Sorensen, MA, LAADC, SAP is a holistic and integrative psychotherapist. She is the co-founder of Healing Arts in North Kingstown, RI. She obtained her Master's degree in Holistic Counseling from Salve Regina University in 1996.

Maria specializes in trauma work and is certified in EMDR {eye movement desensitization reprocessing}. She received her training in trauma resolution using EMDR at the Child Trauma Institute. She is trained in Ego State Therapy and she is a certified clinical hypnotherapist. She completed Level One IFS training and she is an IFS Program Assistant. at the IFS Leadership Institute. 

She is an addiction specialist who acquired her license with the State of Rhode Island as a Licensed Chemical Dependency Professional in 1995.  Maria is an independent professional family interventionist with a strong 12-step background. She is a fully qualified and trained Substance Abuse Professional (SAP) under the US Department of Transportation regulations.

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Anne and Alison interview Julyan Davis, a British-American artist living in Asheville, North Carolina about growing up going to Catholic boarding school in England, the particular British outlook with low expectations, his new novel A History of Saints as a healing project, the patriarchy, murder ballads, and more. For more than thirty years he has painted the vanishing architecture of the South. Collaborating with musicians, historians, and writers, his traveling museum exhibits chronicle the folklore and lost histories of the region.

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Anne and Alison interview Carolyn McCarter Wood about trauma, families and eating disorders. Carolyn shares some heartfelt life experiences in her path to this work and her personal healing. Carolyn McCarter Wood is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Certified Eating Disorders Specialist, and a Licensed Clinical Addiction Specialist who lives near Asheville NC. Carolyn grew up in a working class family in Western North Carolina.

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We invited listeners to submit their awkward, funny, or traumatic holiday family stories for this holiday episode. Anne and Alison react to some truly funny and sometimes tragic stories! 

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