Launching Your Daughter

My guest today is Janeen Herskovitz is a licensed mental health counselor in the state of Florida and owner of Puzzle Peace Counseling, LLC. She earned her Bachelor's degree in Special Education from Rowan University in New Jersey, (1995) and her Masters of Arts in Mental Health Counseling from Webster University (2010). She is a trained as an EMDR Trauma Therapist, and writes as a Topic Expert contributor on Autism Spectrum at goodtherapy.org. She has been married to her husband, Joe since 1995, and together, they have two teenage children. Janeen's podcast, Autism Blueprint, covers a variety of topics surrounding autism in the home. In this episode you will learn: Signs of autism Other diagnoses that can occur with autism and why Support and resources for parents and their teens I invite you to sign up for my newsletter to stay updated and receive other parenting tips or information about upcoming events at www.LaunchingYourDaughter.com or www.NicoleCBurgess.com/ep63

Welcome. My guest today Karen Rayne who has a PhD is in Educational Psychology. She has been working in education for the past two decades with an expertise in sexuality education. She began working in sexuality education in 2007 by providing comprehensive sexuality education classes for middle school students and human sexuality classes for college students through Psychology departments. Dr. Rayne is passionate about providing comprehensive sexuality education to people of all ages and stages with sensitivity and a touch of humor. She founded Unhushed in order to expand her educational reach and to open family conversations about sexuality in the home. In addition to providing direct sexuality education to teenagers and adults and writing books, Dr. Rayne writes curriculum and trains sexuality educators in order to expand their skills. Dr. Rayne's newest books include GIRL: Love, Sex, Romance, and Being You and Help Your Kids With Adolescence. GIRL, which will be published by the American Psychological Association's Magination Press, is written as a friendly and accessible guide for older teen self-identified girls as they navigate the tricky waters of emerging sex and sexuality.

In this episode you will learn:

• Why write a book about girls?
• How do girls ask someone out on a date?
• Why would a girl want to be in a relationship?
• How do teen girls end a relationship?

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Today's episode I discuss how a spiritual practice can improve relationships with others and self, how it can help your daughter, what it is and what it is not and intuition. What is a spiritual practice? Spiritual practice can include religious practices Morality deals with issues of right and wrong Ethical system set of values or beliefs and how we conduct ourselves in social scenes or relationships Spirituality is the inner knowing, connection to universe or higher power, higher awareness Maslow hierarchy of needs-used the terms "physiological," "safety", "belonging" and "love", "esteem", "self-actualization", and "self-transcendence" to describe the pattern that human motivations generally move through. Investing in yourself is supporting your mind, body, and spiritual self Journaling, meditating, chanting, taking walks in nature, body movement are all spiritual practices Why role model this to your daughter When young girls or women see their parents practicing "being" vs "doing" it helps give themselves permission to slow down Encouraging your daughter to have a spiritual practice can help maintain a connection to her own intuition and self-assuredness Can decrease the perfectionism or people pleasing behavior Can assist her in staying true to herself vs needing approval from others to follow her life's path

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Today's episode I discuss why investing in yourself as a parent, caregiver or investing in your adolescent is important. I will also discuss the differences between coaching and psychotherapy.

Why investing in yourself or your daughter is necessary

• Everyone has their blind spots or shadows Investing in yourself is supporting your mind, body, and spiritual self
• Whether investing in coaching services or mental health services you are gaining a deeper understanding of yourself, where you want to be and/or healing past hurts, traumas or gaining support in improving your mental health
• Investing in your daughter allows her to change current behavior patterns into being more confident or having an empowered mindset for her adult life
• Healing from a traumatic event(s)
• Gain coping skills to manage worries and fears
• Learn skills sets in habits, communication skills, organization and more
• Making small or big changes impacts your future

Coaching vs Psychotherapy

• There are different kinds of coaching -Business -Parenting -Life -Health -Spiritual
• Coaching does not treat mental health disorders or do mental health evaluations
• Confidentiality is different with coaching than medical or law confidentiality
• Life coaching is to create, develop and facilitate your personal, professional or business goals.
• Life coaching is to develop and to implement a strategy, plan, and/or program that is designed to achieve your goals
• In coaching, you are motivated and take responsibility for all your actions and decisions
• There are certification programs for coaches, but not regulated as it is for mental health professionals
• Psychotherapy or mental health counseling can diagnosis mental health issues and disorders
• Psychotherapy looks more at your past and/or family of origin issues
• Mental health professional attends graduate program (either master's level or doctoral level), depending on state has a specific amount of therapy hours to achieve under supervision, then can take licensure test
• Mental health professional can offer both types of services but can NOT treat the same person under each service

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Today's episode is for all the dads who are listening and raising adolescent girls. Whether you are the biological dad, step-dad, male figure in her in life this episode is dedicated to you. At the time of this recording, next Sunday is Father's Day here in the United States. Dad's I know this stage of development for many teen girls can be challenging because she begins to pull away from parents. My hope is after listening today you find encouragement in staying connected with your daughter or daughters. I want to begin by stating how my Dad has impacted my life and continues to along with sharing some insight from a colleague, Sovann Penn, about his experience with his daughters.

Sovann is a licensed professional counselor and health coach in Portland, OR. He offers pre-marital and couples counseling. Along with Individual counseling for anxiety, depression, insomnia, sleep disorders, sexual addiction, porn addiction, career, transitions, grief, burnout, personal growth.

In this episode you will learn:

• How Nicole's father impacted her as a teen and as an adult
• Supporting your daughter as a teenager is different than as a child
• Sovann shares how he shares his love for his daughters
• Staying connected is the key for both Dads and their daughters

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My guest today is Neil Brown a licensed clinical social worker, author, and podcaster. He is located in the beautiful area of Santa Cruz, CA. Neil has over 40 years of clinical experience, comes from a systemic approach and works with families and couples and kids of every age.In today's episode, we are going to explore some areas in his recent book called Ending the Parent-Teen Control Battle. His book is written for parents of middle to high school age teens.

In this episode you will learn:

• What is a control battle?
• What are the developmental stages in adolescents
• Taming the Beast

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Today's episode I discuss why sleep is important for your teen daughters, how it is normal for adolescents to stay up later and want to sleep during the day vs adults and ways to encourage healthier sleep patterns. I enjoy sleep and know this an area of struggle for many families of teenagers. The adolescent brain is going through many neurological changes and poor sleep can impact many areas of your daughter's life.

In this episode you will learn:

• How lack of sleep impacts your daughter's physical, emotional and cognitive abilities
• Why teens are like vampires
• Healthy sleep hygiene or routines

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My guest today is Mari A. Lee a licensed marriage and family therapist, a certified sex addiction therapist, the founder of Growth Counseling Services in Glendora, California, a best-selling author, popular national speaker, and a business coach supporting therapists in developing multiple income streams. Additionally, Mari is the co-founder of the annual "Shine Retreat for Women" in Laguna Beach, CA.

In this episode, you will learn:

• Mari talks about her own experience of being in foster care
• The Roles moms and dads can play in supporting teen girls
• How self-care can benefit your teenage daughter

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Welcome to the Launching Your Daughter Podcast, today's guest is Lynn Lyons, LICSW who is a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist who lives in Concord, New Hampshire and is in private practice there. In today's episode, Lynn talks about how she became involved with this work, why your daughter shouldn't avoid disappointment and hardship and ways to improve anxiety issues within a family. For 27 years, Lynn has specialized in the treatment of anxiety disorders in adults and children. She is an international speaker and trainer on the subject of anxiety, its role in families, and the need for a preventative approach at home and in schools. With a special interest in breaking the generational cycle of worry in families, she is the co-author of two books on anxiety, Anxious Kids, Anxious Parents: 7 Ways to Stop the Worry Cycle and Raise Courageous & Independent Children, and the companion book for kids, Playing with Anxiety: Casey's Guide for Teens and Kids. Her latest book, Using Hypnosis with Children: Creating and Delivering Effective Interventions is a how-to guide for helping professionals looking to incorporate hypnotic strategies for the treatment of depression, anxiety, medical procedures, pain, and sleep.

In this episode you will learn:

• The subtle changes parents can look out for with anxiety
• Ways in which for parents to get more awareness of what they're saying
• The three X's in managing anxiety

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Today's episode I discuss Mother's Day can be a time to celebrate and share how much you appreciate what you mom has done for you over the years. For others, it can be a day of sorrow, remembrance or pain. Whether this day brings you happiness or sorrow or pain, giving yourself permission to be where you and taking care of yourself is important.

In this episode you will learn:

• Sharing and celebrating what you appreciate about your mother
• Remembering and creating ritual around the loss of your mom
• Reflecting on a painful past and remembering the women who were like moms to you

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