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Shandel shares the "Commit to It and Do It" framework she presented in Germany for living according to one's core values. She outlines the six steps using the acronym COMMIT: Clarify values, Organize life around them, acknowledge Misery as a sign you've strayed, Make hard decisions, Invest in your values, Trust yourself by not compromising.

The COMMIT Framework: 

C - Clarify your top 5 values. Getting crystal clear on the values that are most important to you is essential for the next steps. Clarity provides focus.

O - Organize your life around those values. Once you know your values, intentionally structure your time, goals, decisions, etc. to align with what really matters to you.

M - Misery is a sign you've strayed from your values. Pay attention when you feel unhappy or unfulfilled - it could indicate you're off course from living congruently.

M - Make hard decisions to stay true to your values. Living by your values often requires letting go of less important things, even if they're convenient or profitable. Having the courage to do this is key.

I - Invest in what you value and divest from what you don't. Put your energy, money and resources toward the things and people that align with your values.

T - Trust yourself by not compromising your values and orienting your life around them. Have integrity by staying true to your word with yourself. Rely on your instincts to guide decisions.

Clarifying your top 5 values provides focus and is the foundation for living intentionally and developing self-awareness of your core values provides clarity and focus to achieve goals. Organizing your life and decisions around your values, rather than other factors, ensures you spend energy on what's most meaningful and leads to fulfillment. Feelings of misery or unhappiness can indicate you've strayed from your values and it's time to realign. Living by your values may require difficult decisions, but has rewards like peace of mind that outweigh other benefits. Invest your energy and resources into what really matters to you based on your values. Surrounding yourself with truth-tellers who hold you accountable helps you stay aligned with your values over time. It’s important to treat yourself with the same kindness you show others to stay motivated living congruently. Having compassion for yourself during missteps helps you get back on track living according to your values instead of experiencing shame.

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Shandel and Melanie discuss the "Purposely Connect" stage of the business growth process. They explore how teams can effectively align around purpose, mission and values through communication. They share tools like DISC assessments, Enneagram and Lencioni's working genius that provide insights into communication styles and working preferences. They emphasize the importance of developing trust within the team and resolving conflicts in a healthy manner. The discussion also covers mindset shifts, accountability and understanding different perspectives. The team shares guidance for teams on navigating the "Purposely Connect" stage through alignment, communication and trust-building.

Introduction:
- Overview of the business growth process stages discussed on the podcast
- Today's focus is the "Purposely Connect" stage

Alignment:
- Importance of aligning the team around shared purpose, mission and values
- This lays the foundation for effective collaboration

Communication:
- Tools for understanding communication styles like DISC and Enneagram
- Leadership's role in over-communicating vision and goals
- Developing communication skills across the team
- Emotional Intelligence training

Trust-Building:
- Trust grows or erodes quietly over time if not intentionally cultivated
- Managing conflicts in a healthy way supports trust

Mindset Shifts:
- Personal accountability, understanding different perspectives 
- Avoiding assumptions and seeking others' perspectives

People Practices:
- Hiring for cultural fit based on ideal team player traits
- Scaling communication as teams grow in size

Additional Resources:
- Link to video on story framework mindset - Click HERE
- Contact info to learn more about tools and coaching - Click HERE

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Embracing discomfort and assessing pain points is necessary for growth as an individual, team and organization. In this episode, Shandel and Melanie discuss the first stage in the Process for Sustainable Growth, which is Pain. 

The ACTion steps in this stage is: Assess the Gaps, Character, Competencies & Capacity and Trailblaze through the pain.

It’s important to dig into root causes rather than just symptoms is important to create effective and sustainable change. Character, competencies, and capacities should be assessed to understand where development is needed. Tools like 360 reviews, SWOT analysis and feedback surveys can help objectively evaluate strengths, weaknesses and opportunities for improvement.

Leaders must do the difficult work of self-reflection and assume responsibility for issues rather than blaming others. Trailblazing through pain is a privilege that requires courage and humility and creates a path for others to follow. 

In the Pain stage, it's easy to off ramp into the Cycle of Misery. That happens when we go away from our values, not necessarily intentionally or with negative intentions, but something else gets in the way, such as fear, frustration, or ego. Self-awareness and leaning into our values is key as we assess the pain and find the best path forward.

Growth happens in cycles, and periods of pain or discomfort are inevitable and should not be feared but seen as opportunities for learning and improvement.

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Shandel and Melanie dig into what's at the center of the Process for Sustainable Growth - Values. Living our values (even when it's hard) keeps us in the healthy cycle of growth and moving in the right direction. 

Values evolve when we do hard work on ourselves and lean into personal growth. As we grow, we start to uncover parts of ourselves that we weren’t able to lean into before, or find things that we didn’t realize were so important to us. Finding our values is so important and digging into what really drives us? 

When we don’t live our values, we off-ramp into the cycle of misery, which results in protecting ourselves instead of our values. Most of the time, people don’t do this intentionally – it’s out of fear, frustration or some hard emotion that we aren’t tackling. We can get off track when we aren’t in tune with our emotions or we aren’t dealing with them in a positive way. But we are able to get back into the heathy cycle by reconnecting with our values. If you find yourself in the cycle of misery and not living your values, it doesn’t mean you're a bad person, it just means you are off track and you need to get back on track! Lean into those hard things that you’re avoiding right now and make sure your values are at the center of your actions.

Truth and trust fuels us through the cycle, which we build through living our values. When we are truth-telling and trusting ourselves and others, we facilitate (fuel) our process through healthy growth.

A great weekly exercise is to look at your values and ask yourself if you’re truly living them, or what is one step that you can do this week to honor that value more? This helps us keep our values at the forefront and allows us to lean into them, even when it's hard!

Listen to the previous episode to learn more about the Process and click HERE to see the Healthy Cycle of Growth as well as the Unhealthy Cycle of Misery.

Below are some additional resources on Values, a topic that we have covered from many aspects! 

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The Shandel Group team is back for Season 5 to discuss the Process for Sustainable Growth, a framework developed to support sustainable growth of organizations, teams and individuals.  It's important to remember that growth is uncomfortable and we have to push ourselves into that discomfort, otherwise we will end up moving forward in an unhealthy way. The Process guides us to consciously think through how we grow to make sure we are growing in the right direction.

The Process outlines the 6 stages you can anticipate going through any time you grow. The stages are - Pain, Purposefully Connect, Plant, Progress, Prune and Profit. Click HERE to see the Healthy Cycle of Growth as well as the Unhealthy Cycle of Misery referenced in the podcast, and to learn more about the Process. 

The starting point for any growth cycle is Pain and this is where we enter into the process. In the healthy cycle, everything is centered around our values, understanding what those are and making sure we are focused on living our values. Many pain points come from not knowing our values or compromising them. It’s hard to this work and we can off-ramp into the unhealthy cycle when we are not ready to lean into fixing what isn’t going well. After feeling the pain, the next stage is purposefully connect with our values, others and the struggle we are facing. Planting is a stage full of hard work but this leads to Progress, where we start to see changes coming to fruition. Then we go into the Pruning stage, where we take out the fluff and get rid of things that don’t serve us anymore. Finally we reach Profit, and see that the pain had a purpose and a meaning and we have reached our goal and are profitable.

After going through the cycle, then you start all over with a new pain point! This season is going to be all about how to apply this growth process to all aspects of life and how to get the most out of what you want to accomplish. 

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In this season's final episode, Shandel and Melanie describe meetings that bring efficiency and effectiveness, instead of wasted time and frustration. The team discusses the difference between strategic meetings and tactical meetings and the importance of keeping them separate. They also dig into successful 1-on-1 meetings, which create a space for relationship building as well as a place for coaching and teaching. 

As we prepare for Season 5, we would love your feedback, questions & topics to help us create content that helps YOU! 

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Shandel and Melanie answer a listener's question about sustainable practices to prevent burnout. The team digs into this question from a business standpoint, personal growth and leadership tools. It's important to build strong relationships so you can recognize when someone is struggling as well as taking ownership of the things that we can control, such as sleep and eating healthy. 

We need to think about how to build sustainable growth within our organizations, our teams and ourselves. Shandel and Melanie discuss their own experiences and how they have invested in things that help them avoid burnout. 

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Shandel and Melanie dig deeper into communicating boundaries in Part 2 of this segment. The team talks through tips and advice of how to say no to someone as well as how to share that you don't appreciate someone's behavior.

Learning how to effectively manage up helps keep a reasonable workload while also saying yes as much as possible and maintaining positive relationships. One way to do this is by asking your boss what to prioritize when they ask you to add something new to your plate and communicating timelines for getting things accomplished. It's also important to be realistic about how long something is going to take and give yourself time to check your calendar before automatically saying yes to things. Living with integrity and being a person of your word requires that you take care of your priorities first before taking on more things than you can handle.

Communicating boundaries that have to do with other people's behavior can be hard - here are some tips to do this well! Understand the standards you have for yourself first and then the boundaries you set for others - this helps us train people how to interact with you and treat you. Dig into the specific behavior that you don't want from others - what is causing your discomfort? Don't expect others to know your boundary and communicate it very clearly, when you are not emotionally charged. Offer consequences of not following your boundaries, a reminder and grace period, and then follow through on the consequences.

Click HERE to listen to the podcast with Cody Coles that digs into the mindset shift from being the doing to being the leader. 

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Shandel & Melanie tackle another listener question about setting and communicating healthy boundaries in the workplace. Boundaries and values go hand-in-hand, so understanding your needs and the values you are protecting is key. The team shares their own experiences with setting boundaries and different approaches in communicating them to others. More to come, there will be a Part 2 as Shandel and Melanie dig deeper into this important topic!

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A lot of stress comes from poor conflict management and not being able to have hard conversations in effective and respectful way. Shandel and Melanie answer a listener's question about how to better engage in difficult conversations and turn them into positive experiences. Listen for lots of tools and tips to help you lean into conflict!

Shandel and Melanie covered A LOT of different things. Let us know if you'd like us to go more in depth into any of these. 

Hard conversations can be scary, so a good place to start is shifting your mindset about conflict to see it as beneficial and necessary. Having the conversation the right way in the right mindset is the best gift you can give someone. 

Quoting Scott's Porch Talk Doctor episode, you need to remember 3 things when having hard conversations. Be Kind. Keep the Relationship more important than the Issue. And Be Direct.

A few of the other topics covered include: STORY, giving the benefit of the doubt, using disarming phrases, focusing on behavior versus intentions, digging into dialogue versus discussion, clarifying roles and responsibilities, understanding personalities and communication styles, developing emotional intelligence, and being aware of power dynamics. 

Resolving conflict always leads to more trust and intimacy in relationships.

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