Leadership Behind the Scenes

There’s often an assumption that if you’re employed, your organisation will tell you ( or even teach you) everything you need to learn.

But a lot of the learning we need is deeply personal and depending on your organisation they might offer something appropriate or not. And some organisations offer nothing at all.

It’s all too easy to get complacent, lazy, reactive with your own learning journey.

Just because you’re no longer in fulltime education, doesn’t mean your learning should stop. 

In fact, the best leaders are lifelong learners.

It’s time to get curious about what you want to learn and work on.

Time to take charge of your own learning instead of outsourcing the responsibility for your growth to a corporate entity.

Listen to this episode to help you:

• Explore what you want to learn
• Decide where and how to spend your learning time and energy 
• Figure out how to get the help and input you need, and which questions to ask, to help you learn and grow
• Design a curriculum you’re excited about – so you can enjoy the learning

Listen now and get back into joyful learning.

If you’d like to explore these questions – and more – in more depth, come over to https://noominatan.com/leadershiphour and join us for the monthly Leadership Hour session, designed to increase your productivity and impact 10-fold by dedicating just 1 hour a month to quality thinking. It’s easy and powerful. Sign up here.

And remember, now is a good time to breathe. 

Anger can be helpful. It can move us into action. Like all emotions, it’s healthy to let ourselves feel it, not squash it down. 

But what about the anger that doesn’t go away? Staying mad doesn’t serve us, and it can be toxic to hang on to anger. 

So what can we do?

In this episode I talk through my process for releasing anger and moving forward.

You can just listen – or, if you’re experiencing this situation right now, you could treat this episode as a mini coaching session. Do the process I outline, pause when needed, and work through it, journalling, reflecting, shifting.

Listen to the whole episode to hear my favourite mantra for releasing anger.

You can use this process on yourself, and on others:

Step 1: Ask yourself why you’re still holding on to this anger. 

Step 2: If you hold on to this anger, are you likely to get the good outcomes you are looking for?

Step 3: What is it costing you to hold on to this anger?

Step 4: What would you like to happen going forward – and why?

Step 5: Accept what is and what has happened. State the facts.

Step 6: What is it that you’re really longing for in this situation?

Step 7: What’s the next step you can take to make that happen? (it might not be what you think - and sometimes what happens next is a little bit of magic!)

If you’d like to upgrade your leadership come over to https://noominatan.com/leadershiphour and join us for my monthly Leadership Hour session, designed to save you time, have you feel inner calm and increase your productivity & impact 10-fold by dedicating just 1 hour a month to quality thinking. It’s easy and powerful. Sign up here.

And remember, now is a good time to breathe. 

Do you avoid having awkward conversations? As a leader, what comes to mind when you think about, for example, making someone redundant? 

I’ve had so many leaders ask me “What if they cry?” or “What if I open a can of worms and don’t know what to do?”

In this episode, I tell the story of what happened when I coached one large retail organisation through massive organisational change, and I share why making space for people to air their feelings out loud - even, and perhaps particularly, when the content is difficult - makes change much easier to manage.

Let’s think about:

When you try to shut down people’s complaints and feelings down they don’t go away; in fact often they will just get stronger.

• People won’t be upset for long if they are feeling heard, but they can stay upset for years when they believe no one listened.
• Most people will make an internal shift for themselves if you give them a forum to be heard.
• You lose loyalty if you don’t allow people to have their feelings. 
• If you want people to feel anything, you have to let them feel everything.
• The container matters – don’t let those worms wriggle free! Set up a safe container to hold space for people’s feelings.

And remember, when you show people compassion they will thank you, even in the most difficult of circumstances.

If this is a conversation you would like to continue, come over to https://noominatan.com/ and drop me a line. I’d be so happy to support you with this.

And remember, now is a great time to breathe.

What happens when women brag?

Have you noticed how women often connect around the lowest common denominator? Even underplay and undersell themselves to each other? 

There’s a good reason for that. Throughout history, woman have needed each other for safety and survival. So outshining other women never felt like a good idea – it seemed safer not to shine than be fully in our power. 

But by doing the three things I talk about in this episode, we can all be in our power and build stronger female relationships as a result.

1. Have a bragging session! Things become real when there are witnesses to our accomplishments – especially things we wouldn’t normally celebrate. 

2. See the strength in another person’s pain and struggle. Pity makes us feel weak, so practise seeing the strength in the other person instead. 

3. Listen and filter from love. Be present and actually listen – without criticising, judging or making it about you! Your energy matters more than anything you can say, so send love.

Listen now.

If you enjoy this episode, check out the Female Inner Power Club – it’s a magical space, with many different resources to strengthen your inner power, and a safe space to connect with other women looking to uplift themselves and each other. Members of the Club report increased happiness, better job offers, stronger intuition, more ease and better quality lives.

And remember, now is a good time to breathe. 

“I’m so busy. I don’t have time to think!” Whenever one of my clients says that, my alarm bells go off. 

Because if that’s your belief, you are probably overwhelmed, lost in the weeds and you can no longer see what’s important.

And if you’re saying that you don’t have time to think, you’re probably spending your time doing all the wrong things. 

In this episode we explore the questions you can ask yourself to get back to what matters:

1. Do you stop and wash your mind clean between meetings? (Are you showing up like a sharp knife, ready to slice through tasks and problems – or are you showing up blunt, slowing everything down, doing things badly?)
2. How much of what you’re doing is actually worth doing? What’s most important, right now? (You know the answer.)
3. What do you need to do to show up?

It’s time to blow up every list you’ve ever made (you will never get it all done), understand where you’re going, and remember that 20% of what you’re doing creates 80% of the result.

If you’d like to explore these questions – and more – in more depth, come over to https://noominatan.com/leadershiphour and join us for my monthly Leadership Hour session, designed to save you time, have you feel inner calm and increase your productivity & impact 10-fold by dedicating just 1 hour a month to quality thinking. It’s easy and powerful. Sign up here.

And remember, now is a good time to breathe. 

When something seems difficult, we easily spend oceans of time thinking about it, procrastinating, building it up in our head… So much energy and time wasted. Mostly, much more time & energy than what it would have taken to just do the thing or to have the conversation!

But there’s a magic trick for this.

For making everything easier. Whether it’s a work task, a conversation, a  new habit you want to embed, a relationship to improve… this trick helps.

Listen to the episode to find out what it is!

What does good work/life balance really look like?

In this episode I dispel some of the myths around work/life balance, and talk about four key ideas to take on board if you want to achieve extraordinary results in life and work ‒ without getting burned out.

1. Balance is not static. The things you need to prioritise, and the time you need to spend on them, will fluctuate day to day, week to week, month to month. Extraordinary results require extraordinary focus on one area ‒ but not all the time.

2. It will take as much time as you give it. So be deliberate, and choose how much time you’re going to spend.

3. Think about which part of your day you will give to something. When are you at your best? It’s not the amount of time you spend, it’s also the quality of time, so think about what energy you are bringing.

4. It’s not that you don’t have the time (it really isn’t!). What are you prioritising? Be honest! Call yourself on your own BS. Where might you want to choose differently? And remember that in order to say yes to something, we need to say no to something else.

Are you ready to achieve extraordinary results in life and work ‒ without getting burned out? Listen now.

Would you like a boss who gets the very best out of you? A boss who makes you feel confident, be courageous and show up radiantly, while having a massive impact and creating all the right results? (And not just for the short term, but for the long term. And it being in full integrity with who you are and what you want to create in your life.)

Sound good?

In this episode I talk about how to become your own ultimate boss through:

• Reclaiming and expanding your inner power
• Improving the human dynamics and connections of your relationships
• Getting out of your own insecurities, fears and ego driven stuff 
• Being in daily dialogue with yourself
• Trusting both the guidance that you receive from higher power and your own intuition
• Investing 10 minutes a day in expanding your potential

Are you ready to have a higher boss that gets the very best out of you – starting today? Listen now.

So you're trying to figure out how to find and choose a coach? Maybe you've had coaching in the past, and it didn’t feel like a good fit. Maybe you've never had coaching. 

Now you're wondering how you will know if someone is a good coach for you.

It's a big leap, and it's a big investment (whether it's your company's money or your own), so you want to make sure you choose the right coach for you. 

In this episode I share some of the questions to ask and the things to look out for when you’re looking for a coach (and why these are so important), including:

• Do you feel comfortable with them? Comfortable enough to share some really deep and personal stuff with them? Comfortable enough for total honesty?
• Where do they come from? Why did they get started on coaching? What do they believe their coaching is for? 
• What’s their philosophy, and what are the beliefs that they hold about life and leadership?
• What is their worldview? What is their secret (or not so secret) agenda? 

Listen to this episode to to find out what to look out for and be aware of when you're choosing a coach.

If you want to have an impact, whether as a leader who is employed, or whether you're running your own business, how to inspire and be inspiring is incredibly important. 

So often clients come to me wanting some quick tricks and tips on how to to be inspiring and how to inspire others. People show up saying, “Tell me the steps I need to know to be inspiring! Is there a book I can read? How do I make this happen?”

There isn't a simple three step formula. But there are three questions you can ask yourself that will really help you with this.

1. What are you hiding? (You won’t inspire anyone by being bland!)
2. Are you trying to get this inspirational message from a place of your rational logical mind? (Because when was inspiration ever a rational, logical thing?)
3. What excites you about the thing you are trying to inspire others around? (If you're not lit up about the the message you want to pass on, forget about inspiring anyone else.)

Listen to this episode to learn how you can use these three questions to increase your impact and inspire others.