Leadership Chemistry

If you've ever listened to this podcast (or any piece of self-help media for that matter) and thought, "well that's all great advice, but it would never work for me," let this be the one episode you take to heart. So many of us get stuck in a rut, feeling like we have no control over our lives. Psychologists call this a low "locus of control," where we feel like nothing we do matters, that life is just something happening *to* us. The problem with that line of thinking is that it keeps us miserable and stuck without any reason to take action—why try to make a change if you think it won't matter? Conversely, feeling a sense of control and ownership of our lives has numerous mental and physical benefits, and can create a larger effect as we impact the people around us. Leadership doesn't have to "start from the top," it can begin right there, where you're standing now.

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If you're an avid listener of this podcast, you're probably a newer online coach or manager looking to get better at your craft. Even if you're not a newbie, there are always challenges that arise when you're working with humans, so I brought on my friend and colleague, Dr. Stefania Tiveron, who I consider to be both an expert on information and on transformation. Today we're discussing 4 of the most common challenges we've experienced as coaches and how to help our clients (and ourselves) overcome them.

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I've been challenging myself lately to listen and engage with people I don't necessarily agree with to help fight against confirmation bias, and it's going about as well as you might imagine. In this quest, I've started reading a book called Leadership BS which is all about why everything we do as leaders and coaches is nonsense, and leads to nowhere. People are as unhappy and unhealthy as ever, so what do we do? Do we give up, or do we push back? Look, coaching is hard, but that doesn't mean its worthless. Even if you can't help everyone, we're helping someone, and that matters.

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It's been a minute since we had a guest here on the pod, so I'm pumped to be able to chat with the incomparable Sara Baker. If you looked us "Renaissance woman" in the dictionary, you'd find a picture of Sara there and I'm not sure how she has enough time in the day to do it all, but somehow she does. Today Sara and I are talking about our experiences in the coaching world—what coaches get right, what they get wrong, the future of the industry, and the must-reads for anyone interested in becoming a better coach and a better person.

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One of the most common questions I get from new coaches is "How do I structure a coaching call?" It's easy to feel the need to discuss, teach, and address everything on every single call, but this can feel overwhelming and cause our calls to lack clarity and leave our clients anxious and unaware of where to start. That's why today I'm sharing a 3-part formula to help you organize your calls by deciding what you should (and should not!) cover. It's been an effective process for me and all of the coaches I've worked with, and I know you'll have a much easier time with your clients and get them even better results.

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There might be some debate as to who the greatest coach of all time, across any sport or discipline is, but to me, there's no one greater than Greg Popovich. In some interviews, Popovich seems like the antithesis to what makes a great coach—he can be aggressively direct and he acts like a total asshole some of the time, but one this he does get is results and he does it all while being beloved by his players. Most coaches I know are terrified of being strict or harsh with their clients for fear of coming across like a jerk, so what is it that Popovich is doing that makes him the best in the world? He's mastered the balance of personal connection and brutal honesty, all while integrating his coaching to the bigger picture of life.

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Authenticity is overrated. I'm coming in with a hot take today, but hey, sometimes a hot take in needed. "Just be authentic!" is one of the most popular pieces of advice in the self-help world, but I think it's a horrible goal to have. Sure, it seems so freeing to not care what other people think about you, but we're human beings who need relationships and connection, and not caring about others' opinions is a self-centered, awful way to create a meaningful life. Today, I'm sharing why I think "authenticity" is overrated and how to navigate being yourself.

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The 2024 World Happiness Report was recently released, and for the first time in the report's history, the United States dropped out of the top 20 happiest countries, largely due to a drastic decline in the happiness of the younger generations. So, how do we get our happiness back? I've always loved talking about and studying what creates happiness, and though traditional psychology focuses on what can go "wrong" with the brain, there is a ton of new research and evidence on things we can do "right" to increase that happiness quotient. Today I'm sharing 3 things to focus on that if we begin to do now, they'll create an immeasurable difference in our lives even just 6 months from now.

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A core tenet of my work and a huge piece of what we do as coaches, managers, and leaders is effective communication. Y'all know I love talking about how to talk to people. Y'all also know that I love even more is studies, and there are countless studies that show just how impactful great communicators are on the people we are trying to influence. Great communication helps us become synchronized, which in turn makes us better motivators and increases trust, which is one of the most important factors of efficiency that we have. It's no surprise that communication is a powerful tool for us as coaches and managers, and luckily for us, there are 8 skills + behaviors I've found that super-communicators embody in their interactions.

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Think about how hard it is to change yourself—if change was easy, we'd all be perfect, right? But we all know changing takes time and we often fail, so why do we think we could change others? Whether as coaches, leaders, parents, friends, or parters, the idea of helping someone to change sounds amazing, but the truth remains, you just can't change someone who doesn't want it. What we can do, however, is cultivate an environment that makes it easier for someone to change. If someone feels safe, connected, and they have someone leading the way, they're far more likely to change alongside you.

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