Sometimes it feels like we’re in all-out gender warfare, where women are putting in work to heal themselves while men dig their heels into their old, problematic ways. You don’t have to tell us, we know it’s not ALL men, but there’s a lot of data showing that women are outpacing men in almost all growth metrics, including intellectual and personal. We don’t know why men are more resistant to change, but we don’t feel like we’re asking too much. No one needs to be perfect and “healed” from all of their traumas, all we want is a man who is willing to grow as we go.

If you act more in love, you’ll feel more in love [2:54]

Gaslight yourself through life [4:21]

Are we in a gender war? [5:33]

Waiting for men to step up [6:47]

Do men even do personal development? [10:31]

Why change if there’s no reason to? [12:41]

Men and women deal with our feelings differently [15:02]

You don’t need to be perfect, just open to growing [19:19]

The stages of personal development [22:43]

Appreciating your partner for who they are [25:54]

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We’re back and chatting about our new favorite subject—ChatGPT. Danny-J is an outspoken ChatGPT lover—it’s her nutrition coach, therapist, best friend, travel agent, personal assistant, and potentially the love of her life—but not everyone feels the same. But whether you love it or hate it, it’d be a mistake to pretend like it doesn’t exist. No one is going to force you to use generative AI, but plenty of coaches are starting to try it out, and we need to make sure we’re doing our part to stay relevant and valuable.

Jill doesn’t “get” ChatGPT [2:12]

You need to use the right prompts [3:33]

Use it as a tool, but don’t let it replace you [6:32]

It seems lazy, but is it illegal? [9:54]

The communication of the future [12:27]

All of the content sounds the same [14:49]

We can’t pretend this thing doesn’t exist [17:42]

So many people don’t even know these tools exist [21:30]

How much time is Danny-J spending on ChatGPT? [24:43]

Views are up, but follower accounts are down [26:33]

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We can’t fight the fact that we’re getting older, so we might as well fight the urge to hate our bodies. Nobody (and no body, for that matter) looks hot every moment of the day. Even the sexiest people alive have insecurities or unflattering angles, so why bother hating the less-than-perfect parts of ourselves? The people that love us don’t care about what we look like and honestly, attractiveness comes down to confidence more than anything. There’s always going to be societal pressure on the way we look, so we’re opting out of adding on to that noise and judgement.

Can we just ignore our flaws? [2:11]

Don’t let your negative thoughts hold you back [4:09]

No body looks perfect 100% of the time [6:48]

Your loved ones don’t care about your insecurities [9:43]

Are men aging better than women? [12:12]

Confidence has nothing to do with how you look [14:57]

The constant mental gymnastics of your 20s [18:44]

You don’t need anyone else to look (and feel) good [19:50]

Look for things you love about yourself [22:13]

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Is ChatGPT taking over the world? Is it making us dumber? Less social? Is it ruining our critical thinking? Nope! At least for us, AI programs like ChatGPT have been a powerful tool we’ve used to enhance and simplify our lives, and it’s certainly not a crutch. Being scared of the implications of AI makes sense, but ChatGPT isn’t a replacement for human interaction. If you use it well, it can make your life better than you ever imagined.

Is ChatGPT brainwashing us? [2:15]

ChatGPT is made to be kind to us [5:46]

A therapist-meets-bestie [7:55]

Travel and event-planning [10:19]

A personal health tracker [13:00]

Your personal writing editor [15:25]

Life-transition doula [17:21]

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Katy Perry went to space, and women everywhere rejoiced. Except that didn’t actually happened. Well, Katy Perry DID go to “space” but the rest of us were pretty unimpressed. There’s a lot of talk about what rich people should and shouldn’t do with their money, and while you’ll never hear us telling anyone how to spend their cash, whenever a celebrity does a stunt like this, it makes you wonder why, and what better things they could be doing with their seemingly unlimited wealth. Whether you think billionaires should be doing more or not, we think all of us can agree on one thing: this space mission was a little cringe.

Katy Perry went to space [1:00]

Is anyone actually feeling empowered? [3:02]

It’s violently out of touch [5:53]

Why do you get to tell people how to spend their money? [8:23]

Money is meaningless to these people [12:01]

We have no idea what anyone is doing with their money [16:46]

What’s the threshold for wealth before giving back? [18:32]

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Getting older is already enough of a mind-fuck, and now Danny has to start adding dating back into the mix? Are you fucking serious? We thought dating in our mid-30’s was bad, but now it seems so much worse. People are lying about their ages left and right, men we don’t even know judge us on if we’re “fuckable” enough (like we even asked them), dating apps are full of meaningless connections, but looking for men who spend their time online is a brand-new ick we didn’t know we had. Dating has never been easy—well, except for when we were 20, but does that even count?—and this time, Danny plans to sit in alone in her house and if someone wants to date her, he’ll have to do all the work to find her.

A new nose and a new Instagram account [1:11]

Going no-contact after a break up [5:03]

Raw-dogging grief [7:36]

Lying about your age in dating [11:12]

We’re either “fuckable” or “too old” [15:36]

Is age the only thing that matters? [18:51]

Men on Instagram is kind of an ick [20:48]

Dating feels so arbitrary now [26:43]

We just keep getting older (and we hate it) [28:42]

There’s power in owning your age [33:06]

Let people know you’re ready to date [35:03]

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The person you decide to build a life with is one of the most important decisions you can make, but also… Sometimes the person you once knew (or even the person you once were) changes unexpectedly. There are things we know now that we never could have predicted in our 20s and were getting married. When we picked our ex-husbands, we really thought we made the right choice, but shit happens and shit changes. Even with all the planning and foresight in the world, you can never predict how things will change, and putting pressure on marriages to be either perfect decisions or failures helps no one. Life changes all of us—sometimes for the better, but not always. Maybe that means picking an imperfect partner or ending a relationship we thought would last forever. All we can do is our best.

A 911 call [1:05]

Last minute surgeries [10:13]

Anyone can change, at any given time [14:17]

Life throws curveballs all the time [17:22]

Are you willing to work together through the hard parts? [22:04]

Your “perfect match” may never exist [25:20]

You don’t know what you don’t know [28:15]

Life changes all of us [32:58] 

All we can do is our best [36:08]

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When you’ve travelled as much as we have, and worked from home for as long as we have, building an in-person community is harder than it looks. We have so many deep friendships that we love and cherish, but those people we love are often states away. That’s all well and good, except for the times when you’re in need, and you need the support of a community. It’s something we’ve taken for granted before, but as our lives change more and more, community is something we’re really craving. We’ll always love our online communities and our long-distance friendships, but we need our in-person communities too.

Missing out on community [3:42]

Is community easier to build with kids? [7:38]

Saying yes to every invite [11:11]

Some neighborhoods are friendlier than others [13:43]

Your community doesn’t need to be your BFFs [14:43]

Different levels of connection [17:59]

Are we just introverts? [20:37]

Relying only on your partner is a slippery slope [24:19]

It’s more important than we thought [27:30]

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What makes a good friend? Is it someone with lots of wealth, power, or status? Someone who can connect you with important people? Kind of sounds like a business colleague or mentor to us. When we think of the best friends we have, none of those qualities is at the top of the list. Friendships that are meaningful and lasting aren’t transactional. So, some people think that friends that are too busy to see you are “better,” but we think that’s bullshit.

Lashes and Love is Blind [1:45]

Moving somewhere new [6:03]

A trip to and in Peru [11:53]

Where the fuck is Costa Rica? [15:30]

Are busy friends “better” friends? [16:31]

What “better” really means [17:42]

True friendship isn’t transactional [21:09]

Who are your close friends? [23:32]

Cultivating friendships [24:51]

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Have you ever had someone (usually an internet marketer trying to sell you something) tell you to “build a life you don’t need a vacation from”? It’s a nice little sound bite, but it’s not always practical advice. Once upon a time, we would have eaten that shit up, but now we don’t see why you can’t love your job AND need a vacation every now and then. Your job doesn’t need to be your whole life! Of course, you should never force yourself to do things you hate, but loving every moment doesn’t feel necessary.

A nice sentiment, but not always practical [1:01]

Your job doesn’t have to be your whole life [2:54]

We can take breaks from things we love [5:37]

Tuning out of work can be fun [7:26]

Don’t do shit you hate [9:41]

Find other ways to love your life [11:03]

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