There’s a lot of chatter about the male loneliness epidemic, but men aren’t the only ones who are lonely. Plenty of women are lonely, too, and lonely inside of their marriages and relationships. Women have been holding things down for a long time, and most of us are just tired and resentful now. For us, our saving grace is usually our friendships, but our male counterparts aren’t turning to friends the same way. What it comes down to is this: we all need varied relationships with lots of people, and the care it takes to build those relationships isn’t always easy. That goes for men and women. But that’s why we’re so happy we have you, Bestie. You just get us. 

Married men should be banned from Instagram [1:57]

Red flag after red flag [5:30]

Making it about ourselves [7:25]

A double standard we’re okay with [11:03]

Contributing to the issues we complain about [13:21]

Loneliness within a relationship [15:27]

Resentment fatigue [20:30]

Does the care taking go both ways? [22:34]

Diversify where you get emotional support [25:40]

Nobody has friends anymore [29:37]

Care is inconvenient [33:29]

Just keep showing up [37:45]

Shallow social media connections [40:32]

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There’s a lot of talk in certain pockets of the online space about “being in The Room” (whatever that means). In our experience, “The Room” is full of mean girls who only care about you as long as they can get something from you. If that kind of transactional relationship sounds fine to you, then get your ass in that room, but us? We’ll be sitting outside The Room with all the cool people—the people we actually care about and who actually care about us. 

Opting out of transactional relationships [2:01]

Rooms full of mean girls [6:08]

Exploitation of new faces [10:21]

The antidote to jealousy [14:20]

The benefits of building real relationships [17:34]

Knowing who your real friends are [22:16]

There are more ways to be successful [27:43]

“The Room” won’t make or break you [30:57]

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Back for the third time since his original introduction 7 years ago, today we’re talking to Mr. JillFit himself, Keith Lockwood. At the beginning of Jill’s and Keith’s relationship, neither one wanted to get married. We all know how that turned out. What changed? What caused the change of heart, for both Jill and Keith? Change is a gradual process—with therapy and working on communications skills, the Lockwoods are building their Best Lives and Best Marriage together.

Changing our minds about marriage [1:59]

Learning communication in therapy [8:04]

Men’s vs. women’s communication styles [16:25]

Childhood examples of communication [20:17]

Are men threatened by powerful women? [23:28]

What makes a good man [33:41]

I don’t need you, but I do want you [40:21]

Self-abandonment [52:15]

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As AI gets more advanced, we’re seeing an influx of AI “influencers” and it’s getting hard to tell, y’all. And even when we know an account is AI, we still find ourselves comparing our looks and lives to the fake ones, and feeling shitty in the process. We know that “83 year old model” is fake, but she’s still #goals. Unfortunately, we still live in a society that conflates our worth with our looks, and the goal posts just keep moving father back as editing and fake content just keeps flooding our feeds. As much as we wish we could opt out of the beauty rat-race entirely, we find ourselves stuck in it time and time again. But hey, we’re at least trying to own it.

Two types of entrepreneurs [1:57]

AI content is taking over [5:25]

Differentiating human-made content [7:40]

Does the end justify the means? [9:55]

Who decides where the line is? [13:18]

The struggles of new generations [15:14]

Classism in the beauty industry [20:20]

Our social worth is tied to how we look [23:52]

Trying to remain optimistic, despite the horrors [28:25]

Knowing what battles are worth it [32:30]

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Some entrepreneurs would have you believe that the only way to be successful is by grinding 24/7. We’re not so sure. There’s certainly a time and place for working long hours, but if that’s all you ever do, it’s going to kick you in the ass at some point. A busy needs rest at some point, and is it even possible to be working at maximum efficiency every moment of every day? In any case, extremes will keep cycling back and forth from too much to not enough, and back again. We’ll just keep living our Best Life.

A European excursion [0:54]

A summer romance? [12:46]

Low rise jeans are coming back [17:13]

What it takes to get to the top [22:38]

Fast isn’t the only option [25:39]

How effective is your work day? [30:05]

Scarcity in start up culture [34:11]

Sustainability over the long term [36:54]

Everything comes back around eventually [42:17]

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Trolls are everywhere online. No one can escape them and everyone hates them, but what if trolls are only trolls because they hate themselves? We all know the old adage that hurt people hurt people, and internet bullies are no different. People can take all the pain and suffering they’ve been feeling and use it to fuel their hate comments. The algorithms prioritize and push that hate, and with the added bonus of being able to hide behind anonymous accounts, it’s never been easy to take out your internal pain on random internet strangers. But internal pain or not, it’s still a load of bullshit to unload your suffering to whoever crosses your path online.

The psychology behind troll accounts [2:22]

Even trolls can hurt your feelings [5:12]

Anonymity makes us brave [8:48]

More accountability is a good thing [13:30]

When interest turns into obsession [18:03]

A hate-following epidemic [22:14]

Haters aren’t going anywhere [28:06]

Learning to tune out the comments [30:42]

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We’re pretty sensitive to cheating and the harm it causes a person (we’ll give you three guesses as to why) so we found ourselves wondering if are crushes ever okay while you’re still in a relationship? There’s no stopping the rush of feelings when it comes to having a crush, but we do have some say over our actions and every single one of us knows when too far becomes too far. Fantasizing may not be a red flag, but hiding and secrecy sure are. Look, when it comes to crushes, we think the best course of action is pretty damn simple: don’t fucking do anything that you wouldn’t want your partner to do to you.

Finding formal attire [1:22]

Focusing on our potential for finances [4:27] 

You can’t control a crush [7:47]

Is having a crush mean something is wrong in your relationship? [10:12]

An emotional attachment is a slippery slope [12:17]

Are you hiding this person from your partner? [16:45]

Pulling away from a chemical rush [18:50]

When does fantasy go too far? [21:36]

Drawing the line at progression [23:41]

The grass is always greener [26:10]

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Knowing your partner’s sexual fantasies has the possibility to be really really hot, or really really off-putting. Fantasy can mean a lot of things to different people—some may want their fantasies to stay in their heads, and some may want to try them out—so if you and your lover aren’t aligned, shit can get tricky. Sex is vulnerable enough already, and if being honest about what gets you off brings you closer together, we’re all for that. But if you uncover some freaky secrets… just know that you can never unlearn them.

Mid-day masturbation [3:01]

The effort of sexting [4:36]

AI in advertising [7:53]

Sharing your fantasies with your partner [13:10]

There are some kinks you may not want to know [15:34]

Knowing too much about your partner [19:14]

What’s the utility in sharing? [21:26]

Minimum effective dosing [24:44]

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Trying to find love has been a shit show since… well, forever. We’re just getting better and better with age, but the dating scene, and let’s be honest, men in general, seem to be getting worse. Dating apps are dead, singles events make us feel like pigs being sold for slaughter, and meeting someone out in the wild is next to impossible. Even if you meet someone, the chance that they know what they want in a relationship, are emotionally mature, AND you find them attractive is rare, too. All that said, we’re still holding on to hope that the right person is out there. Cynicism feels safe, but we still believe in magic.

We’re too old and tired for NYC [2:05]

A less than stellar AI event [6:51]

No more ice-breaker activities [15:24]

Lore-dumping [20:19]

Living your “truth” [23:21]

Men aren’t suffering enough [25:15]

The state of dating apps [30:02]

Attempting to stay optimistic [35:10]

Safety in cynicism [37:01]

Love can’t be understood via algorithm [41:01]

Where do you even meet people now? [42:20]

Re-building communities [45:36]

Marketing ourselves [51:43]

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We would probably all agree that listening in on your partner’s therapy sessions or reading their journals is wrong, but what about reading their ChatGPT history? More and more people are working through issues in their personal lives using their AI chatbots as a journal-meets-therapist, and that might include relationship issues. And when someone inevitably finds some less than flattering information about themselves typed out to their partner’s own personal robot… shit gets sticky. Everyone is entitled to their privacy, but with new technologies, do new lines need to be drawn?

Walking around with a lady boner [1:02]

A very special wedding [7:30]

Being seen from your bad side [13:35]

Seeing your partner’s ChatGPT history [16:45]

An erosion of safety [20:12]

Is there an obligation to communicate every little issue? [23:28]

Eavesdropping on someone’s therapy [29:39]

The dangers of substituting therapy with AI [31:21]

We should all share less [34:41]

Owning your thoughts and feelings [36:21]

I Stumbled Across My Boyfriend's ChatGPT and It Ended Our Relationship - Lindsay Hall Writes

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