Toxic relationship red flags are easy to miss when you're the one living inside them. You can fix your sleep, dial in your protein, do every single thing right as you build your next chapter, and if you're coming home to a partner who quietly drains you, none of it works. Your body keeps the score.

This week Tamsen Fadal gets honest about a part of her life she kept quiet for years. Before the podcast she spent years as a matchmaker in New York, watching the same patterns play out across the table from hundreds of women. She's also lived these patterns herself, with controlling men, manipulative men, men who made her smaller. She walks you through five red flags she wants you to see clearly, the kind that hide in plain sight because we talk ourselves into calling a red flag pink.

Tamsen is not a therapist. She's a journalist who has lived this, and a former matchmaker who saw it all from the outside.

Inside the episode:

- Why the silent treatment isn't just annoying, and what it does to your nervous system over years

- The partner who can't be a fan of your growth, and the parallel inner life you build to survive it

- The single biggest predictor of divorce, according to one of the most respected relationship researchers

- How comments about your changing body slowly take you out of your own skin

- The control that hides inside "I'm just trying to help," and the one question that tells you which it is

Awareness is the first step to anything changing, and your next chapter depends on getting this one right.

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This one is for all the women out there who lost their mothers.

If you’ve ever wondered why grief from a mother's death doesn't follow the timeline the world expects, why it surges at 51 when you pass the age your mother died, why menopause brings a wave of loss that has nothing to do with hormones, or why you still don't know how to answer "I'm sorry" decades later, this episode is the one you've been waiting for.

Tamsen Fadal lost her mother at 20. For nearly 30 years she didn't talk about it.

Hope Edelman lost her mother at 17, couldn't find a single book written for young women who'd gone through the same thing, and eventually wrote it herself. That book, Motherless Daughters, has now reached millions of readers and sparked decades of retreats, support groups, and communities built around the specific kind of grief that never goes away.

In this episode, you'll learn:

- Why your age at the time of loss is the most defining factor in how mother loss shapes you

- What "new old grief" is, and why it floods back the moment you become a mother yourself

- Why grief that looked like getting a tattoo, changing your friend group, or throwing yourself into work is still grief

- The difference between guilt and regret, and why so many daughters are carrying the wrong one

- What "crossing the silent threshold" means when you outlive your mother's age

- Why the five stages of grief were never designed for the people left behind

- How to rebuild a relationship with your mother's memory even decades after her death

- Why women in their 50s are showing up to grief retreats for the first time and feeling relief they haven't felt in 30 years

- What perceived vulnerability looks like, and why it drives behaviors people around you can't understand

If you like this episode, then you will love: What I've Learned After 35 Years Without My Mom

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If you’ve ever wondered what estrogen actually does, or whether hormone therapy (HRT) is right for you, this episode is for you. During perimenopause and menopause, falling estrogen levels can contribute to brain fog, hot flashes, night sweats, joint pain, sleep problems, mood changes, and even long-term bone health. Yet most women are never told how one hormone can affect nearly every system in the body.

This episode is part of Tamsen’s series breaking down the biggest topics from her New York Times bestselling book, How to Menopause, one conversation at a time. This week, it’s estrogen.

In just 20 minutes, Tamsen takes everything she’s learned from interviewing the world’s leading menopause doctors and hormone experts and breaks it down into simple, easy-to-understand language. No confusing medical jargon. No overwhelm. Just the information you need to understand your options and make the best decisions for your own health.

Inside the episode:

- What estrogen actually does in your body

- Why estradiol changes during perimenopause and menopause

- How hormone therapy (HRT) can help relieve menopause symptoms

- The truth about the Women’s Health Initiative study

- Who is a candidate for hormone therapy and who shouldn’t take it

- The differences between estrogen patches, gels, sprays, pills, and vaginal estrogen

- What to do if you’re affected by the estrogen patch shortage

- How long you can safely stay on hormone therapy

- The questions every woman should ask before starting HRT

Whether you’re considering hormone therapy for the first time or simply trying to understand what’s happening to your body, this episode will give you the knowledge and confidence to have a more informed conversation with your healthcare provider.

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If you liked this conversation, check out the rest of the How To Menopause series:

⁠⁠Estrogen Down There 101: Here's Everything You Need to Know⁠⁠

⁠Testosterone 101: Everything You Need to Know in 20 Minutes⁠⁠

⁠Relationships 101: Is It Him or Is It Menopause? Here's How to Tell⁠

⁠Perimenopause 101: The Symptoms, Tests & Fixes No One Tells You About⁠

Alcohol 101: Belly Fat, Bad Sleep and the Long-Term Cost of Drinking

Anxiety 101: What I Wish I Knew Before I Hit Perimenopause + How I Got My Life Back

Progesterone 101: The Hormone Behind Your 3am Wake-Ups, Your Anxiety & Your Worst PMS

Belly Fat 101: The 5 Simple Habits That Changed Everything

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If you're thinking about egg freezing, IVF, fertility decline, perimenopause, or reproductive health, this is the conversation you need to hear before meeting with your doctor.

In this episode of The Tamsen Show, Tamsen Fadal sits down with Dr. Jamie Grifo, Director of Reproductive Endocrinology and Infertility at NYU Langone. Dr. Grifo helped modernize IVF as we know it, launched NYU's egg freezing program in 1999, and has spent 40 years giving women the science they were never taught.

Today, he's sharing everything you need to know about your fertility timeline, your hormone shifts, and how to make decisions that are right for you.

You'll learn:

- Why your chance of getting pregnant at 40 is 2-3% a month, not 20%

- The age fertility actually starts to decline (it's earlier than you think)

- The 3 fertility tests every woman should know: FSH, estradiol, and AMH

- What a low AMH really means (and what it doesn't)

- Egg freezing vs. embryo freezing: Which is right for you?

- Why 40% of infertility is male factor, yet women still blame themselves

- What endometriosis and PCOS mean for your fertility

- Why postpartum and perimenopause symptoms are so often confused

- How GLP-1 medications may improve fertility and why they're leading to "Ozempic babies"

- The biggest emotional difference between freezing your eggs early and going through IVF later

If you or someone you love has been carrying questions about fertility, this is the conversation that finally answers them.

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If you've been struggling with menopause belly fat or perimenopause weight gain, despite eating well and exercising, you're not alone. Hormone changes affect your metabolism, muscle mass, stress hormones, and even your gut health, making it much harder to lose weight the way you used to. The good news is there are science-backed ways to work with your body instead of against it.

This episode is part of Tamsen's series breaking down the biggest topics from her New York Times bestselling book, How to Menopause, one conversation at a time. This week, it's belly fat.

Tamsen shares what finally worked after interviewing leading experts in menopause, nutrition, endocrinology, and longevity, and why the answer isn't eating less or doing more cardio.

Inside the episode:

- Why estrogen changes where your body stores fat

- The protein and fiber goals that support muscle and metabolism

- Why strength training beats more cardio in midlife

- How cortisol, sleep, and chronic stress keep belly fat hanging around

- The connection between gut health, inflammation, and weight gain

- Why drinking less alcohol made such a noticeable difference

- The five habits that helped Tamsen feel stronger, healthier, and more confident

If you're tired of doing everything "right" and still not seeing results, this episode will help you understand why your body changed and what to do next.

If you liked this conversation, check out the rest of the How To Menopause series:

⁠⁠Estrogen Down There 101: Here's Everything You Need to Know⁠⁠

⁠Testosterone 101: Everything You Need to Know in 20 Minutes⁠⁠

⁠Relationships 101: Is It Him or Is It Menopause? Here's How to Tell⁠

⁠Perimenopause 101: The Symptoms, Tests & Fixes No One Tells You About⁠

Alcohol 101: Belly Fat, Bad Sleep and the Long-Term Cost of Drinking

Anxiety 101: What I Wish I Knew Before I Hit Perimenopause + How I Got My Life Back

Progesterone 101: The Hormone Behind Your 3am Wake-Ups, Your Anxiety & Your Worst PMS

Coming up: Mental Health, Estrogen 101 and more!

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If you're in perimenopause or menopause, you've probably noticed your body changing in ways no one prepared you for. Maybe you're losing muscle despite working out. Maybe your bone density is declining.

Maybe you're wondering if hormone therapy is right for you, or why your workouts aren't giving you the same results they used to. The truth is, women don't age like men, and understanding that changes everything.

That's why Tamsen Fadal invited renowned orthopedic surgeon and longevity expert Dr. Vonda Wright to The Tamsen Show.

Dr. Wright explains the science behind healthy aging, strength training, muscle mass, osteoporosis, mobility, protein, and longevity, and why building strength today is one of the most important things you can do to protect your future.

We cover:

- Why menopause is more like a second adolescence than a slow decline

- The truth about estrogen, progesterone, and hormone therapy (HRT)

- Why muscle mass is one of the strongest predictors of longevity

- How to improve bone density and reduce your risk of osteoporosis

- Why women should prioritize strength training instead of endless cardio

- How much protein women actually need to build muscle

- Why walking after your biggest meal can improve metabolism and blood sugar

- The simple tests, including grip strength and VO₂ max, that predict how well you'll age

- Why frozen shoulder, brain fog, and joint pain become so common during menopause

- The biggest fitness mistakes women over 40 are still making

Whether you're in your 30s preparing for perimenopause or already navigating menopause, this conversation will change the way you think about longevity, mobility, strength, and what it really means to age with power instead of frailty.

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You wake up at 3 a.m. with your heart racing, and you cannot figure out why. The anxiety out of nowhere, the PMS that got worse. It may trace back to one hormone that started leaving your body years before your first hot flash.

This episode is part of Tamsen Fadal’s series breaking down the topics from her New York Times bestselling book How to Menopause, one conversation at a time.

This week it's progesterone. Tamsen starts with a confession: her doctor prescribed it, and it sat in her medicine cabinet so long the pills congealed into a brick. She never took one, because nobody ever told her what progesterone was or why she needed it. So she spent a year struggling with the exact symptoms it would have helped.

She's not a doctor. She's a journalist who has lived this, breaking down what the leading menopause doctors she's interviewed have taught her, so you can take it to your own doctor.

Inside the episode:

- Why progesterone is one of the first hormones to drop, often years before anything else feels off

- The brain receptor that explains your 3 a.m. wake-ups

- Why it's non-negotiable if you still have your uterus and you're taking estrogen

- The straight answer on progesterone and breast cancer, and why the study that scared everyone doesn't tell the whole story

- Body identical vs. synthetic, plus the exact words to use with your doctor

- The one side effect that means you call your doctor instead of quitting

And, if you liked this conversation, check out the rest of the How To Menopause series:

⁠⁠Estrogen Down There 101: Here's Everything You Need to Know⁠⁠

⁠Testosterone 101: Everything You Need to Know in 20 Minutes⁠⁠

⁠Relationships 101: Is It Him or Is It Menopause? Here's How to Tell⁠

⁠Perimenopause 101: The Symptoms, Tests & Fixes No One Tells You About⁠

Alcohol 101: Belly Fat, Bad Sleep and the Long-Term Cost of Drinking

Anxiety 101: What I Wish I Knew Before I Hit Perimenopause + How I Got My Life Back

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The sleep doctor is in! If you're in perimenopause or menopause, sleep has probably become something you think about all the time. Falling asleep, staying asleep, waking up at 3am, feeling exhausted, waking up anxious even when you did fall asleep. Perimenopause sleep disruption and menopause insomnia are real, they are hormonal, and they are not your fault. The nights can feel endless.

That's why Tamsen Fadal invited Dr. Andrea Matsumura on The Tamsen Show. A board-certified sleep medicine physician, menopause expert, and creator of the D.R.E.A.M. Sleep Method, Dr. Matsumura breaks down exactly what is happening in the body when sleep falls apart in midlife and gives you the tools to get better sleep in perimenopause starting tonight.

- Why waking up at 3am is a cortisol event, not an anxiety problem, and what to do when it happens

- The sleep apnea statistic that will stop you cold: up to 90% of women in midlife who have it don't know, because they don't look like the textbook patient

- What melatonin actually is, why taking it at bedtime is usually the wrong move, and what happens to production by age 50

- How alcohol is disrupting your REM sleep, and why one glass hits completely differently now

- The D.R.E.A.M. Method: the five-part framework Dr. Matsumura built because treating one thing at a time only ever gets women halfway there

- The ferritin level behind restless legs that most providers aren't checking

- Why getting out of bed at 3am is the right call, even though it feels like the worst one

- How every additional 15 minutes of sleep compounds into something significant over time

This episode will help you get your sleep back on track because it’s the foundation of everything. When your sleep goes, it starts to unravel the rest of your life.

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If you liked this conversation, check this out: How to Finally Get to Sleep in Menopause

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Have you ever stood in front of a full closet, said “I have nothing to wear,” and reached for the same safe outfit one more time? You are not alone, and it is not really about the clothes.

Tamsen’s viral closet clean out started as a simple declutter and spiraled into one of the most transformative things she has done in midlife, pulling in everything she had been avoiding about who she is now and the body she is in today.

In this deeply personal solo episode, Tamsen shares why she really did it and what she learned once she stopped negotiating with herself in front of the mirror.

You’ll learn:

- How to make a fast yes-or-no call on every piece without talking yourself back into it

- Why you get stuck doing this alone, and exactly who to bring into the room with you

- How to spot the clothes you are keeping out of grief instead of love

- Why holding onto clothes in multiple sizes quietly works against you every morning

- How to tell the difference between what is weighing you down and what is holding you up

This is the episode that will make you finally open the door you have been avoiding. The woman on the other side of that closet is already there, waiting for you to make room for her.

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Managing menopause and perimenopause symptoms is hard enough without a supplement market flooded with products promising to fix hair loss, trouble sleeping, hot flashes, mood fluctuations, skin changes, and so much more. It can feel impossible to know what actually helps and what is just a waste of money.

Today's guest on The Tamsen Show, Phil Cowley, has spent 22+ years behind a pharmacy counter watching people walk in confused, overwhelmed, and chronically under-informed. He has seen firsthand which treatments work, which are a waste of money, and what the medical system has been getting wrong about hormones since 2002. Now he is joining Tamsen Fadal to tell the truth that women deserved to hear decades ago.

In this episode, Tamsen and Phil cover:

- The three supplements worth actually spending money on in midlife and why they will not break the bank

- Why anxiety is a depletion of something, not an excess, and what that means for how you treat it

- What the 2002 Women's Health Initiative got wrong and why women who came off hormone therapy die younger than those who stayed on it

- The real reason your body odor changes in menopause, what is happening at a bacterial level, and exactly how to fix it

- Why hair loss in menopause is never one problem and why treating only one cause never works

- Why losing lean muscle mass is the single strongest predictor of early death and what to do about it

- The $7 estrogen alternative your pharmacist already knows about

- Why caffeine does not give you energy, it just hides that you are out of it

- The one question to ask your pharmacist that most people never think to ask

- Generic versus name brand medications and the manufacturer variance that could be affecting your results

This episode is full of answers to questions most women have never thought to ask, but absolutely need to know.

You can find everything Phil mentioned in this podcast here!

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If you liked this, check this out: The #1 Hair Loss Doctor: The Truth About Minoxidil, Supplements + Hormones

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