Learning From Your World

Love is not chemistry, compatibility tests, or waiting for someone who magically “gets us.” According to Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen LaKelly Hunt, the couple behind Getting the Love You Want, love is a practice that rewires us over time.

In this episode, we talk about how two therapists who literally wrote the book on marriage came within inches of divorce, and why their relationship became stronger not by knowing more, but by doing things differently.

We explore how conflict can actually be a doorway into connection, why our brains go to war with the people we love, and how simple daily habits (like asking for permission before speaking, mirroring, and genuine affirmations) can change how safe we feel with others… and how safe they feel with us.

In this episode, divorce coach Karen McMahon and I unpack why the same relationship patterns keep showing up, even when the people change. We look at the childhood dynamics that shape how we communicate, handle conflict, set boundaries, and respond under stress.

Karen breaks down the difference between being victimized and seeing yourself as a victim, why people-pleasing and perfectionism form so early, and how recognizing your part in a dynamic gives you your power back, without shame or blame.

We often talk about connection, but rarely about affection - the love we give and receive through our words, actions, and touch.

In this conversation, Dr. Kory Floyd, professor and author of The Loneliness Cure, helps make sense of how affection shapes our health and our relationships. We talk about how our families and culture teach us to show love, why the same gesture can land differently with different people, and what it actually means to feel affection deprived.

Kory explains how affection lowers stress, supports our immune system, and meets our deep need to belong, and why giving affection is often even more powerful than receiving it.

He closes with a simple but profound challenge: Be the one who gives affection first.

We’re not in a connection crisis because we don’t care. 

We’re disconnected because our environment (our systems, our tech, and our pace) makes real connection harder than ever.

In this opening episode of The Connection Series, I share the personal and professional journey that led me to the question: 

What is real connection, and how do we rebuild it in a world designed for disconnection?

In this episode, we explore…

This episode kicks off a 10-part series featuring authors, therapists, researchers, and community builders who are redefining the future of connection from every angle.

If you're craving more presence, more meaningful relationships, and more honest conversations, this series is for you.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Arthur Schwartz, President of Character.org and a leading voice in moral development, we explore what it really takes to build character and live with purpose.

We discuss:

Challenge:

The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt

Soar with Your Strengths by Donald O. Clifton

The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt

The Coddling of the American Mind by Greg Lukianoff and Jonathan Haidt

Chatter by Ethan Kross

Grit by Angela Duckworth

The Path to Purpose by William Damon

Is empathy enough to create real change?

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Arthur Schwartz, President of Character.org and lifelong advocate for character development, about why empathy alone doesn’t create change, and what it really takes to live with integrity, purpose, and courage.

We discuss:

Challenge:

Resources:

FREE VIA Character Survey

Soar With Your Strengths by Donald Clifton (Book)

StrengthFinder 2.0 (Book)

Chatter by Ethan Kross (Book)

Character.org

What if your mind was never meant to fit the system?

In this episode, Perry Knoppert shares what happened after he gave everything up, and what he built. From living without a home to founding the Octopus Movement, Perry explores the power of nonlinear thinking and creating outside the lines.

*This is Part 2 of our conversation. In Part 1, Perry shares how his  journey began.

We talk about:

Challenge (at 00:43:00): Perry shares a personal technique to quiet your mind and access stillness in a noisy world.

The Octopus Movement Website

What happens when someone steps outside the system?

In this episode, Perry Knoppert, founder of The Octopus Movement, shares the story of the seven months he spent without a home. What began as a personal decision rooted in curiosity quickly became a deeper experience of disconnection, challenge, and insight.

With honesty and reflection, Perry talks about:

After an overwhelming response to our first conversation, I had to bring Chelsey back for round two! In this follow-up, the licensed psychotherapist and author answers listener questions, breaking down narcissistic behavior and how to heal from toxic relationships.

We explore:

Challenge: At [00:52:00], Chelsey encourages listeners to take one small step toward healing - replace an unhealthy habit with a simple, positive action to strengthen your nervous system and self-trust.

Resources:

Chelsey’s Book: If Only I’d Known

Narcissism Quizzes

Narcissism Resources

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Jody Olsen, former Peace Corps Director and global leader, about embracing courage, building trust, and making bold life decisions. From her unexpected leap into the Peace Corps in the 1960s to leading the evacuation of 7,000 volunteers during the COVID-19 pandemic, Dr. Olsen shares her journey of stepping into the unknown, making high-stakes decisions, and fostering deep human connection across cultures.

We discuss:

Challenge: At [00:51:47], Dr. Olsen shares her challenge: Tell a story, be a mentor, or find a hero. She urges us to connect more deeply by sharing wisdom across generations, offering guidance to others, and seeking role models in our everyday lives.

Resources: