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In this episode of Let's Talk Love, Robin is joined by world-renowned trauma expert Dr. Frank Anderson to explore society’s growing awareness of trauma and the path to healing. Dr. Anderson shares insights from his memoir, To Be Loved, reflecting on his personal journey and the power of storytelling in trauma recovery. Together, they discuss the complexities of therapy, real-life applications of therapeutic insights, and the dynamics of trauma bonding within families. Dr. Anderson helps us understand trauma responses, the four T’s of trauma healing, and the transformative nature of the healing process. Emphasizing forgiveness as a personal choice and the necessity of reclaiming one’s power, this conversation illuminates the journey of self-awareness, self-love, and the collective effort essential for healing.

Takeaways:

• Trauma awareness has significantly increased in recent years.
• Storytelling can be a powerful tool for healing.
• Healing often occurs outside of traditional therapy settings.
• Trauma bonding can complicate family dynamics.
• Thanking our trauma responses can change our internal world.
• The four T's of trauma healing are essential for recovery.
• Healing can happen through sharing experiences.
• Forgiveness is a personal choice, not an obligation.
• Ignoring our wisdom often keeps us connected to unhealthy relationships.
• Transforming trauma involves corrective experiences.
• Taking back your power is crucial after trauma.
• Healing is a lifelong journey, not a destination.

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To Be Loved https://tr.ee/ZtpAr5plNR

https://www.traumainstitute.com/

https://www.frankandersonmd.com/

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

This week on Let’s Talk Love, Robin welcomes Licensed Psychologist, Author, and Founder & CEO of Therapy for Black Girls, Dr. Joy Harden Bradford. Together, they explore the transformative power of sisterhood and community, with Dr. Joy sharing insights into the unique experiences of Black women and the vital role of friendship in mental health and healing. They discuss the loneliness epidemic, the courage in vulnerability, and the strength in asking for help, while examining the challenges of unlearning the need to appear constantly strong and self-reliant. Together they highlight ways to offer help to friends in need and encourage listeners to take risks in forming new friendships.  With practical advice, Dr. Joy inspires us to foster deeper connections and build friendships that truly uplift and sustain us. 

Takeaways:

• Cultural upbringing influences how women view friendships.
• The loneliness epidemic affects a significant portion of the population.
• Sisterhood allows for visibility and support among women.
• Curiosity in conversations fosters deeper connections.
• Holding space means listening without judgment.
• Intentional time for friendships is crucial for intimacy.
• Creating safe spaces allows for vulnerability.
• Asking for help is a skill that can be developed.
• Offering tangible help can be more effective than open-ended offers.
• Building new friendships requires taking risks.
• Every connection has the potential to grow into a friendship.
• Sisterhood plays a crucial role in healing and support.

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https://uta.bulkbooks.com/products/sisterhood-heals-the-transformative-power-of-healing-in-community

https://www.sisterhoodheals.com/#sister-quiz

https://therapyforblackgirls.com/

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

This week on Let’s Talk Love, Robin is joined by award-winning journalist and menopause advocate Tamsen Fadal. Tamsen opens up about her journey from a successful career in journalism to becoming a champion for women’s health, with a focus on navigating menopause. Tamsen shares her personal experiences with menopause, highlighting the importance of understanding its stages and the need for greater education and support for women during this transition. She points to the importance of finding healthcare professionals who truly understand menopause.  Tamsen shares what has worked for her, including making key lifestyle adjustments and embracing aging with grace.  She also reflects on her time as a matchmaker and how our relationships naturally evolve over time.  We look forward to reading her newest book, How to Menopause,  releasing this March 2025. 

Takeaways:

• Over a billion women will experience menopause by 2025.
• Perimenopause can last several years and includes various symptoms.
• There are effective solutions for managing menopause symptoms, including hormone replacement therapy.
• Finding a knowledgeable doctor is crucial for menopause management.
• Listening to your body and self-care are essential during this transition.
• Aging can be embraced as a blessing, not feared.
• Tamsen's matchmaking experience taught her about relationships and self-discovery.

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https://www.tamsenfadal.com/howtomenopause

https://www.pbs.org/show/the-m-factor-shredding-the-silence-on-menopause/

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin speaks with relationship coach Nathalia Christensen about the complexities of unhealthy relationships and the journey to healing. Nathalia shares her personal story of overcoming anxiety and finding her path as a coach. They discuss the signs of toxic and narcissistic behaviors.    This conversation emphasizes how important introspection and self-awareness is in building relationships based on mutual growth, love and respect.

Takeaways:

• Toxic relationships can manifest in various forms, not just romantic.
• Recognizing red flags early can prevent deeper emotional harm.
• Self-awareness is crucial in identifying unhealthy dynamics.
• Healing from toxic relationships requires time and self-reflection.
• People pleasing often stems from feeling unsafe in a relationship.
• Healthy relationships foster personal growth and self-esteem.
• Trusting your gut feeling is essential in relationship dynamics.
• Researching potential partners can help avoid toxic situations.
• Taking the time to get to know someone is vital for a healthy relationship.

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

In this heartfelt conversation, Robin and Jessica Janzen explore the themes of love, joy, and resilience. Jessica opens up about her journey through grief during and after losing her son, Lewiston, and how she made the powerful choice to embrace joy amidst the sorrow. Drawing from her experiences as a motivational speaker, she highlights the importance of trusting intuition, the power of community, and how giving and receiving support can transform life’s most difficult moments. They also discuss Jessica's book, Bring The Joy, where she illustrates how simple acts of kindness—from both friends and strangers—brought her family renewed strength during their hardest times. This conversation reminds us of the power of human connection and the strength found in community.

Takeaways:

• Joy can coexist with grief.
• Following your heart's nudges is essential.
• Community support can transform experiences.
• Resilience is key in relationships.
• Perspective shifts can change everything.
• Celebrating joy is a choice we can make.
• It's important to receive help from others.
• Living a life of service brings fulfillment.
• Gratitude can be a default setting.
• Personal growth often comes from challenges.

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https://jessicajanzen.ca/coaching

https://www.loveforlewiston.com/

https://www.amazon.ca/dp/194978441X?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_7STBGZA1XKJ3G60J10RV

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

In this conversation, Robin and Terri Cole explore the concept of High-Functioning Codependency (HFC), examining HFC behaviors and the emotional costs they bring to relationships and personal well-being. Terri shares insights from her book Too Much, highlighting how easily we can become overly responsible for others' crises and the importance of self-awareness and self-care. Together, they unpack the toll HFC takes, from burnout to diminished intimacy.  Terri offers empowering strategies for recovery, setting healthy boundaries, and fostering deeper self awareness and healing.

Takeaways:

• High Functioning Codependency is often misunderstood and overlooked.
• Many high-achieving individuals do not identify as codependent.
• Recognizing the traits of HFC is crucial for self-awareness.
• The cost of HFC includes burnout and lack of joy in life.
• Setting boundaries is essential for healthy relationships.
• Intimacy can suffer in relationships affected by HFC.
• Recovery from HFC involves learning to receive and ask for help.
• Self-discovery is a key component of overcoming HFC.
• It's never too late to create the life and relationships you desire.

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www.terricole.com

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

This week on Let’s Talk Love, Robin is joined by Sabrina Zohar for an insightful conversation on the complexities of love, relationships, and dating. Sabrina shares her personal journey, from acting to becoming a love coach, and dives into the importance of self-discovery, authenticity, and setting healthy boundaries in relationships. Together, they explore how reframing rejection can transform your dating experience, the role of online dating, and why trusting your intuition is key. This heartfelt conversation highlights the importance of cultivating self-worth and approaching dating with gratitude and openness.

Takeaways:

• Self-discovery is crucial for building healthy relationships.
• Rejection can be reframed as redirection in dating.
• Online dating can be more effective when approached with intention.
• Creating an engaging dating profile is essential for attracting the right partner.
• Vibe checks before dates can help gauge compatibility.
• Trusting your intuition is key in navigating relationships.
• Dating fatigue can be managed by setting boundaries and taking breaks.
• Gratitude plays a significant role in fostering positive relationships.
• Choosing yourself first is vital for healthy connections.

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https://www.sabrinazohar.com/foundation-course-overview

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

In this episode of Let’s Talk Love, Robin is joined by Dr. Shefali to explore themes of self-discovery, authenticity, and the journey towards becoming an awakened individual. They discuss the importance of shedding societal beliefs, redefining love and relationships, and the significance of setting boundaries for self-love. Dr. Shefali emphasizes the need for women to embrace their inner power and the concept of the 'Awakened Queen,' who embodies strength, compassion, and discernment. This conversation invites listeners to reflect on the role of consciousness in personal growth and transformation, offering practical insights into reclaiming one's power and stepping into a more authentic self.

Takeaways:

• The journey of awakening is ongoing and cyclical.
• Women often live disconnected from their true selves due to societal expectations.
• Deconstructing beliefs is essential for authentic relationships.
• High love begins with self-acceptance and authenticity.
• Boundaries are crucial for self-love and personal growth.
• Consciousness quotient helps in discerning relationships.
• Awakened individuals co-create their reality and take responsibility for their lives.
• The awakened queen embodies strength, compassion, and community.
• Self-awareness is the first step towards transformation.
• Social media can create feelings of lack and insecurity.

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https://institute.drshefali.com

https://courses.drshefali.com/aradicalawakening

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

Welcome back for Season 8 of Let’s Talk Love! In this episode, Robin sits down with Cat Cantrill, an experienced Matchmaker and Dating Coach to gain new insights on dating today. Cat shares her personal journey into the love industry, emphasizing the importance of self-love and understanding one's needs in relationships. They discuss the significance of reevaluating (or letting go of) non-negotiables, the skills required for dating, and practical strategies for meeting potential partners in real life. Cat and Robin encourage listeners to view dating as a journey of self-discovery rather than a series of failures. They explore how each date can reveal new aspects of oneself and help clarify what you’re truly seeking in a partner. The conversation highlights the growth that comes from embracing the process without being overly attached to the outcomes.

Takeaways:

• Self-love is crucial for attracting the right partner.
• Many clients don't truly know what they want in a partner.
• Rejection can be a form of protection and redirection in dating.
• Non-negotiables in relationships may not be as rigid as we think.
• Dating is a skill that can be learned and one that requires practice and openness.
• The Two, Three, Five formula helps guide dating decisions.
• It's important to communicate your openness to dating with others.  Ask for introductions!

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www.scottsdalematchmaker.com

www.dressedforlove.com

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.

This week on Let's Talk Love, Robin sits down with author, Ruby Dhal, to talk about her newest book, "The Path to Self-Love." Ruby emphasizes that self-love is not just about indulging in feel-good activities, but also about taking care of oneself and addressing internal issues.

Ruby shares her personal journey of healing and self-discovery, highlighting the role of healthy relationships, boundary setting and having tough conversations. She challenges the misconception that healing is a linear process with a clear endpoint, emphasizing its ongoing nature and the need for continuous self-work.

Robin and Ruby explore how childhood experiences shape our perceptions of love and the importance of breaking free from intergenerational trauma. 

This episode provides practical advice for embracing tough self-love, fostering genuine connections, and living a more fulfilling life.

Takeaways:

• Self-love is an ongoing process of healing and growth, and it is important to surround ourselves with positive energy and healthy relationships.
• Tough self-love requires addressing internal issues and having difficult conversations.
• Healing is an ongoing process that requires continuous self-work.
• Healthy relationships can play a significant role in healing and self-discovery. 
• Childhood experiences shape our perception of love and relationships, and it takes conscious effort to unlearn unhealthy behaviors.
• Setting boundaries is crucial for practicing self-love and protecting our well-being.
• Community and support systems play a significant role in fostering self-love and providing a safe space for growth and healing.

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The Path to Self-Love Book: https://linktr.ee/thepathtoselflove

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Credits: the Let’s Talk Love Podcast is hosted by Robin Ducharme, recorded and edited by Maia Anstey, and transcribed by Otter.ai.