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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is hearing wedding bells. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the many differences they’ve observed between gay and straight weddings. Getting married and getting “gay married” may look the same on paper, but the actual weddings themselves tend to be significantly different. 

As most of you know by now, Ellie is getting married soon, but what you don’t know is that her brother is also getting married this year. This would be a nightmare with two straight weddings, because they can be so much more involved and require a huge time commitment. Straight weddings are by nature steeped in heteronormative culture and bogged down by the traditions of patriarchy. It feels like there is a standard formula that most heterosexual weddings follow (except of course for our allies, the straight nerds). But for our gay weddings, the limit does not exist!

There is no one-size-fits-all way to have a queer wedding. Does the concept of a Daddy/Daughter dance make your stomach turn? Would you rather pass away than let your father walk you down the aisle? Don’t want to ever hear another super outdated ball-and-chain speech again? You’re in luck! We don’t have to do any of that nonsense. You were already breaking the mold by simply being your beautiful queer self, you might as well throw the mold all the way out for your ‘wedding gay’. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that has a huge lesbian crush on Anne Hathaway. 

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with comedian, singer, and writer Sydney Kane (@sydneymorgankane) and talk about why the 2009 smash hit, Bride Wars, Should’ve Been Gay. If watching Kate Hudson and Anne Hathaway roll around on top of each other in wedding dresses was your gay awakening (like it was for Sydney), you’re in the right place. 

For those of you who are somehow unfamiliar, Bride Wars tells the incredibly queer story of two childhood best friends, Emma (Anne Hathaway) and Olivia (Kate Hudson), who have been planning their Pride month weddings at The Plaza since their dress-up, house-playing days. When the two do finally get engaged, their weddings end up accidentally booked for the same day in June and chaos ensues as both women proceed to lose their minds. With the wedding date rapidly approaching, Liv and Emma commence an elaborate game of chicken and petty sabotage in the hopes of getting the other to cancel before finally deciding to attempt to share the venue. 

Since Bride Wars is about two heterosexual couples getting married, we expected to see a lot more of Liv and Emma’s fiancés. Instead these guys are rarely on screen, even during the wedding planning stages. There is not one ounce of romance or desire shown between the couples. In the end, Emma even leaves her own wedding to go wrestle Liv, ultimately choosing to call off her entire relationship. This would’ve been such a prime set-up for our childhood sweethearts to end up together, but of course it’s 2009 and gay marriage isn’t legal nationwide yet, so we get Emma marrying Liv’s brother as a stand-in instead. Classic. 

We know one thing for sure, Bride Wars Should’ve Been Gay.

If you are in or around L.A., you can catch Sydney’s musical comedy special, Wife Material, live on April 21st at the Roxy. Tickets are available now. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants you to gay-se your voice!

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) holds down the fort without Ellie for a delightfully nerdy and fascinating conversation with founder and speech-language pathologist Nicole Gress, MS, CCC-SLP. Nicole took what they learned from their medical training, lived experience as a genderfluid individual, and years of interacting with gender diverse clients in the Bay Area and founded Undead Voice (@undead.voice), an online, community-driven platform dedicated to eradicating the voice dysphoria experienced by 85% of the trans population. The platform is open to people of all gender identities and ages, so whether you are 9 or 90, you can take the steps toward reclaiming your voice. 

Imagine feeling overwhelming discomfort every single time you speak and the impact that would have on your ability to participate in the world and show up as your full self. This widespread detrimental impact on mental health was one of many reasons why Nicole was inspired to create something new, outside the restrictions of the medical system. With the coaching, curriculum, and community support of the Undead Voice Lab, gender diverse individuals can discover their most affirming voice in about 4 to 6 months of training.

We get real nerdy with it as Nicole breaks down exactly how the program works. They discuss the 3 influences that create a voice: environmental, cultural and physical, along with the 5 pillars that you can learn to master: tilt, weight, resonance, pitch and dynamics. Since environmental and cultural influences are intrinsic to who you are and help to showcase your personality, the program leaves those alone and focuses on the physical aspects of voice, teaching participants how to shift and control the size and shape of their vocal instrument. Leigh and Nicole also talk about voice transition as a form of accessible, non-invasive gender affirming care for trans youth.

You can learn more about Undead Voice at www.undeadvoice.com. Registration is open right now for the Jumpstart program, a free 3-week intro program designed exclusively for trans and gender diverse people looking to begin or refine their voice transition journeys. Jumpstart participants are eligible for a $1,000 tuition credit toward the full voice training program, Undead Voice Lab. 

Download this free Trans Voice 101 Guide if you are interested in learning more about voice transitioning. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that hopes you find your queerest happily ever after. 

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the animated fairytale, Charming, Should’ve Been Gay.

One thing Charming does have going for it is a wildly stacked cast. We’re talking Ashley Tisdale, Demi Lovato, Avril Lavigne, John Cleese and Sia all in one place. Unfortunately, even a big name cast couldn’t save this film from receiving a 22% on Rotten Tomatoes. We’re pretty sure the only way to save Charming from a fate worse than choking on a poison apple is to make it gay. And judging by the amount of reviews that say things like, “Does anyone else think Prince Charming is aro/ace?”, we’re all on the same page. 

Charming is a queer story from the jump, starting with the Prince’s curse. This man is cursed to have every woman he meets fall in love with him. We’re pretty sure that if you, a man, view hot women constantly throwing themselves at you as a curse, you might be at least a little bit (very) gay. Charming laments being unable to find his one true love while juggling simultaneous engagements to Snow White, Cinderella and Sleeping Beauty. He appears doomed to be a player, unable to find his true love amongst a sea of unlimited suitors. That is until Lenore, who is mysteriously immune to the Prince’s charms, takes a page out of Mulan’s book and disguises herself as a man. While the movie doesn’t explain why the curse does not work on her, we think there’s two simple explanations; 1. Lenore is a lesbian and/or 2. Lenore is trans/nonbinary. Since the curse is predictably heteronormative in scope, Lenore being gay and/or trans creates a loophole that we think could explain her immunity. 

We know one thing for sure, Charming Should’ve Been Gay.

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants a hot, older lesbian to step on them. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and discuss their feelings on age gap relationships.

When we think about an age gap relationship, it isn’t so much about the specific number of years that separate the couple. While there are of course certain gaps and scenarios that give us the ick right off the bat, ultimately we define an age gap relationship more by differences in life stage than by years apart. A 20 year old college student is most likely in a very different life stage than a 35 year old whereas that same 15 year gap might feel like nothing to a couple who get together at 40 and 55.

We can’t talk about age gaps without talking about the power dynamics and patriarchal ideals they are often rooted in. So many celebrities are in significant age gap relationships and the media has normalized older men being attracted to younger barely-not-children women since the dawn of the patriarchy. But it isn’t only men who are into the gap. When we take a step back and really look at lesbian media, there is a major romanticization of the older, dominant lesbian and the younger, typically less experienced woman who is obsessed with her. From The Devil Wears Prada to Carol to Hacks, lesbians on a whole have a “mommy” problem. If you’re creeped out by a 40 year old man pursuing a 22 year old college girl, you should be just as creeped out by Carol pursuing Therese. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that would lovingly hand-feed you a churro. 

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the 2024 box-office smash hit, Challengers, Should’ve Been Gay(er). Honestly, we went into this movie assuming it was going to be so much gayer than it actually was. All of the promos hyped the threesome and made the story sound super queer, which made us all the more disappointed when it just did not deliver. Luckily, we have plenty of ideas on how to fix Challengers so that it can be the gay movie we were advertised.  

For a film by the same director as Call Me By Your Name, the queerness is way too subtle. Sure, there’s a threesome; but the film doubles down on both boys being into Zendaya’s character, Tashi, rather than each other. And beyond that one intense make-out, Art and Patrick never get together. There’s not so much a love triangle as there is a beard triangle, with each character equally in-the-closet. Between cringing at the poorly crafted CGI tennis balls and overly on-the-nose suggestive subtext, we couldn’t really understand why this movie got so much gay buzz. We get that everyone is desperate for queer crumbs; but the characters are not even likeable, there's barely any on-screen queerness and they somehow made Zendaya unattractive! While the film does provide an interesting take on sex and power (and on paper looks to be the tennis-equivalent of Heated Rivalry), it falls short on delivering any resolution to the sexual tension between Art and Patrick and never touches on Tashi’s sexuality at all. 

We know one thing for sure, Challengers Should’ve Been Gay(er).

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that fully supports hexing your terrible ex. 

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with screenwriter (Hulu’s Crush, Amazon Prime’s The Second Best Hospital in the Galaxy) and return guest Kirsten King (@kirstenlking) to discuss her debut novel, A Good Person, which will be released on March 31, 2026. We chat with Kirsten about pro-bono exorcisms, Boston socioeconomic class divides, performative white activism, and leaning into being a “bad bisexual”. Heads up for light spoilers ahead (nothing that you couldn’t figure out from the book jacket).

A Good Person follows the story of Kirsten’s unhinged protagonist Lillian, a deeply flawed bisexual millennial that she describes as a “soup of personality disorders”. Lillian is the type of character we love to hate-watch as she charges from one questionable decision to the next leaving mess after mess in her wake. When Lillian’s situationship with Henry leads to a crushing breakup instead of lifelong romance, she reacts the way anyone would– by getting drunk and casting a hex on him. Unfortunately for her, she becomes the prime murder suspect when Henry is found dead the very next day. She really should have gone for one of those protection spells from Etsy after her drunken foray into witchcraft. Instead, Lillian is flung headfirst into a twisting psychological thriller as she seeks to clear her name and discover the truth. 

You can pre-order A Good Person wherever you get your books, but we highly recommend choosing an independent bookstore. We received advance copies and honestly could not put it down. If you enjoy books about unreliable, unlikeable narrators where you’re never quite sure what is going to happen next, you’ll love Kirsten’s A Good Person. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants the dykes on bikes to bring us to The Green Place. 

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) are rewinding the clock back to our discussion about why the 2015 movie Mad Max: Fury Road Should’ve Been Gay.

Honestly, nothing could have prepared us for how gay and campy this movie is. It’s basically leather daddies vs. dykes on bikes in a post-apocalyptic desert. Furiosa, played by Charlize Theron, is from The Green Place, a lesbian mecca inhabited entirely by women known as the Vuvalini. She wants nothing more than to escape Immortan Joe’s leather daddy war boy desert land and get back to her girls, but won’t leave without taking all the hottest women from Joe’s harem of breeders with her.

When Joe realizes that Furiosa has straight up stolen all his hot ladies, he sends his war boys to track her down in a series of action-packed, explosion-filled car chases through the deserted post-apocalyptic wastelands. When she does finally get back to lesbian mecca, everyone is so excited to see her. But things are no longer going well for them in The Green Place, so Furiosa adds a bunch of the dykes on bikes to her pack and heads back to challenge and overthrow Immortan Joe. 

Between the intense sapphic energy of the Vuvalini, Furiosa’s whole shaved head, protector of hot women aesthetic, and the absolute camp that is Immortan Joe and his pack of shiny boy toys, we cannot see this movie as anything other than a gay masterpiece. 

We know one thing for sure, Mad Max: Fury Road Should’ve Been Gay. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is currently listening to Tequila Knows Me on a loop.

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Shawnee Kish (@shawneekish), a four-time JUNO-nominated 2 spirit Indigenous alternative country artist from Canada. Shawnee released her debut album, Chapter 1, this past summer and was recently nominated for female artist of the year at the 15th Annual Country Music Awards in Alberta. 

We spoke with Shawnee about her journey toward self-acceptance and embracing her Indigenous roots, the barriers for queer artists in country music, and the experience of cultivating chosen family while navigating her own family’s homophobia. Growing up in Canada, she did not have strong connections to her Indigenous ancestry and hid from her own sexuality. When she began to learn from her elders and understand more about Indigenous beliefs, she was able to reconcile what her spirit always knew was true and fully step into her 2 spirit identity.

Nowadays, Shawnee is loudly out and proud, refusing to shy away from her true self even when confronted by her family’s religious beliefs and intolerant music industry professionals. Ellie bonded with Shawnee over processing emotional, deeply personal experiences through music and Leigh bonded over their shared experience of motherhood. We also talked with Shawnee about how she met her wife (a story that is slightly different depending on whether you ask her or her wife about it) and what it means for her to be 2 spirit. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that needs everyone to drop what they’re doing and watch Heated Rivalry right now.

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the worldwide phenomenon that is Heated Rivalry. Whether or not you’ve actually watched a single episode of the show or read the book the series is based on, you’ve definitely heard of these gay hockey boys. Queer shows so rarely make it into the mainstream, and Heated Rivalry has managed to do so in a big way. So big in fact that the lead actors, Hudson Williams (Shane) and Connor Storrie (Ilya) were chosen as official torchbearers for the 2026 Winter Olympics opening ceremony! Even NYC mayor Zohran Mamdani has openly promoted the book series, encouraging New Yorkers to stay home and read the romance during the recent major snowstorm. While we wish lesbians could have our own Heated Rivalry moment, we have to admit that we’re really loving the show and what it is doing for queer representation, especially in the realm of men’s professional sports. 

We can’t talk about Heated Rivalry without talking about the shadow of homophobia that persists for male athletes, causing most to wait until their professional careers have ended to come out of the closet, if they come out at all. The NHL is actually the only men’s pro-league that still has never had a player (current or retired) come out as gay. So, this story centering on gay male hockey players is a really important push for representation in a sport that remains heavily steeped in a culture of homophobia and toxic masculinity.

While one viral series isn’t going to immediately change that culture, it is impossible to overstate the impact that its massive popularity is having on the sports world. Conservative sports podcaster bros are having to watch the show to discuss it with their listeners, because it has become too huge for even them to ignore. Closeted athletes are being inspired to come out publically following the success of the series, including hockey player Jesse Kortuem who was personally thanked for his bravery by none other than Hudson Williams (Shane) himself. We’re amazed seeing all the positive impacts that a series with only 6 episodes has already made in the queer community and beyond and truly cannot wait to see where Season 2 takes us. 

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