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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants a hot, older lesbian to step on them. This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and discuss their feelings on age gap relationships.

When we think about an age gap relationship, it isn’t so much about the specific number of years that separate the couple. While there are of course certain gaps and scenarios that give us the ick right off the bat, ultimately we define an age gap relationship more by differences in life stage than by years apart. A 20 year old college student is most likely in a very different life stage than a 35 year old whereas that same 15 year gap might feel like nothing to a couple who get together at 40 and 55.

We can’t talk about age gaps without talking about the power dynamics and patriarchal ideals they are often rooted in. So many celebrities are in significant age gap relationships and the media has normalized older men being attracted to younger barely-not-children women since the dawn of the patriarchy. But it isn’t only men who are into the gap. When we take a step back and really look at lesbian media, there is a major romanticization of the older, dominant lesbian and the younger, typically less experienced woman who is obsessed with her. From The Devil Wears Prada to Carol to Hacks, lesbians on a whole have a “mommy” problem. If you’re creeped out by a 40 year old man pursuing a 22 year old college girl, you should be just as creeped out by Carol pursuing Therese. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that would lovingly hand-feed you a churro. 

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the 2024 box-office smash hit, Challengers, Should’ve Been Gay(er). Honestly, we went into this movie assuming it was going to be so much gayer than it actually was. All of the promos hyped the threesome and made the story sound super queer, which made us all the more disappointed when it just did not deliver. Luckily, we have plenty of ideas on how to fix Challengers so that it can be the gay movie we were advertised.  

For a film by the same director as Call Me By Your Name, the queerness is way too subtle. Sure, there’s a threesome; but the film doubles down on both boys being into Zendaya’s character, Tashi, rather than each other. And beyond that one intense make-out, Art and Patrick never get together. There’s not so much a love triangle as there is a beard triangle, with each character equally in-the-closet. Between cringing at the poorly crafted CGI tennis balls and overly on-the-nose suggestive subtext, we couldn’t really understand why this movie got so much gay buzz. We get that everyone is desperate for queer crumbs; but the characters are not even likeable, there's barely any on-screen queerness and they somehow made Zendaya unattractive! While the film does provide an interesting take on sex and power (and on paper looks to be the tennis-equivalent of Heated Rivalry), it falls short on delivering any resolution to the sexual tension between Art and Patrick and never touches on Tashi’s sexuality at all. 

We know one thing for sure, Challengers Should’ve Been Gay(er).

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that fully supports hexing your terrible ex. 

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with screenwriter (Hulu’s Crush, Amazon Prime’s The Second Best Hospital in the Galaxy) and return guest Kirsten King (@kirstenlking) to discuss her debut novel, A Good Person, which will be released on March 31, 2026. We chat with Kirsten about pro-bono exorcisms, Boston socioeconomic class divides, performative white activism, and leaning into being a “bad bisexual”. Heads up for light spoilers ahead (nothing that you couldn’t figure out from the book jacket).

A Good Person follows the story of Kirsten’s unhinged protagonist Lillian, a deeply flawed bisexual millennial that she describes as a “soup of personality disorders”. Lillian is the type of character we love to hate-watch as she charges from one questionable decision to the next leaving mess after mess in her wake. When Lillian’s situationship with Henry leads to a crushing breakup instead of lifelong romance, she reacts the way anyone would– by getting drunk and casting a hex on him. Unfortunately for her, she becomes the prime murder suspect when Henry is found dead the very next day. She really should have gone for one of those protection spells from Etsy after her drunken foray into witchcraft. Instead, Lillian is flung headfirst into a twisting psychological thriller as she seeks to clear her name and discover the truth. 

You can pre-order A Good Person wherever you get your books, but we highly recommend choosing an independent bookstore. We received advance copies and honestly could not put it down. If you enjoy books about unreliable, unlikeable narrators where you’re never quite sure what is going to happen next, you’ll love Kirsten’s A Good Person. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that wants the dykes on bikes to bring us to The Green Place. 

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) are rewinding the clock back to our discussion about why the 2015 movie Mad Max: Fury Road Should’ve Been Gay.

Honestly, nothing could have prepared us for how gay and campy this movie is. It’s basically leather daddies vs. dykes on bikes in a post-apocalyptic desert. Furiosa, played by Charlize Theron, is from The Green Place, a lesbian mecca inhabited entirely by women known as the Vuvalini. She wants nothing more than to escape Immortan Joe’s leather daddy war boy desert land and get back to her girls, but won’t leave without taking all the hottest women from Joe’s harem of breeders with her.

When Joe realizes that Furiosa has straight up stolen all his hot ladies, he sends his war boys to track her down in a series of action-packed, explosion-filled car chases through the deserted post-apocalyptic wastelands. When she does finally get back to lesbian mecca, everyone is so excited to see her. But things are no longer going well for them in The Green Place, so Furiosa adds a bunch of the dykes on bikes to her pack and heads back to challenge and overthrow Immortan Joe. 

Between the intense sapphic energy of the Vuvalini, Furiosa’s whole shaved head, protector of hot women aesthetic, and the absolute camp that is Immortan Joe and his pack of shiny boy toys, we cannot see this movie as anything other than a gay masterpiece. 

We know one thing for sure, Mad Max: Fury Road Should’ve Been Gay. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is currently listening to Tequila Knows Me on a loop.

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Shawnee Kish (@shawneekish), a four-time JUNO-nominated 2 spirit Indigenous alternative country artist from Canada. Shawnee released her debut album, Chapter 1, this past summer and was recently nominated for female artist of the year at the 15th Annual Country Music Awards in Alberta. 

We spoke with Shawnee about her journey toward self-acceptance and embracing her Indigenous roots, the barriers for queer artists in country music, and the experience of cultivating chosen family while navigating her own family’s homophobia. Growing up in Canada, she did not have strong connections to her Indigenous ancestry and hid from her own sexuality. When she began to learn from her elders and understand more about Indigenous beliefs, she was able to reconcile what her spirit always knew was true and fully step into her 2 spirit identity.

Nowadays, Shawnee is loudly out and proud, refusing to shy away from her true self even when confronted by her family’s religious beliefs and intolerant music industry professionals. Ellie bonded with Shawnee over processing emotional, deeply personal experiences through music and Leigh bonded over their shared experience of motherhood. We also talked with Shawnee about how she met her wife (a story that is slightly different depending on whether you ask her or her wife about it) and what it means for her to be 2 spirit. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that needs everyone to drop what they’re doing and watch Heated Rivalry right now.

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the worldwide phenomenon that is Heated Rivalry. Whether or not you’ve actually watched a single episode of the show or read the book the series is based on, you’ve definitely heard of these gay hockey boys. Queer shows so rarely make it into the mainstream, and Heated Rivalry has managed to do so in a big way. So big in fact that the lead actors, Hudson Williams (Shane) and Connor Storrie (Ilya) were chosen as official torchbearers for the 2026 Winter Olympics opening ceremony! Even NYC mayor Zohran Mamdani has openly promoted the book series, encouraging New Yorkers to stay home and read the romance during the recent major snowstorm. While we wish lesbians could have our own Heated Rivalry moment, we have to admit that we’re really loving the show and what it is doing for queer representation, especially in the realm of men’s professional sports. 

We can’t talk about Heated Rivalry without talking about the shadow of homophobia that persists for male athletes, causing most to wait until their professional careers have ended to come out of the closet, if they come out at all. The NHL is actually the only men’s pro-league that still has never had a player (current or retired) come out as gay. So, this story centering on gay male hockey players is a really important push for representation in a sport that remains heavily steeped in a culture of homophobia and toxic masculinity.

While one viral series isn’t going to immediately change that culture, it is impossible to overstate the impact that its massive popularity is having on the sports world. Conservative sports podcaster bros are having to watch the show to discuss it with their listeners, because it has become too huge for even them to ignore. Closeted athletes are being inspired to come out publically following the success of the series, including hockey player Jesse Kortuem who was personally thanked for his bravery by none other than Hudson Williams (Shane) himself. We’re amazed seeing all the positive impacts that a series with only 6 episodes has already made in the queer community and beyond and truly cannot wait to see where Season 2 takes us. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is once again making an entire episode based on a single song. You’re welcome.

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about why the hit Katseye song, Gabriela, Should’ve Been Gay. Personally, we have not stopped singing this song on a loop since it came out (of a closet made of air). Gabriela is basically an even queerer, more Gen-Z version of Dolly Parton’s Jolene. With two out of six members of the group being openly queer, it was only a matter of time before they released the gayest song we’ve ever heard. We’re honestly not sure what they could’ve been going for with Gabriela if not a bisexual anthem. 

We can’t talk about Gabriela without addressing the sapphic fever dream that is the music video. Katseye may spend the chorus singing “back off of my fella, Gabriela”, but there is not one fella to be seen anywhere on the screen. In fact, they go to extremes to use absolutely anything but a fella, casting a mannequin and a self-driving taxi as placeholders for men. The decision to cast Jessica Alba and zero men feels deliberately gay, especially when paired with the least subtle lesbian imagery we’ve ever seen. These girls are literally spitting up flower petals and stroking cats while singing about how much they want to climb Gabriela like a tree. 

The lyrics for Gabriela are equally as gay as the music video, even leaving in the “fella” rhyme. As we did with our Jolene episode, we pick the lyrics apart line by line looking for the gay subtext. In this case, we’re not sure it counts as subtext. It’s just the text at this point. The line, “Skin amaretto / I bet you taste just like the summer / Under the covers” transitioning into a fantasy about a threesome with Gabriela pretty much speaks for itself. This girl is so down bad for Gabriela that she literally passes away with her “heart in the casket” when she sees her. There is perhaps no experience more relatable to lesbians than seeing a woman that is so hot that you just die on the spot. 

We know one thing for sure, Gabriela Should’ve Been Gay.

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that fully supports you U-Hauling with your girlfriend of two weeks. 

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about the lesbian divorce rate discourse. If you spend any time on Reneé Rapp’s internet you likely have seen some variation of this so-called “fact” going around about married lesbian couples having a 70% divorce rate. You may even have taken this fact at face-value. We’re not statisticians and we won’t say we did all that much deep research for this episode, but the claim is absolutely a myth. And it very much misrepresents the findings of that study. The world of statistics is a mess and it’s challenging to get a clear analysis of lesbian divorce rates when women have only been legally allowed to marry each other in this country for like a decade. It’s only natural that it will take time for marriage and divorce rates to stabilize, especially with LGBTQ+ rights in constant flux. With all this confusing back-and-forth, we wanted to take some time to look into some of these studies and give our two cents on what the reasons may be for lesbian couples having a higher divorce rate (if true). 

Through our super professional research we discovered a few factors that might be at play. First off, lesbian couples get married at higher rates than gay male couples and tend to be more monogamous. That coupled with the fact that women of all sexualities are more likely to initiate divorce than men leads us to believe this statistic is likely true. Next, time moves differently for queer couples. We have to consider things that straight couples simply never have to worry about, like whether we’ll legally be allowed to get married if we choose to wait. This can lead to lesbians jumping into marriages faster and discovering incompatibility afterward. We also are shown to be less likely to “stay for the kids”, probably because queer women are more inclined to co-parent equally after a divorce. However, we can’t completely ignore the flaws in the existing studies. Many include queer women who have divorced men in the past or include such a disproportionate sample size of queer couples to straight couples that it invalidates the results.

While there are obvious issues with the way the research has largely been approached (mainly because the straights do not understand how we operate), we will concede that everything seems to be pointing to it being true that lesbians divorce at a higher rate than both heterosexual and gay male couples. However, we also choose to believe the studies that show that lesbian couples have higher rates of satisfaction in our marriages and lower rates of cheating than other couples. Plus, lesbians who do U-Haul prior to getting married have lower rates of divorce. So really, we’re still the best and the straights can just keep crying about it. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is just too good to be true.

This week, Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with queer actor, writer, and comedian Olivia Levine (@olivialevine19) to talk about why the 1999 cult classic Drop Dead Gorgeous, Should’ve Been Gay. If you’re unfamiliar with the plot, it focuses on a small town beauty pageant that turns deadly for the contestants. As with many movies from the 90s, there are a lot of things in the script that just do not hold up in 2026. We still enjoyed this movie overall, but please be aware there is a period-typical amount of ableism, racism, and homophobia. 

One thing that Drop Dead Gorgeous does get right is the casting. This cast is STACKED. If you’re a millennial like us, you’ll recognize so many people in this movie, including Kirsten Dunst, Kirstie Alley, Denise Richards, Brittany Murphy, and Amy Adams. The acting is impeccable and the characters are delightfully unhinged in the campiest of ways. Being an SBG, the characters aren’t openly queer, but we can honestly say we do not think there is a single straight character in this movie. Unfortunately, interpreting these characters as queer means there is quite a bit of BYG (bury your gays) trope throughout. For a romcom, there is a shocking amount of murders, but they are done in really over the top, comical ways (so it isn’t scary to watch!). 

We know one thing for sure, Drop Dead Gorgeous Should’ve Been Gay.

Check out Olivia’s monthly comedy show “Strapped” at the legendary Stonewall Inn in NYC. Keep an eye out for upcoming dates and locations for Olivia’s solo comedy show “Unstuck”, which focuses on the intersection of OCD, anxiety and queerness. 

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Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that really hopes 2026 is “the year that it happens”. 

This week, co-hosts Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out and talk about highlights and lowlights from 2025 as we look ahead to our hopes and dreams for 2026. As far as queer media, it has been a year for the gay boys. From Will’s coming out on Stranger Things to the widespread success of Heated Rivalry, the gay boys are thriving on our screens. Sadly, lesbians have not been quite so lucky. Our biggest rep this year was probably Hunting Wives and we’re not really sure how to feel about that. 

On a personal level, Leigh spent 2025 picking up hobbies like camping now that the girls are old enough, tennis, and crochet. Ellie has had a whirlwind year of travel, working on her upcoming EP with Leigh, and getting engaged. As we look ahead into 2026, we have a few dreams. Firstly, we want the lesbian version of Heated Rivalry. How is it 2026 and we still don’t have a modern Imagine Me & You? On a more personal level, we’re working to find more ways to foster queer community with in-person events and starting to think about our next musical venture. Overall, we really just are focused on finding little pockets of joy in between the constant state of horrors that we are all currently living through. 

Give us your own answers to our Q & Gay on Instagram and follow along on Facebook, TikTok, YouTube and BlueSky @lezhangoutpod. Email us @[email protected]. Connect with us individually: Ellie Brigida (@elliebrigida). Leigh Holmes Foster (@lshfoster).

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