Sleeping Around

By Alayna JoySociety & Culture Health & Fitness

Sleeping Around episodes

October 09 Finding Secure Sexuality with Casey Tanner
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In this first episode of Season 2, Alayna is joined by Certified Sex Therapist Casey Tanner to explore how attachment shapes the way we experience sex, desire, and intimacy. They talk about what happens when your partner doesn’t want sex, the shame that can come up around desire and rejection, and how to have sexual attachment conversations with your partner.
Find Casey here:
www.theexpansivegroup.com
Relationship Reset: https://www.casey-tanner.com/reset
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51 min
July 10, 2025 The Secret Meaning Behind Your Sexual Fantasies with Dr. Justin Lehmiller
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In this season finale, Dr. Justin Lehmiller— social psychologist, Kinsey Institute researcher, and author of Tell Me What You Want joins Alayna to unpack the science of sexual fantasies: why we have them, what they mean (or don’t), and how they can actually strengthen relationships.
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Connect with Justin:
Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://sexandpsychology.com/podcasts
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/
Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/4bSVT2j
Upcoming study abroad courses in Iceland: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/2025-reykjavik-study-abroad-with-sha
Spain: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/2025-barcelona-study-abroad-sha
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57 min
June 24, 2025 Can Couples Heal After Cheating? Where Therapy Gets It Wrong with Rebecca Stone
After infidelity, is healing even possible? In this episode, Alayna Joy sits down with somatic and couples therapist Rebecca Stone to explore betrayal trauma, what causes people to cheat, and how couples can move forward after an affair.
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Connect with Rebecca:
Website: affairrecoverycoach.com
Group Practice: brooklynsomatictherapy.com
https://www.instagram.com/affairrecoverycoach/
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57 min
June 17, 2025 Are We All Traumatized? A Conversation with Bhupie Dulay & Abby Chow
In this inspiring conversation, Alayna sits down with Abby and Bhupie—therapists and co-creators of Prospect Counselling + Training—to unpack the big, messy questions around trauma and healing. Are we all traumatized? What does healing actually look like, beyond the therapy room? And how do we unlearn harmful beliefs about what healing “should” be?
Whether you're in therapy, offering therapy, or dreaming of new models for care and community, this episode is for you.
Check out Prospect Counselling + Training : https://www.prospectcounselling.ca/
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1 hr 6 min
June 11, 2025 What Is Kink? Understanding BDSM with Stefani Goerlich
Sex therapist and author Stefani Goerlich joins us to break down the basics: What is kink? What is BDSM? How do you know if you’re “vanilla”—and is that a bad thing? We talk red flags, green flags, and what to keep in mind if you're just starting to explore. Whether you're curious, cautious, or ready to dive in, this episode is your judgment-free guide to kink!
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Connect with Stefani: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/
https://www.instagram.com/boundtogethercounseling/?hl=en
Get Her Books: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/books-by-stefani
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57 min
May 27, 2025 Coming Out Late with Robin Douglass
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“It’s better late than never—because it’s never too late.” – Robin Douglass
In this heartfelt conversation, Alayna is joined by Robin Douglass, an educator and coach who helps people come out later in life. Together, they explore what it means to question your identity as an adult, how to move forward without regret, and what to actually DO once you realize you yourself are a “late bloomer".
It’s a tender, empowering reminder that your truth is still yours—no matter when you find it.
This one’s for anyone figuring it out a little later. 💛
Connect with Robin:
Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/
Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Gx7Yk9ZofJZWGzUZGDGgU
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/late.blooming.lesbian/?hl=en

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58 min
May 20, 2025 Couple’s Therapist Reveals Secret to Healthy Conflict
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In this episode, Alayna is joined by compassion-focused therapist and educator Michelle Becker to explore what really happens when we're triggered in relationships—and how we can bring more mindfulness, kindness, and connection into the moments that test us most.
From the science of the threat-defense system (a.k.a. fight, flight, freeze) to the emotional skills we wish we learned in school, Michelle shares clear, compassionate tools to help you move from reaction to repair. Whether you're struggling to set boundaries, communicate clearly, or just want to argue better, this conversation is for you. And don’t miss Michelle’s unexpected answer to how much conflict is too much—it might just change how you think about your relationship.
Check out her book Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection
Well Connected Relationships podcast https://wisecompassion.com/
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42 min
May 13, 2025 Dating with Insecure Attachment: From Anxious to Avoidant with Heidi Priebe
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In this episode, Alayna is joined by writer, speaker, and attachment theory expert Heidi Priebe for a deep dive into the world of attachment styles: what they are, where they come from, and how they quietly (or not so quietly) shape the way we show up in relationship.
Together, they break down the basics of attachment theory in a way that’s actually relatable, and explore how to use this knowledge to build more secure, flexible, and connected relationships.
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeidiPriebe1

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1 hr
May 06, 2025 Therapy in the Age of TikTok with Gabriel Ray-Contreras
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In this episode, we’re unpacking how therapy has changed in the age of TikTok, and what all the online advice is really doing to our understanding of mental health. Alayna is joined by Gabriel Ray-Contreras, who is a former medical doctor turned counsellor, educator, and podcaster. Together they explore how trauma is talked about, the rise of “Insta-therapy,” and how to know when it’s time to question the advice you’re seeing on your feed.
Some questions covered:
Is TikTok helping or hurting our understanding of mental health?
What’s the difference between a trauma response and a trauma disorder?
How do we know if a therapist is the right fit, or potentially doing harm?
What does it mean to be a trauma informed counsellor?
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42 min
April 29, 2025 The Masc Shortage Is a Myth—and Other Queer Sexuality Lies with Eva Bloom
This week on Sleeping Around Alayna is joined by Eva Bloom, an award-winning non-binary sex educator and queer joy enthusiast. Whether you're just coming into your queerness or exploring intimacy for the first time, this episode is for everyone who’s ever wondered: Where do I even begin?
Some Questions Covered:
What does it mean to be a “late bloomer”?
What often gets missed about pleasure anatomy?
How do I build confidence to have real conversations about desire and pleasure?
What’s missing from traditional sex education and how do we do it better for queer and trans folks?
Why do dating apps fail queer users, and how can we actually find queer community offline?
👀 Extended cut available now on Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/MissFenderr
Eva Bloom (they/them) is an award-winning non-binary, queer sexuality educator and community facilitator. They help late bloomers foster confidence, queer joy, and have amazing sex. They facilitate a virtual club for Late Bloomers called the F*ck Comphet Support Club, which meets monthly to connect on all things sapphic and late bloomer experiences, and a Discord. You can find them at @whatmsybodydoing on Instagram and Tik Tok.
Links for folks!
https://www.patreon.com/FckComphetSupportClub
https://www.instagram.com/whatsmybodydoing/
evabloom.ca

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37 min

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