Life by Design

This episode explores the concept of moving from "Ego" (self-focused, short-term thinking) to "Eco" (relationship-focused, long-term thinking), inspired by Terry Real’s book US. 

In romantic relationships, adopting an "Eco" mindset means prioritising mutual satisfaction and the health of the relationship rather than individual wins, fostering win-win-win dynamics. 

The same approach applies to the relationship with self, by aligning actions with long-term goals and values instead of reaching for instant gratification, creating a foundation for lasting growth and fulfilment.

A 3-year plan allows your mind to think bigger and relax into achieving goals over an extended timeline, avoiding the pressure of short-term deadlines. 

By breaking goals into actionable steps and fueling them with intentional emotions and thoughts, you can create a roadmap for progress while staying motivated. 

Regularly revisiting and treating your goals as projects ensures steady progress, builds confidence, and keeps your plans adaptable to your evolving circumstances.

In this episode, I reflect on 2024, exploring achievements, lessons, and challenges while sharing the importance of intentional reflection at the year’s end. 

Through exercises like a thought download, we uncover insights on personal growth, gratitude for meaningful relationships, and navigating discomfort in new experiences. 

As we prepare for 2025, I invite you to consider what you’ve learned, what you want to leave behind, and what to carry forward, emphasising the power of reflection in creating a purposeful and fulfilling life.

The power of dropping judgement—especially when it comes to our emotions.

Often, it’s not what’s happening but the story we attach to it that fuels our emotional response.

By stepping into curiosity instead of labelling things as “good” or “bad,” we can shift our focus, embrace all emotions as guidance and handle life’s challenges with clarity and compassion.

Tune in to explore how to tell facts from stories and why this simple shift can transform your emotional well-being.

Join me as I dive into the magical tradition of Rauhnächte, a reflective ritual spanning the twelve nights between Christmas Eve and Epiphany.

It's a time to clear out the old, welcome the new and set intentions for the year ahead with powerful practices like letting go, journaling, and dreaming big.

Tune in for step-by-step guidance and create space for transformation this holiday season—your 2025 self will thank you!

10 Learnings from 2 years of marriage and 5.5 years together.

A strong relationship requires a focus on your own behaviour rather than trying to change your partner, clear communication, and regular moments of fun and connection.

Accepting that relationships go through harmony, disharmony, and repair phases helps you grow closer through challenges.

Nurture the relationship consistently, celebrate each other's strengths, and intentionally create memories together to keep the connection vibrant and meaningful.

In today's episode, we have the great pleasure to learn from Dr Martin Hartenstein on what it means to be a great leader. With 25 years of experience across banking, insurance, consulting, startups and private equity, Martin brings a deep passion for people, leadership and family.

True leadership isn’t just about giving directions—it’s about building trust, supporting your team through challenges and giving them the autonomy to figure out how to reach their goals. Listen actively, offer immediate feedback and remember to praise in public and provide constructive criticism privately. Leadership starts with leading yourself, even if you don’t hold an official title.

Emotions themselves aren’t harmful—it’s how we respond to them that matters. We often try to suppress, react to, or distract ourselves from uncomfortable emotions, but these tactics don’t serve us in the long run.

The best way to handle emotions is to allow them, hold space for them without judgement, and understand that emotions are signals about what’s going on inside of us.

By acknowledging, describing, and naming our emotions, we can better understand them and choose to respond in ways that align with our growth and well-being.

1. We all have an inner emotional guiding system that helps us navigate life, but we often ignore it, focusing instead on external cues like social norms and success. True happiness comes from aligning your life with your values and expanding beyond what you thought possible, not from material results.

2. Our emotions act as signals, showing us the gap between where we are and our deeper desires. Negative emotions can guide us to shift our focus and take action, while true satisfaction comes from making choices that support long-term growth, even when it's uncomfortable in the short term.

3. By connecting with your future self and tuning into your emotions, you can move in the direction of your dreams and become the person capable of creating lasting happiness. If you're ready to explore this further, schedule a consultation at lifebydesign.ch.

Stop arguing with reality—it’s a waste of time. Instead of resisting what is, accept it, and work with the present moment. When you stop fighting against what has already happened, you gain control over your actions and can focus on creating positive outcomes for the future.