Life by Design

Contrast helps us grow by showing us what we don't want, which clarifies what we do want. 

Pain is a natural part of life that fuels expansion, while suffering is self-inflicted and therefore optional. 

By focusing on the clarity that comes from painful experiences rather than dwelling on the pain, we can move toward a more empowered and fulfilling life.

We live in the illusion of “I will be happy when…”

We merge our live situation with our emotional life which makes us feel at the effect of what’s going on around us. Which makes us try to control the uncontrollable. 

When it’s all happening in your head. It’s your thoughts about what’s going on and not what’s actually going on that’s causing your suffering.

When feeling stressed or overwhelmed, it’s often because we're bogged down in uncontrollable details and disconnected from the bigger picture. 

Start by grounding yourself in the present moment and reconnecting with your broader goals and motivations, then break down these goals into actionable milestones. 

Regularly revisiting your why and mapping out a flexible game plan helps maintain clarity, focus, and a sense of purpose, enabling you to navigate challenges effectively.

Dreams give direction and focus, growing stronger the more you visualise them. 

Understanding the reticular activating system (RAS) helps you recognise opportunities that bring you closer to your dreams. 

Shift your mindset to focus on future possibilities rather than past limitations, embracing the discomfort and growth that come with pursuing your aspirations.

Evaluation involves making assessments to learn from the past and improve future actions. 

By asking three key questions:

you can develop insights to refine your approach and achieve better results. 

Focusing on your own contributions and actions allows for personal growth and effective adjustments, leading to continuous improvement and success in various areas of life.

Reflection helps you identify strengths, understand emotions, and make informed decisions, fostering growth and improving problem-solving skills. 

It strengthens relationships through better empathy and communication and boosts productivity by prioritising tasks. 

Incorporate reflection through journaling, reviews, mindfulness, and feedback to unlock your potential and create a fulfilling life.

Explore the importance of creating a supportive network, emphasising the need for diverse relationships that inspire, challenge and celebrate you. 

By actively seeking new connections and nurturing existing ones, you can build a multifaceted support system that adapts to your evolving needs. 

This collective approach ensures resilience, inspiration and the capability to achieve your dreams, highlighting that success is a shared journey.

80% of our daily conversations are the ones we have with ourselves.

Start to pay attention to how you speak to yourself about what’s going on. What’s the commentary that’s going on in your head? 

Is it positive or negative?

Are you connecting failing at something to being a failure? Redefine what failing means so that you can go after your big dreams.

Doing and failing vs failing at doing. 

We learn in the arena, from real life experiences. That’s what helps us to get ready. 

We can not learn what works in practice by only studying theory. We have to get out in the world and test and try.