Life Check Yourself

Have you ever been obsessed with trying to get an ex-boyfriend back?

Are you staring at your inbox wanting him to text you?

Do you ever just show up at his place and make up a reason why you are there?

Did you just “fake-up” on Instagram in an attempt to make him call you?

If you identify with any of these psycho things you need to listen to this episode. Chris Seiter is a professional relationship consultant who specializes in breakups for men and women. Not only can he show you how to get over a breakup he can also tell you how to get back with an ex if it’s appropriate. Your Tango, Elite Daily, Reader’s Digest, and Life Hack all consider him an expert.

How Do You Know When It’s a Good Idea to Reconcile with Your Ex? [5:45]

If you are what Chris calls a GNAT, Going Nuts At Texting and he’s not responding you may be a psycho ex who has no chance at reconciliation. When someone is in the middle of heartbreak the same part of the brain is activated as when a drug addict is going through withdrawal.  Chris recommends taking some time to re-assess how you feel and wait to reconcile when you don’t feel the heartbreak.

Men love the friend with benefits so watch out for ex’s who may only be calling you for the booty call.

The Grass is Greener Syndrome [11:05]

The grass is greener syndrome is when your husband or boyfriend wonders if he can do better than you. He decided he wants to breakup and then decides he can’t do better than you so he wants you back. Do you really want this guy in your life ladies?

Chris recommends:

The No Contact Rule

● Ignore your ex for 21-45 days.

● Facilitate your own personal growth.

● Invoke a mirroring of effort.

He says 80% of women end up failing from the no contact rule! You are breaking an addiction. He says to find a way to make the voice in your head disgusting. This way when the voice inside your head tells you to do something (like text your ex) you will not want to do it. It takes incredible discipline but it works. 

Focus all of your energy towards yourself instead of your ex!

Breaking Up Without Probable Cause [21:53]

Many successful relationships boil down to timing. Finding an emotionally mature man is difficult enough. Why would you think this one guy is the ultimate, perfect match out of the billions of people on earth?

Getting an Ex Back  [28:45]

Believe it or not, moving on is one of the best things you can do to get your ex back. Your energy shifts when you move on and it gets communicated through the vibes you give off. This is the only method that works consistently.  Chris says, clients try to fake moving on and it doesn’t work. You have to actually move on.

Are You Obsessing About Your Ex? [34:33]

Turn your obsessive energy inward and focus on yourself.  And, even though it has a negative stigma try a rebound relationship. One of THE best ways to get over your ex is a rebound relationship. If the new guy treats you better than your ex you may not want him back.

Ladies, a rebound relationship doesn’t mean you should sleep around.

Is It Possible to Restart the Relationship? [38:13]

Chris recommends seeking out a dating coach or therapist when times are good. Therapy doesn’t always mean there are problems in the relationship. A check-up with an impartial third-party can help a relationship survive.

There are no two relationships are alike. One solution is not good for all.

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Have you ever met a guy that was just sooo right for you in every way…

Except one (as in the important one!)?

I mean he checked all your boxes…

You know he’s smart, sensitive, handsome, evolved, successful (or at least employed…

Basically he was great on paper, but...

You found him a little... uninspiring?

If so then you are going to love this episode!

You will want to listen to it before every date to make sure you are paying attention to the right things.

The topic of today’s show is not sexy but trust me you need it. My guest, Ken Bechtel has 15 years experience as a guide and educator. He helps women understand what women need to make men fall in love with them. He also helps them to create the conditions to attract the ideal partner. He’s been providing guidance about relationships as far back as grade school. He is a minister who performs weddings, has a podcast about partnerships and is so very smart when it comes to dating. 

How to Get Clear About What Your Needs Are? [5:44]

Women are in ‘maybe land’ relationships. They convince themselves that maybe this is enough and they settle. This behavior is typically an indicator their needs aren’t being met.

Ken advises women to pay attention to how you talk about your relationship. Are you excited about it? People pleasers put themselves last and believe that once their guy is happy they will be happy. But, it’s just not true.

Men Are Born Providers [10:49]

Men need to know what your needs are so he can provide like he was born to. Mr. Right isn’t really a person. It is a feeling you have when you are around a person. It is the feeling of having your needs met.

Ladies, you need to get over saying “oh, it’s ok or it’s cool.” Quit making excuses for not having your needs met! It’s ok to get what you want. If you continue dating the same type of guy maybe what you are looking for isn’t really what you need.

There is not one need in the world you are not worthy of!

An Example of When a Woman Goes to Maybe Land [17:16]

The way a man responds to your needs is a strong indicator of what kind of partner he will be. If he’s dismissive, especially at the beginning of your relationship, that is the way he will be for the duration of the relationship. Guys bring their ‘A’ game when they start dating someone. It is the best he has so pay attention! If he isn’t all you need now he won’t become what you need later.

Partnership  [20:45]

The choices we make for partnership are rarely easy ones. Women should get to know their needs and express them. There is no such thing as a small need. Little needs turn into big deals.

How Can Women Determine What They Really Want? [24:10]

Even if you are unsure what you are looking for you understand how something makes you feel. Your feelings are unarguable. It doesn’t matter if you understand why you feel a certain way. Your internal guidance system is telling you to pay attention to how you feel.

It’s ok to have feelings. For those who live in the feminine,  it is natural to be emotional but many of us have been told it’s not ok. We try to hide the fact that we have feelings. There is a big difference between someone who is being dramatic and someone who is being genuine.

Authenticity is the second biggest reason a man falls in love with a woman.

Why Setting Boundaries is Difficult for Women [27:53]

Women are hardwired to thrive on connections and this is what makes setting boundaries so tough.  It’s opposite of what they think they should be feeling. But, Ken says, boundaries aren’t about defensiveness. Boundaries are about ownership. It tells someone else where your space starts.

Men love women with strong boundaries. If a woman has been clear they know exactly how to give them what you need. Help them help you by sharing what do you need to be your best self.

Boundaries need to be clearly set and set early on in a relationship.

Men are the world’s worst guessers. Help them out and set them up to win.

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Dr. Sheldon Kardener is the creator of Focused Dynamic Therapy which identifies early threads that have been woven into the fabric of our current lives. He currently serves as a Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at UCLA. In his book, Breaking Free he illuminates how emotional conflicts develop and how they can be treated with psychotherapy.

You are going to love this episode. My guest’s brilliant book changed my life. So much so, I often share it with my clients.

How is the Process of ‘Breaking the Chains’ Different from Other Approaches? [4:36]

The process makes the patient’s emotional realm accessible to the therapist and the patient. This allows the patient to be a co-therapist in their own discovery which is vital to successful therapy. It facilitates the relationship which assists the curative process.

Why Are High-Achievers Unable to Make a Breakthrough?    [7:49]

High-achievers are able to function because they are free of the pull of their early unmet childhood needs in their professional lives. They may have conflicts in relationships because the old needs come roaring back. But they will separate their professional and personal lives. These people may have a lot of friends but no one they are intimately close to.

There is a tremendously powerful emotion in maintaining what we don’t want and it competes with what we do want.

A Mission Impossible [13:18]

Dr. Kardener believes we always marry our emotional twin. We are drawn to a person who would understand what it was like to come from the home we came from. We do this in order to fight an old battle on a new battlefield with hopes this time we will win. We spend our time, energy and effort in the present trying to change the past.

Becoming an Emotional Adult  [16:29]

Naomi Rachel Raymond once said, “There ain’t no healin’ without grievin’.” Part of the process of healing is focusing in on what you are holding on to and what you are looking for but never found and grieve the loss. We feel ‘lost in space’ and all alone when we let go but it is a risk we must take to get what we want.

After birth, if our first connection was difficult we flee to an independent state. It is apparent in dating when we don’t get too close for too long. Many who have this experience never reach intimacy with another person.

The Law of Attraction Isn’t A Law At All [30:32]

If you are in the dating game, Dr. Kardener recommends if you find yourself powerfully drawn to someone and the person does not repel you, go out with that person as an adult and know that person as an adult.

Remember ladies, attraction is a double-edged sword. If the attraction is strong you may just want to revive conflicts from your childhood.

The idea of love at first site is really familiarity at first site.   

Advice for Black & White Thinkers [35:19]

Those who think in absolutes are often reflecting a conflict that occurred between 7-11 years-of-age. A person may become the exact opposite of the parental figure they had a conflict with. If you become aware you are thinking in a binary mode you have the opportunity to change and make other options available to you.

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Dr. Sheldon Kardener

Breaking Free

I know you ladies have a love-hate relationship with online dating. And, most of you hate it.  So, I decided to bring Michael Goldstein to give us some tips! Michael is a successful private dating coach, public speaker and author. He has been on the Today Show as well as featured on Reader’s Digest, Star Ledger, Shape Magazine and NewJersey.com.

Michael says you can meet YOUR guy only after 6-8 dates.

Which Online Dating Site is the Best? [2:04]

Michael loves OkCupid if it is used in conjunction with his system. He says the algorithm gives you a match percentage of the available guys and if it’s 90% or higher chances are you will have a great conversation on your date.

6 Points to the Perfect Profile Picture   [7:04]

1. Have a solo photo.

2. Make sure the photo is square.

3. Make your face 8-15% of the picture.

4. Tell a story through your photos.

5. Use as many photos as possible.

6. 80% of your photos should be stunning.

Be honest with yourself when evaluating your profile.

Get to the Date as Soon as Possible  [18:58]

It’s not necessary to flirt online. Michael says pull the trigger and ask the guy for a date. If you send a man a message to ask for a date you could be his only message all week from the site. He is going to pay attention.

Put This in Your Profile [22:45]

This is the most important online dating advice you will ever be given. Tell stories and be specific in your profile! Michael says women should make their descriptions 3-5 sentences and give men hints as to what to message you about.

Find Love Efficiently [33:11]

If you are looking for love don’t use Bumble or Tinder. If you want to find your perfect guy, message 50 guys who have a 90% or higher match rate and you would rate them above a 4 on your attractiveness scale, in 20 minutes. Pick the best two responses and go out on a date. If you get a response you are not sure of, ask the guy to pick up the phone. If you are still not sure who to respond to follow these 3 steps.

1. Read the profile.

2. Check the match percentage.

3. Pay attention to the message.

95% of the messages women receive from men will not be intriguing. 

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I love, love, love my guest on today’s Dating Den! Carol Allen is

an inspirational badass, a Vedic Astrologer and a Relationship Coach. And, she is partially responsible for my marriage to Jeremy.

Carol has contributed to my tele-summits, Daily Candy called her cooler than karma and Dr. Drew called her advice profound. She has been my longtime friend because she is the real deal and she really cares.

Communication Between Men and Women [3:55]

Communication is the most important thing in a relationship. Carol says, through communication you can ruin good thing or fix a bad thing. Carol’s relationship with her husband is the perfect example of how powerful a tool communication can be to a relationship. After a 4-year breakup, Carol honed her communication skills and now she and her husband have been married for 20 years.

Good communication skills affect every area of your life.

Create a Safe Atmosphere if You Want Your Man to Talk   [7:32]

The biggest complaint women have about men is they shut down and they don’t talk. A man will only share if he feels safe.

A major difference in men and women is that women talk about everything and men can keep thoughts and feelings inside for months or years. But Carol notes, women are naturally designed to people please. If women feel like their words will cause a conflict, they won’t say it.

When women close up they go into one of two modes.

● Bambi mode is needy and clingy.

● Banshee mode is aggressive.

Both modes are repulsive to men. These modes take men by surprise because we have been saying we are fine and then suddenly we hit him with our need or our rage.

This is why men say women are crazy and dramatic.

Carol points out there is a third mode which will foster trust and respect in a relationship and men find it attractive.  Women should be respectfully assertive towards their man, so he doesn’t feel he has been talked down to. When women withhold we make the man’s feelings more important than ours. 

If women don’t speak up for their needs it sends a signal to the man that it is ok to put himself and his feelings ahead of them. 

Am I an Alpha Female or a Beta Female?  [17:46]

An Alpha person is direct, to the point, ambitious and dominant. While a Beta is a person who is here to ‘be’. They may tend to follow and not be proactive or a go-getter. But we are all not just one or the other. We may be different with different people.

It’s important to know, we are happier with people who compliment our different ways and behaviors.

Knowing who you are dealing with helps you to communicate. Relationships get easier with time because you know your partner better.

If a guy is sensitive and chill a woman should use feelings based language to communicate with him.

Communicating Through a Conflict   [23:05]

Figure out who is having a bigger issue with the conflict. If it’s the guy you may have to cater to his feelings. Ask yourself what does he really need?

It’s important to talk to the other person in a way they can hear. There are no exact rules because we are all different.

Why Do Men Run to the Hills? [28:15]

When a woman acts like her hair's on fire. Basically, men freak out when we freak out. The more you can treat a guy like you are on the same team or let him know he’s not in trouble the better off your communication will be.

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Ladies welcome to the Dating Den!

My guest today, Daniel, is very handsome, very smart and passionate about self love.

Girls like it when we get a hit of cognitive joojoo to go along with our woowoo.

Daniel created a precise and clear model of the mechanics of self love after years of experiential and academic research. He knows exactly how to build self love on a daily basis and he is going to share it with all of us. 

The Difference Between Self Esteem and Self Love? [3:04]

Self esteem is an external attribute while self love is an internal attribute. Self love is more about what kind of a friend you are to yourself? Self love is the nitty gritty way you care for yourself every day. Daniel says the blindspot of the self love movement is when people accidentally not loving ourselves while telling ourselves how much we love. Women are in a linear, masculine, goal-oriented energy when they try to force themselves into self love. It’s wiser to use a feminine energy to heal and nurture themselves.

Women Need to Nourish Themselves  [9:44]

The reason women lose track of their inner wisdom and their divinity is fear. Daniel says fear makes everybody stupid. When people are afraid they are addicted to comfort and thus avoiding what they fear.  They may get trapped in a world of lack of fulfillment. The world we live in is a physical, masculine world. Women need courage in order to reconnect with their divine gifts. Self love is extra important for women.

How Can I Get More Self Love?  [15:37]

People have self love backward. If you think you need more self love you are automatically telling yourself you are lacking. If you want to see pure self love look at children. Kids are the most loving, in the moment, present beings on the planet. They share their essence and don’t give a crap what you think. They are self love. So, maybe we had self love and it’s gone missing.

The Self Created Vicious Cycle   [21:37]

We do have love for ourselves inside but it may be asleep. The original lie that has robbed us of that child-like love is the belief of we are not enough to be loved. We tell ourselves we are broken and can not be loved. So, we go to the outside world to find love and validation. When the outside world doesn’t love us enough we feel rejected.  We then fear rejection and once we are afraid we can not be fully self-expressed and open. It’s exhausting.

Breaking Through [28:17]

A lie can only exist if you keep telling it to yourself. Daniel shares how he broke the cycle and stopped listening to his ego.

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Daniel Packard - Love Athlete

Ladies, Marni welcomes a real life quality man to the Dating Den and things get real.

Johnny Fernandez is going to tell you why when you walk into a room of 20 guys and, when you try to pick up 15 of them, why they are wrong for you!

Johnny and his wife Dr. Lara Fernandez have been love coaches for 12 years. They empower single, conscious women through relationships. Ladies if you own your power, speak your truth about who you are and embody healthy beliefs and behaviors, finding ‘soulmate love’ will become your destiny.

So, Why Do Women Believe There Are No Quality Men? [3:49]

Men of quality do exist and Johnny is going to teach us how to attract our soulmate. Johnny says, our beliefs from childhood get reinforced in adulthood. Most women don’t make their limiting beliefs a priority. They need to understand where their beliefs about love and relationships come from and then work on themselves to change it. In a room of 20 men, 15 of them may be knuckleheads, 3 are good guys and 2 are every woman’s dream. Women just don’t see the good ones.

Finding A Soulmate Should Be a Priority [10:19]

Most women listening to this podcast live in a Westernized patriarchal society. Women are used to doing what society tells them. Society says they need to work, produce, and do but this is the opposite of what they need to do to attract a relationship with a quality man. Women say I will invest as little as possible. They don’t put a lot of effort towards finding a quality man. Finding the right person should be a top priority in their life. 

Men Don’t Hold All the Cards  [16:00]

In any relationship, a woman has more power than she knows. When women invest the time, attention, resources and focus into loving themselves it helps their relationships. When you are with the right person you are hot for them and you want to be with them all the time. If women are honest with themselves and make finding the right guy a priority they will find their love.

A Quality Guy Does What He Says He Is Going To Do  [18:38]

A quality guy is masculine and has integrity. He is conscious and caring. He is trying to do the right thing in his life and he cares about you. He is self-aware, caring, has emotional intelligence and is kind. If a woman doesn’t do what she says she is going to do they attract a man with the same vibration. A woman should step up her focus in this area of her life.

Ladies be intentional in your vision through your actions.

Be the Person You Want to Attract [28:39]

Men are looking for relationships too. Look for communities you can be your authentic self in and be willing to share the deepest part of your soul. This is important for people, especially women. The idea that women feel they have done everything they can to find a quality guy is crazy. They are out there ladies!

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OMG! How could you? He’s married.

In this coaching session with Mel, Marne uncovers the truth behind the pain and it has nothing to do with the guy!

Unrequited love could be someone you flirted with from the office, a guy who just disappeared, your male best friend. A married man is the epitome of unrequited love because he is emotionally, physically and legally unavailable.

So, even if the man on your mind is not married consider how this may apply to you.

What Mel Wants From This Coaching Session [4:17]

Mel is flip flopping between wanting to break it off and staying in the relationship long-term. Her heart wants one thing and her head another. If she does break it off with her married guy she wants to feel at peace with her decision.

Mel has felt more intimacy in the last 4 or 5 months than ever before.  She knows her guy loves her because of his actions. He takes time off work when possible to spend time with her.  He makes her feel appreciated she feels completely in her feminine when she is with him.

An Unconscious Gain of Pain  [7:56]

Marne makes Mel aware that she feels safe in her relationship with a married man because it’s impossible for him to be fully with her. Mel agrees she enjoys having her freedom and independence. But, Mel acknowledges the relationship has never been tested in real life circumstances. She feels she is getting a lot of love without any of the stickiness. But, there is a lot of pain. No one in his life can know about her and that breeds insecurity and pain.

The Romantic Rut  [17:06]

Does Mel judge herself? Yes, but it is a detached type of judgment. Her brain rationalizes the pain and tries to cope with it by numbing the pain with dopamine. This is why the cycle continues.

Mel has been doing this for two years. Each time she judges herself she reverts back to “but the love is so strong”.

He’s a Liar  [20:46]

When Mel rehashes what happened that made the intimacy increase in the relationship she realizes her married man was lying to her and to himself. The confrontation is the only reason he came clean.

The doubt makes Mel question his integrity.

Mel Feels She Isn’t Enough [26:21]

When Mel admits she is afraid of disappointing men and that she can’t seem to let her guard down. Marne uncovers Mel might not feel worthy or capable of accepting love.

Mel is putting up a love shield as a coping mechanism to avoid vulnerability. The reason Mel is in this relationship is because she doesn't trust herself to be 100% available.

Mel’s long-term homework is to believe in herself and know she is enough.

Mel’s Goals and Backup Plans

A. Her ideal goal is to figure out her boundary.

B. Become powerful in her femininity and in alignment with her authenticity. 

C. Her safety net is to be brave enough to ask for support when she needs it as she is uncovering her self-worth.

Mel now feels empowered to take responsibility for her vision. She understands it is ok for her to feel the way she feels.

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Are you still struggling to understand men...

What turns them on...

Why they pursue certain women for relationships, and not others?

I know it can feel like guys are attracted to superficial things – but really the opposite is true.

A great guy wants a woman who thinks she is the bomb-diggity-bomb!

Women who don’t value themselves end up as depressed people pleasers.

Do you want to know how to stop sabotaging good relationships?

Marni’s guest expert, Sandy Weiner is the dating coach behind Last, First Date. Sandy is devoted to helping women achieving healthy, toe-curling, epic love in the second half of their lives. She is a TEDx speaker, host of the Last, First Date Radio podcast and a dating coach who specializes in helping women effectively set clear boundaries. Her articles have been featured in the Huffington Post, Psychology Today and Mind Body Green, among others.

Women Don’t Value Themselves [10:18]

Why don’t women see themselves as worthy of more? Why do women give up on the good guys and fall for guys who are broke and wrong for them? Sandy says, relationships are not the same as work successes or being a mom. Our adult relationships are based on the home we grew up in and our relationships with our parents. This means any negativity we experienced as little girls may bleed into our adult romantic relationships. As young girls, women are led to believe a man won’t or can’t provide for them so they overperform.

Men Respond to the Because  [14:30]

Men aren’t mind readers. They will do what women want if they know the ‘because’ or the ‘why’ behind the request. Tell a man how it makes you feel for them to help you with something. And, women should stop saying “I got this”. Men pick up on the message that they aren’t needed for anything. Women need to express their needs clearly.

Women of value speak up graciously.

Why Suffer Through Something You Don’t Want? [17:40]

Women sabotage themselves with good men because they don’t know how to speak up and say what they want. Why would someone suffer through something you don’t want? Clarity is a gift held by women of value.

Be creative with your dating.

Leading a Principled Life  [26:21]

Sandy says it’s not about rules. It’s about a woman’s principles and dignity. If you live a principled life you do so in all aspects of your life. A woman of value works through her defenses so she is not triggered all the time. She creates a loving, amazing life and she is an inspiration to others. A woman of value has qualities similar to the qualities and values of a good leader.  She understands men are not projects to be fixed.

Men are attracted to a woman of value.

Love Comes in Surprise Packages  [30:40]

Women of value don’t make lists of what they want from a relationship because they don’t want to get locked into someone showing up exactly according to the list. A list of requirements does not leave much room for surprises and Sandy says, love comes in surprise packages.

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If you have ever said to yourself:

“Why is there no one good enough for me out there?”

“I can’t find anyone interesting that I like.”

“I want a spiritual guy.”

If you have said these things to yourself well ladies, you are in for a wake-up call. On today’s episode, Marne welcomes the Cupid of Consciousness, the Fairy God Mother of Love, Arielle Ford. For the last 25 years, Arielle Ford has lived and promoted consciousness through all forms of media. She is the author of the Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life Through the Law of Attraction and she has a new book Turn Your Mate Into Your Soul Mate.

There are smart and successful women who feel they have everything but love. Arielle says it’s an egotistical place for them to come from because there are a billion men to choose from out there.

If a woman is successful at work she is getting dopamine hits for doing what she is good at. What she wasn’t good at was dating so she made up excuses. But when you hit your 40’s and you wake up alone you start to wonder why you can’t manifest a soul mate? Women need to understand their dating patterns by putting their past relationships through a rigorous inspection.

Are you able to move in between your masculine and feminine when needed?

Are All the Good Ones Taken and Is It Too Late?  [7:44]

Successful women can become locked in their masculine energy. If you desire an alpha man you need to downshift into your feminine energy.

Women don’t always know how to be warm, loving, and friendly on a date. Arielle advises if you go out on a date make it a treasure hunt about the other person. Be truly curious about your date.

Rose Colored Glasses [12:22]

Dating and finding a soulmate should be fun, not a chore. Manifesting who you will spend the rest of your life with is life’s grandest adventure. It shouldn’t be work to find your best friend and your lover. But on dates, women can be heat seeking missiles for what is wrong. Virtually wearing rose colored glasses can help them to see what is right. Women fall in love between their ears. If there is an instant chemistry, it's lust, not long term love. Lust is ok, but it's not about finding a soulmate.

How to Reset  [15:54]

For a strong woman to reset Arielle says to make dating a sacred ritual. Light a candle, say a prayer and think of love as a spiritual adventure. Remember, men do spirituality differently. Conscious men are living their life on purpose. New age nice guys may be suppressing their anger.

But it’s Too Late For Me[19:51]

It’s never too late to find a soul mate no matter your age. If you keep saying it’s too late, you will make yourself right. Women need to be optimistic.

A soulmate is someone you can completely be yourself with. It is possible to have more than one soulmate in your life. If you want to draw your soulmate near you simply need to have gratitude for what you already have. The law attraction says we draw people, places and experiences to us that mirror our state of being.

Get into a higher vibrational frequency.

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