Life Coaches Unfiltered

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Life Coaches Unfiltered is a bi-weekly podcast for the midlife woman who feels stressed, burned out, and stuck.

Hosted by three life coaches with very different specialties: Des

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March 16, 2026Is Work–Life Balance Bulls**t? Redefining Balance, Boundaries and Burnout in Real Life
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If someone secretly recorded your evenings, would it look like you have a healthy work–life balance OR that you just switched from one job to another?
In this candid episode of Life Coaches Unfiltered, Desiree, Michelle, and Doree get painfully honest about what “balance” actually looks like in midlife when you’re juggling a business, a JOB, caregiving, creativity, family, and an exhausted nervous system.
You’ll hear confessions about answering emails at music bingo, working through weekends, binge‑watching instead of resting, and feeling like you’re on a treadmill with no off-switch.
The coaches unpack why so many high‑achievers feel behind all the time, how values (family, creativity, health, spiritual life) should drive your version of balance, and why boundaries at work are non‑negotiable, even if your boss expects you online at 11 p.m.
They also dig into:
What work–life balance really means when you’re a go‑go‑go person vs. someone who craves quiet.
How to know when work has taken over your life AND what it’s costing your health, relationships, and joy.
The role of values (family time, creative pursuits, wellness, spirituality) in designing a custom “balance recipe” that actually fits your life.
How to start setting boundaries with demanding bosses, constant email, and unrealistic expectations.
Why saying “no” is a complete sentence and a nervous system intervention.
Micro‑shifts like time‑blocking, small creative breaks, and redefining productivity beyond hustle culture.
If you’re tired of generic advice about “self-care” and want a real‑life conversation about working, caregiving, creating, and still trying to have a life, this episode is for you.
Related episodes:
Burnout is not a badge of honor: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448048/episodes/18764014
Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
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March 02, 2026Burnout Is Not a Badge of Honor: How to Stop Spinning All the Plates and Start Healing
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Desiree, Michelle, and Doree take a brutally honest look at burnout: what it feels like, where it really comes from, and why “rest” that looks like doom scrolling isn’t rest at all.
If you’re constantly “shoulding” all over yourself, spinning a hundred plates, or treating burnout like a badge of honor, this conversation is your wake-up call.
They unpack burnout at work and at home, from tech and teaching to healthcare and caregiving, and share deeply personal stories of ulcers, emotional explosions, and nervous systems locked in overdrive. You’ll hear practical, real-life ways they learned to step back, breathe, say no, and let some plates fall without their whole life collapsing.
***Related Episodes***
Stress & Anxiety: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448048/episodes/16867507
Boundaries: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448048/episodes/17024953
Finding Calm Amid Chaos: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2448048/episodes/18348480

In This Episode:
How to spot the real signs of burnout beyond “I’m just tired”
Why burnout isn’t only about work…and how relationships, caregiving, and money stress pile on
The cultural myth of “do more with less” is contributing to burnout
How people-pleasing, being “the responsible one,” and not saying no drive you toward the edge
The nervous system piece: fight-or-flight, constant productivity, and why stillness can feel terrifying at first
Simple nervous-system tools like breathing, bodywork, and retreats that actually help
Why boundaries, community, and doing things you enjoy are non-negotiable in burnout recovery

Practical Takeaways
Start with breathing: When your nervous system is fried, the first step is often a simple, conscious breath.
Notice the stories you tell yourself about productivity, worth, and “earning” rest.
Audit your plates: Which responsibilities actually matter, and which are “paper plates” you can let drop?
Take your PTO and real breaks—not just “time off” where you secretly check email.
Reclaim things you enjoy: the gym, walks, hobbies, retreats, or just reading without your phone nearby.
Build or find people-first communities that normalize saying “I need a break” instead of glorifying burnout.

Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
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Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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51min
February 16, 2026Self-Esteem: Are You Stuck in a Cycle of Self-Doubt?
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Tune in for an emotionally honest episode where Desiree, Michelle, and Doree unpack what self-esteem really is - and what it isn’t. They explore how childhood, family expectations, body image, bullying, and societal standards shape the way we see ourselves, often tying our worth to productivity, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.
They dive into the difference between genuine confidence and arrogance, how self-talk quietly erodes (or supports) self-esteem, and why low self-esteem can make life feel exhausting. Doree brings in manifestation and explains why you can’t call in what you don’t believe you deserve, while Desiree shares powerful stories that influenced her understanding of self-esteem & worthiness from her journey.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode
A practical definition of self-esteem and how it shows up in real life
How childhood, caregivers, and early experiences quietly program your self-worth
Why self-esteem issues affect both women and men, just in different ways
The difference between confidence and arrogance + how to spot each in yourself and others
How your body posture and somatic habits can shift how confident you feel
Why low self-esteem can block manifestation and keep you repeating the same patterns
How to “borrow belief” from others when your own self-belief is at rock bottom
Why learning to say “no” is a powerful self-esteem move, not selfishness

Episode Resources
“What is Self-Esteem?” by Kelly Machan, M.A. and Karin S. Ryan, M.A (article).
Book: "Your Body Is Your Brain” by Amanda Blake (on leveraging somatic intelligence).
Amy Cuddy’s TEDx Talk on power posing / “Superman pose” for confidence.

If this episode on self-esteem, confidence, and manifestation resonated with you, share it with a friend who needs a reminder that they matter. Subscribe to Life Coaches Unfiltered so you don’t miss upcoming conversations that connect self-esteem with boundaries, relationships, and creating a life that actually feels like yours.
Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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February 02, 2026Why Your Brain Won’t Shut Off: Breaking the Overthinking Loop
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If overthinking burned calories, half of us would already be in our goal jeans. Instead, it’s burning us out. It’s impacting our sleep, time, and sanity. In this episode of Life Coaches Unfiltered, Desiree, Michelle, and Doree get honest about what happens when your brain won’t shut off, you’re "catastrophizing" every scenario, and you’re replaying past conversations on a loop.
They unpack what overthinking actually is, how it shows up as rumination about the past and worry about the future, and why your nervous system believes worst-case scenarios are keeping you safe.
Along the way, they share real-life stories - from ice-storm prep with contingency plans all the way to Z, to lying awake worrying about insurance claims, to imagining you’ve ruined a relationship just because someone hasn’t texted back.
You’ll also hear how perfectionism, people-pleasing, grief, and busyness all feed overthinking, and where the line is between healthy reflection and mental torture. Most importantly, the coaches offer simple, practical tools you can use right away: how to notice when you’re looping, how to get thoughts out of your head and onto paper, and how to gently question your own stories with “Is this true?” and “Where is the evidence?”.
In this episode, we cover:
What overthinking is and how it differs from problem-solving
Rumination about the past vs. anxiety about the future
Real-life examples of catastrophizing (storms, insurance, step-parenting, texts)
How grief and constant busyness can delay emotions until you finally slow down
The perfectionism trap and analysis paralysis at work and at home
When overthinking becomes a problem (sleep, looping, stalled decisions, relationships)
List-making, brain dumps, and time-limited “thinking windows”
Becoming your own inner coach with evidence checks and kinder self-talk
How to approach conversations when you’re afraid you hurt someone

You’ll walk away with:
Language to spot when you’ve crossed from planning into overthinking
Practical tools to interrupt 3 AM spirals and fall asleep more easily
A way to question your stories without gaslighting yourself
Permission to take one small imperfect action instead of waiting for things to feel perfect

Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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January 19, 2026Living on High Alert: Hypervigilance & Anxiety in Mildlife
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When life finally calms down, does your brain immediately ask, “Okay, but what’s about to go wrong?”
In this episode of Life Coaches Unfiltered, Desiree and Michelle dive into hypervigilance and what it feels like.
Living on constant high alert, always waiting for the other shoe to drop and how it shows up for stressed, burned-out women in midlife.
From obsessing over germs after COVID to mentally rehearsing every worst‑case scenario in your business, relationships, and health, they talk about how hypervigilance is often a learned survival response from grief, illness, trauma, caregiving, and years of chronic stress, not a personal flaw.
You’ll hear real stories about how COVID impacted Desiree and her fear of germs, backseat driving with a fear of car accidents, and always choosing the restaurant seat that faces the door.
The coaches unpack the difference between healthy intuition and hypervigilance, why your nervous system may still act as if the emergency is happening long after the crisis is over, and how mirror neurons mean your dysregulated state can spread. The good news? Calm is also contagious.
They also share practical tools to gently work with hypervigilance instead of shaming yourself for it.
In this episode, we talk about:
What hypervigilance actually is (and why it’s more than “just anxiety”)
How hypervigilance develops after grief, illness, caregiving, chaotic childhoods, or repeated life disruptions
Signs you’re living on high alert: can’t relax when it’s quiet, always scanning for danger, exhausted but unable to shut your brain off
The difference between intuition (calm, grounded, clear) and hypervigilance (urgent, loud, repetitive)
How hypervigilance strains sleep, health, and relationships—and why partners can feel criticized or micromanaged
Small, nervous‑system‑friendly practices to start feeling safer in your own body
If you're a midlife woman, who's tired of being "on all the time", sleeping with one eye open (figuratively & literally), this episode is for you.
Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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54min
January 12, 2026The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly of New Year’s Resolutions
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New year, new goals… same burnout? In this episode of Life Coaches Unfiltered, the coaches get real about goal setting, New Year’s resolutions, and why big, lofty goals often backfire - especially for women already exhausted and in survival mode.
New Year’s goal-setting sounds great on paper. Next thing you know, you’re two weeks in, already “behind,” and ready to say “forget it” to every resolution you made. In this honest conversation, Desiree, Michelle, and Doree unpack the good, the bad, and the ugly of goal setting, from vision boards and flip charts to bonfire resolutions that go up in smoke (literally).
Michelle shares why she loves goals as bite-sized direction (not giant life contracts), how realistic goals create clarity and momentum, and why most people overwhelm themselves with huge, vague resolutions.
Doree talks about her mixed feelings as a hypnotherapist during “resolution season,” including her story of throwing a pack of cigarettes into a New Year’s bonfire… then trying to bum a smoke an hour later.
Desiree names the pressure and shame that come with goals when you’re in midlife, grieving, caregiving, or just plain tired, and asks the question no one likes to admit: How do you set a goal for a life you haven’t even imagined yet?
You’ll hear the difference between resolutions and actual plans, why “all-or-nothing” goals are so damaging, and how to create goals that fit the season you’re in instead of punishing you for not being farther along. The coaches also explore process goals vs. outcome goals, and how tiny, consistent actions beat grand declarations every time.
Resources: Send a free email to your future self
In this episode, we talk about:
Why New Year’s resolutions so often fail. SPOILER: It’s not because you’re lazy or “bad at follow-through”
How to set realistic, bite-sized goals that don’t trigger shame, perfectionism, or all-or-nothing thinking
How midlife, grief, caregiving, and burnout change the way your brain and body relate to goals

Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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December 13, 2025Finding Calm Amid Chaos
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Do you feel like the world is on fire? Danger seems to be lurking around every corner. It's exhausting, and so many people are on edge. The life coaches talk openly about how they see stress and anxiety showing up in their daily lives.
They share tips & techniques for how they are staying grounded right now.
Key Topics
Holiday Check-ins: Proof that our lives are as messy as yours
Collective Stress: Everyone's baseline is now "barely functioning"
Nervous System 101: When your body thinks you're being chased by a bear, but you're just reading Twitter
Coping Strategies:
Breathwork (because "just calm down" needs better PR)
Social media boundaries (deleting the app at 11 PM, re-downloading at 11:15 PM)
Activities that don't involve arguing with strangers online
Gratitude journaling (yes, even for "my house didn't burn down today")
Touching grass (not just a meme)
Self-Reflection: That awkward moment when you realize YOU'RE the drama
Notable Quotes
"Only control what's in your hula hoop."
"Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle" (and probably hasn't had coffee yet)
"Peace is your ability to remain centered within chaos" (aka fake it till you make it)
Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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54min
November 10, 2025Spotting the Narcissist: Covert, Overt, and Everything In Between
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This episode tackles the narcissist field guide using Dr. Ramani's book "It's Not You." (affiliate link)
Spoiler: there are seven flavors of nightmare, and you've probably dated at least three.
The Narcissist Menu:
Grandiose: Main character energy, zero self-awareness
Vulnerable/Covert: Professional victim, guilt-trip world champion
Communal: Martyrs who never let you forget their "sacrifices"
Somatic: Mirror-obsessed, gym is their personality
Neglectful: Emotionally MIA, couldn't care if they tried
Self-Righteous: Judge Judy without the paycheck
Malignant: Actual danger. DELETE THEIR NUMBER.
You Might Be Dealing With One If:
Every conversation feels like emotional CrossFit
"It's always your fault" is the household motto
Your gut instinct filed for divorce
Survival Mode:
Trust yourself, set boundaries, document everything
Therapy isn't optional—it's survival
Stop rescuing grown adults
Golden Nugget: "Empaths and narcissists both run on unmet needs." – Dr. Ramani
Next Episode: How to stay sane when the world's gone full circus. How to stay sane in an insane world.
Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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October 27, 2025 When ‘Self-Centered’ Becomes Toxic: Understanding Narcissism in Relationships
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We’ve all heard the term narcissist, but what does it really mean?
In this candid conversation, three life coaches get real about the traits, tactics, and traps that define narcissistic behavior. From the confusion and manipulation to the denial and blame-shifting, Desiree, Doree, and Michelle break down how narcissism shows up in romantic relationships, family systems, and even friendships.
You’ll also hear how each of them has personally encountered these patterns and what they learned about self-care, boundaries, and reclaiming their power. 💡
Spoiler: Not everyone who acts selfishly is a narcissist — but knowing the difference could save your sanity.
#lifecoachesunfiltered #NarcissisticAbuse #Gaslighting #SelfCare #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #lifecoachesunfiltered
NOTE: We share resources that may be helpful on your journey, they are affiliate links that help us cover the costs of producing this podcast. You don’t pay more, but we receive a tiny commission AND you’re supporting our work. The products we advertise are those we believe in.
"It's Not You" by Dr. Ramani Durvasula (on healing from narcissistic abuse)
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Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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October 14, 2025 Gaslighting: What It Is, How It Shows Up, and How to Reclaim Your Reality
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In this episode, the hosts dive deep into the topic of gaslighting—what it means, how it manifests in relationships, and the impact it has on self-perception and emotional health.

Spoiler alert: if you've ever felt like you're losing your mind while someone insists you're "too sensitive," this one's for you. Through personal stories, book recommendations, and the kind of candid conversation your therapist would approve of, they unpack the confusion around the term, its origins, and how to recognize and respond to gaslighting without questioning whether you're overreacting. (You're not.)

Key Topics in this episode:
~ Defining gaslighting and its origins (from the 1938 play and subsequent films—because yes, emotional manipulation is vintage)
~ Personal experiences with gaslighting in relationships, family, and friendships (aka the greatest hits of "Did that really just happen?")
~ The difference between healthy disagreement and gaslighting (hint: one involves respect, the other involves you Googling "Am I insane?" at 2 AM)
~ Signs you might be experiencing gaslighting (e.g., doubting your reality, over-explaining why you're upset about something obviously upsetting, seeking validation from your houseplants)
~ The connection between gaslighting and narcissistic abuse (they're like toxic best friends)
~ The importance of trusting your intuition and seeking support (Your gut is smarter than you think. Listen to it)
~ Strategies for responding to gaslighting and setting boundaries (because "I'm not doing this anymore" is a complete sentence)
~ The role of self-care and community in healing (turns out talking to people who don't make you feel bonkers is therapeutic...who knew?)

If you resonate with any of the stories or signs discussed, know that you're not alone. Trust your intuition, seek support, and remember: your reality is valid. Even if someone keeps insisting it isn't. Especially then, actually.

NOTE: We share resources that may be helpful on your journey, they are affiliate links that help us cover the costs of producing this podcast. You don’t pay more, but we receive a tiny commission AND you’re supporting our work. The products we advertise are those we believe in.

#gaslighting #narcissist #lifecoachesunfiltered #personaldevelopment #lifecoaching #narcissisticabuse

Book recommendation: "It's Not You: : Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People" by Dr. Ramani Durvasula (on healing from narcissistic abuse)

Desiree, compassionate Grief Mentor & Coach. Helping midlife humans learn and grow from grief & loss.
Book a free Connection call with Desiree
Support the show
***** Connect with the Coaches *****
Michelle Hibbert
Doree O’Neal
Desiree Doucet
Do you have any questions you'd like the coaches to answer? Awesome - we'd love to hear from you! You can submit questions via this form and we'll answer them in a future episode: https://forms.gle/QMPqRrvhvkzezPRn6
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How many episodes does Life Coaches Unfiltered have?

The podcast currently has 37 episodes available.