How are the people in your life handling you?  Are you handling you like a diamond when you are more of a pearl?

The of having conversations is to learn to understand and know when to quite.  It's understood that as humans we at times think we have conquered the art of living life. Especially if we feel like we're successful in an area where another is not.  People don't need us preaching to them always. Everyone moves at there own pace in their own time.  If you have a piece of advice to offer, okay give it but at the same time, know when to speak your peace and SHUT UP!!!!

Love is the highest and best expression of self.  It was modeled perfectly through God in the form of Jesus. And though none of us can ever show up like Jesus, we can to develop those things in us that need to look more like him.

Our relationship with God is the most important relationship that we can have in our lives.  God is our creator.  He created us in his image.  I believe that even a God so wonderful as ours created us out of his need and love for us.  After he created this wonderful awesome beautiful world even in his majesty I believe he was lonely.  He wanted relationship, he wanted love, he wanted to be needed.  The exact same things we want from our lives and our relationships as humans.  So why wouldn't we develop our deepest most important relationship with the entity, the God that wanted us most and created us out of his love desire and need for us. 

If you see them doing it, if you heard them saying it... you know what you know and yes it happened.  Never allow you to tell them it didn't. 

Gaslighting is a tactic in which a person or entity, in order to gain more power, makes a victim question their reality.

NEVER LOOSE SIGHT OF YOUR REALITY.

Life hits hard.  So hard that we tend to disconnect our feelings from situations to protect our heart and our sanity.  The danger in doing this is that if we continue along this path we'll get to the point where we don't feel anything anymore.  The love and compassion is on lock along with the pain and sorrow.  When life hits you hard feel the pain cry the tears and then hit it back by opening up to hope and compassion. 

In this podcast I talk about Harry and Meghan.  How their love story can be used as an example of how we should truly love.  How through love and because of love we can overcome adversity.  It is my hope that one day, we aren't ostracized for loving someone who does not look like us.  I must admit there is some love that I don't understand because it's not a representation of me.  However, I'll never agree with being overlooked condemned or treated unfairly because you chose a person, you chose to love a person that others don't agree it. 

I believe that love still exist.  Though we mess it up over and over again, it's my believe that by constantly trying is the only way we can get it right. Just as with anything else, you have to fail a few times to learn the way of doing anything.  It starts with self.  Learning thy self and loving thy self properly so that you can teach others how to love you.  And truthfully I hate when people say, teach me to love you because I think kindness respect and love should just be a basic part of everybody. Why does these simple task need to be taught?  God gave us a blueprint on love. If we just followed his example, it would be clear how to love him, ourselves and others. 

Serena Williams did it. Kamala Harris did it.  Would you? Statics show that as black women age their chances of finding love with a black man declines due to incarceration and mortality.  Black women are less likely to find a man than white women in their same age group. Ages 21-55. I read an article by a Black Socialogist, she came to the conclusion that if a black women wanted to experience a loving relationship, she should consider dating a white man. As I listened to the interview and read and insert of her book, I think she won me over and I agreed with her.  What sense does it make to be lonely waiting on someone or something that may never come, when if given the chance to try something different you could experience the love of a lifetime?

The name of the book is Interracial Relationships Between Black Women and White Men by Cheryl Judice

Most young girls grow up fantasizing about dating and marrying someone within their own racial/ethnic group, and indeed, approximately 87% of marriages in the U.S. are between people of the same racial/ethnic backgrounds. Black girls growing up today face a very different reality as illustrated by a few daunting statistics. First, the number of black females begin to outnumber black males by age 16; for whites, this does not happen until approximately age 32. Second, black men are more than twice as likely as black women to marry outside of the race, black women are the least likely group of women to marry outside of the race. Third, for every 100 college educated black females, there are approximately thirty-five to forty comparably educated black males. These statistics underscore a sobering reality that set the parameters for this book.

Interview with my son about on line dating and input from a 50 plus divorced women.  After listening I hope you can see the similarities in the conversations.