Life Shift | True Stories of Healing, Grief & Loss

There is a version of you that other people count on. The one who shows up, who fixes things, who holds the whole thing together. So what happens when that version can no longer do the thing that made it yours?

Robert spent thirty-two years as a surgeon. Then an accident took his hand, and the surgeries that followed took something he never expected to lose. First his career, slowly. Then, quietly, his footing. What he thought was control turned out to be an addiction, and the person who saw it clearly was the one who loved him most. This is a story about the identity we build to survive, and what is left of us when it falls away. It is also, gently, a story about what grows back.

Robert does not wrap his hardest years in a neat bow. He sits with the darkness, the withdrawal, the fog that made getting out of a chair feel impossible. And then he tells us what he found on the other side, and why he believes his worst chapter was the one that wrote his best.

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Guest Bio

Robert R Beltran MD, Pharm D, FACS. Doctorate degrees in medicine and pharmacy from the University of California at San Francisco Medical Center. Fellow of the American College of Surgeons. Double board certified by the American Board of Otolaryngology, Head and Neck Surgery and the American Board of Facial Plastic and Reconstructive Surgery. Surgical practice for 31½ years, performing 14,000 surgeries. Founder, CEO and Chief Formulator for Recomnd Nutrition. www.recomnd.com

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losing your identity after a career ends, opioid addiction recovery, surviving withdrawal at home, prescription painkiller addiction, finding purpose after addiction, rebuilding after rock bottom, starting over later in life, when your work is your identity, hope after addiction, healing after loss of self

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Have you ever built a life so carefully that you forgot to ask whether it was actually yours? Lora did everything right. The good girl, the good student, the good wife, the good mom. And then, right on the edge of an empty nest and a little freedom, she found out her husband had been living a second life for fifteen years.

This is a conversation about what happens after the floor gives way. Lora talks about collapsing, literally, and then getting back up. About the slow realization that the people who hurt her did not get to decide who she became. And about the harder mirror underneath the betrayal, the one that showed her all the ways she had been abandoning herself long before anyone else did.

It is tender and honest and, in the end, hopeful. Not because everything wrapped up neatly, but because Lora found out something worth knowing. You can lose the whole thing and still be okay.

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Guest Bio:

LORA CHEADLE, JD CHt is an author, TEDx speaker, and leadership wellness coach who specializes in burnout and betrayal recovery. She is the author of It’s Not Burnout; It’s Betrayal: 5 Tools to FUEL UP & Thrive, the award-winning book FLAUNT! Drop Your Cover and Reveal Your Smart, Sexy, & Spiritual Self, and hosts the top-rated podcast, FLAUNT! Create a Life You Love After Infidelity or Betrayal.

Website: https://loracheadle.com/

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Have you ever quit the thing everyone could see, only to find the thing nobody could see was still running the show?

Zach Brittle is a couples therapist who spent decades certain that alcohol was the danger. He grew up afraid of becoming someone he wasn't, carrying stories about drinking that were planted in him long before he ever had a drop. When he finally put the bottle down in November of 2020, he expected relief. What he found instead was anger, the kind that had been hiding in plain sight his whole life, quietly running every relationship he had.

This episode follows Zach through that harder, truer work. Not the quitting, but everything that came after it. The slow rebuilding of trust with his daughters, the patience required while his wife found her own sobriety two years behind him, and the strange, steady gratitude that replaced the pride he used to need. It's a conversation about what we each call our drug of choice, and what it actually costs to finally put it down.

What You'll Hear:

Guest Bio:

Zach Brittle is a licensed mental health counselor, Certified Gottman Therapist, Certified Relational Life Therapist, speaker, and host of Marriage Therapy Radio, a relationship podcast with more than 4 million downloads. He has spent years helping couples navigate conflict, connection, repair, and intimacy with more honesty and skill. In addition to his clinical work, Zach speaks openly about his own recovery journey and the deeper work of learning to stay present in the face of anger, uncertainty, and relational pain. His story brings together themes of sobriety, emotional responsibility, marriage, and personal transformation in a way that is both honest and deeply human.

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sobriety, recovery from alcohol, anger and addiction, parenting through change, couples therapy, asking for help, family healing, gratitude in recovery, fatherhood and forgiveness, honesty after addiction

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Have you ever kept moving because stopping felt more dangerous than going? Pat knew that feeling better than most. He filled his life with travel and sport and constant motion, not because he loved being busy, but because stillness was where his hardest thoughts lived.

Then on an ordinary foggy morning, a wave put him face-first into a sandbar at Ocean Beach in San Francisco. He broke his neck. He stopped breathing in the water. And somewhere between almost dying and being pulled back to shore by his friend John, something in him reorganized completely.

This episode follows Pat from a childhood that taught him to hide what he felt, through years of outrunning himself across more than fifty countries, into a hospital bed where he had to relearn how to move his own foot, and finally into the life he lives now. One built, day by day, on a phrase he still says to himself. Even when it's bad, it's good.

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Patrick Yalon is a San Francisco-based deputy probation officer, high school basketball coach, endurance athlete, writer, and the author of the upcoming memoir Still Here. In 2024, he nearly died in a catastrophic surfing accident at Ocean Beach, where he broke his neck, drowned, was revived on the beach, and underwent emergency spinal surgery. What followed was a long and uncertain recovery that forced him to rebuild not only his body, but his identity and sense of purpose.

Since then, Patrick has used endurance, reflection, and writing as part of that rebuilding process, including taking on the Moab 240 ultramarathon. He writes and speaks about trauma, resilience, meaning, and what it means to live fully after nearly losing everything.

iRunFar article: https://www.irunfar.com/still-here-running-the-moab-240-mile-after-a-near-death-surfing-accident

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near death experience, surviving trauma, spinal cord injury recovery, learning to be present, outrunning your feelings, gratitude after tragedy, second chance at life, healing from silence, masculinity and emotion, finding purpose after trauma

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Have you ever lived a life that worked, on paper, and still felt like you were only halfway in the room? That is where Lena Fein spent most of her life. Not broken. Not miserable. Just partially there, ever since a moment at seven years old when the safest place she had, her own diary, got read out loud and used against her.

Lena did everything right after that. School, a career in engineering, a family, a persona that held. And underneath it, a part of her stayed folded up and quiet for over forty years, until her mother was dying of cancer and Lena looked into her eyes one last time and saw something she had been waiting her whole life to see. That moment did not fix anything overnight. But it cracked something open, and Lena spent the years after slowly, gently claiming back the pieces of herself she had given up on. Her voice. Her rhythm. Her breath. Her story, eventually written down and shared with the world in her memoir, Shattering the Mirror.

This episode is for anyone who has ever wondered if the parts of themselves they buried a long time ago are still in there somewhere, waiting. They usually are.

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Guest Bio

Lena Fein lives in San Francisco, the city of her birth. After receiving a master’s degree in engineering from UC Berkeley, she enjoyed a successful career in high tech and founded a non-profit that funded health and education projects in at-risk communities around the globe. Now retired, Lena enjoys the arts in all their forms, including painting, singing, dancing, and writing. Currently, Lena is often seen taking long walks by the bay and hugging her grandchildren. Her memoir, "Shattering the Mirror," is about her quest to confront her life and see through the distortions of her traumatic childhood. Now in her late sixties, Lena lives with more freedom, clarity, and love than she ever imagined. The book is really about the truth that healing is possible at any age — and that wholeness is priceless.

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mother wound, childhood shame, deathbed forgiveness, reclaiming your voice, emotional numbness, generational trauma, finding wholeness, late life awakening, memoir writing, healing after loss

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Some secrets get handed to us before we are old enough to know what to do with them. Ranae was a preteen in a small Minnesota town when she was sexually abused by boys she had known her whole life. The instruction that followed- stay quiet, or people will think you are bad- became the quiet architecture of everything she built afterward.

For decades that belief ran the show. It showed up as people pleasing, as quitting good jobs before anyone could find out she was not good enough, as a kind of disappearing she did inside her own mind without ever naming it. Eventually it led her into a scheme that spiraled into wire and mail fraud, and one morning, into a bathroom mirror where she gave herself exactly two ways out.

She chose to turn herself in. She served fifty-one months in federal prison, and she will tell you plainly that walking through those doors is the day her healing actually began. This conversation is about shame, about the stories we are told to keep, and about what becomes possible once we finally put one down.

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Guest Bio:

Ranae Van Roekel is a mother, grandmother, wife, dog lover—and someone whose life was forever changed by the consequences of her choices. After committing a crime that harmed people both close to her and unknown to her, Ranae served 36 months in federal prison. What she once thought could never be part of her story—being labeled a felon—became a defining chapter in her journey.

Through incarceration, Ranae came to understand how deeply unresolved trauma had shaped her actions and decisions. This realization became the catalyst for years of healing and recovery. She has since dedicated herself to self-care, education, and advocacy, using her lived experience to help others—regardless of their histories or hardships—discover coping skills and pathways toward healing.

Today, Ranae is a passionate advocate for justice reform, working to create a system that acknowledges the humanity of every individual and addresses the root causes of crime, including trauma, stress, and mental health struggles.

Through her platform, Connecting to Cope, she shares her story, insights, and strategies with others navigating personal or professional challenges. Her mission is clear: to empower people to face their pain, embrace healing, and move toward thriving lives.

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childhood sexual abuse, shame and secrecy, people pleasing, federal prison, healing in prison, trauma and choices, white collar crime, family forgiveness, finding worth, prison reform advocacy

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Have you ever noticed your life getting smaller without ever deciding to shrink it? Not all at once. Just one canceled plan, one closed door, one quiet no to something that used to feel possible, until one day you look up and wonder where all the room went.

That's where Scott Stirrett found himself partway through COVID. He'd already done the hard things once. Left a steady job at twenty-two to start a charity from nothing. Came out, eventually, after years of being afraid of what people might think. But comfort, real comfort, has a way of quietly wearing off if you let it. A decade of stability dulled the muscle he used to take risks with, and it took a pandemic and a therapist's gentle observation to show him how far it had drifted.

This is a conversation about what it actually takes to rebuild a relationship with the unknown. Not white knuckling through it. Practicing it, on purpose, the same way you'd train a muscle you forgot you had. And about what becomes possible once you stop needing to know how things will turn out before you're willing to try.

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Guest Bio:

Scott Stirrett is a Canadian entrepreneur, author, and social impact leader whose mission is to help people reach their full potential. He is the Founder of Venture for Canada (VFC), a national charity that has supported over 10,000 young professionals since its launch in 2013. Under Scott’s leadership, VFC has raised over $80 million and built partnerships with organizations including Employment and Social Development Canada, RBC Foundation, TD Bank, Scotiabank, and leading Canadian foundations. The organization focuses on equipping early-career Canadians with the entrepreneurial skills and mindset needed to thrive in an uncertain economy.

Scott is the author of The Uncertainty Advantage, a practical guide for young professionals navigating today’s unpredictable world of work. Endorsed by Andrew Yang, Stephen Poloz, Amanda Lang, Eric Ries, Sukhinder Singh Cassidy, and Michele Romanow, the book draws on lessons from scaling VFC, emphasizing adaptability, entrepreneurial thinking, and lifelong learning.

Before founding VFC, Scott worked at Goldman Sachs in New York City. He is a graduate of Georgetown University’s Walsh School of Foreign Service. He has been recognized as a Telus LGBTQ Innovator of the Year, an Action Canada Fellow, a Globe and Mail Changemaker, and an Ashoka Fellow, among other honours.

His commentary has been featured in The Washington Post, Forbes, Fast Company, The Globe and Mail, CBC News Network, and BNN Bloomberg. He currently serves as Co-Chair of the Board at the Canadian Centre for Housing Rights and sits on the Board of the Speech and Debate Canada Foundation.

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Personal website: https://www.scottstirrett.com/

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comfort with uncertainty, fear of the unknown, perfectionism recovery, coming out later in life, leaving what you built, self compassion practice, risk taking and growth, shrinking under pressure, rebuilding confidence, chosen family and friendship

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Have you ever looked fine on paper and still felt like something was missing. Good job, good marriage, kids who love you, and underneath all of it, a quiet hum of not quite. Drew Norton knew that hum well. He was drifting through his late twenties, chasing money because he thought money was the thing that would finally make him feel like enough.

Then one afternoon he came home to find his six month old son not breathing. What followed was an hour and a half that felt like a lifetime, a misdiagnosis that haunted his family for weeks, and a slow, unglamorous rebuilding of a man who realized the work he thought he was doing for a paycheck was actually the work that taught him how to show up for the people he loved.

Drew talks about what it cost him to keep performing wellness instead of practicing it, what his wife's healing taught him about his own, and why he now spends his days helping other men find the brotherhood he didn't have when he needed it most.

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Guest Bio:

Drew Norton is "The Everyday Sales Leader," a podcast host, and Co-founder of The Abundant Man. After a family emergency reshaped his perspective, Drew lost 100 lbs and led a sales team to over $20 million in revenue. Today, he helps leaders and teams unlock their potential through his core teachings: Leadership is a Choice and Sales is Life. He believes that to Belong is the first step to Believe and Become , and he challenges high-performers to realize that Wanting More is the only path that enables you to Serve More. Drew is a private pilot, a husband of 13 years, and a father of four.

https://my.theabundantmanproject.com/

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drifting, complacency, fatherhood fear, marriage after trauma, faith and doubt, men and vulnerability, brotherhood, finding purpose, presence over perfection, rebuilding after fear

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Have you ever had a feeling in your gut that just knew, that told you to keep going even when nothing around you confirmed it? Carly had one of those since she was a kid. And then, somewhere around thirty, it went quiet. If you have ever lost the thing that used to steer you, you already know how unmooring that silence can be.

Carly's path winds through a childhood spent on stages, a move to New York at twenty-two, a pandemic that emptied out her industry overnight, and a second cancer diagnosis that arrived right when she had already started to lose her footing. She talks about sitting on a couch and telling the people who loved her most that she needed to go dark for a while, and how that one honest moment became part of how she found her way back. The shift here is not loud. It is the slow trade of proving herself to other people for simply loving the work because she loves it.

By the end, Carly is lighter. Not because everything got easier, but because she stopped carrying things that were never hers to carry in the first place.

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Guest Bio:

Carly Otte is a New York City & Philadelphia-based actor, improviser, and storyteller originally from Pittsburgh. Her on-screen credits include The Fault in Our Stars, recurring appearances on Impractical Jokers, and most recently the feature mockumentary The Conspiracists (now streaming on Amazon Prime). In addition to her performance work, she teaches improv at the Philly Improv Theater and works in communications and storytelling. Carly is also a two-time cancer survivor who shares patient advocacy content on TikTok, using her platform to document her journey and support others.

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cancer survivor, redefining success, identity shift, acting career, second diagnosis, grief and healing, creative joy, finding community, starting over, self worth

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Have you ever performed feeling completely fine while everyone around you assumed you were falling apart. Kate Kayaian knows that feeling from the inside. She spent four decades as a professional cellist, the kind of career most people only dream about, and on the night that career quietly ended, a room full of people watched her voice shake and assumed grief. What she was actually feeling was relief.

We talk about how she chose the cello at four and a half because of a boy she had a crush on, and how that one small decision became her entire identity for the next forty years. We talk about what it felt like to be cheered for and still feel like, in her words, a trained monkey. We talk about giving herself permission to stop with no crisis forcing her hand, just a quiet knowing. And we talk about sitting at her mother's deathbed and asking forgiveness for a decision her mother never needed her to ask forgiveness for.

The shift here isn't really about quitting an instrument. It's about the moment you realize the thing everyone has always known you as isn't the whole truth of who you are, and what it costs, and frees, to go find out who's underneath.

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Guest Bio

Kate Kayaian is an author, speaker, and career strategist for high achievers who want to build lives of impact, purpose, and sustainable success.

A former professional cellist, Kate performed as a soloist, chamber musician, and recitalist in venues ranging from Boston’s Jordan Hall to leading European concert halls. She trained at the New England Conservatory of Music and held a fellowship with the New World Symphony Orchestra under Michael Tilson Thomas.

Today, Kate’s work centers on helping accomplished professionals—creatives, executives, educators, and entrepreneurs—define success on their own terms and create careers that feel as good as they look. Through her 1:1 coaching and her signature group program, the Creatives Leadership Academy, she guides clients to develop clarity, confidence, and the practical strategies needed to lead at the highest level without sacrificing their well-being.

She is the author of Beyond Potential, a practical guide for high performers navigating the next chapter of their professional lives, and the host of Tales from The Lane, a podcast exploring the hidden challenges and unexpected joys of success. As a sought-after speaker, Kate delivers keynotes and workshops on leadership presence, mindset transformation, and redefining what’s possible for high achievers across industries.

Alongside her private practice, Kate serves as President and Artistic Director of the Bermuda Philharmonic Orchestra, where she continues to champion creativity, collaboration, and innovation in the arts.

She lives on the island of Bermuda, where she spends her days coaching clients around the world, writing, speaking, and tending to her garden.

Instagram: @kkayaian

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identity after a career, professional musician burnout, who am I without my job, redefining potential, second career after forty, grief and relief, permission to stop, starting over later in life, letting go of an identity, midlife reinvention

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