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In this journal entry I share the gentle shift that is helping me to move through anger at a situation I can't control. It starts with accepting reality, so I can find my inner peace again.

If you are an INFP and/or a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) who struggles to move through intense, painful anger, please know you are not alone. If you are a sensitive soul tired of fighting what is, I share my gentle way to process anger, and use it as a guide for personal growth.

Let’s hold space for the difficult emotion, process it tenderly, and find inner harmony and self-acceptance. 

Next ▶️ Cure loneliness by reading books, until we find our kindred spirits! (https://youtu.be/92wGFAw_bOU)

Sending you comfort and peace,
Kate

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Welcome & An Honest Chat: Why I'm Talking About Anger Today
1:18 Anger is a Teacher: The INFP/HSP Struggle with Uncomfortable Emotion
2:17 Holding Space for Your Anger: A Gentle Way to Process Hurt
3:08 Forgiving Others: Understanding is Love (Personality & Psychology)
6:06 Realization: My Anger is Directed at Reality Itself
7:20 Accepting Reality: Protect Your Sensitive Soul by Setting Boundaries
9:35 I'm Done Being Hurt: Coping with the Liminal Space & Kindred Spirits
12:03 Final Blessings: This Too Shall Pass (We Will Be Okay) 

#processanger #acceptreality #hsp #infp #highlysensitiveperson #introvert #settingboundaries #donebeinghurt #personaldevelopment #journaling #innerpeace #emotionalregulation #gentleprocess #selfacceptance #lightbearerslibrary #imaginaryfriends 

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

Dear soul, if you’ve missed a day, you are not alone. 80% of people have already quit their big goals, proving the "all or nothing" approach to habit building doesn’t work. In this journal entry we will explore how to "Un-Quit" your resolution by shifting your mindset to focus on identity instead of unreachable targets. True transformation isn't about achieving the goal (i.e. losing 10 lbs) but consistently choosing the identity (i.e. being a healthy person).

You will learn how to permanently “pick it back up” with three powerful steps:

• Self-Compassion: Immediately stop the cycle of self-judgment when you miss a day.
• The 1% Rule: Choose the tiniest daily action that is non-negotiable, this guarantees success.
• Build Self-Trust: Master the art of showing up so you can gradually scale your actions until you become the writer, the healthy person, or the focused individual you want to be.

Start small, be consistent, and keep your dream from being left in the dust.

✨Dear soul, I'd love to cheer you on in the comments! What is the absolute tiniest action you are going to commit to, so you can build trust in yourself, and become the person you want to become? 

Next ▶️

If you find yourself stuck in the pattern of self-judgment after quitting, watch my video Negative Thought Loops Are Waste of Time and What to Do Instead (https://youtu.be/rGKP0nJSPiA) for a deeper guide on breaking those destructive mental habits.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Your New Year's Resolution Has "Failed," Now What?
0:18 The 80% Quit Statistic & Why It Causes Self-Judgment
1:28 The Mindset Shift: Becoming the Person You Wish to Be
2:20 Practice Self-Compassion & Stop Negative Thought Loops
3:18 How to "Un-Quit": Making the Goal the Smallest Possible Tiny Action
5:10 Building Unbreakable Self-Trust with Daily Actions
5:53 Why Succeeding at Small Actions is Better Than Failing at Big Ones
7:00 Give Yourself Permission to Go Back and Forth
7:44 You'll Be The Person You Wish to Be Because of This
8:44 Negative Thought Loops Are a Waste of Time 

#mindsetshift #selfcompassion #newyearsresolution #habits #tinyhabits #personalgrowth #motivation #selfimprovement #identity #buildselftrust #infp #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

Dear soul, this journal entry offers you the permission to break up with toxic relationships and incompatible family members who diminish your sensitive soul's light. I ask us to look at the uncomfortable truth that sometimes choosing loneliness is the better option.

For the idealist, it is painful when you show up with your whole heart and unique gifts, only to have them rejected or minimized. This video explores the journey of realizing that sometimes, people are just incompatible—and that’s okay.

I talk about:

• The crucial difference between setting boundaries within healthy relationships and choosing to emotionally and physically disconnect from unhealthy relationships.
• Using MBTI personality typology as a tool for understanding relational incompatibility.
• Why trying to fill a hole of loneliness with mismatched people only leads to more heartache.
• The final, liberating step of freeing yourself from the relationships that weigh you down so you can focus on sharing your gifts with the world.

This journal entry will help you to reflect on your relationships and encourage you to choose self-worth and self-reliance over endless heartache.

Next ▶️
Now that you have given yourself permission to choose quiet healing over constant hurt, learn how to embrace and constructively use that solitary time with this gentle suggestion: Lonely? Read a book like this... (video/oN4pqCbRadQ).

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Permission to break up with toxic relationships
0:59 Idealist values vs. worldly values
2:10 The danger of 'rose-colored glasses'
2:45 Personality theory for relationship clarity
4:15 Idealists' gifts may not be appreciated
6:15 Why family members hurt us the most
6:45 Boundaries vs. breakups
7:22 Why incompatibility is no one's fault
8:39 The breakup process
9:36 Loneliness is the better option
11:26 Free your gifts to shine in the world
13:26 Let's focus on making the world a better place
14:44 Don't hide your light!

#toxicrelationships #incompatiblefamily #sensitiveperson #hsp #idealist #infp #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #loneliness #mbti #personaldevelopment #selfworth #boundaries #selflove #incompatible

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

If you’re struggling with deciding between the INFP Idealist vs ISFP Artist MBTI personality types this video is for you! I got professionally typed not once, but twice, just to figure out my best fit type once and for all!

Welcome, dear soul! This journal entry shares my year-long challenge with type confusion, starting with multiple online tests yielding ISFP and ending with two professional assessments that confirmed my type as an INFP.

We dive into the core distinction: Extroverted Intuition (Ne) vs Extroverted Sensing (Se). Discover how Ne drives the need to explore all possibilities and connect patterns, and why sensory hobbies like gardening and crocheting might confuse your self-typing. It all comes down to your motivation, and how nature vs nurture may have influenced your actions throughout your life. I also share the clarifying question that helped me settle my identity and step into my path as the "Wise Woman".

I hope this video will help you see yourself clearly and find peace in your best fit personality type.

✨ I'd love to hear from you! What is one sensory activity you enjoy that you think could be mistaken for an ISFP trait? Share your thought below!

Next ▶️

- Because you're seeking clarity on your type, start by watching my original video on this topic: ISFP vs INFP. How to know which personality type you are. This video will provide an excellent foundational comparison to the one you just watched (https://youtu.be/MdI6QUlyQVg).

- Ready to dive deeper? Explore the entire INFP Playlist to find more insights on your personality type, emotional health, and creative journey. (https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLc92wjOKEZyFPgtTzV4zZV6ch1rKDZuEE) 

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Why I struggled with INFP vs ISFP typing
1:12 My emotional crisis & second professional type clarification session
3:07 My ISFP "misdiagnosis" & the follow-up INFP "diagnosis"
5:15 What's the motivation behind your actions? (INFP Idealist vs ISFP Sensor)
6:35 Extroverted Intuition (Ne): Love of frameworks
8:18 Extroverted Intuition (Ne): Interest in the unseen from an early teens
9:54 Why your upbringing might skew your personality type (Nature vs Nurture) 13:33 My true core purpose: The Wise Woman archetype
16:37 Finding your true best fit type

#infp #infpvsisfp #personalitytype #MBTI #introvert #myersbriggs #cognitivefunctions #extrovertedintuition #ne #isfp #idealist #naturevsnurture #psychology #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #infplife 

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

The secret to achieving long-term consistency for idealists isn't just setting an internal goal—it’s developing the Idealist Mindset that finally stops you from giving up on your healing, your personal projects, and yourself.

Dear soul, we've talked about how external pressure and deadlines cause New Year's resolutions to fail. But even with intrinsic goals like self-love and healing, the motivation often dies. There are two main reasons we as idealists give up:

- Perfectionism: The ideal vision in our minds can never match the "ugly first draft" of reality, causing us to feel like failures and quit entirely.

- External Metrics: When the effort we put in doesn't immediately match external validation (like low views or slow progress), we lose motivation.

In this journal entry we look at the three keys of the Idealist Mindset that break this cycle, so that we don't give up! This is the philosophy that keeps the Lightbearer's Library going, and it’s the resilient mindset you need to maintain momentum. 

✨ What is the one ridiculously simple, tiny step you can take today to move toward your ideal vision? Share your action in the comments below!

Next ▶️ If you’re still wrestling with why traditional goals and deadlines fail you, check out New year’s resolutions don’t work for idealists (https://youtu.be/ADPJPgbOipM) to diagnose the root problem and understand the Idealist’s path to growth.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library: the secret to consistency
1:15 Why idealists quit - reason 1: the perfect vision vs. reality
1:55 Why idealists quit - reason 1: lose motivation over external metrics
2:36 "The Secret Idealist Mindset" Key 1: Focus on action, not perfection
3:34 Key 2: Focus on the metric of meaning
4:57 Key 3: Focus on the minimum viable action for consistency
6:58 Conclusion & final commitment

#idealistmindset #consistency #perfectionism #newyearsresolution #personalgrowth #selflove #motivation #idealist #introvert #infp #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #healingjourney 

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

New Year, Same You

This journal entry is for every idealist and introvert who feels the intense New Year's resolution pressure but knows that changing the calendar doesn't automatically give us a "New Us." We're tackling the great "Fresh Start" lie and the painful sense of incongruence between external goals and our internal timing.

Dear soul, if you are acutely aware of the gap between the ideal world and what is actually real, you are not alone.

Healing, growth and personal transformation all happen on their own time. It does not happen with external pressure and deadlines. Our internal timing rarely aligns with the external expectations of society.

So, let’s shift our focus. The only resolution that truly matters is to continue to honor our own present state of being and continue to grow in self-love, self-trust and self-compassion.

Instead of external goals, we embrace internal goals and focus on the smallest steps:

• Rest: A "goal of rest" to counter the intense psychic energy around us.
• Patience: Nurture the seeds we've planted, trusting they will bloom in their own time—not when the external world says it's January.
• Tiny Steps: Tend our inner garden by asking what’s one thing we can do today to love ourselves.

The Lightbearer's Library is a place for gentle cheerleading to live a life of courage, honesty, and beauty. If you're feeling this time is a challenge for you, you're not alone. I'm right here along with you. Please subscribe!

If you want to put this self-compassion into practice, I recommend watching: Setting boundaries is an act of love, not selfishness (https://youtu.be/RBdAXbrwQw4), where you’ll learn why protecting your energy is an act of profound self-love.

Sending you many blessings.

Xoxo,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 The New Year "Fresh Start" Lie for Idealists
0:40 The Painful Sense of Incongruence (New Year, Same You)
2:19 Let's Do What Idealists Do Best
2:58 Healing & Growth Happens on Its Own Time
4:49 The Only Resolution That Matters: Honoring Your Present State
5:29 Internal Goals: Why You Need a "Goal of Rest" Now
7:00 Patience: Nurture the Seeds You've Planted
8:32 Focusing on the Smallest Step to Tend Your Garden
9:45 You Are Not Alone (Final Gentle Cheerleading)

#newyearsresolution #idealists #introverts #infp #infj #hsp #incongruence #selflove #selfcompassion #internalgoals #tiny steps #personalgrowth #freshstartfails #lightbearerslibrary

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

Setting healthy boundaries can feel selfish, but what if we could rewrite the script?

In this journal entry, we explore how to reframe boundary setting as a generous act of love for oneself and one's relations.

Some of the things I talk about are:

- The emotional cost of saying 'yes' when you want to say 'no.'
- The high cost of not setting boundaries, which can lead to resentment and the loss of self-trust.
- How to redefine boundaries so we can show up as our best, most patient, and present selves for friends and family. (It all starts with filling our own cups first!)
- The first step we need to take on the path to setting long-lasting, healthy boundaries.

This video is that foundational first step! If you're ready to overcome the fear of rejection and conflict that can arise when considering boundaries setting, make sure to subscribe so you don't miss the next video in this series.

✨ What is one thing you are going to say "no" to this week? Share in the comments below!

Next ▶️
Check out: Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work (https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM) for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library
0:25 Rewrite the Script: Boundaries as Self-Care & Generosity
2:03 Step 1: The Emotional Cost of Not Setting Healthy Boundaries
2:39 Why Saying 'Yes' When You Mean 'No' Destroys Self-Trust
3:49 How Not Setting Limits Leads to Resentment in Relationships
5:05 The Truth: Not Having Boundaries is the Real Selfish Act
6:15 The Teacup Theory: Defining Boundaries as True Generosity
8:05 Final Thoughts & Preview: Overcoming the Fear of Rejection 

#settingboundaries #healthyboundaries #personaldevelopment #introvert #infp #selfcare #endtheguilt #lightbearerslibrary #journaling #resentment

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

Dear soul, are you tired of setting goals that fail before February? The secret to setting goals that actually stick is ditching the resolutions and connecting our intentions with our deepest core values.

Stop wasting energy on fleeting New Year's resolutions that are based on aspiration, FOMO, or external pressure. In this journal entry we dive into a powerful, intrinsic process of self-discovery to help us make goals that are an expression of who we already are—not a chore.

I cover:

- How to find your top 1-5 core values by reflecting on past moments of genuine peace and joy.

- The essential Value → Goal → Action Framework for lasting change.

- Actionable examples for aligning your intentions with values like health, creativity, boundaries, and authenticity. 

This approach makes taking action feel intrinsically good, helping us shine our light into the world!

✨ I'd love to hear from you: what is one core value you are going to focus on this year?

Next ▶️
Check out Seeking purpose is exhausting, do this instead (https://youtu.be/2_lA942l5qE) to take the next step on your self-discovery journey by exploring how aligning with your values is more fulfilling than the exhausting search for an ultimate purpose.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

Ps. Here's the list of core values I mention: https://jamesclear.com/core-values

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 The Problem: Why New Year's resolutions don’t work by February
1:30 The Solution: Align your goals with your personal values
2:15 Step 1: Self-Discovery to find your top 1-5 core values
4:52 The Value → Goal → Action Framework
5:14 Goal Setting Example: Actionable goals for health
5:55 Goal Setting Example: Creativity and controlling the outcome
6:26 Goal Setting Example: Practicing boundaries
7:42 Goal Setting Example: Practicing authenticity
8:38 Less stress, and more success with intrinsic motivation
9:53 The power of focusing on one value this year

#goalsetting #values #newyearsresolutions #selfdiscovery #personalgrowth #mindset #authenticity #motivation #newyearnewme #practicalphilosophy #introvert #infp #lightbearerslibrary #journaling 

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

Dear soul, welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! Can you truly embrace optimistic anger and use difficult emotions as a powerful catalyst for profound personal growth and self-building?

In this journal entry, I share my journey of processing anger and grief during an intense holiday season, and how it has led to an internal reorganization of my core values. I unpack why anger can be a good thing—not when it's destructive, but when it fuels the deliberate work of building a life aligned with conscious choices.

If you are also navigating an intense emotional period, you are not alone, and I hope the following topics may be of use to you in your own journey:

• Setting Boundaries: The necessity of creating space—like stepping away from family expectations during the holidays—to protect our peace and begin emotional healing.
• Shifting Values: Why letting go of old values or relationships that no longer serve us is uncomfortable, yet vital for spiritual self-discovery.
• Conscious Choice: I dive into the philosophy of whether we are discovering our identity or building the self we choose to become.
• The Emotional Workout: Viewing the intense process of grief and anger as an "emotional workout" that ultimately makes us stronger and "fitter" on the other side.

This episode offers a new perspective on how to move through challenging feelings with a sense of hopeful anticipation for what comes next.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Processing Anger in a Kind Way with Optimism
2:08 What if We're Exactly Where We Need to Be
2:45 The Philosophical Question: Building vs. Discovering Who We Are
3:32 Navigating Internal Reorganization and Shifting Values
4:40 The Optimism of What's On The Other Side
5:21 Nature vs. Nurture, and the Free Will Debate
6:27 Letting Go of the Old and Embrace Optimistic Anger
8:53 The Emotional Workout: Using Anger for Personal Growth
11:08 Final Thoughts on Self-Building and New Year's Resolutions

#optimisticanger #healingjourney #personalgrowth #grief #settingboundaries #selfdiscovery #emotionalhealing #values #emotionalintelligence #consciousliving #selfcompassion #shadowwork #reparenting #infp #introvert #lightbearerslibrary #journaling

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1

Hello, dear soul, and welcome to the Lightbearer's Library! In today’s journal entry I’m tackling one of the most uncomfortable emotions for an INFP: Anger.

As an INFP, I often find anger difficult to express, especially when it arises from deep sadness over being mistreated or misunderstood by a loved one. The pain of maintaining external harmony is shattering my internal harmony, so this video is my real-time process for figuring out how to negotiate those.

The challenge is learning how to honor our truth and set firm boundaries without creating drama or sacrificing our core values of love, kindness, and forgiveness. It’s about accepting that anger is a true feeling that needs a loving expression.

I share the one practical action I’m taking: rejecting the story of why it's "okay" to be treated poorly and sending a short, three-line email to put up a gentle, non-negotiable boundary. This action is not about changing the other person (in my case, my ESTJ mother); it's entirely about protecting my own inner peace.

I also explore the deep feeling that some of this intense anger may not be mine—that as a sensitive soul I may be called to transmute some of the collective energetic anger in the world.

If you’re struggling to find a path through your own anger, especially if you are an INFP or INFJ navigating family dynamics and boundary setting, know that you are not alone.

If this video resonated with you, please give it a thumbs up and subscribe to the channel. Thank you for being here on this journey with me.

Next ▶️
Check out [Why the Golden Rule doesn’t work] https://youtu.be/ZDQd-hFtUkM for a look at why treating others the way they want to be treated—not the way you want to be treated—is the foundation of healthy relationships and self-aware boundaries, which is essential for managing your anger kindly.

XOXO,
Kate Harmony

📖 Journal Notes
0:00 Welcome to the Lightbearer's Library: INFP Anger Management
0:35 The unexpressed anger that causes internal suffering
1:21 The INFP vs. ESTJ family boundary conflict
2:45 Why I can’t "make up a story" for forgiveness anymore
4:00 The problem with trying to maintain external harmony
5:05 Kind Anger: How to express anger with love and kindness
6:10 The 3-line email: Setting a simple, non-dramatic boundary
7:00 Practical Tip: Catharsis through an unsent email
8:45 How to harmonize love and anger
9:40 A spiritual thought: Why your anger is not all your own
11:00 You are not alone on this journey

#angermanagement #infp #kindanger #boundaries #innerpeace #forgiveness #familydynamics #hsp #mbti #emotionalexpression #angerresolution #infj #estj #introvert #journaling #lightbearerslibrary

🌿 About Kate Harmony 🌿

My main channel (Hack Music Theory) has over 250K subscribers and 10 million views. I've been a full-time YouTuber since 2017 and launched this personal channel (Lightbearer's Library) in 2025, where I'm making video versions of my journal entries.

Some of my favourite topics to talk about are practical philosophy, positive psychology, and personality type (I'm an INFP). But honestly, my journals contain counter-cultural thoughts about everything, so expect the unexpected! I also share practical ways I'm improving my mental health, with the hope that you might find them useful too.

I deleted all my social media accounts over 10 years ago, so I offer a loving perspective that's free from the divisive language commonly found in feeds nowadays.

If this sounds like your cup of tea, then I warmly welcome you into the Lightbearer's Library. Stay for a while, and please remember to subscribe: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCV2wps4NID9rrO08OuwZ5Lg?sub_confirmation=1