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Get Over Your Dam Self: The No-BS Blueprint To Building A Life-Changing Business

Are you ready to get this party started? We are going to learn how to create a life with more freedom, flexibility, greater purpose and a lot more fun!

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LIVE LIFE HAPPY- UNCONVENTIONAL BOOK CLUB

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Daring Greatly: How having the courage to be Vulnerable can change how we live

DARING GREATLY By Brene Brown

Do you think vulnerability is a weakness? Were you taught to not show vulnerability or weakness? Dr. Brene Brown dispels the myth that vulnerability is weakness and argues that it is an accurate measure of courage. Brown explains that vulnerability is at the core of difficult emotions like fear, grief, and disappointment. She also says that vulnerability is the birth place of love, belonging, joy, empathy and innovation.

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Introduction

Resilience, happiness, and freedom come from knowing what to care about-- and, most importantly, what not to care about.

Mark Manson gives the readers the wisdom to do just that.

This book is a little unusual in that it is the opposite of the usual positivity. The key to being happier is to stop trying to be "Positive" all the time and instead to become better at handling adversity.

Don't Try

Fixation on positive, on what's better or superior, only serves to remind us over and over again of what we are not, of what we lack, or what we should have been but failed to be. You don't need to try JUST BE.

The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is a positive experience.

1. Not giving a FUCK does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being indifferent. Actually picking what you give a fuck about. 2. If you are giving too many fucks you might need to find something important to actually give a fuck about. 3. You are always choosing what to give a fuck about.

Bottom Line: We no longer need to give a fuck about everything. Life is just what it is. Don't try don't give a fuck. Choose what you give a fuck about.

Happiness is a problem

Happiness is a constant work in progress. Happiness comes from solving continual problems. If you feel like you have problems you can't solve, you are going to feel miserable. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in having the problems in the first place.

It's that simple: Solve problems; be happy. Unfortunately, for many people, life doesn't feel that simple because they use Denial- deny their problems or Victim Mentality- believe there is nothing we can do about it. WE MAKE STRUGGLE... OUR PROBLEMS BIRTH OUR HAPPINESS.

You are not special

A true measure of self-worth is not how a person feels about her positive experiences, but rather how she feels about her negative experiences. People hide from problems by making imagined success and entitlement to make themselves look special.

A person who actually has high self-worth is able to look at the negative parts and take responsibility,ownership and admit areas needing improvement. Things are going to fall apart. Real trauma happens in life, we start to feel like we have problems we are incapable of ever solving. We adopt two thinking strategies "I'm awesome and the rest of you suck, so I deserve special treatment." I suck and the rest of you are all awesome so I deserve special treatment." BIRTH OF ENTITLEMENT.

Remove the constant pressure to be something amazing, to be the next big thing, lift the weight off you back. The stress and anxiety of always feeling inadequate and constantly needing to prove yourself will dissipate. And the knowledge and acceptance of your own mundane existence will actually free you to accomplish what you truly wish to accomplish, without judgement or lofty expectations. You're not special.

The value of suffering

When we have poor values- that is, poor standards we set for ourselves and others- we are essentially giving fucks about things that don't matter, things that in fact make our lives worse.

When we choose better values, we are able to divert our fucks to something better-towards things that matter, things that improve the state of our wellbeing and generate happiness and success as a side effect.

You are always choosing

Take responsibility for everything that occurs in your l life, regardless of who's at fault.

When we feel like we are choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel our problems are being forced upon us, we feel victimized and miserable.

You're wrong about everything (But so am I)

Acknowledgement of your own ignorance and the cultivation of constant done in your own beliefs. Maybe we should trust ourselves less, remain curious with questions.

Studies show that most of our beliefs are wrong. All beliefs are actually wrong- some are just less wrong than others. Our brains are always trying to make sense of our current situation based on what we already believe and have already experienced. Ask yourself, 'What if I'm wrong," "What would it mean if I were wrong?""Would being wrong create a better or a worse problem than my current problem, for both myself and others."

Failure is the way forward

The willingness to discover your own flaws and mistakes so that they may be improved upon.

Pain is part of the process.

Success/Failure Paradox: We become scared of failure and avoid it and stick to what were good at. Focus on better values of process oriented, failure acceptance. "Do something" principle will help set the motivation loop into action. Inspiration-motivation-action or better yet Action- Inspiration- Motivation.

The importance of saying no

The ability to both say and hear NO, thus clearly defining what you will and will not accept in your life. Rejection makes your life better. Rejection helps set boundaries, allowing you to choose for yourself.

And then you die

Contemplation of one's own mortality. This allows you to pay attention to one's own death is perhaps the only thing capable of helping us keep all our values in proper perspective. "Is it worth your energy?""What should I give a fuck about?"

Summary

This book teaches you not how to gain and achieve, but how to lose and let go.

Mark Manson turns the concept of positive thinking on it's head. with this new perspective, we are able to he honest with our lives, with delusional expectation for ourselves and others, and to know our limitations and accept them.

Continue to choose what you give a fuck about and what not to.

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How to Change Lifelong, Self-Defeating Thinking Habits

Andrea Seydel Live Life Happy Unconventional Book Club

Introduction

Dr. Wayne W. Dyer reveals how to change the self-defeating thinking patterns the have prevented us from living at our highest levels of success, happiness and health.

Modifying habitual thinking patterns really comes down to tossing out the same old excuses and examining your beliefs in a new light.,

Get ready to learn specific questions to ask any excuse, and then proceed to new thinking. Melt away old habituated ways of thinking.

Through his book... You ultimately discover you have no excuses worth defending, that when you eliminate the need to explain your shortcomings or failures, you'll awaken to a life of your dreams.

Questions to Ask Yourself

What excuses have you used in the past? What excuses are you still using today?Really think about it. What is holding you back from your life, from a higher level of success?

What long established excuses have you used that are keep you the same?

What kind of thinking has become habitual or have become long habits of thoughts? What is your excuse pattern? I want you to REALLY THINK ABOUT THIS BECAUSE... IT"S ABOUT TO GET REAL!!

Identify & Remove Habitual Thinking

"Don't believe everything you think!"

You can change old habits by changing your beliefs: Your beliefs are all those formless energy patterns the you've adopted. We create self-limiting beliefs to explain why where're not living life to the absolute fullest.

"I won't ever be able to do that it's not in my genes." The thoughts called memes are thoughts that you allow to become your master and every excuse you've made is a meme disguised as an explanation. This becomes a placebo effect or self fulfilling prophecy.

Creative conscious mind can do almost anything you instruct it to do. Through discipline, effort, and practice, it can accomplish almost anything you focus your thoughts on. Habit implies that you've made the same choices over time. It also implies that you can make your thoughts less automatic and more aligned and applied. SLOWLY ELIMINATING EXCUSES.

TIPS: 1. Decide to CHOOSE instead of EXCUSE; Everything you think, say, and do is a choice.2. See yourself through a new lens. Notice where you are rationalizing or justifying, shift to a new way of seeing things. "If no one told me who I was who would I be? 3. Make an EXCUSE CATALOG- it will be difficult, It's going to be risky, it will take a ling time, there will be drama, I don't deserve it, it's not my nature, I can't afford it, no one will help me, It's never happened before, I'm not strong enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm too old (young), The rules won't let me, It's too big, I don't have the energy, my family history or upbringing, I'm too busy, I'm scared.

The Key Excuses Begone Principles:

Awareness: Lifelong thinking keeps you stuck, becoming aware is the first step.

Alignment: Readjust your thinking so it is in alignment with your greatness.

Now: Forget past and future, be present in the now. Excuses explain now moments tangled in the past and future. Now is where the truth is. No judgement.

Contemplation: Is the mental activity behind all creation. Be conscious of what you choose to use your mind for.

Willingness: an essential element in the approach towards living your life fully free from excuses. Willing to take responsibility, to vision, to surrender, to take a willing mindset.

Passion: Passion always trumps excuses! An enthusiasm that comes from within=passion. Nurture your passion.

Compassion: When retreat to excuses ask your self, "How may I serve?" Thinking of others first allows for you to feel joy and overrides excuses.

The Excuses Begone Shift: Questions to shift old thinking

1. Is it True?

2. Where did the excuses come from?

3. What's the pay off?

4. What would my life look like if I couldn't use these excuses?

5. Can I create a rational reason to change?

6. Can I access universal cooperation in shedding the old habits?

7. How do I continuously reinforce this new way of being?

Summary

This book encourages us to challenge patterns and feel inspired by a new awareness hidden beneath excuses.

It helped us have an unquestionable ability to eliminate excuses. As excuses are from false beliefs.

Its helps us to elevate our lives but taking responsibility for who we are and what we are choosing to become.

We can disconnect the power from the subconscious habitual mind, so we can unearth the excuses buried beneath!!

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