Living Deeply with Markieta Carter

Living Deeply with Markieta Carter

By Markieta CarterEducationSelf-Improvement
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Living Deeply with Markieta Carter episodes

  • Who Am I Beyond Motherhood? Rediscovering Me

    Markieta explores the common question mothers face: who am I when I step away from the title of mom? She affirms that motherhood shapes but does not define a woman and encourages small steps to rediscover interests, boundaries, and personal purpose.

     

    The episode offers permission to change, practical reflection prompts, and the reminder that children should not bear responsibility for their parent’s identity. It’s an invitation to gently make room for the woman who exists alongside motherhood.

     

    Connect with Markieta to learn about her work at https://www.itsmarkieta.com and listen to more episodes at https://www.livingdeeplypodcast.com and join the community at https://www.thrivenhumans.org.

     

     

    9 min
  • When Words Hurt: The Brain Science of Emotional Pain

    Markieta explores why hurtful words, rejection, and verbal abuse can cause real pain, explaining how the brain processes social and emotional pain similarly to physical distress.

    She discusses how leaving unsafe environments can reveal healing, why re-exposure can trigger strong reactions, and how sensitivity can be protected—not erased—through boundaries and self-care.

     

    Connect with Markieta to learn about her work at https://www.itsmarkieta.com and listen to more episodes at https://www.livingdeeplypodcast.com. 

    18 min
  • Why Someone May Respond to Your Tears With Anger

    That was my second time more powerful which is crazyepisode Markieta explores why crying can provoke anger in others, explaining how an observer's past, fears, and coping mechanisms shape their reaction.

     

    She emphasizes that tears are information—not a diagnosis—encourages compassionate curiosity without excusing mistreatment, and offers guidance on boundaries, self-protection, and seeking support.

     

    Listen to more episodes at https://www.livingdeeplypodcast.com and connect with Markieta at www.itsmarkieta.com. 

    22 min
  • When Your Tears Are Met With Anger

    Hey, It’s Markieta. In this personal episode I share how more than 15 years of repeated betrayal affected my marriage, mental health, and sense of self, and why I sought professional help to keep functioning and heal.

    I also talk about recent grief after my sister’s death, being humiliated and called names, and how one painful moment doesn’t erase years of growth.

    This episode is about reclaiming identity: your mental health history is part of your past, not your definition, and it’s okay to get help, protect your peace, and keep living deeply.

     

    Listen to more episodes at https://www.livingdeeplypodcast.com and connect with Markieta at www.itsmarkieta.com. 

    22 min
  • Why Someone May Respond to Your Tears with Anger
    Why would someone see you crying, clearly recognize that you’re hurting, and respond with anger instead of compassion?
    In Part Two of this deeply personal Living Deeply Podcast conversation, I explore what may be happening on the other side of our tears. Anger in response to vulnerability can sometimes be connected to defensiveness, discomfort with emotions, unresolved trauma, learned behaviors, difficulty with emotional regulation, shame, or mental health struggles that have never been diagnosed or treated.
    But there’s an important distinction: we cannot diagnose someone based on how they treat us. Someone can behave hurtfully without having a mental health condition, and people with mental health conditions are not inherently angry, cruel, or abusive.
    I also explore why some people may never seek mental health care even when they recognize they’re struggling. Stigma, denial, fear, cultural beliefs, and concerns about how a mental health history could potentially affect their career, professional reputation, licensing, security clearance, or fitness-for-duty requirements may make treatment feel risky—even when some of those fears may not reflect the actual rules governing their profession.
    And that raises an important point: having no documented mental health diagnosis does not automatically mean someone has never struggled, just as receiving mental health treatment does not mean someone is unstable.
    I know that personally.
    I chose to seek professional help. I spent years consistently receiving treatment, processing what I had experienced, learning about myself, and developing healthier ways of coping. I’m no longer ashamed of that history simply because someone else may choose to use it against me.
    This episode isn’t about diagnosing the person who responds to your tears with anger. It’s about recognizing that their response may have far more to do with what is happening inside of them than your tears themselves.
    You don’t have to determine what’s wrong with someone before deciding that the way they’re treating you isn’t healthy for you.
    Your tears are information.
    Their anger is information.
    Neither one, by itself, is a diagnosis.
    🎧 Listen to the Living Deeply Podcast: livingdeeplypodcast.com⁠
    💜 Connect with me: itsmarkieta.com⁠
    If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs the reminder that seeking mental health support is not weakness—and someone else’s inability to handle your vulnerability does not make your vulnerability the problem.
    22 min
  • When Your Tears Are Used Against You
    What happens when your pain is met with anger instead of compassion—and your tears are used as proof that something is wrong with you?
    In this deeply personal episode of the Living Deeply Podcast, I reflect on more than 15 years of repeated betrayal during my former marriage, being told to “fix myself” and “get over it or get out,” and my decision to seek mental health treatment so I could continue functioning while processing betrayal, fear, grief and shame.
    That treatment helped me heal and eventually understand that the anxiety and depression I experienced were situational and connected to that chapter of my life. Yet the very fact that I sought help would later be used against me as supposed evidence that I was unstable.
    A recent painful interaction with my co-parent brought some of those old feelings back when I was called stupid, manipulative and the worst person in the world while already grieving the death of my sister. I cried—and afterward, I felt ashamed and humiliated for allowing someone to see me vulnerable again.
    But one emotional moment does not erase years of healing.
    I also take accountability for my own decision to stay in that relationship for as long as I did. I cannot change those years, but I have forgiven myself for staying, hoping, trying again and not knowing then what I know today.
    My mental health history is part of my story, but it is not my identity. That relationship is no longer my life. That version of me is no longer where I live.
    I am a much, much different person today.
    This episode is about betrayal, grief, emotional sensitivity, mental health stigma, accountability, boundaries, self-forgiveness and learning that crying does not make you weak or unstable.
    Sometimes you weren’t broken.
    You were hurting.
    And you can heal.
    🎧 Listen to more episodes of the Living Deeply Podcast at https://livingdeeplypodcast.com
    💜 Connect with me and explore my work at https://itsmarkieta.com
    If this episode resonates with you, share it with someone who needs the reminder that seeking help is not weakness, your hardest chapter does not define you, and you are allowed to forgive yourself for the choices you made while you were still learning how to choose yourself.
    23 min
  • When the Forgiveness You Claimed Was a Lie

    What if the forgiveness you said you gave wasn't actually forgiveness?

    In this episode of the Living Deeply Podcast, I explore what forgiveness really means—and what happens when we claim to forgive because we feel pressured to please others, keep the peace, follow religious expectations, or prove that we've healed.

    Sometimes saying “I forgive you” isn't an authentic release. Sometimes it's people-pleasing, fear, conditioning, or simply saying what everyone expects us to say.

    I also talk about why forgiveness doesn't have to be part of everyone's healing story. You can accept what happened, release the need for revenge, establish boundaries, choose no contact, find peace, and move forward without deciding that you forgive the person who hurt you.

    And if you once said you forgave someone but now realize it wasn't true, you're allowed to acknowledge that. Healing can involve becoming more honest about what you actually feel—not performing forgiveness to make other people comfortable.

    Forgiveness may be part of your healing.

    Acceptance may be part of your healing.

    Indifference may be part of your healing.

    But whatever your path looks like, it should belong to you.

    Connect with me: https://www.itsmarkieta.com

    Listen to more episodes: https://www.livingdeeplypodcast.com

    13 min
  • Grieving My Sister Deeply

    Grief is complicated. And when someone dies while your relationship with them is unresolved, grief can carry even more layers.

    In this deeply personal episode of the Living Deeply Podcast, I share what it has been like grieving the loss of my sister, knowing that we were not on the best of terms when she passed.

    I’m processing love, regret, anger, guilt, fear, sadness, and the painful realization that there are conversations we will never get to have. At the same time, I’m still showing up for my family and trying to figure out how to make space for my own grief.

    I was taught to pray about pain, give it to God, and trust that everything would eventually be okay. But I’m discovering that my healing requires something different.

    I have to feel it.

    I have to process it.

    I have to shed it.

    I have to release it.

    Through crying, music, nature, writing, reflection, spiritual connection, and simply allowing myself to feel what I actually feel, I’m learning how to let these emotions move through me instead of allowing them to overtake me.

    This episode isn’t about having grief figured out. I don’t.

    It’s about learning that I can miss my sister and still acknowledge our complicated relationship. I can regret things without punishing myself forever. I can be angry and still love her. And I can release some of what I’m carrying without releasing my love for her.

    If you’re grieving someone you loved but had a complicated or unresolved relationship with, this episode is for you.

    Listen to more of the Living Deeply Podcast:

    https://www.livingdeeplypodcast.com

    Connect with me:

    https://www.itsmarkieta.com

    14 min
  • When Your Emotional Sensitivity is Weaponized Against You
    What happens when someone who once knew your most vulnerable places starts using them against you?
    In this episode of the Living Deeply Podcast, I talk about what it feels like when an ex uses your emotional sensitivity to label you as “crazy,” unstable, dramatic, or irrational—especially when they know exactly what triggers you.
    We explore the difference between emotional sensitivity and mental instability, why your reaction should not be separated from what happened before it, and how someone can focus on your emotional response while ignoring the behavior that contributed to it.
    I also talk about accountability: being emotionally sensitive doesn’t excuse harmful behavior, but taking responsibility for your reaction doesn’t mean accepting someone else’s distorted definition of who you are.
    You can cry and still be clear. You can feel deeply and still be strong. You can regulate your emotions without becoming emotionally numb. And you can decide that someone who repeatedly weaponizes your vulnerability no longer deserves access to your emotional world.
    Your sensitivity is not evidence against your sanity.
    Connect with me:
    https://itsmarkieta.com
    Listen to more episodes:
    https://livingdeeplypodcast.com
    11 min
  • You Don't Have to Forgive to Heal

    You don’t have to forgive someone to heal from what they did to you.

    In this episode of the Living Deeply Podcast, I challenge the idea that forgiveness is a mandatory part of healing. Sometimes healing means forgiveness, but sometimes it means acceptance, boundaries, distance, indifference, and choosing to move forward without giving someone absolution.

    We’ll talk about the difference between forgiveness and release, why anger doesn’t automatically mean you haven’t healed, and why you can accept what happened without approving of it. Most importantly, healing belongs to you—and you get to decide what it looks like.

    Listen to more episodes at https://livingdeeplypodcast.com and connect with me at https://itsmarkieta.com.

    8 min

About Living Deeply with Markieta Carter

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The Living Deeply Podcast with Markieta Carter is about what it means to live authentically, feel deeply, and choose yourself in a world that often encourages us to shrink, conform, forgive before we’re ready, or prioritize everyone else’s comfort.