Rabbi Menashe Reizman quoted Rashi at the end of parashat Bereshit who explained the word nechama , which we normally translate to mean consolation, as מחשבה אחרת – to think a different way. The Maharal, in his Chiddusheh Aggadot in Sanhedrin explains, the essence of being consoled is when a person looks at the very same situation that brought him pain and agony with a new understanding. And because of that understanding, he is able to feel better about what happened. When Yosef HaTzaddik was trying to console his brothers for the guilt they felt for selling him, the pasuk describes it with the words וינחם אותן . Yosef gave them a completely different understanding of what had taken place. He told them it was all the doing of Hashem for the benefit of Klal Yisrael. He needed to go through the tests in Mitzrayim and pass them so that the people would have the strength to withstand the tests they would be given in Mitzrayim during their long exile in Egypt. And indeed, Hashem testified that the Jews remained pure that entire time. Yosef did not tell them something different happened, rather he made them see what happened already in a new light. This is the idea of nichum avelim . A mourner is in great pain over losing his loved one. There is a mitzvah on his friends and family not to divert the mourner's attention from what happened, but rather to give him a new understanding of what took place. It appears that the mourner's loved one is gone forever, buried under the ground. The people are supposed to give the mourner chizuk by telling him about the great life that the departed is currently living - everything he did in this world was just the prelude for the real life that is just beginning for him. The Midrash says on the words וירא אלוקים את כל אשר עשה והנה טוב מאד – Hashem saw everything He created and behold, it was very good. " טוב מאד " זה מיתה - – What was "very good"? The day of death. Life is not called very good, but death is. The Sefer HaYashar writes, this world is filled with trials and tribulations. There is nobody that has complete tranquility. Even the wealthiest individuals with everything they could ever possibly want do not have tranquility in this world. There is so much worry and anguish. There are so many things that people are filled with anger over all the time. When does it become very good? When the person goes on to the Next World. There, they have complete tranquility and bliss. If someone in mourning was made to understand that their loved one was enjoying immensely, that would ease their pain somewhat. This is the idea of nechama. To look at the very same circumstance that seems to be a tragedy and see it from a new perspective. The Gemara says, in the future we will only say the beracha of hatov v'hameitiv and not Dayan HaEmet . The Tzlach explains, this does not only mean that everything in the future will be revealed good. Rather, we are also going to look then on all of the occasions that we ever said Dayan HaEmet on in this world and we are going to say on that exact same situation hatov v'hameitiv . We will then see the inherent goodness in every tragedy that ever took place. Hashem is called the Baal HaNechamot. He is the only One who can give us real nechama , because He will show us the real reasons why things were good, even the unthinkable like the Holocaust and persecution of the Jewish People throughout the generation. Even those tragedies Hashem will show us the inherent good in and we will truly be comforted. The great avodah we currently have the opportunity to perform is to use our emunah and feel nechama in every situation that life presents us with as a challenge. Nachum Ish Gamzu, the Rabbi of Rabbi Akiva was a master at this. His name is Nachum, the same lashon as מתנחם , to be comforted. He was always able to see every situation from a different vantage point and see the goodness of Hashem in it. Rabbi Akiva learned that lesson and taught his colleagues how to feel comforted even as a fox walked through the ruins of the Bet HaMikdash. We say in the Kaddish, Hashem's Name should be exalted לעילא מן כל ברכתא שירתא… ונחמתא – more than any blessing or praise or nechama that we could possibly utter in this world. What does it mean that Hashem should be praised more than any nechama ? What does nechama have to do with praising Hashem? The answer is, when Hashem shows us the good in everything that ever happened, His honor is going to be raised so high because of the praises that everyone is going to give Him then. When we get the ultimate consolation, we will have the ultimate praises. We are asking that Hashem's Name now be more exalted even then that. We can console ourselves and praise Hashem now for everything that happens before He reveals the goodness, and those would be the most valuable praises possible.
