Today's culture is attempting to push us off the path Jesus walked, and instead onto a wide road of personal preference and, "living your own truth." We are increasingly encouraged to choose tolerance-based values and strike down our conceptions of right and wrong about sex, gender and marriage. Even the definitions of words are changing. If we take a step back, we can see how culture at large is twisting and affecting even those inside the church.

Join us for this episode of Locker Room, where our goal is to talk about the importance of choosing God's Word to be our ultimate authority, which creates a filter (worldview) for how we interact with God and the world around us.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

Do you have any favorite old-school rappers? What music did you listen to in your younger days? Did you watch breakdancing in the Olympics? Could you win a dance battle?

The Bible tells us we have three enemies: Satan & demons, the flesh, and the World. How have these enemies affected your worldview? (Worldview defined by how you answer questions like: How did I get here? Who am I? Why am I here?)

Read Psalm 119:160, Proverbs 30:5-6, John 14:6. Our worldview is affected by where we find Truth. Do you believe the Bible is Truth? If yes, do your actions and beliefs line up with Biblical Truth? If no, where do you look for answers? What keeps you from believing the Bible?

Progressive Christianity seeks to unhitch itself from a Bible worldview to have a "seat at the cool kids table" - to earn the applause of people who do not love or follow Jesus. Why is this so dangerous?

Read Romans 1. How have you seen this progression of people worshiping created things over the creator leading to God giving them over to their sinful ways? How have you fallen victim to this in your life?

Jesus was radically inclusive and radically exclusive. Anybody can come follow Jesus, but they must submit to Him as King and His Word as truth. Does Jesus have complete authority over your life? What areas have you yet to submit to him?

Biblical worldview: "To see the world the way Jesus sees the world and to love the world the way Jesus loves the world". Which of these is more challenging for you? How can you grow in that?

Read 2 Timothy 4:2-5. What avenues do you have to preach the word (don't think about this being limited to a stage)? How can you prepare to speak the Truth to those around you?

How to build a Biblical Worldview? Start by reading the book of John, then the other Gospels. See how Jesus interacts with people, what he says, and what he does. Then work towards understanding the grand narrative of the Bible but regularly come back to the life of Jesus in the Gospels. What is your next step in building a Biblical Worldview?

Once you build a Biblical Worldview you then start to live your life according to that worldview. Looking at your life through that lens, what needs to be filtered out? What needs to change? What needs to be added?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

RECOMMENDED RESOURCES

• Live Your Truth and Other Lies, Alisa Childers

• The Deconstruction of Christianity: What It Is, Why It's Destructive, and How to Respond, Alisa Childers & Tim Barnett

• How to Read the Bible Book by Book, Gordon D. Fee & Douglas Stuart

• A Rebel's Manifesto: Choosing Truth, Real Justice, and Love amid the Noise of Today's World, Sean McDowell

NEXT STEPS

• Sign up for Men's Retreat (October 18-20) at southland.church/men. The deadline is

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

The Holy Spirit is aware of what's going on in our world. He can see things that we can't. He knows us. He knows what we need. He partners with us to encourage us. He partners with us to challenge us and even convict us of sin. He partners with us because He knows best on how to use our lives to love and serve others.

This week on Locker Room, we are continuing a conversation with Scott and Gary on the Holy Spirit. If you missed last week's episode, be sure to listen first and then jump in with us here.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

Did you watch the Olympics this Summer? What was your favorite sport to watch? If you could participate in any event what would it be?

Read Acts 2:1-4. This empowering of the Holy Spirit gave the apostles the ability to lead the first church. If they needed the Spirit back then we certainly need it today.

Read 2 Corinthians 13:14. When you hear the word "fellowship" what comes to mind?

Gary defines three levels of fellowship with the Spirit: 1. Companionship. 2. Partnership. 3. Intimacy. Which of those three levels is the easiest to understand in your relationship with the Holy Spirit? Which is the most challenging?

Read Galatians 6:25. What's the bigger struggle for you: lagging behind the Spirit or getting too far ahead of the Spirit? How can you find the right stride to walk in step with the Holy Spirit?

Essentials for walking in the Spirit: Obedience, humility, holiness. Where do you need to grow in those areas

Read Galatians 5:22-23. When you submit your life to the Holy Spirit He will produce this fruit in your life. Where in your life or someone you know have you seen the Holy Spirit bring transformation and produce fruit?

To bear fruit you must understand that it is a process and a struggle, but we must never give up! What part of yourself is the hardest for the Spirit to change? How can you commit to not giving up and letting God transform you?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

RECOMMENDED BOOKS

• Forgotten God, Francis Chan

• Spirit Rising, Jim Cymbala

• The Wonderful Spirit Filled Life, Charles Stanley

• Sensitivity to the Spirit, R.T. Kendall

• How to be Filled with the Holy Spirit, A.W. Tozer

NEXT STEPS

• Sign up for Men's Retreat (October 18-20) at southland.church/men

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

When we accept the grace of Jesus and decide to follow him, God desires for us to turn from our own way of thinking and live Spirit-filled lives too. Yet many of us don't. We meet Christians all the time whose lives could be summed up in two statements: One: "Nobody's perfect. And two: "God understands."

There's almost a despair about those two statements. It seems that, for many, life is merely a long string of joy and sorrows, but with the hope of Heaven at the end.

Here's the problem with that. If the Christian list is merely "doing our best," then there's no need for the Holy Spirit in the first place. So, all we have is OUR best, not GOD'S best for our lives. I don't know about you, but my VERY, VERY best is still FAR from being like Jesus.

Join us this week as Scott and Gary Black begin a conversation about the power God provides IN us—the Holy Spirit.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

How would you rank the four fast food restaurants that Scott and Gary discussed at the beginning of the podcast: Chick fil a, Cane's, Taco Bell, and McDonald's?

Gary lists off a number of the names of the Holy Spirit found throughout Scripture: The Spirit of God, The Spirit of Christ, The Spirit of Truth, The Eternal Spirit, The Spirit of Glory, The Spirit of Life, The Spirit of Wisdom, The Spirit of Adoption, The Spirit of Promise, The Spirit of Holiness, The Spirit of Faith and our Comforter. Which of these names is the most intriguing to you and why?

When discussing who the Holy Spirit is, Gary points out the Holy Spirit is a person, not a "thing," and that the Holy Spirit dwells in us and gives life to our bodies. How would your relationship with God change if you saw him as a real person?

Read John 16:7 & John 16:13. Jesus tells his disciples that it is better for him to leave than for him to stay with them. This is because when Jesus leaves, the Father will send the Holy Spirit to be their helper and their guide. When you think of the Holy Spirit being your "helper" or your "guide," what comes to mind?

Read 1 Corinthians 6:19. We are a permanent residence with God. Where we go, the Holy Spirit goes with us. What we experience, the Holy Spirit experiences. When we see sin, the Holy Spirit sees sin. How does this motivate you to live a life of purity?

Read Romans 8:1-2 and 2 Timothy 1:7. The Holy Spirit has set you free! He gives you the boldness and confidence you need to live and lead like Jesus. What areas of your life can you boldly lead, knowing that the Holy Spirit is guiding you?

Scott said, "Men who love God are led by God." Allowing the Holy Spirit to lead is a necessary element of following Jesus. What are some habits that you can start this week to better LISTEN for the Holy Spirit and to follow where he is leading you?

When you look back on your life, are there any ways you can now see that it was the Holy Spirit who was working in your life even when you couldn't see or understand it?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

RECOMMENDED BOOKS

• Forgotten God, Francis Chan

• Spirit Rising, Jim Cymbala

• The Wonderful Spirit Filled Life, Charles Stanley

• Sensitivity to the Spirit, R.T. Kendall

• How to be Filled with the Holy Spirit, A.W. Tozer

NEXT STEPS

• Sign up for Men's Retreat (October 18-20) at southland.church/men

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

We're kicking off a new series in season 13 of Locker Room, and it's simply called Power. We're going to look at some key aspects and opportunities God gives us to usher His power into and through our lives.

This week we're digging out the power of rest. Jesus invites us into a healthy rhythm, where we pour out our lives for the Kingdom: pouring into our home, our work and the world around us; and then we stop and rest. We connect with the King, and allow Him to fill us and replenish us.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

Scott just spent a portion of his Summer on Sabbatical. What has been the longest period of time you've had to rest? What would you do if you had a month off of work to intentionally rest?

Is it easy for you to rest? Why or why not? What does it look like for you to rest in a healthy way?

"If you don't know how to stop, life will do it to you." Have you ever come to a breaking point where life forced you to stop?

What stuck out to you when Scott mentioned the symptoms of hurry sickness? (You treat everything like it's a race. You can't just do one task at a time. Hurry sickness creates highly irritable people. You always feel behind. You interrupt people. Obsessed with checking things off a list.)

Hurry makes us sick. The cure is Sabbath rest. Do you really believe this? Why or why not?

Read Genesis 2:1-3 & Exodus 20:8-10. What can we learn from these passages?

Do you take pride in breaking this commandment of God? Do you feel guilty when you keep this commandment? Why or why not?

Sabbath is really an act of faith. Do you trust God to do in 6 days what the world tries to do in 7? Do you trust God enough to Sabbath?

Read Mark 2:27. Sabbath was made as a gift for you. How can you best utilize this gift? What are some practical steps you can take towards a rhythm of weekly Sabbath in your life?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

NEXT STEPS

• Sign up for Men's Retreat (October 18-20) at southland.church/men

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

We've covered a lot of ground together this season on the podcast. This week Scott is joined by Ian Schweitzer to review and expand on some of the biggest subjects we've tackled this year.

We'll also talk about an important event coming up in the fall specifically for men, 18 years of age and up, from any of our campuses—our first Men's Retreat. October 18-20.

Locker Room will be back on August 30 for season thirteen. Have a great summer!

DISCUSSION GUIDE

What have been the episodes from this season that you learned from the most?

Who can you think of that you can send episodes to from this season?

Let us know, how are you using Locker Room? Email [email protected]

Scott and Ian reviewed the whole season. Did you have an episode that you think every man needs to hear? If so, please share it with them!

NEXT STEPS

• If you're wrestling with Christianity, would like to become a Christ-follower, or need help figuring out your next step, email us at [email protected].

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• Men's Retreat October 18-20, sign up at this link https://southland.church/men

• Fight Club starting at Lexington Campus August 26th

• Season 13 of Locker Room will kickoff August 30th

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

In our world, sex before marriage is normal, hooking up is normal, funky sex is normal, and pornography is normal. Normal is: sex is casual and inclusive, not exclusive and monogamous. In college, having a "body count" is normal.

Normal is riddled with shame and regret. Normal is broken. Normal is living in guilt. Normal is unchecked and distorted desires that make us more like animals than God's prized creation. Normal is struggling dating relationships. Normal is struggling marriages. Normal is divorced. Normal is habitual sexual sin and sexual addiction.

Let's not be normal! Let's stop being normal, like everybody else! God made you for love—don't settle for lust. The gospel is about freedom in Christ—don't settle for crippling addition.

"Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." — Romans 12:2(NIV)

Join us this week on Locker Room as we talk about a subject that is eating men's lunch: pornography.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

Scott shared a lot of startling statistics about pornography. Which stood out to you? What do these statistics reveal about our culture as a whole?

"And it's not just the people in the world—it's people in the church." What do the stats about Christians using pornography reveal about the church as a whole?

"Sin will take us farther than we ever wanted to go, keep us longer than we ever wanted to stay, and cost us more than we thought it would cost us." How have you seen this statement prove true in your life experience?

Read James 1:13-15. The Enemy is real and you will be tempted. How have you effectively fought temptation? Where do you need help?

Read Galatians 6:7-8. What are you currently "sowing" (planting) in your life? How have you seen that produce what you "reap" in your life?

Read 1 Corinthians 10:12-13. We have to leverage God's promise of strength in the face of temptation. Do you really believe he will provide a way out of temptation? What tools does God give us to escape? What is your "why" for fighting temptation?

Read John 14:13. We have to leverage the power of prayer and the Holy Spirit's activity in our lives. Have you been baptized and received the Holy Spirit? If not, that is your first step in fighting temptation. If yes, how can you practically utilize prayer and the Spirit to fight temptation?

Read Romans 6:1-7, 11-18. If we want to quit porn and fight for purity, we have to understand our new position in Christ. If you are a Jesus follower you are no longer a slave to sin. Do you believe that? How can you believe that truth?

Read 1 John 1:8-9. If we want to quit porn and fight for purity, we have to confess our sin and not conceal it. Is there sin that you have not confessed to a fellow believer? Why are you holding onto it? Who can you tell? How can this group help?

If we want to quit porn and fight for purity, we have to hate sin! What steps can you take to truly fight this sin? Do you need to sign up for Covenant Eyes or something like it?

Be honest and answer, "Left unchecked, what could your sexual sin cost you?" Based on your answer what do you need to do NOW?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

NEXT STEPS

• Sign up for accountability with covenanteyes.com

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

If you are a parent and have kids in your home, you are passing on something to them. Whether you've been intentional or not, well-meaning or not, you are building a legacy. The question is, will that legacy you are giving them be good, healthy and eternal? Or is it something else?

John Sampson joins Scott on the podcast this week to talk about leaving a legacy for our kids of loving God and others, and preparing them for life as an independent adult.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

We started off with some fun in the podcast, which of the Chuck Norris lines did you like the most?

The role of parents is, "teaching and training our kids to love God, love people, and leave home." After hearing that, does it change your view on what it means to be a parent?

A couple of acknowledgments have been made. 1. Parenting is the hardest job on the planet. 2. There are no perfect parents, no perfect children, and no perfect families. Does that reminder release any stress you have about either being a parent or potentially being a parent one day?

Part 1: Teach and train our kids to love God. Read Ephesians 6:1-4. What sticks out to you about that piece of scripture? What should be implemented into your role as a dad to help your kids grow in their love for God?

Part 2: Teach and train our kids to love people. Read Mark 12:30-31. With that verse and many others mentioned about how important it is to love others, what sticks out to you about that piece of scripture?

Scott and John talked about how important it is that parents know their kids' friends'. Also, about how important it is to know where those friends are in their "circles" of friendship. What are the best practices you've seen in this happening? What are the bad practices of this?

Part 3: Teach and train our kids to leave home. Scott talks through two critical actions: 1. Reinforce through training. 2. Cut ropes to prepare them for independence.

What are the hardest parts of helping your children become prepared to leave home?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

NEXT STEPS

• If you're wrestling with Christianity, would like to become a Christ-follower, or need help figuring out your next step, email us at [email protected].

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

Phones, technology and social media are simply tools for communication. The effects of using a tool depend on the purpose for which it is used, but the tool itself is neutral in origin. It's similar to having a hammer. You can build something with a hammer. You can also destroy something or hurt someone. The tools are not the problem. How something is used is the problem. The same is true with social media and smartphones.

In this episode we'll discuss how to use technology appropriately and navigating when and how to introduce technology safely into the lives of your kids.

Our guest on the podcast this week is Scott Harvey. Scott has 20 years of experience in law enforcement, specializing in hostage negotiations and communication. He is also a husband and girl dad, and author of the book, Silence Kills: Communication Tactics to Speak with Confidence and Build Your Influence.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

What was the first cell phone you owned? What year did you get it? What did you primarily use it for?

Which tool (literally or figuratively) do you find most valuable? What makes it so important to you?

Technology like a smartphone is a tool that can be used for good or bad. How has having a smartphone been good for you? How has it been bad?

Scott mentioned two points for determining when your child should get a smartphone: 1) Point of need. 2) Point of responsibility. What are good things to consider when making this decision? Did your parents utilize similar rules when giving you responsibility like this?

It can be easy to default to buying the newest, nicest thing. What are some healthy questions to ask yourself before you add any new technology (newest phone, VR, Gaming system, etc.) to your life?

In what ways have you used social media? What apps do you currently use? What do you enjoy about the apps you use? What issues have come about from social media?

Scott mentioned how we handle our kids' minor screw-ups will affect how they approach major mess-ups. How do you react when your child disobeys? How can you start healthy lines of conversation now so that they can come to you in times of need?

What boundaries, time limits, etc. are healthy to set for your children's phones? What about for your phone?

The episode discussed the dangers of pornography, sexting, and sextortion. What do we do with the information? How do we communicate this well to our kids? How do we provide space for confession when our kids make these errors?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

NEXT STEPS

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

Parents work really hard to be intentional when their kids are young. In those early years we teach them so much: how to walk, talk, eat, have manners, to say they're sorry, to learn to play with others, to be grateful…all these things.

But the decisions our teenagers make in middle and high school have bigger consequences. The stakes are higher; the fallout greater. The decisions they make in these seven years set up their lives in college or young adulthood, and in turn can set the tone for the next forty years of their lives. So we want to do our best to take advantage of these seven years in middle and high school.

In today's episode of Locker Room, we circle up with members of Southland's Student Ministry: Connor Hall, Casey Whitehead and Peter Sohn to talk about some of the unique challenges facing our teens as they navigate our current culture.

DISCUSSION GUIDE

What were you like in your teenage years?

"Parents are primary, student ministry is secondary." What encourages you about the partnership between you as a parent and the church's role in ministry to your son or daughter?

This age range is where so much happens in a students' life. How do you think you'll react or how did you react to your son or daughter being in that age range?

Scott and the student team went through "dysphoria" specifically "gender dysphoria" and "transgender" and the definitions of those. Obviously a lot is going on in terminology for teenagers today but also for everyone. What has helped you as a Christian man to combat these topics?

There's a lot of truth from the bible about what God says about who we are and what God says about life and who we are made to be. What can you do practically to share this with your teenager?

Scott and the student team talked about sex, dating, and marriage and how important it is to "not be late to the game." How can you encourage a friend or yourself to do this before it's too late to speak biblical truth?

Asking good questions was mentioned. What does it look like to really take intentional time to ask the right questions to your teenager?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

NEXT STEPS

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• Go to southland.church/volunteer to sign up to volunteer in student ministry

• Resources

• Parenting by Paul David Tripp

• Irreversible Damage: The Transgendered Craze Seducing Our Daughters, by Abigail Shrier

• Holy Sexuality and the Gospel: Sex, Desire, and Relationships Shaped by God's Grand Story, by Christopher Yuan.

• Out of a Far Country: A Gay Son's Journey to God. A Broken Mother's Search for Hope. By Christopher Yuan & Angela Yuan.

• Gay Girl, Good God, by Jackie Hill Perry.

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]

This week on Locker Room we're kicking off a four-part series on parenting.

In this first episode we are looking at raising littles: from babies up through elementary. If you're a dad or a parent with little kids—you will find encouragement in our conversation today.

Next week we'll talk about raising teenagers (middle and high school) and we'll navigate some really relevant topics that are on the forefront of culture right now.

In week 3, we'll look at navigating parenting with smartphones and social media in a digital world.

Week 4, we'll talk about raising girls.

Our guests around the table today are from our Southland Children's team: Jason Byerly, Kelsi Collins, and Krista McCoy Tudor. Join us as we dive into the wild ride that is parenting littles!

Southland also has a Parenting Podcast that you can find at southland.church/podcasts or anywhere that you get your podcasts. Scott Nickell is leading that effort—it's a great podcast that's really encouraging for parents. You should check it out!

DISCUSSION GUIDE

What's the funniest story from your childhood or one of your kids? What were you like as a child?

What is a phrase you say over and over again? Whether to your kids or just in life.

Two truths were addressed at the beginning of the podcast: Parenting is the hardest job on the planet. There are no perfect parents, perfect children, or perfect families. Have you always believed this? Do you ever feel like you don't measure up because you compare yourself to other "perfect" people/families?

Have you ever volunteered to work with kids at church or other areas? Why is it valuable to have men who invest in the next generation?

Our nursery and preschool focus is there is a God who made you and loves you. Our elementary focus is Biblical literacy, apologetics, & spiritual practices. How does that compare to what you understood about God growing up? Why are these important foundations for our kids to learn?

Read Deuteronomy 6:5-9. It's the primary role of a parent to invest in the spiritual lives of their children. If you are a parent, how do you live out this passage? Is there anything you need to start doing and stop doing? If you are not a parent, how can you serve families who are trying to live out this commandment?

How were you disciplined as a child? How do you discipline as a parent? What was valuable from the podcast about discipline?

In what ways did you learn responsibility growing up? What is something you can do to help the next generation learn how to do hard things and build resilience?

What else from the podcast spoke to you?

What did God/Holy Spirit speak/prompt/say to you? What's God asking you to do? What does He want to give you? What does He want you to lay down?

NEXT STEPS

• Join a Group at southland.church/groups

• For any other questions or comments email [email protected]