Look at this Mess!

Look at this Mess!

By Kait KenelEducationParentingKids & Family
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Look at this Mess! episodes

  • Should a comprehensive understanding of sexuality include pedophilia?

    CW: This episode contains a couple of minor but specific details about child sexual abuse.
    In this episode I do my best to peel back some layers of confusion about this highly controversial topic and disorder. I offer my own insights and reviews of my research as well as reference to a recently published CBC Podcast series I have listed below. I ask and address the question: is our current understanding of this disorder and the ways we treat/handle it actually rooted in protecting children? Please feel free to reach out to me with your thoughts, opinions, and feelings. You can reach me in the following ways:

    References in this episode:

    • Hunting Warhead - a CBC Podcast
    • Prevention Project Dunkelfeld
      •  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prevention_Project_Dunkelfeld
      • https://www.researchgate.net/publication/269185136_The_German_Dunkelfeld_Project_A_Pilot_Study_to_Prevent_Child_Sexual_Abuse_and_the_Use_of_Child_Abusive_Images?enrichId=rgreq-a37e26ddda779a03319b974f9c284086-XXX&enrichSource=Y292ZXJQYWdlOzI2OTE4NTEzNjtBUzozNjI2MzY2NTE4NDM1ODZAMTQ2MzQ3MDcyMzk3NQ%3D%3D&el=1_x_3&_esc=publicationCoverPdf

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    52 min
  • 7 Switches to make to reduce household waste

    In this episode I outline some of the shifts we have made in our home to prevent some common waste cycles. Some of these changes are more "extreme" than others, but perhaps there are one or two will stand out to you as good options for your own home! Have a listen and let me know if you have any thoughts or other suggestions! You can reach me at:

    Products I mentioned in this episode are:

    • https://nakedswab.com &
    • https://www.mealime.com (we have the app downloaded to our phones, and do not use the premium service) :)

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    30 min
  • Confronting Race and Racism is not Political; it is Critical

    CW: This episode does at times centre the experiences and feelings of myself, a white woman; it is geared toward and prescriptive to a white audience. This is not to say that anyone from a racialized and/or marginalized group is not welcome to listen, but I wanted to be clear about the content presented here in order to respect the boundaries some listeners may have in place regarding white folks discussing racism. 

    This episode focuses on some of my experiences in confronting racism, my complicity within racist systems, and my journey in deconstructing my "racelessness". I cite two books in this episode, which I draw upon for a lot of my analysis. I offer some strategies for white folks to move through the common negative emotional cycle, in order to become better agents for change. 

    The books I cite are: Why are all the Black kids sitting in the cafeteria together by Beverly Daniel Tatum, and Raising white Kids by Jennifer Harvey (Foreword by Tim Wise). I have plenty of other recommendations and resources I am happy to share, so please feel free to reach out! Ways you can reach me are:

    You can also join me now on Audea! Go to audea.io/register and use code 1DI7IK to sign up. See you there!

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    49 min
  • Perfectionism in Parenting + Modelling Reparative Communication

    In this episode, I explore how perfectionism in parenting is making things much harder on us than it need be, and I offer what is hopefully a little helpful pep talk to other parents. I also go into detail about a pretty big (though pointless) fight Nic and I had recently - I explain why it happened, what went down, and how we were able to recover after, including modelling some reparative behaviours for our daughter. If you want to share your own story, or have thoughts on this one, please feel free to reach out to me in one of the following ways:

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    40 min
  • "Where can you do Archaeology around here?": Common misconceptions, de-colonizing our practice, and the technical nature of CRM Archaeology

    In this episode I describe my own background in Archaeology and offer some context for Archaeology in North America, specifically Canada. I explain a little bit about the colonial roots of the profession, and offer some insights into the ways the profession is attempting to move away from exclusively Euro-centric ideologies. I also explain in detail the process of completing Archaeological assessments (in Ontario). I acknowledge that I have missed plenty of things in this episode, and I will do a follow-up in a few weeks! If you have thoughts or questions about the episode or the pod in general, you can reach me in the following ways:

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    48 min
  • Name It to Tame It: Confronting Feelings of Envy and Jealousy

    In this episode I discuss feelings of jealousy and envy as they have arisen over the past year and a bit. Specifically, I reveal feelings of jealousy about other women and moms progressing through their careers, while I feel like I lost a year to the pandemic. In my view, by acknowledging our uncomfortable and "ugly" feelings, we are better able to confront and address them. Listen in as I walk through some of this journey, and let me know your thoughts! You can reach me in the following ways:

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    41 min
  • The Migration: No longer breaking myself into bite-sized pieces on Social Media

    In this episode, I outline why I chose to begin using different profiles on some social media platforms, like Instagram. After explaining my "why", I deconstruct the concepts I began with and walk through the realization(s) that I was actually just breaking myself up into small "bite-sized" pieces. In doing this, I have alienated and confused myself. Now that I've decided to consciously try to grow my social media presence, it also makes less sense to split my "audience" in this way. Give the episode a listen and feel free to share your thoughts by reaching out in one of the following ways:

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    38 min
  • My teenage rebellion backfired and now I don't know how to tend a garden + How an online sexual predator shaped my life

    CW: This episode includes explicit discussion about an experience with an online sexual predator as a young teen.

    In this episode I walk through my experience growing up in a landscaping family, and how my rejection of that life, along with valuable the lessons, has contributed to my inability to care for plants of any kind (except maybe cacti). I also discuss and dissect how an experience with an online sexual predator impacted how much I was ultimately allowed to work with older men in settings like on landscaping jobs. Please listen to the very end as I have included an addendum after the close of the episode. If you have thoughts on this or have had similar experiences you would like to share, please reach out to me and we can set up an interview. You can reach me in the following ways:

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    34 min
  • Growing Out Your Body Hair

    In this episode I explain why I decided to grow out all of my body hair, some of my feelings on being empowered to make decisions about our own bodies, and how I have navigated finding confidence in my body exactly as it is. I discuss what effects this decision has had on my relationship, and offer a bit of advice on how to approach this issue with your partner if it something you are considering (but maybe fear or uncertainty is stopping you). If you have anything to add, or other questions you would like for me to address on this topic, you can reach me in the following ways:

    Until next time,
    xox Kait

    33 min
  • Feeling the Pinch: Precarious Finances One Year into COVID-19

    As the COVID-19 pandemic rages on here, we have recently been feeling "the pinch" financially, and it got me thinking about how and why this is happening now. In this episode I dive into our experience of government support, job loss, being caught between having to paying for childcare but unable to work, and lots of other complicating factors that have led us to one of the most financially precarious moments in our lives. Let me know your thoughts on this one, and know that I feel for you if you are also experiencing difficulties due to the pandemic. You can reach me in the following ways:

    Take care,
    Kait xox

    36 min

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A show dedicated to celebrating unconventionality and living life in the messy middle. Coming at unconventionality from a number of different angles, this show focuses on both living life in…