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  • 167 Unlocking Secrets to Love and Attachment with Bev Mitelman

    Struggling to understand your relationship patterns? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, relationship expert Bev Mitelman joins Maria to discuss how attachment styles,

    shaped by early experiences, impact our adult relationships. Bev breaks down the differences between secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment styles, explaining how they influence dating and intimacy. She shares practical tips
    for recognizing your own attachment style and offers advice for healthier, more fulfilling connections. If you're ready to break free from old patterns and build stronger relationships, tune in for insightful guidance on understanding yourself and your partner better.

     

    Standout Quotes:


    “There are many scenarios that can create a break in safety for a child, leading to the development of patterns we call insecure attachment. These patterns get imprinted into our subconscious mind and follow us into adulthood, resulting in
    highly prescriptive behaviors.”
    “Women have a strong propensity to emotionally bond with their sexual partner, especially if the sex is good.”
    “Desire needs time to grow. Sometimes, we're so impatient that we don't allow these feelings to go through their natural cycles.”
    “I have no issues with people living the way they want to. Where I get really aggravated is that we have now indoctrinated an entire generation of children and started to
    medicalize them to change genders.”
    "People who are anxious may weaponize sex, using it as a means to gain approval, reassurance, and closeness. Anxious individuals often desire closeness with their partner."


    Key Takeaways:


    Reflect on your own attachment style and consider how it impacts your current relationships. Are there patterns you recognize that could use attention or adjustment?
    Communicate openly with partners about the meaning and expectations you associate with intimacy. Consider asking them, “What does sex mean to you?”
    Take note of the differences in emotional bonding between genders and how they might affect your relationship dynamics.
    If feeling anxious in a relationship, assess whether you use intimacy to seek reassurance. Consider healthier ways to nurture connection and security.
    Explore attachment-related resources, such as quizzes or workshops, to deepen your understanding and improve relationship skills.


    Episode Timeline:

    [00:03] Introducing Bev Mitelman

    [02:02] Bev’s Journey from Personal Growth to Relationship Coach

    [01:54] Exploring the Roots of Attachment Trauma

    [02:52] How Attachment Styles Shape Adult Relationships

    [04:41] Understanding Gender Differences in Attachment

    [07:42] Overcoming Challenges in Today’s Dating Scene

    [16:34] How Generations View Therapy and Healing

    [18:06] The Role of Social Media in Mental Health

    [19:40] Discussing the Controversy Around Gender Identity

    [22:48] Attachment Styles in LGBTQ+ Relationships Explained

    [30:11] Final Thoughts

     

    Learn more about Bev Mitelman on her socials:

    Website: https://securelyloved.com/

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/bevmitelman/

     

    Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

    Website: https://trueloveknots.com

    Phone: +1 702-501-4150

    36 min
  • 166 Overcoming Generational Trauma: Releasing the Past and Embracing the Future with Tammy Cox

    Are you tired of letting past trauma control your life? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria talks with transformational coach Tammy Cox, who shares her powerful journey from a violent, controlling childhood to healing for the sake of her own children. Tammy reveals how she overcame emotional wounds by neutralizing past trauma and discusses her unique approach to hypnosis and inner child work. She helps others release pain, reclaim their power, and create healthier relationships. Ready to confront your own emotional blocks and rewrite your story? Tune in for inspiring insights and actionable steps toward true healing and lasting transformation.

     

    Standout Quotes:

    ·        “I believe our trauma is our gift. I also choose to believe, on a deeper level, that we come in having already chosen those major terrible things.”

    ·        “I spent my teenage years angry and confused, asking myself deep questions that we don't typically ask until we're adults. Because of that, I dipped down into really low, suicidal

    points.”

    ·        “I believe that the greatest healing work of this time is hypnosis because you bypass the conscious mind. You're working with the subconscious. And I believe that is the only way to shift the identity, where all the beliefs are held.”

    ·        “My rule of thumb is, if someone's serving you, keep them around. If they're not serving you as much, limit the contact. And if they add no good to your life, you must rethink whether they should have stock in you.”

    ·        “You are a divine being worthy of having your cup filled, not just pouring into everyone else and getting constantly depleted.”


    Key Takeaways:

    ·        Reflect on your childhood traumas and how they may impact your current relationships and life. What beliefs or patterns have you unconsciously carried forward?

    ·        Explore the power of hypnosis, and inner child work to neutralize deep-seated emotional wounds.

    ·        Assess your current relationships and social circle. Are the people in your life serving you and adding value, or are they draining your energy? Be intentional about setting

    boundaries.

    ·        Recognize that healing is an ongoing process, not a one-time event. Commit to the consistent work of reprogramming your subconscious mind and creating a new, empowered identity.

    ·        Embrace the understanding that your trauma can be a gift - a catalyst for profound personal growth and the ability to hold space for others on a similar journey. How can you use your experiences to uplift and inspire?

     

    Episode Timeline:

    [00:03] Introducing Tammy Cox

    [01:48] How Motherhood Sparked Tammy’s Healing

    [03:23] Overcoming Childhood Trauma and Family Struggles

    [09:13] Breaking Toxic Patterns for Healthier Relationships

    [12:05] How Tammy Helps Clients Reprogram Pain and Trauma

    [16:33] Inside Tammy's Podcast and Emotional Breakthroughs

    [17:59] Family Dynamics and the Power of Setting Boundaries

    [24:34] Protecting Energy and Finding Help

     

    Learn more about Tammy Cox on her socials:

    Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/tammy.cox.543/

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tammyncox7/

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tammy.cox98/

    Twitter/X: https://x.com/tamncox/

    YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-jXCYdpdFpnDAKkmqK6M-w

    LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tammy-cox-884b7a30/

    Behind The Veil Podcast: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLd1S9p2ngX3GMrVlTfDOsSXnfYoV6TlXg

    Linktree: https://linktr.ee/tammycox/

     

    Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

    Website: https://trueloveknots.com

    Phone: +1 702-501-4150

    29 min
  • 165 Unlocking Men's Sexual Energy: Enhancing Sexual Health and Happiness with Matt Cook

    Struggling with sexual performance, low libido, or the effects of porn addiction? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria welcomes Matt Cook, who has helped over

    80,000 men reclaim their sexual vitality and transform their relationships. Matt shares how early exposure to digital pornography is affecting men’s confidence and intimacy and reveals how he overcame erectile dysfunction and health challenges to unlock his sexual energy. With proven techniques rooted in science, Matt offers practical insights to rebuild confidence, enhance intimacy, and reignite passion. If you’re ready to reclaim your masculinity and unlock your full potential, tune in for empowering advice and strategies.

     

    Standout Quotes:

    ·        “As men, especially, our sex drive—our libido—really, in a sense, determines our success and happiness in life to a great degree.”

    ·        “If you're conserving your sexual energy to meet a woman, and if you have a partner, it'll make your relationship better.”

    ·        “I think it helps a man build the power to take intelligent risks. To go out on a limb intelligently, let's say, to quit a high-paying job when he's got the skills to start a business and the courage to do that—the drive, the leadership.”

    ·        “I find that for men, they're better off getting away from video porn. If they're going to use porn, erotica is much less damaging to the brain and body.”

    ·        "Learning to focus on your root can change your perspective. You'll find that you start looking at things a lot differently. Everything becomes more colorful, better, and women can pick up on it."


    Key Takeaways:

    ·  Evaluate your relationship with pornography and consider transitioning to less damaging forms of erotica to preserve your sexual vitality.

    ·  Experiment with consciously relaxing your pelvic floor area during intimate moments, rather than focusing solely on the physical sensations. This can help you build your sexual energy without ejaculating as frequently.

    ·  Reflect on how your sex drive and libido may be impacting your overall success, happiness, and leadership qualities in life. Are there areas you could improve by optimizing your sexual health?

    ·  If you're experiencing sexual health issues due to medication side effects, have an open discussion with your doctor about alternative treatment options that won't compromise your intimate life.

    ·  Commit to a sustainable schedule for ejaculation, such as every 3-4 days, and observe how this affects your energy, focus, and connection with your partner (if applicable). Be

    patient and persistent as you rewire your brain's sexual pathways.

     

    Episode Timeline:

    [00:02] Introducing Matt Cook

    [00:52] How Matt Cook Turned Personal Challenges Into Purpose

    [02:46] Why Sex Drive Shapes Men's Success and Happiness

    [04:43] Connecting Tantra Principles to Better Sexual Health

    [06:46] Breaking the Cycle of Porn and Health Issues in Men

    [07:49] Matt Cook’s Practical Approach to Transforming ED

    [10:31] Benefits of Conserving Sexual Energy for Better Intimacy

    [13:10] How COVID Changed Relationships and Sexual Health

    [14:43] Matt’s Own Story of Growth and Relationship Renewal

    [18:03] Tips and Resources for Elevating Men’s Sexual Energy

    [21:33] Wrapping Up and Matt’s Final Encouragement

     

    Learn more about Matt Cook on his socials:


    Daily Medical Discoveries Website: https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/


    Get your free book here: https://www.dailymedicaldiscoveries.com/subscribe/

     

    Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

    Website: https://trueloveknots.com

    Phone: +1 702-501-4150

    24 min
  • 164 Reclaiming Your Life After Separation with Paul Murphy

    Facing the challenges of divorce can feel overwhelming, especially for men. In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, "divorce detoxer" Paul Murphy joins Maria and shares his journey through divorce, career changes, and personal growth. Paul discusses how divorce impacts work, relationships, and emotional readiness for dating, while offering strategies for healthy co-parenting and managing in-law dynamics. Drawing from his "Divorce Detox" program, Paul provides practical tools to help men move forward with strength and purpose. If you're ready to turn the end of a marriage into a new beginning, tune in for honest advice and actionable steps to reclaim your confidence and rebuild your life.

     

    Standout Quotes:

    • “Divorce isn't a final thing. Once you sign the paperwork, it's just part of the stage. For anyone who's divorced, you're divorced for life. It's not like you come and go—it's a new chapter, and you move forward.”
    • “You need to be aware of the emotional perspective and clearly understand what you're actually looking for. If you're just dating to date or to 'be a player,' that's different from
      • looking for a relationship.”
    • “Divorce influenced my mindset and how I was able to process things. At times, it clouded me. I'll be very candid: the emotional stress of the divorce impacted me at work.”
    • “I allow my kids to be very open and have open conversations. My ex and I are both in healthcare and are very open with each other. We want to promote an environment where our kids know it's okay to ask us anything.”
    • "The world isn't going to stop; it's going to keep moving. Just be prepared. You're divorced for life, and that's been my biggest eye-opener."


      • Key Takeaways:

      1. Prioritize your emotional well-being during and after divorce. Seek support, whether through a therapist, support group, or programs, to navigate the complex feelings and
        2. mindset shifts.
      2. Approach dating with intention and self-awareness. Reflect on what you're truly seeking in a new relationship, and don't be afraid to be selective and set boundaries.
      3. Maintain open communication with your children and ex-partner. Create an environment where difficult conversations can happen, and your kids feel empowered to ask questions.
      4. Recognize that the world doesn't stop after divorce. While it may feel like your life has been upended, remember that life continues, and you have the power to shape your new normal.
      5. Surround yourself with a network of supportive mentors and friends who can provide guidance and perspective as you navigate this transition. Leverage their experiences to
        6. inform your own journey.

         

        Episode Timeline:

        [00:02] Introducing Paul Murphy

        [02:30] Paul’s Journey from Paramedic to Divorce Coach

        [04:13] Inside the Divorce Detox Program for Men

        [05:34] Coping with Divorce’s Effects on Career and Family

        [06:04] Tips for Dating After Divorce and Starting Fresh

        [08:37] How Divorce Detox Is Helping Men Rebuild Lives

        [15:44] The Power of Mentors During Tough Transitions

        [16:38] Managing Family Dynamics After Divorce Events

        [21:11] Closing Thoughts

         

        Learn more about Paul Murphy on his socials:

        Personal Website:

        https://paulmurphyconsulting.com/

        Divorce Detoxx Website: https://www.divorcedetoxx.com/

        Instagram:

        https://www.instagram.com/weekendwarriorbeme/

         

        Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

        Website: https://trueloveknots.com

        Phone: +1 702-501-4150

        1 min
      6. 163 Forging Meaningful Connections in the Second Half of Life with Jonathon Aslay

        Are you stuck in a cycle of disappointing relationships, repeating the same mistakes? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria is joined by dating coach Jonathon Aslay, who shares how over 100 internet dates and a tough divorce led him to a powerful realization: change starts with self-awareness. Jonathan dives into the

        importance of confronting fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs to break free from unhealthy patterns. He challenges listeners to commit to true partnership, have honest conversations early, and surround themselves with supportive, grounded confidants. His message is clear: take responsibility for your emotional growth to create the lasting, fulfilling connections you deserve.

         

        Standout Quotes:

        “Self-awareness is the understanding of your fears, insecurities, negative patterns, limiting beliefs, and judgments towards others and yourself. It involves healing in all of those areas.”


        “Humans who come to the table with self-awareness can solve any problem. But if you go in with weak emotional maturity and poor relationship skills, it can create a very

        contentious dynamic.”

        “Your desires, capacity, and vision for a relationship must exceed your fears, pains, hurts, and, most importantly, your differences with another human being.”


        Key Takeaways:


        Identify your fears, insecurities, and limiting beliefs around relationships. Commit to personal development and healing these areas to become more self-aware.

        Before meeting someone in person, have intentional conversations to get clarity on their relationship goals and emotional maturity. Don't assume compatibility based on chemistry alone.

        Define your vision for a committed, teamwork-oriented relationship. Communicate this clearly in your dating profile and conversations with potential partners.

        Cultivate a circle of competent confidants who can provide healthy, grown-up perspectives on your relationships, rather than just validating your desires.

        Reflect on your past relationship patterns. How can you break unhealthy cycles and approach new connections with emotional maturity and a commitment to teamwork?


        Episode Timeline:

        [00:02] Introducing Jonathon Aslay

        [02:36] Why Self-Awareness Shapes Every Relationship You Build

        [06:42] Midlife Dating Myths That Hold Women Back

        [09:08] The Real Power of Teamwork in Building Relationships

        [15:31] Mastering Dating Apps Without Losing Yourself

        [21:49] Emotional Maturity: The Secret to Long-Lasting Love

        [23:26] How to Overcome Fears That Sabotage Relationships

        [26:08] Why Strong Confidants Are Key to Relationship Success

        [28:05] Final Words on Love, Self-Growth, and Intentional Dating

         

        Learn more about Jonathon Aslay on his socials:

        Website: https://www.jonathonaslay.com/

        LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaslay/

        Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jonathon.aslay/

        Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jonathonaslay/

        Twitter/X: https://x.com/JonathonAslay

        YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDOXs_34FF93o66Z-S0py1g

         

        Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

        Website: https://trueloveknots.com

        Phone: +1

        702-501-4150

        30 min
      7. 162 From Corporate Ladder to Chief Happiness Officer with Yvonne Trost

        Are you chasing happiness but still feel unfulfilled? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria is joined by Yvonne Trost, a former corporate climber turned Chief Happiness Officer, who shares her transformation from outward success to true inner joy. After confronting the toxicity of her marriage and diving into yoga, meditation, and subconscious healing, Yvonne discovered that happiness isn’t external—it’s an inside job. She challenges us to release outdated beliefs, face our fears, and rewrite the subconscious patterns holding us back. Ready to unlock your limitless potential? Yvonne’s story inspires actionable steps to connect with your deepest desires and create a life of true fulfillment.

         

        Standout Quotes:

        • “Your subconscious mind's job is to keep you alive and safe, but it doesn't care if you're happy.”
        • “By the time you're 35, your subconscious mind is 95% in charge, and most of the logic it is using was written before you were 10.”
        • “The change that you want is on the other side of action. It can't just live in your thoughts.”


          • Key Takeaways:

          • Examine your subconscious programming and beliefs formed in childhood - are they still serving you? Consider how you can update your "software" to align with your current goals and values.
          • Identify areas in your life where you may be staying in an unhealthy situation for the sake of others. Reflect on how this is impacting you and what steps you can take to prioritize
            • your own wellbeing.
          • Explore the role of mindfulness, compassion and curiosity in overcoming fear, judgment and self-pity. Practice these qualities to shift your perspective and energy.        
            • Assess the impact your energy and subconscious patterns may be having on those around you. Consider how you can model self-awareness and positive change for your loved ones.

             

            Episode

            Timeline:

            [00:02] Introducing Yvonne Trost

            [02:41] When a Child’s Question Sparked a Life-Changing Divorce

            [04:31] How Yoga and Meditation Rebuilt Yvonne’s Life in Months

            [05:47] Why Your Subconscious Mind Could Be Holding You Back

            [09:49] Breaking Free from Social Media’s Grip on Happiness

            [12:59] Unlocking Potential Through Hypnotherapy and Awareness

            [17:59] Designing a Fulfilling Life with the Limitless Life Program

            [20:51] How Self-Growth Transforms Relationships and Parenting

            [21:07] Yvonne’s Plans to Share Her Teachings with the World

            [22:59] Final Words on Growth, Happiness, and Taking Action

             

            Learn more about Yvonne Trost on her socials:

            Website: https://unlocklimitlessyou.com/

            LinkedIn:

            https://www.linkedin.com/in/yvonne-trost/

            Facebook:

            https://www.facebook.com/yvonne.m.trost/

            Instagram:

            https://www.instagram.com/yvonnetrostandlimitlessyou/

            YouTube:

            https://www.youtube.com/c/BradChandlerCoaching

             

            Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

            Website: https://trueloveknots.com

            Phone: +1

            702-501-4150

            26 min
          • 161 Boundary-Setting Secrets: Transform Your Life and Business with Barb Nagle

            Do you often say "yes" when you want to say "no," putting others’ needs above your own? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria is joined by Barb Nagle, the

            "BNBC Coach," who shares her journey of overcoming codependency and building firm boundaries through 12-step recovery. Now a boundaries coach, Barb helps professional women—like her past self—create healthy boundaries that transform their lives and careers. Barb offers practical strategies to reduce guilt and reclaim personal power through tiered service packages, clear communication, and values-aligned boundaries. Ready to say “no” when it matters most? Tune in!

             

            Standout Quotes:

            • “When one person in an interaction changes the dynamics with those around them, it automatically shifts things. You can’t control other people, but you can influence them by changing the dance steps you share with them.”
            • “I want the patriarchy to crumble, and that's not going to happen if we keep saying "yes" to everything.”
            • “The hard part about setting boundaries is dealing with the emotions that arise, as guilt and shame are typically the feelings that come up.”

              • Key Takeaways:

              • Identify your top 5 core values and use them as guideposts to set boundaries that support and promote
                • those values.
              • Communicate your boundaries clearly and empowerfully rather than expecting others to know them. Don't be afraid to speak up when something doesn't work for you.
              • Consider creating tiered service packages and communication boundaries to set healthy expectations with clients or customers, especially those you have existing relationships with.
                • Reflect on where you may be saying "yes" when you really want to say "no." What is the cost to you, and how can you start setting more boundaries to prioritize your own needs?
                • Surround yourself with a support system, whether it's a coach or a community, to help you navigate the emotions and challenges of setting boundaries, especially with loved ones.

                  •  

                  Episode Timeline:

                  [00:02] Introducing Barb Nagle

                  [03:21] How 12-Step Recovery Transformed Barb’s Self-Boundaries

                  [05:26] Launching a Boundaries Coaching Business After Adversity

                  [08:16] Real-World Tips for Setting Business Boundaries That Last

                  [12:49] Using Core Values to Define Strong, Healthy Boundaries

                  [19:46] Signature Talk on Reclaiming Life from Overgiving

                   

                  Learn more about Barb Nagle on her socials:

                  Website: https://barbnangle.com/

                  Higher Power Coaching Website: https://higherpowercc.com/

                  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbnangle/

                  Facebook:

                  https://www.facebook.com/HigherPowerCoaching/

                  Instagram:

                  https://www.instagram.com/higherpowercoaching/

                  YouTube:

                  https://www.youtube.com/@higherpowercoaching

                  Schedule

                  a call with Barb at: www.barbchat.net

                   

                  Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

                  Website: https://trueloveknots.com

                  Phone: +1 702-501-4150

                  24 min
                • 160 Secrets to Successful Dating Over 50 with Deb Dutcher

                  Are you struggling to navigate the dating world, especially later in life? In this episode of the True Love

                  Knots Podcast, Maria is joined by Deb Dutcher, who shares her powerful journey of reentering the dating scene after 30 years of marriage. After facing numerous challenges—including a second unhealthy relationship that left her feeling hopeless—Deb transformed her life. Now a certified health coach and dating expert, she helps women over 50 overcome their fears, build confidence,
                  and attract fulfilling relationships. Through self-discovery, visualizing an ideal partner, and knowing when to walk away, Deb offers practical strategies to reclaim your worth and find true love. Ready to take the first step?


                  Standout Quotes:

                  • “When you think you're worthless, you dumb yourself down to stay with someone.”
                  • “I used therapy to stay in touch with who I am and to realize it wasn't all on me. It helped me understand that I have something of value to bring to the table.”
                  • “It's really about where you're comfortable and the options available. I have too many clients who have spent a year working with the wrong people.”


                    • Key Takeaways:

                    • Reflect on your past relationships and identify patterns or behaviors that may have contributed to their demise. Use this self-awareness to guide your search for a healthier, more fulfilling partnership.
                    • Prioritize your financial independence and be willing to walk away from an unhealthy situation, even if it's scary. Explore ways to build your skills and income to support
                      • yourself.
                    • Invest in yourself through coaching, counseling, or other personal development programs to rediscover who you are and what you truly desire in a partner.
                    • When venturing back into the dating world, be selective about the platforms you use and don't be afraid to switch sites if you're not getting the desired results. Avoid free dating sites that may be rife with scammers.
                    • Cultivate a vibrant, interesting life outside of your search for a partner. Pursue hobbies, travel, and activities that bring you joy and make you an attractive, well-rounded
                      • companion.

                       

                      Episode Timeline:

                      [00:02] Introducing Deb Dutcher

                      [02:25] Achieving Financial Freedom and Rebuilding Life at 68

                      [04:12] Navigating Dating Scams and Finding the Right Match

                      [05:00] How Deb Found Love Again After Overcoming Trauma

                      [09:59] Tools for Overcoming Abuse, Depression, and Healing

                      [12:54] Eight-Week Dating Breakthrough Course for Personal Growth

                      [18:46] Top Dating Sites for Singles Over 50 and Deb’s Tips

                      [22:05] Final Tips for Staying Positive and Thriving in Life

                       

                      Learn more about Deb Dutcher on her socials:

                      Website: https://findingmradorable.com/

                      LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debdutcher/

                      Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/deb.dutcher/

                      Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debdutchercoach/

                      Twitter: https://x.com/debdutcher

                      Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/stores/Deb-Dutcher/author/B018JI6O2C

                       

                      Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

                      Website: https://trueloveknots.com

                      Phone: +1 702-501-4150

                      27 min
                    • 159 From Heartbreak to Healing: Navigating the Modern Dating World with Bev Mitelman

                      Are you struggling to find lasting love in today's dating world? In this episode of the True Love Knots Podcast, Maria is joined by relationship expert Bev Mitelman, who explores how attachment styles, shaped by early childhood experiences, impact our ability to form deep connections. She shares her journey of dating after a long-term marriage and explains how patterns like secure, anxious, and avoidant attachment influence relationships. By unlearning unhealthy behaviors and recognizing emotional availability in partners, Bev offers practical insights to heal past wounds and build fulfilling connections. Ready to take control of your attachment style and find lasting love? Dive in for transformative advice.

                       

                      Standout Quotes:

                      • “Developing skill sets for dating and love relationships also spills into your professional life.
                        • People don't realize that how you interact with yourself and others personally and professionally makes all the difference.”
                      • “I'm a strong proponent of doing personal work and understanding yourself to be the right partner for someone else. If you're emotionally dysregulated, you can't be a good partner to anyone.”
                      • “Picking a partner, regardless of your stage of life, is critically important to your mental health and well-being. This person could bring you tremendous joy, pleasure, and peace, or they could get you a lot of drama, chaos, and pain.
                        • So choose wisely.”
                      • “If you spot anything that seems off, it's okay to take caution and ask about it. We all go through struggles, but if someone isn't taking any steps to do the work, I would raise a red flag.”
                      • "Love isn't blind; love is learned. We learn in childhood how to give and receive love, which
                        • forms distinct patterns in our minds that follow us into adulthood."

                        Key Takeaways:

                        • Identify your attachment style and understand how it shapes your relationships - both personal and professional. Explore resources to learn more about attachment theory.
                        • Take the time to reflect on your needs and non-negotiables in a partner before jumping into a new
                          • relationship. Clarity on what you value most can help you make wiser choices.
                        • Be cautious of getting involved with someone who is still emotionally entangled with an ex-partner, whether through ongoing legal battles, shared living situations, or unresolved feelings. Allow time for proper healing.
                        • Pay attention to red flags like emotional dysregulation, mental health struggles, and lack of personal growth work. These can indicate an unhealthy dynamic that may be difficult to sustain.
                        • Embrace the mindset that "love isn't blind, love is learned." Commit to the personal work required to unlearn unhealthy patterns and relearn healthier ways of giving and receiving love.

                          •  

                          Episode Timeline:

                          [00:03] Introducing

                          Bev Mitelman

                          [02:02]

                          Bev’s Journey from Personal Growth to Relationship Coach

                          [04:33]

                          Understanding Secure and Insecure Attachment Styles

                          [08:26]

                          How Attachment Styles Shape Relationships and Boundaries

                          [08:44]

                          Bev’s Dating Experience After Long-Term Marriage

                          [12:51]

                          Navigating the Complexities of Modern Dating

                          [19:14]

                          Spotting Red Flags and Building Stronger Relationships

                          [22:33]

                          Closing Thoughts and Future Topics

                           

                          Learn

                          more about Bev Mitelman on her socials:

                          Website:

                          https://securelyloved.com/

                          LinkedIn:

                          https://www.linkedin.com/in/bevmitelman/

                           

                          Learn more about Maria Romano and True Love Knots at:

                          Website: https://trueloveknots.com

                          Phone: +1 702-501-4150

                          27 min
                        • 158 Why Relationships Fail: Key Lessons from Chaplain Felice Mathieu

                          Chaplain Felice shares his incredible journey from growing up as an orphan to becoming a marriage counselor, poet, and community leader. He opens up about his personal struggles and the lessons he has learned about love, marriage, and communication. With a focus on serving couples and relationships, Chaplain Felice offers valuable insights on how to navigate the complexities of human connections.


                          Standout Quotes:


                          • "The number one mistake in all relationships is poor communication." – Chaplain Felice
                          • "Don’t assume you're right. We often believe our emotions or logic are facts, but they might not be." – Chaplain Felice
                          • "Keep God at the center of your relationship; it steers everything." – Chaplain Felice


                            • Key Takeaways:


                            1. Strong relationships rely on effective communication. Recognizing your partner's perspective is essential to avoid control battles.
                            2. The merging of two people in a relationship should be about unselfishness and mutual care.
                            3. Taking responsibility for your own flaws is critical in relationships. Accountability is a game-changer for personal growth.
                            4. Aligning on values and maintaining God at the center of your relationship can help foster mutual respect and connection.


                              5. Episode Timeline:

                              0:00:02 - Introduction and guest introduction

                              0:01:09 - Felice's title and journey into chaplaincy

                              0:02:08 - Chaplain Felice shares his personal backstory

                              0:06:07 - The top mistake couples make: poor communication

                              0:08:18 - Tools for better communication in relationships

                              0:11:44 - The importance of listening and empathy

                              0:14:04 - The role of self-growth in maintaining a healthy relationship


                              Resources:

                              Visit Chaplain Felice's website for tools on communication: https://marriagesharing.org/

                              Chaplain Felice on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/felicemathieu/

                              24 min

                            About Love And Legacy

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                            Join Maria Romano, the dynamic host of Love And Legacy (Formerly True Love Knots), as she guides you through the exhilarating journey of finding love again after 40. Whether you're a widow, widower, or divorced, this podcast is your compass in the world of dating and relationships. Maria, an ordained minister who has officiated over 4,000 marriages, shares her wisdom and expertise to help you navigate modern love.