Love Filter: How to Choose a Spouse. 🔥
Marriage isn’t just built on emotions; it requires wisdom, clarity, and God’s guidance.
📌 Pastor Laju highlighted 12 common mistakes people make when choosing a spouse:
* Assuming they don’t have a choice: If you’re unaware of your options, you’ll likely make the wrong decision.
* Becoming obsessed with the chase: The thrill of pursuit should never replace discernment (Eccl 2:10).
* Not embracing singleness: Marriage requires two whole individuals. Knowing your purpose helps you choose wisely.* Listening to the wrong advisors: The voices you heed can shape your decisions (2 Sam 13:2).
* Misunderstanding time: It’s not about how fast, but how well.
* Having a wrong understanding of marriage: Marriage is an opportunity to serve your spouse, serve the Lord, and grow into Christlikeness.
* Trying to escape trauma: Heal before stepping into a relationship to avoid repeating past cycles.
* Choosing based on superficial vibes: Set realistic expectations beyond surface attraction.
* Bowing to pressure: Ask yourself, “Can I live with this for the rest of my life?” Marriage shouldn’t be about pleasing others.
* Not involving God: Every life decision should be rooted in His wisdom.
* When God cannot be involved: If your relationship doesn’t honour God, it’s not His will.
* Assuming a failed relationship means personal failure: A setback isn’t the end of your love story. Choose wisely—with God, wise counsel, and someone who genuinely chooses you.