Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

Welcome to the First Medicine, Marriage, and Money Summer Showcase where we are spotlighting the other amazing doctor podcasts that are out there. This episode is from the Doctor Me First podcast with Dr. Errin Weisman.

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage

Sponsor: Advice Media 

It’s time! We’ve finally gotten to sit back down and have an Alpha Female discussion. Spring is in the air and with it will come extremely LONG days for Craig so we knew we had to get it in. Listen as he shares what’s going on down on the farm and we chat about our family updates.  Corn is up in prices and we’ve been preparing the fields and the equipment to get the highest yield. Craig shares what that looks like as we try to record in a house full of needy kids! He’s also taken up day trading and watching a ton of financial shows. His interest has been piqued and he’s been reading and learning and watching which is why he hasn’t actually done much investing yet. But it’s fun to hear him talk about it.  The first thing Craig doesn’t know… I want to get rid of these kittens. There’s definitely more but after my Grandma passed away we split up her cats and the older cats are just so much more manageable. Also, I’m getting my ears pierced again! Craig and I have so much fun doing these episodes and giving you a peek into our lives and our family. We hope you enjoy it today!

“When you are married to an alpha female, remember the mantra, it’s no big deal.” Errin and Craig Weisman

In this episode: [04:19] Let's start by listening to what's happening down on the farm with Craig. [07:00] Craig shares his interest in day trading. [09:33] Let’s talk about things Craig doesn’t know. [13:02] Craig’s thoughts on all the things he doesn’t know. [14:33] Are you ready for our family update? [18:41] His thoughts on the “married to an alpha female” segment. [20:50] “It’s no big deal.” [23:59] Thank you for listening!

Links and Resources

Find Craig: Craig on Twitter: @highbanksfarmer

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I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Why he stepped down from private practice
• Whether or not he suggested  his son goes to medical school

Marriage: 

• The path of Dependence to Independence to Interdependence
• Why his first marriage didn’t work
• Why Equal doesn’t mean the SAME 
• 2014 Date with Destiny and Relationship today
• • The difference between masculinity and femininity
  • More comfortable being the protector and provider
  • “Shall we Dance” -Japanese version (job of the man is to lead, to showcase, and provide a safe space so she can shine)
  • Bring back the polarity
  • Dance of Life 
• How he rebuilt his empire after divorce, 

Money:

• What is a fiduciary
• His definition of wealth
• Whoever has a higher standard owns it.
• • Cooking (her), laundry (him), finances (him), less nagging
• Compartmentalize, safety, dream, risk bucket
• Why checking accounts tend to be spent even if one does not intend to spend it
• How to pay YOURSELF first
• How he dug his own hole
• The worst thing that can happen as an investor
• • Learned to make systems so emotions would not sabotage
• What rounding on your stocks systems means
• Jumping at the latest information...trigger visceral emotions
• How he empowers!  

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. DAVID YEH

1. The definition of wealth can be simple. I can mean the amount of money you need to live on for the rest of your life. It doesn’t need to mean something completely out of reach….unattainable, multiple luxurious vacations a year, or a closet full of exquisite bags….it just needs to be enough for you to live. So take that for what it’s worth and start building your wealth
2. The worst thing that can happen as an investor is to make a lot of money quickly which leads to arrogance and overconfidence. Learn to make systems so emotions will not sabotage!
3. Being equal in your marriage DOES NOT MEAN being the SAME. There is just no such thing, so we might as well stop comparing ourselves to our spouses or anyone else.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• What is my definition of wealth?
• In the dance of life that is my marriage...do I lead or do I shine?
• Is my financial advisor a fiduciary?
• How can I be more open-minded in my marriage?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: http://wealthydoctorinstitute.com
• Scheduling LInk: http://calldavidyeh.com

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR:  Care Cloud: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/carecloud

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Why he stepped down from private practice
• Whether or not he suggested  his son goes to medical school

Marriage: 

• The path of Dependence to Independence to Interdependence
• Why his first marriage didn’t work
• Why Equal doesn’t mean the SAME 
• 2014 Date with Destiny and Relationship today
• • The difference between masculinity and femininity
  • More comfortable being the protector and provider
  • “Shall we Dance” -Japanese version (job of the man is to lead, to showcase, and provide a safe space so she can shine)
  • Bring back the polarity
  • Dance of Life 
• How he rebuilt his empire after divorce, 

Money:

• What is a fiduciary
• His definition of wealth
• Whoever has a higher standard owns it.
• • Cooking (her), laundry (him), finances (him), less nagging
• Compartmentalize, safety, dream, risk bucket
• Why checking accounts tend to be spent even if one does not intend to spend it
• How to pay YOURSELF first
• How he dug his own hole
• The worst thing that can happen as an investor
• • Learned to make systems so emotions would not sabotage
• What rounding on your stocks systems means
• Jumping at the latest information...trigger visceral emotions
• How he empowers!  

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. DAVID YEH

1. The definition of wealth can be simple. I can mean the amount of money you need to live on for the rest of your life. It doesn’t need to mean something completely out of reach….unattainable, multiple luxurious vacations a year, or a closet full of exquisite bags….it just needs to be enough for you to live. So take that for what it’s worth and start building your wealth
2. The worst thing that can happen as an investor is to make a lot of money quickly which leads to arrogance and overconfidence. Learn to make systems so emotions will not sabotage!
3. Being equal in your marriage DOES NOT MEAN being the SAME. There is just no such thing, so we might as well stop comparing ourselves to our spouses or anyone else.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• What is my definition of wealth?
• In the dance of life that is my marriage...do I lead or do I shine?
• Is my financial advisor a fiduciary?
• How can I be more open-minded in my marriage?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: http://wealthydoctorinstitute.com
• Scheduling LInk: http://calldavidyeh.com

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR:  Care Cloud: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/carecloud

A raw and unedited conversation with my Mom about her marriage

A raw and unedited conversation with my Mom about her marriage

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Taking a year off to do Health Care advocacy in DC
• Physician Leadership, Resilience, Compassion Fatigue, and Stress Management
• Why trading time for money felt easy as a physician although she never felt she had enough

Marriage: 

• Why she planned to never get married
• The pivotal moment when her hubby decided to pursue her
• How things shifted when she decided to put marriage on her vision board instead of just her career

Money:

• How she and her hubby decided to start investing in their marriage
• Old mindset: Not making money = conflict + divorce
• Why she never felt like she had enough money

Confidence/Parenting:

• Raise your hand!
• How to talk about abundance with your children
• Explaining why until things click

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. VANESSA CALDERON

1. Whatever you decide is going to happen will happen. If you decide all marriages will end in conflict and divorce, plan for a divorce. If you decide when conflict arises, you will work through it, you will work through it.
2. 1. Do it for the right reasons. Not for someone to complete you, to feel loved, for status or money. 
3. Look at the bigger picture during conflicts. Remember you are not the only one suffering.
   1. Being a compassionate leader
   2. Calling people out with compassion. Have the courage to have difficult conversations but come from a place of love
   3. Trust and transparency: Any questions and topic is allowed
4. How to teach resilience:
5. How you do one thing, is how you do everything.
6. Wanting to be loved is different than needing to be loved. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I lead with more self-compassion
• How do I feel about conflict in my relationship?
• Can I tell the difference between anger and sadness when I am in an argument? If so, how?
• How can I prevent physician burnout...both for myself and for those around me?
• Do I trade my time for money?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://www.vanessacalderonmd.com/

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Sponsor: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Taking a year off to do Health Care advocacy in DC
• Physician Leadership, Resilience, Compassion Fatigue, and Stress Management
• Why trading time for money felt easy as a physician although she never felt she had enough

Marriage: 

• Why she planned to never get married
• The pivotal moment when her hubby decided to pursue her
• How things shifted when she decided to put marriage on her vision board instead of just her career

Money:

• How she and her hubby decided to start investing in their marriage
• Old mindset: Not making money = conflict + divorce
• Why she never felt like she had enough money

Confidence/Parenting:

• Raise your hand!
• How to talk about abundance with your children
• Explaining why until things click

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. VANESSA CALDERON

1. Whatever you decide is going to happen will happen. If you decide all marriages will end in conflict and divorce, plan for a divorce. If you decide when conflict arises, you will work through it, you will work through it.
2. 1. Do it for the right reasons. Not for someone to complete you, to feel loved, for status or money. 
3. Look at the bigger picture during conflicts. Remember you are not the only one suffering.
   1. Being a compassionate leader
   2. Calling people out with compassion. Have the courage to have difficult conversations but come from a place of love
   3. Trust and transparency: Any questions and topic is allowed
4. How to teach resilience:
5. How you do one thing, is how you do everything.
6. Wanting to be loved is different than needing to be loved. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I lead with more self-compassion
• How do I feel about conflict in my relationship?
• Can I tell the difference between anger and sadness when I am in an argument? If so, how?
• How can I prevent physician burnout...both for myself and for those around me?
• Do I trade my time for money?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://www.vanessacalderonmd.com/

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Sponsor: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Meeting his future wife with two black eyes in anatomy lab
• Why he burnt out in residency
• When he commuted 4 hours a day

Marriage: 

• How is future wife reacted to his initial courting attempts
• When and how he began implementing boundaries between work and family life
• How they emotionally prepared for the new baby

Money:

• How he feels about his 1 million dollar combined student loan debt
• Why he does not subscribe to the “live like a resident” mindset

Early Career Strategy:

• The Why, How, and What of career strategy
• The importance of defining the who before medical school or residency
• Renegotiating your contract vs leaving clinical medicine

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Andrew Tisser

1. Design your career strategy. Set short and long term goals. Why, What, & then How
   1. Pay for time
   2. Climb out of the scarcity mindset.
   3. Live in abundance
2. To live like a resident or not.
3. Student Loans are just a tax

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• What are my short term goals in medicine?
• What are my long term goals in medicine?
• Am I connected to my Why?
• Why do I have anxiety about student loan debt?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website:  https://andrewtisserdo.com
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=16506816
• Instagram: @talk2medoc_llc
• Twitter: @talk2medoc
• TikTok: @talk2medoc
• YoutTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0O_Sf3aYLavYaJ_hg7bM8g
• LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewtisserdo/

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Doctor Me First (Dr. Errin Weisman)

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Meeting his future wife with two black eyes in anatomy lab
• Why he burnt out in residency
• When he commuted 4 hours a day

Marriage: 

• How is future wife reacted to his initial courting attempts
• When and how he began implementing boundaries between work and family life
• How they emotionally prepared for the new baby

Money:

• How he feels about his 1 million dollar combined student loan debt
• Why he does not subscribe to the “live like a resident” mindset

Early Career Strategy:

• The Why, How, and What of career strategy
• The importance of defining the who before medical school or residency
• Renegotiating your contract vs leaving clinical medicine

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Andrew Tisser

1. Design your career strategy. Set short and long term goals. Why, What, & then How
   1. Pay for time
   2. Climb out of the scarcity mindset.
   3. Live in abundance
2. To live like a resident or not.
3. Student Loans are just a tax

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• What are my short term goals in medicine?
• What are my long term goals in medicine?
• Am I connected to my Why?
• Why do I have anxiety about student loan debt?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website:  https://andrewtisserdo.com
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=16506816
• Instagram: @talk2medoc_llc
• Twitter: @talk2medoc
• TikTok: @talk2medoc
• YoutTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0O_Sf3aYLavYaJ_hg7bM8g
• LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewtisserdo/

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Doctor Me First (Dr. Errin Weisman)

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• How he is able to produce content and work on courses/videos in between seeing his pediatric patients
• Why he implemented templates and hired a scribe when the practice he joined had never had one before

Marriage: 

• Why he fell in Love during Summer Camp
• How he teaches his children the importance of couple time
• How he and his wife make time for each other with 5 (now 6) children

Money:

• How focusing on values decreases financial disagreements
• Why he has Sunday night meetings with his wife 

Time Management:

• How his morning routine helps his wife and children begin their day
• The importance of finding help to repurpose content
• How 2.5 minutes of shopping online saves him 2.5 hours in the actual store
• How he does bedtime with 5 (now 6) children

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR PHIL BOUCHER

1. Know when to place the needs of your spouse or children above your own and when to prioritize your own self care. This is an important distinction that often does not come naturally. We learn as we go. How do I want to make my families’ life better in this situation? Another good question to ask yourself at the moment I will borrow from my dear friends Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who recently came to speak with my Women Physicians coaching group. She offers to ask ourselves, what does everyone in this family need right now, including me?
2. 1. Example: Dinner, TV, bedtime, alone time, reconnection time
   2. When I am overwhelmed, angry, and victimize myself, I have learned that all I need is often 10-15 minutes to reset...take a shower, think about why I am really feeling the way I feel and a moment to take ownership for my feelings instead of blaming them on someone else.  
3. Do not wait for someone else to make your life more efficient. If you crave efficiency and you notice wasted time at work, suggest a solution. Remember not to focus on the problem as in any negotiation. Present two best options to your group. If neither option is adopted, create one for yourself. Templates...a scribe, get creative, find alternative methods. This won’t happen overnight. 
   1. Make a list of your shared values
   2. Family Time
   3. Home
   4. Experiences
   5. Material Items
   6. Charity
   7. Notice if your shared values support increased spending habits...if so figure out how to increase your salary. 
   8. Evaluate what your variables can be shifted in your home to help align  
   9. What variables can I shift to support my spending habits?
4. Create shared values with your spouse. 
   1. A Dream Home
   2. The Headboard
   3. The Luxury Car
5. Examples: Time with family on weekends, annual couple only vacations, Grandparents

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I have a good balance between self care and self sacrifice?
• What can I delegate in my life?
• How can my spouse and I create more shared visions?
• Do my values support my spending habits?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Podcast: Raising Good Parents and High Yield Physicians
• Facebook: Phil Boucher 
• Instagram: @raisinggoodparents

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: locumstory.com OR doctorpodcastnetwork.com/locumstory