Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to be on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist? →  Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• How he is able to produce content and work on courses/videos in between seeing his pediatric patients
• Why he implemented templates and hired a scribe when the practice he joined had never had one before

Marriage: 

• Why he fell in Love during Summer Camp
• How he teaches his children the importance of couple time
• How he and his wife make time for each other with 5 (now 6) children

Money:

• How focusing on values decreases financial disagreements
• Why he has Sunday night meetings with his wife 

Time Management:

• How his morning routine helps his wife and children begin their day
• The importance of finding help to repurpose content
• How 2.5 minutes of shopping online saves him 2.5 hours in the actual store
• How he does bedtime with 5 (now 6) children

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR PHIL BOUCHER

1. Know when to place the needs of your spouse or children above your own and when to prioritize your own self care. This is an important distinction that often does not come naturally. We learn as we go. How do I want to make my families’ life better in this situation? Another good question to ask yourself at the moment I will borrow from my dear friends Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who recently came to speak with my Women Physicians coaching group. She offers to ask ourselves, what does everyone in this family need right now, including me?
2. 1. Example: Dinner, TV, bedtime, alone time, reconnection time
   2. When I am overwhelmed, angry, and victimize myself, I have learned that all I need is often 10-15 minutes to reset...take a shower, think about why I am really feeling the way I feel and a moment to take ownership for my feelings instead of blaming them on someone else.  
3. Do not wait for someone else to make your life more efficient. If you crave efficiency and you notice wasted time at work, suggest a solution. Remember not to focus on the problem as in any negotiation. Present two best options to your group. If neither option is adopted, create one for yourself. Templates...a scribe, get creative, find alternative methods. This won’t happen overnight. 
   1. Make a list of your shared values
   2. Family Time
   3. Home
   4. Experiences
   5. Material Items
   6. Charity
   7. Notice if your shared values support increased spending habits...if so figure out how to increase your salary. 
   8. Evaluate what your variables can be shifted in your home to help align  
   9. What variables can I shift to support my spending habits?
4. Create shared values with your spouse. 
   1. A Dream Home
   2. The Headboard
   3. The Luxury Car
5. Examples: Time with family on weekends, annual couple only vacations, Grandparents

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I have a good balance between self care and self sacrifice?
• What can I delegate in my life?
• How can my spouse and I create more shared visions?
• Do my values support my spending habits?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Podcast: Raising Good Parents and High Yield Physicians
• Facebook: Phil Boucher 
• Instagram: @raisinggoodparents

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: locumstory.com OR doctorpodcastnetwork.com/locumstory

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• How Pediatric Radiation Oncology has shaped his view as a Father and how he parents
• How Fatherhood enhances life and fosters growth
• Financial Tips for expecting, new, or current Fathers

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE

• How Pediatric Radiation Oncology has shaped his view as a Father and how he parents
• How Fatherhood enhances life and fosters growth
• Financial Tips for expecting, new, or current Fathers

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• How he paid off his medical school loan debt
• Why his GI practice struggled to make any money during the pandemic
• How they planned a wedding during medical school

Marriage: 

• Proposing to his medical school sweetheart 5 months after they met 
• Infatuation at first sight
• Bonding over sonic drive-in dates

Money:

• What designating a household CFO means
• Why having equal say in the budget is necessary
• Teaching children about money through commission opportunities

Coaching: 

• How to become more loving
• Normalizing shame and hopelessness when it comes to finances
• How to practice good medicine in private practice

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM BRENT LACEY

1. Most conflicts arise from unrealistic or unknown expectations. 
2. Figure out your business, family, and life values before a crisis. Don't wait for a crisis to figure out what is most important in life to you!
3. Caring more about your spouse's goals than your own fosters selflessness and relational unity.
4. We run an exceptional business so that we can practice good medicine. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Why do I feel shame or hopelessness when it comes to my finances?
• What unrealistic or unrealized expectations do I have for my spouse? 
• How do I show selflessness towards my spouse?
• How can I commit to loving my spouse despite the struggles which may and do arise?
• Am I choosing to love my spouse on a daily basis?
• How do I show love?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.thescopeofpractice.com
• Facebook: www.thescopeofpractice.com/facebookpage
• $99 “Residency Proof Your Marriage Course: https://the-scope-of-practice-academy.teachable.com/courses/residency-proof-your-marriage?affcode=996806_mhqjyf01
• Instagram: @TheScopeOfPractice
• Twitter: @BusinessCoachMD
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brent-lacey/
• Podcast: www.thescopeofpractice.com/podcast

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• How he paid off his medical school loan debt
• Why his GI practice struggled to make any money during the pandemic
• How they planned a wedding during medical school

Marriage: 

• Proposing to his medical school sweetheart 5 months after they met 
• Infatuation at first sight
• Bonding over sonic drive-in dates

Money:

• What designating a household CFO means
• Why having equal say in the budget is necessary
• Teaching children about money through commission opportunities

Coaching: 

• How to become more loving
• Normalizing shame and hopelessness when it comes to finances
• How to practice good medicine in private practice

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM BRENT LACEY

1. Most conflicts arise from unrealistic or unknown expectations. 
2. Figure out your business, family, and life values before a crisis. Don't wait for a crisis to figure out what is most important in life to you!
3. Caring more about your spouse's goals than your own fosters selflessness and relational unity.
4. We run an exceptional business so that we can practice good medicine. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Why do I feel shame or hopelessness when it comes to my finances?
• What unrealistic or unrealized expectations do I have for my spouse? 
• How do I show selflessness towards my spouse?
• How can I commit to loving my spouse despite the struggles which may and do arise?
• Am I choosing to love my spouse on a daily basis?
• How do I show love?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.thescopeofpractice.com
• Facebook: www.thescopeofpractice.com/facebookpage
• $99 “Residency Proof Your Marriage Course: https://the-scope-of-practice-academy.teachable.com/courses/residency-proof-your-marriage?affcode=996806_mhqjyf01
• Instagram: @TheScopeOfPractice
• Twitter: @BusinessCoachMD
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brent-lacey/
• Podcast: www.thescopeofpractice.com/podcast

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• 8 years out of residency work on Omaha Nebraska as a board-certified pediatrician
• First son 3rd year of residency
• How being a Dad helps him as pediatrician: the texts books say to doit one way and the real life is another

Marriage: 

• Why marriage is a Team sport where thrive off each others strengths and weaknesses
• How they were zip-tied together at a marriage/divorce party in college
• When she first began calling him the “guy of my dreams”
• Raised as a free-range child in West Virginia and how this was different from the way his wife was raised
• How to parent together when you have differences in opinions

Money:

• How they gain time by having one spouse stay at home
• Why his money mindset is “in-progress”
• The difference between taking ownership and blaming oneself

COVID:

• How rates of depression, anxiety, and obesity have changed during “at home learning”
• How to decide if kids should wear masks
• Why being the example and exemplifying positivity is important
• How to stop the spread of COVID misinformation

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Jeremy Toffle

1. It is not about the actual problem or issue you are discussing….it is about HOW you discuss the topic. Approach conversations with an open mind and without blame. Come from a place knowing that we are all imperfect humans
2. Misinformation about COVID is everywhere! It is our duty as physicians to either stay updated with the latest information OR have resources readily available for our patients, family, and friends who come to us with questions. 
3. Create or emphasize a bedtime routine or habit which fosters love and compassion amongst you and your spouse: “Good night, sleep well, sweet dreams, I love you.”

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Did I marry the “guy/gal” of my dreams
• What am I teaching my children? How can I lead by example?
• How am I staying updated with the latest COVID misinformation?
• How can I avoid propagating misinformation?
• How can I support myself, my spouse, and kids so they are more likely to go to bed happy?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.imperfectdadmd.com
• Podcast: Https://Imperfectdadmdpodcast.buzzsprout.com

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• 8 years out of residency work on Omaha Nebraska as a board-certified pediatrician
• First son 3rd year of residency
• How being a Dad helps him as pediatrician: the texts books say to doit one way and the real life is another

Marriage: 

• Why marriage is a Team sport where thrive off each others strengths and weaknesses
• How they were zip-tied together at a marriage/divorce party in college
• When she first began calling him the “guy of my dreams”
• Raised as a free-range child in West Virginia and how this was different from the way his wife was raised
• How to parent together when you have differences in opinions

Money:

• How they gain time by having one spouse stay at home
• Why his money mindset is “in-progress”
• The difference between taking ownership and blaming oneself

COVID:

• How rates of depression, anxiety, and obesity have changed during “at home learning”
• How to decide if kids should wear masks
• Why being the example and exemplifying positivity is important
• How to stop the spread of COVID misinformation

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Jeremy Toffle

1. It is not about the actual problem or issue you are discussing….it is about HOW you discuss the topic. Approach conversations with an open mind and without blame. Come from a place knowing that we are all imperfect humans
2. Misinformation about COVID is everywhere! It is our duty as physicians to either stay updated with the latest information OR have resources readily available for our patients, family, and friends who come to us with questions. 
3. Create or emphasize a bedtime routine or habit which fosters love and compassion amongst you and your spouse: “Good night, sleep well, sweet dreams, I love you.”

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Did I marry the “guy/gal” of my dreams
• What am I teaching my children? How can I lead by example?
• How am I staying updated with the latest COVID misinformation?
• How can I avoid propagating misinformation?
• How can I support myself, my spouse, and kids so they are more likely to go to bed happy?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.imperfectdadmd.com
• Podcast: Https://Imperfectdadmdpodcast.buzzsprout.com

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Why she transitioned from New York City to a rural medicine physician life in Hawaii

Marriage: 

• Her surprise when he proposed and eloped in one trip!
• Her beliefs on how love and sex versus partnership and negotiating will hold a relationship together
• How she creates a safe family bubble  
• How “spring cleaning” and sharing fears and desires weekly helps their relationship
• What a “toilet flush” means in conversations 

Money:

• Why Dr. Lisa likes to feel like she has no money (WHAT!?!?)
• How her hubby and her manage money completely differently 
• How scarcity is motivating for Dr. Tharler 

Embodiment:

• Learning how leaning in and affirmations did not work for her
• What embodiment coaching looks like
• The goals of embodiment coaching
• Her husband's doubts and fears when she started getting involved in embodiment 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR LISA THARLER

1. Put you and your relationship first. 
2. Learn your triggers to move through conflict faster. 
3. Stack positive experiences.
4. Be vulnerable with your desires and fears to foster deep sharing. (Use “I” statements. Own what you want. Do not focus on what your partner is doing wrong.)
5. Put boundaries around work, hours, and energy. During this time… Recognizing when you are empty and can give no more. Be honest with yourself when you are exhausted.  

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Why am I not behind?
• How am I vulnerable with my spouse?
• How do I create safety in our relationship?
• What do my body language and tone affect my relationships?
• How can I set up boundaries around my hours and energy and respect them? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Facebook Group: Under The White Coat
• Facebook Group: According to Dr. Lisa
• Instagram: @accordingtodrlisa 
• Instagram: @underthewhitecoatmd

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: panaceafinancial.com

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• Why she transitioned from New York City to a rural medicine physician life in Hawaii

Marriage: 

• Her surprise when he proposed and eloped in one trip!
• Her beliefs on how love and sex versus partnership and negotiating will hold a relationship together
• How she creates a safe family bubble  
• How “spring cleaning” and sharing fears and desires weekly helps their relationship
• What a “toilet flush” means in conversations 

Money:

• Why Dr. Lisa likes to feel like she has no money (WHAT!?!?)
• How her hubby and her manage money completely differently 
• How scarcity is motivating for Dr. Tharler 

Embodiment:

• Learning how leaning in and affirmations did not work for her
• What embodiment coaching looks like
• The goals of embodiment coaching
• Her husband's doubts and fears when she started getting involved in embodiment 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR LISA THARLER

1. Put you and your relationship first. 
2. Learn your triggers to move through conflict faster. 
3. Stack positive experiences.
4. Be vulnerable with your desires and fears to foster deep sharing. (Use “I” statements. Own what you want. Do not focus on what your partner is doing wrong.)
5. Put boundaries around work, hours, and energy. During this time… Recognizing when you are empty and can give no more. Be honest with yourself when you are exhausted.  

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Why am I not behind?
• How am I vulnerable with my spouse?
• How do I create safety in our relationship?
• What do my body language and tone affect my relationships?
• How can I set up boundaries around my hours and energy and respect them? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Facebook Group: Under The White Coat
• Facebook Group: According to Dr. Lisa
• Instagram: @accordingtodrlisa 
• Instagram: @underthewhitecoatmd

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: panaceafinancial.com

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Travel: 

• How she uses travel hacks to travel affordably
• Hopper, Google ITA, Rewards programs, Chase Rewards without building a balance, NextVacay, 

Marriage: 

• Meeting her future hubby when she was not ready!
• How they play as a “Good guy/Bad Guy” team in real estate
• How they invest in their marriage
• Once a month budget dates with Josh

Money:

• The drastic change from wealthy with servants to having nothing and helping pay the bills at age 14
• From growing up with servants and attending a private school to section eight housing and free school lunches
• How “Tiger Mom” teaches her children the value of money

Culture:

• How her childhood in India differed from her childhood in the States
• Why Disha and her mother left India after her father died
• Why Disha transformed her traditional Indian money mindset during her second maternity leave

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR DISHA SPATH

1. If you are in consumer debt, use the debt snowball principle to climb out of debt and learn how to manage money without being too overwhelmed. Paying off the smallest bill can provide motivation and build up momentum to keep going. 
2. Cut down the fixed costs (phone plans-switching carriers, cancel unused subscriptions, change grocery stores-from Expensive to Aldi & Walmart, downsize from a big house to renting a smaller place, moving closer to grandparents to help with childcare costs. 
3. Raise your children without a silver spoon to teach them to know the importance of money and better equip them to be independent later in life.  
4. Paying off student loans may or may not be your best financial decision. Although this was the right decision for her, she emphasizes that this is not a one size fits all answer. You have to look at your unique circumstances. Do you work for a public or private institution? What is your debt to income ratio? How do you feel about debt? Is it causing you anxiety or fear?

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I find the balance between being frugal and indulging in the good things
• Do I ever find myself stuck in a scarcity mindset?
• How can I travel in style on a budget?
• Do I expect my spouse to take care of all the financials because of a cultural upbringing? If so, how is this serving me?
• When I want to save money, how can I focus on fixed costs?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: thefrugalphysician.com 
• Facebook: The Frugal Physician
• Instagram: @thefrugalphysician 
• Twitter: @thefrugalphysician
• Pinterest: @thefrugalphysician

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

SPONSOR: Physician Financial Services at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller