How We Designed Our Life as a Physician Couple:

Children:

How her children made her rethink her career and life

How she and her husband designed systems at home for a successful family life

Benefits of a live-in Nanny

Relationship:

How Vicki met her hubby, Peter Kim

Her first impression of Peter and their first date

Why she fell in love and why she is still in love

Navigating their relationship as a dual physician couple

How she invests in her marriage

Money:

The smartest financial decision she ever made

How they make financial decisions together

Confidence:

How she has so much confidence

How she does it all

Her thoughts on social media

Website: https://www.vickichanmd.com/

Facebook: Vicki Chan Kim

Instagram: @vickichanmd

Tiktok: @vickichanmd

Questions for you:

What type of life do you want?

What investments are you making in your marriage?

How can you design your life to promote more successful relationships with your children and your spouse?

What does marital interdependence mean to you and what does it take to achieve it and maintain it? In other words, what makes a successful marriage and how does it last?

First let’s talk about what does not make a successful marriage. 

Blame

Shame

Dependency

Relationships are not an emotional vending machine. We cannot pick and choose what we want our partner to feed us and how this will make us feel. If we want to be happy, we must first CHOOSE to be happy. 

If we aim to mold or change our partner, we set ourselves up for relationship havoc. 

So what makes a successful marriage? 

A relationship requires trust, individual happiness and shared goals. 

Your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you. Drop the expectations. Throw away the manual and exist from a place of love and support.

Love is not a fairytale or the perfect instagram photo. Love is failing and failing again and continuing to communicate, listen and hold space. Love is real life. Love has ups and downs and is rarely if ever 50/50. 

Relationships take time, attention and patience. Not everyday or every moment will be magical, but everyday does have the potential to provide growth and bonding as long as you vow to unconditionally love.   

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

• What makes a successful marriage
• How highly successful couples make their relationship work
• Why feeling like a failure is normal and part of the journey 
• Why dropping expectations could save your marriage
• What “your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you” means
• How to exist as a more supportive and loving partner in your relationship

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Drs. Letizia Alto & Kenji Asakura 
• • Semi-Retired MD, https://semiretiredmd.com
• Dr. Faryal Michaud 
• • Write Your Last Chapter, http://writeyourlastchapter.com
• Dr. Bonnie Koo 
• • Wealthy Mom MD, https://wealthymommd.com
• Dr. Barbara Hamilton 
• • Tired Superheroine, https://tiredsuperheroine.com
• Drs. Ali & Mark Novitsky 
• • Life Coaching for Women Physicians, https://www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com
• Dr. Devon Gimbel 
• • Physician Life Coaching, https://physicianlifecoaching.com 
• Dr. Katrina Samuels Hughes
• • Off the grid
• Dr. Robyn Frankel Tiger 
• • The Physicians' Self-Care Community, https://www.stressfreemd.net/
• Dr. Sunny Smith 

Empowering Women Physicians, https://empoweringwomenphysicians.com

What does marital interdependence mean to you and what does it take to achieve it and maintain it? In other words, what makes a successful marriage and how does it last?

First let’s talk about what does not make a successful marriage. 

Blame

Shame

Dependency

Relationships are not an emotional vending machine. We cannot pick and choose what we want our partner to feed us and how this will make us feel. If we want to be happy, we must first CHOOSE to be happy. 

If we aim to mold or change our partner, we set ourselves up for relationship havoc. 

So what makes a successful marriage? 

A relationship requires trust, individual happiness and shared goals. 

Your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you. Drop the expectations. Throw away the manual and exist from a place of love and support.

Love is not a fairytale or the perfect instagram photo. Love is failing and failing again and continuing to communicate, listen and hold space. Love is real life. Love has ups and downs and is rarely if ever 50/50. 

Relationships take time, attention and patience. Not everyday or every moment will be magical, but everyday does have the potential to provide growth and bonding as long as you vow to unconditionally love.   

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

• What makes a successful marriage
• How highly successful couples make their relationship work
• Why feeling like a failure is normal and part of the journey 
• Why dropping expectations could save your marriage
• What “your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you” means
• How to exist as a more supportive and loving partner in your relationship

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Drs. Letizia Alto & Kenji Asakura 
• • Semi-Retired MD, https://semiretiredmd.com
• Dr. Faryal Michaud 
• • Write Your Last Chapter, http://writeyourlastchapter.com
• Dr. Bonnie Koo 
• • Wealthy Mom MD, https://wealthymommd.com
• Dr. Barbara Hamilton 
• • Tired Superheroine, https://tiredsuperheroine.com
• Drs. Ali & Mark Novitsky 
• • Life Coaching for Women Physicians, https://www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com
• Dr. Devon Gimbel 
• • Physician Life Coaching, https://physicianlifecoaching.com 
• Dr. Katrina Samuels Hughes
• • Off the grid
• Dr. Robyn Frankel Tiger 
• • The Physicians' Self-Care Community, https://www.stressfreemd.net/
• Dr. Sunny Smith 

Empowering Women Physicians, https://empoweringwomenphysicians.com

Hi, friends! I'm Kate. With millions of podcasts on the air, you chose to stop by here. For that, I am grateful. I'd be even more appreciative if you subscribed to the show so you can hear more of it, but first, let me mention a bit about what you'll hear here. 

In this podcast, we will focus on creating marital interdependence and financial independence. In this space, we will examine what makes a strong relationship and what it takes to become financially independent with your spouse.

After each episode, I will invite you to ask yourself, “what small tweaks can I make today that will create a huge and lasting impact in my relationship with my spouse and my bank account?’’

We believe there is enough joy, love, and wealth in this world for everyone. It just takes determination, desire, and an open mind and heart to find it and take it.

Hi, friends! I'm Kate. With millions of podcasts on the air, you chose to stop by here. For that, I am grateful. I'd be even more appreciative if you subscribed to the show so you can hear more of it, but first, let me mention a bit about what you'll hear here. 

In this podcast, we will focus on creating marital interdependence and financial independence. In this space, we will examine what makes a strong relationship and what it takes to become financially independent with your spouse.

After each episode, I will invite you to ask yourself, “what small tweaks can I make today that will create a huge and lasting impact in my relationship with my spouse and my bank account?’’

We believe there is enough joy, love, and wealth in this world for everyone. It just takes determination, desire, and an open mind and heart to find it and take it.