Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• How Ni-Cheng’s cancer diagnosis during fellowship affected her relationship with medicine
• How taking a year off medicine helped her heal internally and externally
• How to thrive in medicine
• How she returned to medicine after changing her relationship with herself

Marriage 

• Meeting her hubby in 8th grade at the East Asian Volleyball circuit
• Her first impression of her hubby and his Red Honda Del Sol
• When her hubby knew Ni-Cheng was the one
• How her hubby expressed his love to her through “car talk”
• The devotion he showed while driving her to and from every single chemo appointment

Money:

• The balance of buying nice things and delayed gratification
• Taking deep breaths before making a purchase
• Need is a subjective word

Mindfulness:

• Embody what you teach
• Reframing difficult experiences as opportunities for learning
• Paying attention on purpose to the present moment at anytime or anywhere
• Breath, Attend, and Transition to more skillful action

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ni-Cheng Liang

1. Provide unconditional support for your spouse's hobbies and interests regardless of how random they are. Investing in each other in a way that provides space and unconditional love will pay off in the end. 
2. You owe it to yourself and to your spouse to prioritize taking care of yourself so that you can show up authentically and be fully present for your loved ones and patients. 
3. Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment at any time or anywhere. You can even do it now! Notice your breath, name what you are feeling, notice your thoughts and  transition to greater skillful action as opposed to reaction. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I work on my relationship with myself so that I can thrive in medicine?
• How is uncertainty, fear, and anxiety affecting the care of my patients? 
• Can I make my profession of love a game?
• How do I show myself compassion?
• How can I reframe my thoughts so that difficult experiences become learning opportunities?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://www.ncliangmd.com/
• Facebook: Ni-Cheng Liang
• Instagram: @ncliangmd
• Twitter: drnichengliang
• YoutTube: Awaken Breath 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her resistance to dating the chief radiology resident 
• Her thoughts on the quantity over quality shift at her practice
• When her arms became numb during breast biopsies

Marriage: 

• Friendship as the cornerstone of a marriage
• Understanding how someone needs to be loved
• Supporting your partner as they grow although you may not be growing in the same way
• How her husband supports her yoga journey without actually doing yoga with her

Money:

• Why being a saver and investor in residency helped her make the decision to leave medicine
• Their two accounts; the investment account and the fun account
• The desire to never spend more than they had
• The Karma check she received the day after signing up for yoga therapy school

Yoga Therapy:

• Her initial thoughts about how weird yogis were
• How her interest in yoga therapy began
• How neurophysiology can be controlled by evidence-based yoga practices
• How to find peace in chaos
• Why she does not associate yoga with fitness

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM ROBYN

1. Find gratitude before you even get out of bed. 
2. BREATHE….there is a reason why people tell us to breathe when we are stressed out. Breaths can elevate your mood, calm you down, Warm you, and cool you
3. We invest and save because our DREAM job NOW….may NOT be our DREAM job in 15 years.
4. It is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Is stress causing my physical ailments? If so, how can I learn how to respond instead of reacting to my stress?
• How can I find gratitude before I even get out of bed in the morning?
• Do I have what I want or want what I have?
• Do I feel stuck in my job? If so, why am I choosing to feel this way?
• How can I approach my day in a more calm way although everything around me maybe chaos?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://www.stressfreemd.net
• Free Physicians' 30 Minute Self-Care Webinar: https://joinnow.live/s/jbg7SA
• Rx Inner Peace: A Physician's Guide for Self-Care
• Online course: https://www.stressfreemd.net/inner-peace
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/stressfreemd/
• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thephysiciansselfcarecommunity
• Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/robyntigermd
• Instagram: @stressfreemd

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her resistance to dating the chief radiology resident 
• Her thoughts on the quantity over quality shift at her practice
• When her arms became numb during breast biopsies

Marriage: 

• Friendship as the cornerstone of a marriage
• Understanding how someone needs to be loved
• Supporting your partner as they grow although you may not be growing in the same way
• How her husband supports her yoga journey without actually doing yoga with her

Money:

• Why being a saver and investor in residency helped her make the decision to leave medicine
• Their two accounts; the investment account and the fun account
• The desire to never spend more than they had
• The Karma check she received the day after signing up for yoga therapy school

Yoga Therapy:

• Her initial thoughts about how weird yogis were
• How her interest in yoga therapy began
• How neurophysiology can be controlled by evidence-based yoga practices
• How to find peace in chaos
• Why she does not associate yoga with fitness

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM ROBYN

1. Find gratitude before you even get out of bed. 
2. BREATHE….there is a reason why people tell us to breathe when we are stressed out. Breaths can elevate your mood, calm you down, Warm you, and cool you
3. We invest and save because our DREAM job NOW….may NOT be our DREAM job in 15 years.
4. It is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Is stress causing my physical ailments? If so, how can I learn how to respond instead of reacting to my stress?
• How can I find gratitude before I even get out of bed in the morning?
• Do I have what I want or want what I have?
• Do I feel stuck in my job? If so, why am I choosing to feel this way?
• How can I approach my day in a more calm way although everything around me maybe chaos?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://www.stressfreemd.net
• Free Physicians' 30 Minute Self-Care Webinar: https://joinnow.live/s/jbg7SA
• Rx Inner Peace: A Physician's Guide for Self-Care
• Online course: https://www.stressfreemd.net/inner-peace
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/stressfreemd/
• Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thephysiciansselfcarecommunity
• Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/robyntigermd
• Instagram: @stressfreemd

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Ali & Mark’s conversation on the first day of medical school
• Assumptions people make when you are married to a  psychiatrist

Marriage: 

• Mark’s answer to Ali’s screening question “What sport did I play in high school?”
• How independent spousal goals coexist inside the big common marriage goal
• Why awareness is key when the relationship is not being prioritized  

Money:

• How coming from similar giving families contributes to their shared money mindset 
• Why the joint Novitsky bank account made sense before marriage
• What Ali hopes to achieve by investing in a business coach

Physician Entrepreneur:

• How Mark’s encouragement creates a greater sense of Ali’s belief in herself
• The flexibility of having one’s own business
• The “coach high” every time a client has a breakthrough
• Why her youngest child thinks Ali is a YouTube star
• How actions HUGELY influence our children...we are their HEROES...they see us and want to do what we do!!!

 TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ali & MARK

1. Create a space that lends to couple engagement.
2. Train your children to respect Parent time! 
3. Budget for Extras.
4. The moment you commit to your own health, your confidence will soar. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Why are our common goals? And what are your independent goals inside our bigger common goal?
• Have I trained my children to be respectful of my “me time”?
• How is my life serving as an example for my children or nieces or nephews?
• How am I creating an exciting and trusting environment for our relationship?
• How am I taking care of my body?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Mark's website: www.novitskymd.com
• Ali’s website: www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com
• Instagram: alinovitskymd
• Facebook: Ali Novitsky MD

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Ali & Mark’s conversation on the first day of medical school
• Assumptions people make when you are married to a  psychiatrist

Marriage: 

• Mark’s answer to Ali’s screening question “What sport did I play in high school?”
• How independent spousal goals coexist inside the big common marriage goal
• Why awareness is key when the relationship is not being prioritized  

Money:

• How coming from similar giving families contributes to their shared money mindset 
• Why the joint Novitsky bank account made sense before marriage
• What Ali hopes to achieve by investing in a business coach

Physician Entrepreneur:

• How Mark’s encouragement creates a greater sense of Ali’s belief in herself
• The flexibility of having one’s own business
• The “coach high” every time a client has a breakthrough
• Why her youngest child thinks Ali is a YouTube star
• How actions HUGELY influence our children...we are their HEROES...they see us and want to do what we do!!!

 TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ali & MARK

1. Create a space that lends to couple engagement.
2. Train your children to respect Parent time! 
3. Budget for Extras.
4. The moment you commit to your own health, your confidence will soar. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Why are our common goals? And what are your independent goals inside our bigger common goal?
• Have I trained my children to be respectful of my “me time”?
• How is my life serving as an example for my children or nieces or nephews?
• How am I creating an exciting and trusting environment for our relationship?
• How am I taking care of my body?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Mark's website: www.novitskymd.com
• Ali’s website: www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com
• Instagram: alinovitskymd
• Facebook: Ali Novitsky MD

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her rules on dating a medical school classmate and why this changed
• Expectations women physicians place on themselves

Marriage: 

• The emotional vending machine
• How to find time for your spouse during training 
• The transition to parenthood and recruiting help

Money:

• How a toilet cleaning wand brought awareness of her money scarcity
• Why money means freedom
• How you can afford anything, but not everything

Extra:

• How to differentiate what is happening from what we think is happening
• Why she rarely if ever struggles with Mom guilt

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DEVON

1. Your spouse is NOT an Emotional Vending Machine.   
2. When you have money, you have freedom.
3. Next time you think “I just want to live life on your own terms”, recognize that you already are! Own it!

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I place expectations upon myself because I think others are expecting things of me?
• Do I treat my spouse like an emotional vending machine?
• What are things I spend money on that truly bring me joy?
• What do I need for myself to be the best and most loving spouse and mother?
• How am I Iiving life on my own terms?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: physicianlifecoaching.com
• Email: [email protected]

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her rules on dating a medical school classmate and why this changed
• Expectations women physicians place on themselves

Marriage: 

• The emotional vending machine
• How to find time for your spouse during training 
• The transition to parenthood and recruiting help

Money:

• How a toilet cleaning wand brought awareness of her money scarcity
• Why money means freedom
• How you can afford anything, but not everything

Extra:

• How to differentiate what is happening from what we think is happening
• Why she rarely if ever struggles with Mom guilt

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DEVON

1. Your spouse is NOT an Emotional Vending Machine.   
2. When you have money, you have freedom.
3. Next time you think “I just want to live life on your own terms”, recognize that you already are! Own it!

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I place expectations upon myself because I think others are expecting things of me?
• Do I treat my spouse like an emotional vending machine?
• What are things I spend money on that truly bring me joy?
• What do I need for myself to be the best and most loving spouse and mother?
• How am I Iiving life on my own terms?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: physicianlifecoaching.com
• Email: [email protected]

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her views on being part-time in medicine 
• Why a pause is needed for health care professionals
• How “Physicians Living Intentionally” reenergizes  

Marriage:

• How they first met and then when they reconnected 9 years later 
• Why timing is everything
• Infatuation and what she saw flash through her head during a car accident 

Money:

1. How she takes charge of the finances  
2. What percentages of their income they save and spend
3. The smartest financial decision she has ever made in her life

The Permission: 

• How to define the gap in a relationship
• How to know when to leave a nontoxic relationship
• When she asked herself “Is this my happily ever after?”
• Why she gave herself permission

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM FARYAL

1. Why the smartest decision you may ever make in your life could potentially be marrying your spouse. And not for superficial reasons like income...
2. Sometimes we may find our “prince charming’ but may not be in the right emotional state to be with them at that time. Some things….perhaps even the BEST things take time.
3. Being intentional about spending quality time with your spouse, does not mean you have to like or do the same things together all the time. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I intentionally incorporate time with my spouse into my daily schedule?
• Am I giving myself permission to be happy? 
• Am I giving myself permission to recharge?
• How can I 100% support my spouse in their interests although they may not be the same as mine? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://writeyourlastchapter.com/

Facebook: Physicians Living Intentionally

Instagram: @writeyourlastchapter

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her views on being part-time in medicine 
• Why a pause is needed for health care professionals
• How “Physicians Living Intentionally” reenergizes  

Marriage:

• How they first met and then when they reconnected 9 years later 
• Why timing is everything
• Infatuation and what she saw flash through her head during a car accident 

Money:

1. How she takes charge of the finances  
2. What percentages of their income they save and spend
3. The smartest financial decision she has ever made in her life

The Permission: 

• How to define the gap in a relationship
• How to know when to leave a nontoxic relationship
• When she asked herself “Is this my happily ever after?”
• Why she gave herself permission

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM FARYAL

1. Why the smartest decision you may ever make in your life could potentially be marrying your spouse. And not for superficial reasons like income...
2. Sometimes we may find our “prince charming’ but may not be in the right emotional state to be with them at that time. Some things….perhaps even the BEST things take time.
3. Being intentional about spending quality time with your spouse, does not mean you have to like or do the same things together all the time. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I intentionally incorporate time with my spouse into my daily schedule?
• Am I giving myself permission to be happy? 
• Am I giving myself permission to recharge?
• How can I 100% support my spouse in their interests although they may not be the same as mine? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: https://writeyourlastchapter.com/

Facebook: Physicians Living Intentionally

Instagram: @writeyourlastchapter

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Why a California girl would move to India for medical school after high school 
• Why a very successful pediatrician took a 3.5-year maternity leave
• How Integrative medicine and mindfulness can better serve our patients

Marriage: 

• How coaching can be life-saving
• The two most common reasons couples argue 
• When she realized she could not change him and, instead, changed herself...and then he noticed

Money:

• Her method for demonstrating the concepts of saving, spending, and donating to young children
• How she teaches her 2nd grader to diversify while investing 

Parenting:

• The false perception that a Nanny can raise your kids
• Learning to value herself after years of motherhood and exhaustion
• How she mindfully parents through the pandemic
• Why her children are no longer the center of her household
• When she no longer strives to be the “Perfect Parent”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PAYAL

1. People who are happy with their work do it better! 
2. Set boundaries for yourself because you cannot care for your children if you are running on empty. When you are not in a good mindset they will notice!
3. Although you may disagree with your spouse at the moment it is important to show respect, especially if in front of children. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How do I value myself as a person apart from my role as a parent or spouse?
• How can I integrate mindfulness into my parenting or doctoring? How can I focus on the moment without worrying about the past or the future?
• What boundary or goal can I set today that will help me prioritize myself and, in turn, my spouse and family?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Website: mdthemindfuldoctor.com

Facebook: @MDTheMindfulDoctor

Instagram: mdthemindfuldoctor

*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network