Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Finding love at the hospital

Marriage: 

• Knowing who the most important person in your life is
• What made Leti different from every other girl
• “Stacking” and how criticism can destroy a relationship
• What people tend to overvalue and undervalue in a relationship
• How what you say in your head affects your relationship
• The three “C”s and three “U”s
• How expectations can get you into trouble
• The 90 Days of Serving without any expectations belief 
• How to treat your marriage like a thriving business

Money:

• Why divorce was her smartest financial decision
• How starting with the outcome in mind makes every decision easy
• How having a business mission statement makes money
• The importance of having mutual money goals

Confidence/Extra:

• Why confidence attracted them to each other 
• What being in a beautiful state means
• Why bing creative and caring is so important
• What priming is  
• Constantly moving forward even when feeling terrified
• Self-confidence comes from doing hard things
• Turning “I Can’t” to “How can I?”
• The meaning you give everything that happens in your life

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. Leti & Kenji

1. Become aware of the manual you have for our spouse. 
2. Marriage can be easy, yet you can always strive to get better.
3. Find 3 days a year you can spend with only your spouse to work only on the marriage. Figure out where you want the relationship to go and what you want to work on.
4. Be aware of the three “C”s of masculine energy: Control, Criticism, Closed. And the three “U”s of feminine energy: Unseen, Unsafe, and "Ununderstood".

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I respect my spouse’s individuality?
• Am I aware of the manual I have for my spouse?
• Who do I make a priority in my life?
• Do I enjoy telling the story of how I met my spouse?
• Do I assume my spouse will always be there? Do I take them for granted? If so, how is this affecting our relationship?
• Where do I want my relationship to go in 2021?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://semiretiredmd.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/semiretiredphysicians
• Instagram: @semiretiredmd

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• How do decrease burnout in medicine

Marriage: 

• Bonding over the loss of family members and friends
• How he spoke about other women and what that meant to Latifat
• The perfect proposal before her graduation from medical school
• Their long distance relationship

Money:

• Why a live-in Granny Nanny is worth every penny
• The guidelines of the post bedtime money dates
• The most expensive thing to them

Parenting:

• Whoever wakes up first, gets in trouble.
• “Mommy teaches people how to use money for good.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE AKINTADES

1. Keep things simple. Schedule a regular time and place to meet for a weekly date so that you don’t have to think about anything else except being with your hunny. 
2. Go on money dates with guidelines, curiosity and no judgement. 
3. Money has no emotions. Money only has the emotions you give it.
4. Relationships...are NOT something that happen, they are something that is CREATED. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Am I emotional about money?
• Do I think of purchases or debt as good or bad or as increasing or decreasing my net worth and how does this subtle change affect my mindset?
• Do I approach my student loans from a place of gratitude or a place of fear? Do I demonize my medical school loans?
• Do I pay my debt down from a place of scarcity or a place of abundance? How would this make a difference?
• Do I take calculated risks?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.moneyfitmd.com
• Facebook: www.Facebook.com/moneyfitmd 
• Instagram: @MoneyfitMD

   

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• How do decrease burnout in medicine

Marriage: 

• Bonding over the loss of family members and friends
• How he spoke about other women and what that meant to Latifat
• The perfect proposal before her graduation from medical school
• Their long distance relationship

Money:

• Why a live-in Granny Nanny is worth every penny
• The guidelines of the post bedtime money dates
• The most expensive thing to them

Parenting:

• Whoever wakes up first, gets in trouble.
• “Mommy teaches people how to use money for good.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE AKINTADES

1. Keep things simple. Schedule a regular time and place to meet for a weekly date so that you don’t have to think about anything else except being with your hunny. 
2. Go on money dates with guidelines, curiosity and no judgement. 
3. Money has no emotions. Money only has the emotions you give it.
4. Relationships...are NOT something that happen, they are something that is CREATED. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Am I emotional about money?
• Do I think of purchases or debt as good or bad or as increasing or decreasing my net worth and how does this subtle change affect my mindset?
• Do I approach my student loans from a place of gratitude or a place of fear? Do I demonize my medical school loans?
• Do I pay my debt down from a place of scarcity or a place of abundance? How would this make a difference?
• Do I take calculated risks?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.moneyfitmd.com
• Facebook: www.Facebook.com/moneyfitmd 
• Instagram: @MoneyfitMD

   

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Medicine: 

• The downsides and upsides of not being in a Dermatology practice 
• Thinking about the experience from the patient perspective
• Changing her thought from “I cannot find a job because of this pandemic” to “How can I still make money although I cannot get a job as a Dermatologist during the pandemic” 

Marriage: 

• Your partner is not responsible for your happiness
•  
• After graduating residency, she had dates lined up before she even moved to New York
• Her “speed dating” journey
• The magic lightning bolt
• What is the rush to know the answer?

Money:

• Why being engaged for several years has been a financial decision
• How she feels about being the breadwiner
• How her thoughts about what income her spouse should make have evolved
• Why utilizing the money you make as physician is your superpower

Extra:

• Allowing yourself to be a beginner
• Living your dream
• Using your superpower

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. BONNIE KOO

1. Always pay yourself first!!!! 
2. As a physician entrepreneur (or not), KNOW, you don’t have to figure it all out yourself. Your superpower is the ability to hire help!
3. Feeling anxious about money has NOTHING to do with how much money you have in your bank account or investment account.
4. The key to happiness is knowing you will ALWAYS BE OKAY because YOU will ALWAYS have your back! 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I believe I can just figure it all out myself?
• Am I in a rush to find out answers in my life? Why?
• Do I feel anxious or stressed about money? If so, when will this change?
• How can I make more money or make my money work for me?
• Do I allow myself to be a beginner when trying new things or adventures?
• Am I meant for something more?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: wealthymommd.com
• Facebook: WealthyMomMD
• Instagram: @wealthyMomMD

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Medicine: 

• The downsides and upsides of not being in a Dermatology practice 
• Thinking about the experience from the patient perspective
• Changing her thought from “I cannot find a job because of this pandemic” to “How can I still make money although I cannot get a job as a Dermatologist during the pandemic” 

Marriage: 

• Your partner is not responsible for your happiness
•  
• After graduating residency, she had dates lined up before she even moved to New York
• Her “speed dating” journey
• The magic lightning bolt
• What is the rush to know the answer?

Money:

• Why being engaged for several years has been a financial decision
• How she feels about being the breadwiner
• How her thoughts about what income her spouse should make have evolved
• Why utilizing the money you make as physician is your superpower

Extra:

• Allowing yourself to be a beginner
• Living your dream
• Using your superpower

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. BONNIE KOO

1. Always pay yourself first!!!! 
2. As a physician entrepreneur (or not), KNOW, you don’t have to figure it all out yourself. Your superpower is the ability to hire help!
3. Feeling anxious about money has NOTHING to do with how much money you have in your bank account or investment account.
4. The key to happiness is knowing you will ALWAYS BE OKAY because YOU will ALWAYS have your back! 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I believe I can just figure it all out myself?
• Am I in a rush to find out answers in my life? Why?
• Do I feel anxious or stressed about money? If so, when will this change?
• How can I make more money or make my money work for me?
• Do I allow myself to be a beginner when trying new things or adventures?
• Am I meant for something more?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: wealthymommd.com
• Facebook: WealthyMomMD
• Instagram: @wealthyMomMD

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Falling in love the first few months of medical school
• How the shift from medical school to education Masters and PhD helped them grow together 
• Remembering why he went into medicine and plastic surgery

Marriage: 

• Meeting someone who pushes and challenges the other person
• When he took an interest in what she loved
• How they act as each other accountability partners

Money:

• The evolution away from a fearful relationship with finances
• The realization they were spending their paychecks each month 
• Selenid’s original thoughts about real estate investing 
• The smartest financial decision they ever made

Mindset:

• Why are you telling yourself that story?
• The TWO steps of any big adventure
• Embracing your fears

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM JORDAN AND SELENID

1. So when it comes to you and your spouse, do not hesitate to prioritize each other’s goals and passions! It will only strengthen your marriage.
2. When your spouse comes to you with what you think is a crazy idea (i.e. investing in RE or running an Airbnb in your own home), do you say “Are you crazy” or do you say “Tell me more”. Jordan and Selenid suggest trying out the latter for loving reasons:) Try it out, friends. Get curious. Unless you are wanting severe consequences, go ahead and get curious before crushing dreams and killing the sparks. 
3. Having 1, 5, and 10-year goals helps your marriage and your mindset. MINDSET is SO IMPORTANT. Why are you telling yourself that story?? Remember, this is not a natural question for most of us...so please please work on asking yourself this question daily...about all your thoughts!!! I promise. This will be a game-changer. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• What type of relationship do I have with my paycheck?
• Do I prioritize my spouse’s interests and passions as much as my own or more?
• Do I believe having or wanting money makes me selfish?
• Am I doing things I think I cannot do??? If not, when can I start?
• What is the smartest financial decision I plan to make this year?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Jordan:

• Course: https://the-prudent-plastic-surgeon.mykajabi.com/a/40404/zQyRiviT
• IG: @jordanfreymd 
• Twitter: @JordanFreyMD
• Facebook: Jordan Frey
• Blog: www.prudentplasticsurgeon.com

Selenid:

• IG: @selenidfrey
• Twitter: @SelenidFrey
• Facebook: Selenid Gonzalez-Frey

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Course Link: https://the-prudent-plastic-surgeon.mykajabi.com/a/40404/zQyRiviT

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Falling in love the first few months of medical school
• How the shift from medical school to education Masters and PhD helped them grow together 
• Remembering why he went into medicine and plastic surgery

Marriage: 

• Meeting someone who pushes and challenges the other person
• When he took an interest in what she loved
• How they act as each other accountability partners

Money:

• The evolution away from a fearful relationship with finances
• The realization they were spending their paychecks each month 
• Selenid’s original thoughts about real estate investing 
• The smartest financial decision they ever made

Mindset:

• Why are you telling yourself that story?
• The TWO steps of any big adventure
• Embracing your fears

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM JORDAN AND SELENID

1. So when it comes to you and your spouse, do not hesitate to prioritize each other’s goals and passions! It will only strengthen your marriage.
2. When your spouse comes to you with what you think is a crazy idea (i.e. investing in RE or running an Airbnb in your own home), do you say “Are you crazy” or do you say “Tell me more”. Jordan and Selenid suggest trying out the latter for loving reasons:) Try it out, friends. Get curious. Unless you are wanting severe consequences, go ahead and get curious before crushing dreams and killing the sparks. 
3. Having 1, 5, and 10-year goals helps your marriage and your mindset. MINDSET is SO IMPORTANT. Why are you telling yourself that story?? Remember, this is not a natural question for most of us...so please please work on asking yourself this question daily...about all your thoughts!!! I promise. This will be a game-changer. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• What type of relationship do I have with my paycheck?
• Do I prioritize my spouse’s interests and passions as much as my own or more?
• Do I believe having or wanting money makes me selfish?
• Am I doing things I think I cannot do??? If not, when can I start?
• What is the smartest financial decision I plan to make this year?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Jordan:

• Course: https://the-prudent-plastic-surgeon.mykajabi.com/a/40404/zQyRiviT
• IG: @jordanfreymd 
• Twitter: @JordanFreyMD
• Facebook: Jordan Frey
• Blog: www.prudentplasticsurgeon.com

Selenid:

• IG: @selenidfrey
• Twitter: @SelenidFrey
• Facebook: Selenid Gonzalez-Frey

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

Course Link: https://the-prudent-plastic-surgeon.mykajabi.com/a/40404/zQyRiviT

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• The shock, sadness, and action created after a visit to her OB/GYN at the age of 35

Marriage: 

• How to allow your spouse to grow into the best version of themselves
• Why unconditional love is NOT a condition
• How her traumatic bicycle accident affected her marriage
• Why it only takes ONE person to make your relationship better

Money:

• Why they aggressively paid down their debt and borrowed all the baby things
• What dipping her toes into real estate looks like
• Her hubby’s thoughts of the $297 boxes she received in the mail

Mantra:

“There will be no bad days.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM SUNNY

1. Recognize what you can control and recognize what you cannot control. Chances are if you are suffering in your relationship, so is your partner...so the question becomes...how do you decrease your own suffering? 
2. Am I arguing with reality….Am I agonizing....ruminating or regretting a part of my past or present instead of being grateful for your present  What do I already have that I take for granted? 
3. How am I trying to change my spouse? Maybe nothing major...but something small. And in doing so...am I stealing my spouse’s joy? 
4. It only takes one person to make the relationship better.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• If my spouse was not here at this moment, how would I find a way?
• When it gets ugly...when the times get tough….because it will, how will I be here for my spouse, for me, and for us?
• What if today was the last day I had on earth? How would I spend it? What would I say or do with my spouse? What would I be grateful for?
• What am I bringing to my marriage?
• Is my happiness dependent on my spouse filling my cup?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: Empoweringwomenphysicians.com
• Podcast: Empowering Women Physicians
• Facebook: Empowering Women Physicians
• Instagram: @EmpoweringWomenPhysicians

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• The shock, sadness, and action created after a visit to her OB/GYN at the age of 35

Marriage: 

• How to allow your spouse to grow into the best version of themselves
• Why unconditional love is NOT a condition
• How her traumatic bicycle accident affected her marriage
• Why it only takes ONE person to make your relationship better

Money:

• Why they aggressively paid down their debt and borrowed all the baby things
• What dipping her toes into real estate looks like
• Her hubby’s thoughts of the $297 boxes she received in the mail

Mantra:

“There will be no bad days.”

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM SUNNY

1. Recognize what you can control and recognize what you cannot control. Chances are if you are suffering in your relationship, so is your partner...so the question becomes...how do you decrease your own suffering? 
2. Am I arguing with reality….Am I agonizing....ruminating or regretting a part of my past or present instead of being grateful for your present  What do I already have that I take for granted? 
3. How am I trying to change my spouse? Maybe nothing major...but something small. And in doing so...am I stealing my spouse’s joy? 
4. It only takes one person to make the relationship better.

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• If my spouse was not here at this moment, how would I find a way?
• When it gets ugly...when the times get tough….because it will, how will I be here for my spouse, for me, and for us?
• What if today was the last day I had on earth? How would I spend it? What would I say or do with my spouse? What would I be grateful for?
• What am I bringing to my marriage?
• Is my happiness dependent on my spouse filling my cup?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: Empoweringwomenphysicians.com
• Podcast: Empowering Women Physicians
• Facebook: Empowering Women Physicians
• Instagram: @EmpoweringWomenPhysicians

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• How Ni-Cheng’s cancer diagnosis during fellowship affected her relationship with medicine
• How taking a year off medicine helped her heal internally and externally
• How to thrive in medicine
• How she returned to medicine after changing her relationship with herself

Marriage 

• Meeting her hubby in 8th grade at the East Asian Volleyball circuit
• Her first impression of her hubby and his Red Honda Del Sol
• When her hubby knew Ni-Cheng was the one
• How her hubby expressed his love to her through “car talk”
• The devotion he showed while driving her to and from every single chemo appointment

Money:

• The balance of buying nice things and delayed gratification
• Taking deep breaths before making a purchase
• Need is a subjective word

Mindfulness:

• Embody what you teach
• Reframing difficult experiences as opportunities for learning
• Paying attention on purpose to the present moment at anytime or anywhere
• Breath, Attend, and Transition to more skillful action

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ni-Cheng Liang

1. Provide unconditional support for your spouse's hobbies and interests regardless of how random they are. Investing in each other in a way that provides space and unconditional love will pay off in the end. 
2. You owe it to yourself and to your spouse to prioritize taking care of yourself so that you can show up authentically and be fully present for your loved ones and patients. 
3. Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment at any time or anywhere. You can even do it now! Notice your breath, name what you are feeling, notice your thoughts and  transition to greater skillful action as opposed to reaction. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• How can I work on my relationship with myself so that I can thrive in medicine?
• How is uncertainty, fear, and anxiety affecting the care of my patients? 
• Can I make my profession of love a game?
• How do I show myself compassion?
• How can I reframe my thoughts so that difficult experiences become learning opportunities?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://www.ncliangmd.com/
• Facebook: Ni-Cheng Liang
• Instagram: @ncliangmd
• Twitter: drnichengliang
• YoutTube: Awaken Breath 

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network