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Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona episodes

  • 27. Moving Through Pain During Infertility with Dr. Maneesha Ahluwalia

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

    If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!

    If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

    If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

     

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

     

    Medicine: 

    • How she fell forward from her first attending job into something powerful
    • Why she decided to work for Doctors without Borders in Cambodia, Uganda & Kenya

     

    Marriage: 

    • How she stays curious in her marriage 
    • Bonding over the shoe size, toastmasters, humanitarian, and a shared burger on the first date
    • On which day of dating he said, “I love you” 

     

    Money:

    • Fertility costs and how you never know how many years you will need to plan into the fertility journey
    • Why she cares about learning the finances although her hubby does most of the spreadsheets
    • How her real estate interests have evolved 

     

    Fertility:

    • Their brief separation because of different child/baby wants
    • Her journey through multiple miscarriages, IUI, IVF,
    • What it means to “have my own back” during her fertility journey
    • Discovering physician empowerment
    • What moving through pain looks like to Maneesha  

     

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR MANEESHA AHLUWALIA

    1. Being excited about pregnancy does not make the pain any worse during a miscarriage. It is still painful. It was always going to be as painful. Allowing the emotion of excitement during the initial phases of the pregnancy journey does make it MORE painful than it would have otherwise been without the excitement. Avoiding the pain forever is impossible. Feeling the pain and moving through the pain is the goal.
    2. We are not victims of what happens in life. Every decision, every path, every emotion we experience is a choice. Doctors may say funny things. Friends may say odd things. Nurses, family, and coworkers may say strange things. They often just want to say something, but do not know what to say? Why? Because everyone needs to hear different things. So, it does not matter what people say. Do not be a victim of the words or actions of others. We can choose how we interpret the words of others. We have the power to choose what to hear. 
    3. When someone in our life may be experiencing miscarriage, fertility issues, or child loss, these are things we can say: I am here for you. I am listening to you. You get to think what you are thinking. You get to feel what you are feeling. We can talk about it or we do not need talk about it.

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • How do I stay curious in my marriage or relationship?
    • How can I stop being a victim of other people’s words? 
    • Am I telling myself that I am doing enough today?
    • How can I be more comfortable in my own skin today?
    • Do I fear getting too excited in my journey because I fear disappointment and failure? 

     

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Coaching Link: https://LifeCoachingwithManeeshaAhluwaliaMD.as.me/
    • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Life-Coaching-with-Maneesha-Ahluwalia-MD-104629444745857
    • Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/maneesha17

     

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

     

    SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller

    45 min
  • 26. Fertility Found During a Career in Medicine with Dr. Kate Hoppock

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

    If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

    If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

    If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

     

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

    Medicine: 

    • Working three jobs before medical school 
    • Her love-hate relationship with medicine 
    • Avoiding asking questions about maternity leave on the job trail.

    Marriage: 

    • How she and Dan continued to choose each other over and over again
    • How we can create change for the better in medicine
    • Accepting their differences 

    Money:

    • Sharing money since they were children
    • What they consider a shared money mentality
    • Treating money as a tool
    • Being in sync on what is financially responsible and having open communication
    • How she felt about spending money on IVF, which never comes with guaranteed results. 

    Fertility:

    • Forgiving medicine and her career path during fertility challenges 
    • When these conversations do not happen during medical education
    • Kate’s initial confusion when Dan’s thoughts were different from hers during her roller coaster of emotions  

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KATE HAPPOCK

    1. How to create change in medicine. Especially when it comes to maternity leave, breastfeeding, parental obligations, work-life integration…. Starts with small conversations and supporting our colleagues. Let us be the cheerleader for our fellow physicians. Let us build each other up. Let us check on each other. Let us NOT engage in conversations that focus on degrading each other as those rarely build anything construction and definitely do not help our patients or health care in general If it is the change we want, regardless if it is for our patients, for our staff, or for our fellow physician colleagues, we can start by focusing on all the small things we can do each day. Daily conversations, compassion, and support. 
    2. Our worth as physicians is not tied to how many hours we work each day or how many days a week we spend in the hospital or in the clinic. We are ALL high achievers, so stop judging, stop shaming, and start valuing each minute, each moment we care for patients, for ourselves, our for our families. 
    3. When our spouse has different feelings from us about any life circumstance, this does NOT minimize ours and vice versa. We are each allowed to have our own thoughts about everything. We are each on our own journey. I distinctly remember the first year Victor and I were trying to get pregnant and each time I got my period I would cry and he would not and I honestly did NOT understand how he was not in pain and sadness like I was. I did not understand then what now. I truly appreciate Dr. Hoppock’s wisdom when it comes to allowing these differences in emotions that will inevitably arrive along the journey of life.  

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • Am I choosing love every day?
    • How do I value my worth as a physician?
    • How can I accept the differences between my experience and my spouse’s experiences during the same journey?  
    • How do I define the story of my life?
    • How can I have more self-compassion for myself? 

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Website: https://www.fertilityfound.com/
    • Facebook: @FertilityFound
    • Instagram: @fertilityfound
    • Email: [email protected]

     

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

     

    SPONSOR: www.doctorpodcastnetwork.com/medevolve

    56 min
  • 26. Fertility Found During a Career in Medicine with Dr. Kate Hoppock

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

    If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!

    If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!

    If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!

     

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

    Medicine: 

    • Working three jobs before medical school 
    • Her love-hate relationship with medicine 
    • Avoiding asking questions about maternity leave on the job trail.

    Marriage: 

    • How she and Dan continued to choose each other over and over again
    • How we can create change for the better in medicine
    • Accepting their differences 

    Money:

    • Sharing money since they were children
    • What they consider a shared money mentality
    • Treating money as a tool
    • Being in sync on what is financially responsible and having open communication
    • How she felt about spending money on IVF, which never comes with guaranteed results. 

    Fertility:

    • Forgiving medicine and her career path during fertility challenges 
    • When these conversations do not happen during medical education
    • Kate’s initial confusion when Dan’s thoughts were different from hers during her roller coaster of emotions  

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KATE HAPPOCK

    1. How to create change in medicine. Especially when it comes to maternity leave, breastfeeding, parental obligations, work-life integration…. Starts with small conversations and supporting our colleagues. Let us be the cheerleader for our fellow physicians. Let us build each other up. Let us check on each other. Let us NOT engage in conversations that focus on degrading each other as those rarely build anything construction and definitely do not help our patients or health care in general If it is the change we want, regardless if it is for our patients, for our staff, or for our fellow physician colleagues, we can start by focusing on all the small things we can do each day. Daily conversations, compassion, and support. 
    2. Our worth as physicians is not tied to how many hours we work each day or how many days a week we spend in the hospital or in the clinic. We are ALL high achievers, so stop judging, stop shaming, and start valuing each minute, each moment we care for patients, for ourselves, our for our families. 
    3. When our spouse has different feelings from us about any life circumstance, this does NOT minimize ours and vice versa. We are each allowed to have our own thoughts about everything. We are each on our own journey. I distinctly remember the first year Victor and I were trying to get pregnant and each time I got my period I would cry and he would not and I honestly did NOT understand how he was not in pain and sadness like I was. I did not understand then what now. I truly appreciate Dr. Hoppock’s wisdom when it comes to allowing these differences in emotions that will inevitably arrive along the journey of life.  

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • Am I choosing love every day?
    • How do I value my worth as a physician?
    • How can I accept the differences between my experience and my spouse’s experiences during the same journey?  
    • How do I define the story of my life?
    • How can I have more self-compassion for myself? 

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Website: https://www.fertilityfound.com/
    • Facebook: @FertilityFound
    • Instagram: @fertilityfound
    • Email: [email protected]

     

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

     

    SPONSOR: www.doctorpodcastnetwork.com/medevolve

    56 min
  • 25. Uncompromising Intimacy with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions or suggestions!

    If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

     

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

    Medicine: 

    • The first time teachers did not seem to care about the students learning
    • Why the Dean of her Medical school supported her pregnancy and child leave during medical school
    • Meeting her future spouse in medical school as she turned pages for a concert pianist
    • Her surprise when she was not as satisfied in her physician career as she had expected
    • Why she and her hubby each took a year off from medical school

    Marriage: 

    • Why the foundation of their relationship is devotion to personal growth
    • How sharing your truth changes your marriage
    • How falling in love can look different
    • How having divorced parents initially influenced how she thought about the trajectory of her marriage

    Money:

    • Moving to rural Kansas for two years to get ahead financially

    Intimacy:

    • Why it is important to remember what drew you to your spouse

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. ALEXANDRA STOCKWELL

    1. Every interaction or non-interaction between our spouse and us is either moving us towards connection or driving us away from connection. Enhance every moment in order to foster more love and this will result in a more intimate relationship.
    2. Be authentic. Hiding or walking on eggshells does not lead to connection. Figure out a way to regain friendship and love and if WE cannot do this on our own, maybe it is time to consider seeking help. 
    3. Discovering what the foundation of our relationship with our spouse is may draw us closer to them and foster more connection. What is it? For Dr. Stockwell, she took us on her journey of their devotion to each other’s personal growth. Imagine how our relationship could enter the next level if we invited this concept into our lives and relationships.

     

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • What drew me to my spouse or my partner?
    • What bothers me about my spouse and how can I transform my bother to something more helpful for our relationship?
    • How can I bring up difficult conversations in a non-threatening way?
    • How can I create more emotional intimacy in my relationship?

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Website: www.alexandrastockwell.com
    • FB https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7
    • IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/
    • LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/
    • Book “Uncompromising Intimacy” which is available on Kindle, paperback, and Audible https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

    SPONSOR: http://www.doctorpodcastnetwork.com/resolve

    1 hr 17 min
  • 25. Uncompromising Intimacy with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions or suggestions!

    If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

     

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE

    Medicine: 

    • The first time teachers did not seem to care about the students learning
    • Why the Dean of her Medical school supported her pregnancy and child leave during medical school
    • Meeting her future spouse in medical school as she turned pages for a concert pianist
    • Her surprise when she was not as satisfied in her physician career as she had expected
    • Why she and her hubby each took a year off from medical school

    Marriage: 

    • Why the foundation of their relationship is devotion to personal growth
    • How sharing your truth changes your marriage
    • How falling in love can look different
    • How having divorced parents initially influenced how she thought about the trajectory of her marriage

    Money:

    • Moving to rural Kansas for two years to get ahead financially

    Intimacy:

    • Why it is important to remember what drew you to your spouse

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. ALEXANDRA STOCKWELL

    1. Every interaction or non-interaction between our spouse and us is either moving us towards connection or driving us away from connection. Enhance every moment in order to foster more love and this will result in a more intimate relationship.
    2. Be authentic. Hiding or walking on eggshells does not lead to connection. Figure out a way to regain friendship and love and if WE cannot do this on our own, maybe it is time to consider seeking help. 
    3. Discovering what the foundation of our relationship with our spouse is may draw us closer to them and foster more connection. What is it? For Dr. Stockwell, she took us on her journey of their devotion to each other’s personal growth. Imagine how our relationship could enter the next level if we invited this concept into our lives and relationships.

     

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • What drew me to my spouse or my partner?
    • What bothers me about my spouse and how can I transform my bother to something more helpful for our relationship?
    • How can I bring up difficult conversations in a non-threatening way?
    • How can I create more emotional intimacy in my relationship?

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Website: www.alexandrastockwell.com
    • FB https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7
    • IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/
    • LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/
    • Book “Uncompromising Intimacy” which is available on Kindle, paperback, and Audible https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

    SPONSOR: http://www.doctorpodcastnetwork.com/resolve

    1 hr 17 min
  • 24. The Best Way To Communicate In Bed with Dr. MeLanie Modjoros

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions or suggestions!

    If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

    Medicine: 

    • Her transition from OB/GYN residency to Internal Medicine residency
    • Her unicorn career seeing 28 patients a day for 5 years for only gynecologic concerns
    • Common issues MeLanie saw as an internist specializing in pelvic pain

    Marriage: 

    • Why the words “Eugene” and “rocket scientist” sparked her interest while on-line dating 
    • The devotion MeLanie’s future husband showered upon her only a month after meeting
    • Why she knew he was the one after 3 months and wanted him to propose after 6 months of dating

    Money:

    • The financial discussion between her and her hubby when she transitioned from Internal Medicine Physician to Sex Counselor 

    Sex:

    • How the mind-body connection affects sex
    • How to communicate in bed
    • Why acknowledging a partner's emotions are key
    • Why assuming a spouse has the best intentions works 
    • What natural avoidance is
    • Why pelvic pain may cause guilt, shame, & confusion 

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. MELANIE MODJOROS

    1. Take responsibility for every emotion regarding love and intimacy. We have the power to make things better or worse. If we feel stuck and are not actively working towards making things, better, chances are they may be getting worse. Let us not be afraid to talk openly about our feelings with our partner using I statements while fully clothed. This may be hard and uncomfortable and that is okay. If unsure where to start, seek help from a professional.
    2. The biggest determining factor for wanting to have sex again is the feelings we have at the end of the last sexual encounter.
    3. People always say, “Sex was so easy when we were young and it was never scheduled.”, the truth is, it usually WAS scheduled, we just didn’t think of it that way because the words “SEX DATE” were not on our google calendar. We usually just got dolled up or manned up, shaved our legs or face, and went out on a Friday night or Saturday night date! It is OKAY to schedule sex….call it anything….cocktail night, cuddle night, snuggle puppy party time as one of my dear friends calls it.

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • Do I take responsibility for my feelings?
    • Do I communicate what I want in bed and why?
    • Do I assume my partner has the best intentions at heart?
    • Do I believe in any sex myths such as “Men always want sex” or “A man’s erection equals his attraction to me?” If so, why?
    • Would scheduling sex be helpful for my marriage?
    • Do I enjoy sex?
    • Does my spouse enjoy sex?
    • How can we enhance our sex life?

     

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    Website: https://www.sexualhealthconsultants.com/

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

    57 min
  • 24. The Best Way To Communicate In Bed with Dr. MeLanie Modjoros

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions or suggestions!

    If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

    Medicine: 

    • Her transition from OB/GYN residency to Internal Medicine residency
    • Her unicorn career seeing 28 patients a day for 5 years for only gynecologic concerns
    • Common issues MeLanie saw as an internist specializing in pelvic pain

    Marriage: 

    • Why the words “Eugene” and “rocket scientist” sparked her interest while on-line dating 
    • The devotion MeLanie’s future husband showered upon her only a month after meeting
    • Why she knew he was the one after 3 months and wanted him to propose after 6 months of dating

    Money:

    • The financial discussion between her and her hubby when she transitioned from Internal Medicine Physician to Sex Counselor 

    Sex:

    • How the mind-body connection affects sex
    • How to communicate in bed
    • Why acknowledging a partner's emotions are key
    • Why assuming a spouse has the best intentions works 
    • What natural avoidance is
    • Why pelvic pain may cause guilt, shame, & confusion 

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. MELANIE MODJOROS

    1. Take responsibility for every emotion regarding love and intimacy. We have the power to make things better or worse. If we feel stuck and are not actively working towards making things, better, chances are they may be getting worse. Let us not be afraid to talk openly about our feelings with our partner using I statements while fully clothed. This may be hard and uncomfortable and that is okay. If unsure where to start, seek help from a professional.
    2. The biggest determining factor for wanting to have sex again is the feelings we have at the end of the last sexual encounter.
    3. People always say, “Sex was so easy when we were young and it was never scheduled.”, the truth is, it usually WAS scheduled, we just didn’t think of it that way because the words “SEX DATE” were not on our google calendar. We usually just got dolled up or manned up, shaved our legs or face, and went out on a Friday night or Saturday night date! It is OKAY to schedule sex….call it anything….cocktail night, cuddle night, snuggle puppy party time as one of my dear friends calls it.

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • Do I take responsibility for my feelings?
    • Do I communicate what I want in bed and why?
    • Do I assume my partner has the best intentions at heart?
    • Do I believe in any sex myths such as “Men always want sex” or “A man’s erection equals his attraction to me?” If so, why?
    • Would scheduling sex be helpful for my marriage?
    • Do I enjoy sex?
    • Does my spouse enjoy sex?
    • How can we enhance our sex life?

     

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    Website: https://www.sexualhealthconsultants.com/

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

    57 min
  • 23. Sex: Are You Broken? with Dr. Kelly Casperson

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

    If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE

    Medicine: 

    • Why she did not want to marry a surgeon
    • Being told in urology residency “Women are complicated”
    • Why she prefers the pelvis over the neck

    Marriage: 

    • Meeting while he was in Armenia and she was in Uganda
    • He is her rock and her calm
    • How love languages can help any relationship

    Money:

    • Having quarterly meetings about finance 
    • Her scarcity mindset and his abundance mindset
    • What her financial splurge are

    Sex Myths:

    • T or F: Most of sex-education is fear-based
    • T or F: Sex is supposed to be easy.
    • T or F: Why spontaneous desire does not just happen
    • T or F: There is normal sexual desire.
    • T or F: The answer to good sex life is a good glass of wine

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM KELLY

    1. No one can give you more sexual desire. This comes from within. Discovering your limiting beliefs.
    2. Don’t treat your spouse like you treat your employees (if you are a surgeon or demanding of your employees)
    3. Don’t try to change your spouse. The love that can be created from loving them exactly the way they are is infinite.

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • Is sex easy for us? 
    • Am I having bad sex?
    • Do I enjoy sex?
    • Do I try to change my spouse?

     

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Instagram: www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd
    • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/youarentbroken
    • Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329
    • Website: www.kellycaspersonmd.com

     

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

    38 min
  • 23. Sex: Are You Broken? with Dr. Kelly Casperson

    I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

    If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE

    Medicine: 

    • Why she did not want to marry a surgeon
    • Being told in urology residency “Women are complicated”
    • Why she prefers the pelvis over the neck

    Marriage: 

    • Meeting while he was in Armenia and she was in Uganda
    • He is her rock and her calm
    • How love languages can help any relationship

    Money:

    • Having quarterly meetings about finance 
    • Her scarcity mindset and his abundance mindset
    • What her financial splurge are

    Sex Myths:

    • T or F: Most of sex-education is fear-based
    • T or F: Sex is supposed to be easy.
    • T or F: Why spontaneous desire does not just happen
    • T or F: There is normal sexual desire.
    • T or F: The answer to good sex life is a good glass of wine

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM KELLY

    1. No one can give you more sexual desire. This comes from within. Discovering your limiting beliefs.
    2. Don’t treat your spouse like you treat your employees (if you are a surgeon or demanding of your employees)
    3. Don’t try to change your spouse. The love that can be created from loving them exactly the way they are is infinite.

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • Is sex easy for us? 
    • Am I having bad sex?
    • Do I enjoy sex?
    • Do I try to change my spouse?

     

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    • Instagram: www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd
    • Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/youarentbroken
    • Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329
    • Website: www.kellycaspersonmd.com

     

    *This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

    38 min
  • 22. How Grieving With Faith Can Strengthen Relationships with Dr. RoseAnn & Mr. John Scheller

    WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

    Medicine: 

    • Going back to work as a pediatric emergency physician after Asher’s death
    • What made RoseAnn a more empathetic physician
    • Realizing the Post-traumatic stress at work

    Marriage: 

    • Not dependent or independent. Children of God. When 2 become one flesh.
    • Meeting in a dingy night club
    • Why RoseAnn tried to cancel their first date
    • RoseAnn’s qualifications before John could propose
    • How RoseAnn almost “destroyed” her own proposal
    • How bedrest was romantic
    • Faith as the cornerstone of marriage

    Asher:

    • How having children makes you realize you are no longer in control
    • Being in complete shock after the findings of Asher’s 20-week ultrasound
    • How Asher deepened their faith and strengthened their relationship
    • The overwhelming sense of peace in the Scheller house
    • How silence can be hurtful

    Grieving:

    • Never stop praying
    • Feeling defeated and abandoned, yet knowing, “All I know is you exist”
    • Realizing that feeling debilitated for days is okay 

     

    TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE SCHELLERS

    1. If you have faith, there will be no suffering without purpose.
    2. Worry only takes away from the minutes you have in the present time. When we spend our time worrying or anxious over whatever small or huge thing we are going through in life, it is important to remember, we are choosing worry over any other emotion which could be available to us in that moment. 
    3. Be good to yourself. Be good to the people around you. It’s Grace during times of suffering and difficulty that is so important.  It’s a season. It will not last forever.
    4. Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Said like a TURE Pediatric Emergency Physician. If you plan for the worst, you can handle ANYTHING. Yet if you hope for the BEST, you always maintain the ability to keep your mind somewhere peaceful. 

     

    WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

    • When it comes to raising or caring for my children, how control am I?
    • What could I be choosing to do with my mental space, instead of worrying?
    • Do I ask for space when I need it? How can I do this more often?
    • What helps me get through difficult times? Is it faith, love, my spouse, a schedule?
    • When I am in uncomfortable situations, particularly one of suffering or pain for someone else, how can I start the dialogue?
    • Can I see the joy through my suffering? 

    FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

    Facebook: RoseAnn John Scheller  

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About Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

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The only place for highly ambitious women to be our authentic feminine selves while discussing intimate relationship topics. Love Lab MD is a non-judgmental space to seek and give relationship advice…