Love Lab MD with Dr. Kate Mangona

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Going back to work as a pediatric emergency physician after Asher’s death
• What made RoseAnn a more empathetic physician
• Realizing the Post-traumatic stress at work

Marriage: 

• Not dependent or independent. Children of God. When 2 become one flesh.
• Meeting in a dingy night club
• Why RoseAnn tried to cancel their first date
• RoseAnn’s qualifications before John could propose
• How RoseAnn almost “destroyed” her own proposal
• How bedrest was romantic
• Faith as the cornerstone of marriage

Asher:

• How having children makes you realize you are no longer in control
• Being in complete shock after the findings of Asher’s 20-week ultrasound
• How Asher deepened their faith and strengthened their relationship
• The overwhelming sense of peace in the Scheller house
• How silence can be hurtful

Grieving:

• Never stop praying
• Feeling defeated and abandoned, yet knowing, “All I know is you exist”
• Realizing that feeling debilitated for days is okay 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE SCHELLERS

1. If you have faith, there will be no suffering without purpose.
2. Worry only takes away from the minutes you have in the present time. When we spend our time worrying or anxious over whatever small or huge thing we are going through in life, it is important to remember, we are choosing worry over any other emotion which could be available to us in that moment. 
3. Be good to yourself. Be good to the people around you. It’s Grace during times of suffering and difficulty that is so important.  It’s a season. It will not last forever.
4. Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Said like a TURE Pediatric Emergency Physician. If you plan for the worst, you can handle ANYTHING. Yet if you hope for the BEST, you always maintain the ability to keep your mind somewhere peaceful. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• When it comes to raising or caring for my children, how control am I?
• What could I be choosing to do with my mental space, instead of worrying?
• Do I ask for space when I need it? How can I do this more often?
• What helps me get through difficult times? Is it faith, love, my spouse, a schedule?
• When I am in uncomfortable situations, particularly one of suffering or pain for someone else, how can I start the dialogue?
• Can I see the joy through my suffering? 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

Facebook: RoseAnn John Scheller  

Happy Birthday to Asher in Heaven.

This content contains sensitive subjects such as infant death and Faith. Listener discretion is advised.

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• From Pediatric Radiologist to Sex Coach and Sexual Counselor 
• The importance of providing medical students and residents with the skill-set to prevent burnout as you are recruiting them into medicine
• How she grew into the doctor she wanted to become during residency instead of just pushing through it 

Relationship: 

• Taking 100% responsibility for your sex life. When you don’t do this, you will just take your old and current problems to your next relationship.
• Keys to co-parenting outside of an intimate relationship
• Why using more “I” statements instead of accusatory statements

Sex:

• Whose responsibility is it anyway
• What does it really mean to take 100% responsibility
• What is to-do list sex
• The cost of not addressing your sexual fears
• How a feeling is the worst thing that can happen
• What is choreplay

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Sonia Wright 

1. Sexual intimacy is your responsibility. Not your partner’s responsibility.
2. Get clear on what is important to you and your partner. You don’t have to suffer in silence. If you are, ask yourself what that is costing you.
3. Sex is supposed to be fun! You get to define sexual intimacy the way you want it in your life! 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Am I suffering in silence? What is this costing me right now?
• Do I have to-do list sex or for-me sex?
• Am I comfortable having uncomfortable conversations with my partner?
• What do I want the sexual energy in my relationship to look like?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.soniawrightmd.com
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/midlifesexcoach
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsoniawright/
• New group sales page: https://sonia-wright-md.mykajabi.com/joinoysn
  • The class starts 2/10/21

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

I encourage you to reach out to me at [email protected] with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!

If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/ and click “I AM READY”! I will do the rest!

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE

Medicine: 

• From Pediatric Radiologist to Sex Coach and Sexual Counselor 
• The importance of providing medical students and residents with the skill-set to prevent burnout as you are recruiting them into medicine
• How she grew into the doctor she wanted to become during residency instead of just pushing through it 

Relationship: 

• Taking 100% responsibility for your sex life. When you don’t do this, you will just take your old and current problems to your next relationship.
• Keys to co-parenting outside of an intimate relationship
• Why using more “I” statements instead of accusatory statements

Sex:

• Whose responsibility is it anyway
• What does it really mean to take 100% responsibility
• What is to-do list sex
• The cost of not addressing your sexual fears
• How a feeling is the worst thing that can happen
• What is choreplay

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Sonia Wright 

1. Sexual intimacy is your responsibility. Not your partner’s responsibility.
2. Get clear on what is important to you and your partner. You don’t have to suffer in silence. If you are, ask yourself what that is costing you.
3. Sex is supposed to be fun! You get to define sexual intimacy the way you want it in your life! 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Am I suffering in silence? What is this costing me right now?
• Do I have to-do list sex or for-me sex?
• Am I comfortable having uncomfortable conversations with my partner?
• What do I want the sexual energy in my relationship to look like?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.soniawrightmd.com
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/midlifesexcoach
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsoniawright/
• New group sales page: https://sonia-wright-md.mykajabi.com/joinoysn
  • The class starts 2/10/21

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her premed prerequisites and change in plans after advice from her physician hubby
• Her thoughts about dating a medical student, resident, and attending
• Her journey as a parent of a 10 week-old baby diagnosed with a hepatic tumor

Marriage: 

• How she met her anesthesiologist hubby
• Their belief in each other and unwavering support 
• Why working through disagreements may be the most beneficial choice

Money:

• How they decide how much to donate to which charities
• The smartest financial (and non-financial) decision she had ever made 
• How the “soft space” allows her to take big risks for big rewards

Real Estate: 

• How the pandemic has affected her decisions as a multifamily investor
• Pricing changes in real estate during the pandemic
• Why relationships are key in the success of a real estate investor 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM VEENA 

1. Believing and supporting your spouse allows them to believe even more in themselves and this is what we want. We want to watch our spouse to be successful in whatever that means to them. 
2. Find a partner that is good at something you are not good at so that you can collaborate and grow.
3. Her businesses are successful because she focuses on the relationship side of her business more than anything else. She doesn’t mind giving up a little bit today to be successful in the future. We can all win as a team. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Is my spouse my best friend?
• Do we have or need a check in amount for spending on frivolous things?
• Do I have donation rituals?
• Why do I choose to be married to my spouse everyday?
• Am I a soft space for my partner to land?
• Do I collaborate or compete?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.vivefunds.com
• Facebook: Veena Jetti
• Instagram: @veenajetti

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her premed prerequisites and change in plans after advice from her physician hubby
• Her thoughts about dating a medical student, resident, and attending
• Her journey as a parent of a 10 week-old baby diagnosed with a hepatic tumor

Marriage: 

• How she met her anesthesiologist hubby
• Their belief in each other and unwavering support 
• Why working through disagreements may be the most beneficial choice

Money:

• How they decide how much to donate to which charities
• The smartest financial (and non-financial) decision she had ever made 
• How the “soft space” allows her to take big risks for big rewards

Real Estate: 

• How the pandemic has affected her decisions as a multifamily investor
• Pricing changes in real estate during the pandemic
• Why relationships are key in the success of a real estate investor 

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM VEENA 

1. Believing and supporting your spouse allows them to believe even more in themselves and this is what we want. We want to watch our spouse to be successful in whatever that means to them. 
2. Find a partner that is good at something you are not good at so that you can collaborate and grow.
3. Her businesses are successful because she focuses on the relationship side of her business more than anything else. She doesn’t mind giving up a little bit today to be successful in the future. We can all win as a team. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Is my spouse my best friend?
• Do we have or need a check in amount for spending on frivolous things?
• Do I have donation rituals?
• Why do I choose to be married to my spouse everyday?
• Am I a soft space for my partner to land?
• Do I collaborate or compete?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: www.vivefunds.com
• Facebook: Veena Jetti
• Instagram: @veenajetti

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network.

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• How we met at orientation, during the first day of internship
• What a Radiation Oncologist does
• The difference between protons and X-rays
• Kate’s strict rules for Victor during her 3-month radiology board preparation

Marriage: 

• Falling in love at first sight and then again 4 years later
• Our proposal story at Disney
• How we dealt with losing an au pair and finding the perfect nanny during the pandemic

Money:

• How we won one year of free frozen yogurt
• Why Victor became interested in learning about finances

Extra:

• How coaching changed Victor’s life
• Why defining marriage, career and financial goals are so important 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/39point6
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/39point6\

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• How we met at orientation, during the first day of internship
• What a Radiation Oncologist does
• The difference between protons and X-rays
• Kate’s strict rules for Victor during her 3-month radiology board preparation

Marriage: 

• Falling in love at first sight and then again 4 years later
• Our proposal story at Disney
• How we dealt with losing an au pair and finding the perfect nanny during the pandemic

Money:

• How we won one year of free frozen yogurt
• Why Victor became interested in learning about finances

Extra:

• How coaching changed Victor’s life
• Why defining marriage, career and financial goals are so important 

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/39point6
• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/39point6\

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her Psychiatrist perspective on life coaches Tony Robbins and Brooke Castillo

Marriage: 

• Meeting and bonding over their three German Shepherds
• How to take a relationship to the next level
• Why her hubby’s needs are her needs
• The importance of knowing that relationships will ebb and flow 

Money:

• How she became financially free before the end of residency
• How they purchased her engagement ring without debt
• Why Elaine became her hubby’s first investor
• How they teach their children to value family and money

Extra:

• How they became accidental landlords
• How fear and excitement can feel similar in your body.
• How they tackle their big goals together

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Stageberg

1. Make your spouse’s needs your needs. If this happens both ways, you can take your relationship to the next level. 
2. Growing your entrepreneurial side is usually not comfortable the first or second time you do it. If you are thinking about becoming a landlord or investing in something you have never invested in before, know that it is NORMAL to NOT be comfortable.
3. Even if there is suffering and even when there is hurt, commit to do it together. 
4. Outsourcing is so important! Anything that is not each other, their children, medicine, or their business, they outsource. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Are my partner’s needs my needs?
• How much of my life could change or could have changed in one second? And how much gratitude do I have for what I have right now?
• Do I value security or freedom more? Does my spouse value security or freedom more? If this is different for us, how can we allow these to compliment each other?
• Do I believe that having a nanny means someone else is raising my children? 
• Do I believe having help at home makes one snooty?
• How can I create the home environment I want?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlefamilyatscale

https://www.facebook.com/groups/realestateinvestorphysicians

• Website: www.singlefamilyatscale.com
• Newsletter/free video series: www.blackswan.realestate/signup 
• Email: [email protected]

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Her Psychiatrist perspective on life coaches Tony Robbins and Brooke Castillo

Marriage: 

• Meeting and bonding over their three German Shepherds
• How to take a relationship to the next level
• Why her hubby’s needs are her needs
• The importance of knowing that relationships will ebb and flow 

Money:

• How she became financially free before the end of residency
• How they purchased her engagement ring without debt
• Why Elaine became her hubby’s first investor
• How they teach their children to value family and money

Extra:

• How they became accidental landlords
• How fear and excitement can feel similar in your body.
• How they tackle their big goals together

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Stageberg

1. Make your spouse’s needs your needs. If this happens both ways, you can take your relationship to the next level. 
2. Growing your entrepreneurial side is usually not comfortable the first or second time you do it. If you are thinking about becoming a landlord or investing in something you have never invested in before, know that it is NORMAL to NOT be comfortable.
3. Even if there is suffering and even when there is hurt, commit to do it together. 
4. Outsourcing is so important! Anything that is not each other, their children, medicine, or their business, they outsource. 

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Are my partner’s needs my needs?
• How much of my life could change or could have changed in one second? And how much gratitude do I have for what I have right now?
• Do I value security or freedom more? Does my spouse value security or freedom more? If this is different for us, how can we allow these to compliment each other?
• Do I believe that having a nanny means someone else is raising my children? 
• Do I believe having help at home makes one snooty?
• How can I create the home environment I want?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlefamilyatscale

https://www.facebook.com/groups/realestateinvestorphysicians

• Website: www.singlefamilyatscale.com
• Newsletter/free video series: www.blackswan.realestate/signup 
• Email: [email protected]

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network

WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER

Medicine: 

• Finding love at the hospital

Marriage: 

• Knowing who the most important person in your life is
• What made Leti different from every other girl
• “Stacking” and how criticism can destroy a relationship
• What people tend to overvalue and undervalue in a relationship
• How what you say in your head affects your relationship
• The three “C”s and three “U”s
• How expectations can get you into trouble
• The 90 Days of Serving without any expectations belief 
• How to treat your marriage like a thriving business

Money:

• Why divorce was her smartest financial decision
• How starting with the outcome in mind makes every decision easy
• How having a business mission statement makes money
• The importance of having mutual money goals

Confidence/Extra:

• Why confidence attracted them to each other 
• What being in a beautiful state means
• Why bing creative and caring is so important
• What priming is  
• Constantly moving forward even when feeling terrified
• Self-confidence comes from doing hard things
• Turning “I Can’t” to “How can I?”
• The meaning you give everything that happens in your life

TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. Leti & Kenji

1. Become aware of the manual you have for our spouse. 
2. Marriage can be easy, yet you can always strive to get better.
3. Find 3 days a year you can spend with only your spouse to work only on the marriage. Figure out where you want the relationship to go and what you want to work on.
4. Be aware of the three “C”s of masculine energy: Control, Criticism, Closed. And the three “U”s of feminine energy: Unseen, Unsafe, and "Ununderstood".

WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF

• Do I respect my spouse’s individuality?
• Am I aware of the manual I have for my spouse?
• Who do I make a priority in my life?
• Do I enjoy telling the story of how I met my spouse?
• Do I assume my spouse will always be there? Do I take them for granted? If so, how is this affecting our relationship?
• Where do I want my relationship to go in 2021?

FEATURED ON THIS SHOW

• Website: https://semiretiredmd.com/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/semiretiredphysicians
• Instagram: @semiretiredmd

*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network