Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

All of our emotions are valid and significant in our lives. The emotions we experience on a daily basis can have a micro or macro impact on how we act and make decisions. Because our emotions have the power to either help or destroy us, it's important that we take our time working on ourselves and loving ourselves in order to be able to trust our own feelings.

Junk emotions are bad emotions that can have a negative impact on our lives if we don't put them to good use, such as motivating us to act in a healthy and productive manner. Valuable emotions, on the other hand, are those that allow us to responsibly enjoy our lives and live it to the fullest.

In Episode 111, Andrew and Benjy talk about how our emotions affect our lives, as well as the difference between junk emotions and valuable emotions. They also discuss how emotions affect relationships and what it means to be committed to a marriage.

We can often hear the saying love yourself first before loving someone else. And that is because we are only capable of loving other people when we know how to love ourselves. Relationships aren't always about having a constant flow of happiness and or being in ideal scenarios. It's vital to learn how to love in a selfless and committed way because feelings may fade, but it doesn't matter as long as you have a strong foundation with God at the center of it.

Listen to Episode 111 to learn more!

Show Notes

• The difference between following our feelings and trusting our feelings [7:06]
• How much do we evaluate where our feelings are coming from before we act on them? [12:17]
• Actions are the true measure of our feelings [17:55]
• The importance of communicating what we really feel [20:13]
• Handling negative emotions in a healthy way [23:06]
• Why shouldn't we rely more on our feelings in a relationship? [24:23]
• The true commitment of marriage [28:14]
• Love can take on so many different feelings and expressions [33:35]
• The importance of having foundation of a strong relationship [36:17]

"Marriage is about growth and not just being happy together. We enter marriage as a process and we have to understand that growing is a part of it. And that growing is painful sometimes" - Dr. Drissa Kone

We have diverse perspectives on many topics, especially when it comes to sexuality and marriage. However, despite our differences, listening, learning, and most importantly respecting them can make a tremendous impact in this world, which is the definition of unification, to be as one despite our diversity.

In Islam, religion and the legal system are intertwined, and they are both in existence at all times. Islamic sexual jurisprudence focuses on the laws of sexuality that are mainly predicted in the Quran, as well as the Sunnah, wherein sex is seen as a gift from Allah and sexual relationships should be confined to marriage between a man and a woman only.

In Islam, social justice is a big deal, and they always make sure that society's order is maintained. In Islam, marriage is mandatory as it is seen as a significant help in the development and maintenance of a stable society.

In Episode 110, we are joined by Dr. Drissa Kone, an experienced professor of Conflict Resolution and Ministry, who has been named as the Director of the Unification Theological Seminary's Doctor of Ministry.

Dr. Kone shares with us why the Quran is highly significant to Muslims and what it says about sexuality. He also discusses the important purpose of marriage in Islam as well as the true definition of what unification is.

Listen to Episode 110 to learn more!

Show Notes

• Who wrote the Quran? [2:04]
• What is Sunnah? [6:56]
• What does the Quran say about marriage? [12:25]
• Why is marriage mandatory in Islam? [13:41]
• What does the Quran say about polygamy? [26:06]
• Sexuality from the Sunnah [31:28]
• Islam sees sex as an act of having children [36:02]
• What is Unification all about? [46:37]
• The true purpose of marriage [52:54]
• Why shouldn't we make decisions based on our emotions? [55:16]

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The way we spend our lives and the things we do, no matter how big or small, have an influence on how we define life. We all want a sense of significance and find an endless number of ways to find meaning and purpose in this world.

Rituals are routines which we have attached special significance to. It can help us in becoming the best version of ourselves by aligning our goals with the habits that will help us get there.

Rituals are designed to serve us, which is why it's important to remember that when curating our own rituals, we should be guided by the reasons why we're doing it in the first place. It is not an ordinary or typical routine; rather, it is a one-of-a-kind routine that we have created for ourselves with the intention of reaching our ultimate goal, which is a fulfilled and engaged life.

While rituals help us be more intentional, habits provide us with a sense of comfort and a stress-free way of completing our everyday tasks. It enables us to better manage our time, change our bad habits, and avoid procrastination. Spontaneity, on the other hand, brings out our adventurous side as it is unpredictable yet exciting. The future is uncertain and sometimes it's also good to step outside of our comfort zone to try new and interesting things that will help us grow and develop as an individual.

In Episode 109, Andrew talks about how we can identify rituals that are serving us and which are not, as well as their importance in our lives. He emphasizes the difference between habits and spontaneity, and the significance of having both in order to live a balanced life.

When we reach a point in our lives where we are challenged by our thoughts, it's important to understand ourselves so we can assess whether the way we're living is leading us to our goals, or if it's something that we need to change to curate our lives in a way that allows us to enjoy it and control our destiny. Living is truly beautiful when we live a life that helps us grow closer to God, closer to becoming the person we want to be, and closer to living the life we desire.

Listen to Episode 109 to learn more!

Show Notes

• What are rituals? [1:48]
• Understanding what triggers us to engage in rituals that aren't serving us [3:57]
• The purpose of rituals [10:35]
• Habits vs. spontaneity [11:55]
• The importance of having a balanced life [15:38]
• Identifying whether your rituals are serving you their intended purpose or not [20:08]

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"My past doesn't determine my future. My future is still open and depends on how I respond to my present. I can create a different kind of future and a different kind of story." -William Haines

We learn from our mistakes of the past, in the hopes of not replicating them in the future. In sexuality, understanding our wrong choices and skewed perceptions can help us correct our actions and build a healthier appreciation of something so personal and intimate, and this can guide us in our relationships and eventually marriages.

High Noon focuses on sexuality, wholeness, fulfillment, and connection. Pornography is one of the things that can greatly affect and corrupt a person's perception of sex, yet with the help of our organization, people like you can manage and eventually be set free from your addiction to live a life that honors God. The people around you have an impact on how you live your life, so it's vital to associate with people who can help and inspire you in creating a better and brighter future for yourself.

In Episode 108, we are joined by William Haines, ‌co-founder of the International Educational Foundation in Russia. He co-authored a series of textbooks for spiritual and moral education in Russia. He is a member of the Philosophy of Education Society of Great Britain and the Scriptural Reasoning Society, secretary of the British Academy for World Peace, and a member of the Council of Christians and Jews.

William shares with us how the distorted views of sexuality came to be and some factors that influenced the way people talked about sex in the past. He discusses the importance of hearing or reading stories that can shape and influence us in creating our own perspective when it comes to fully understanding these topics.

Listen to Episode 108 to learn more!

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Show Notes

• How communism has influenced the way we talk about sex [8:36]
• The philosophical origins of the distorted views of sexuality [19:10]
• What is the Hellenistic worldview? [32:22]
• What is the Biblical worldview? [34:16]
• The impact of the repression of sexuality [35:26]
• Pythagoras views on the nature of reality [38:32]
• What is the moral overlay? [41:13]
• The distorted Fallen view of sexuality and the Fallen view of binaries [43:10]
• The Fallen aspect of being a man [47:20]
• Creating a new future [55:19]

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"Our perception is to not stick with "this is my religion". Religions are made by man, but Divinity or spirituality already exists in the universe." -Dileepkumar Thankappan

Every religion has its own set of cultures and beliefs. We all have different perspectives when it comes to discussing such topics and matters, yet it is very important that we learn to also listen and respect one another's views to maintain our unity and peace.

Sexuality is openly discussed among Hindus. Children are guided by their parents and educated by their gurus. From the Hindu perspective, sex is a divine action within a committed relationship, which is marriage. Marriage is a sacred union and it involves not just two individuals but an arrangement between two families.

In episode 107, we are joined by Dileepkumar Thankappan, internationally known as "Avadhuta H.H. Jagat Guru Dileepji Maharaj" (Spiritual Name) and otherwise known as "Guruji". He is a world-renowned Yogi and Interfaith Minister from Tripunithura erstwhile, the capital of Cochin kingdom in Kerala, India. He is an honorable guest speaker and judge in many international conferences, events, competitions, festivals and is a recipient of several peace awards and titles for his yogic services to humanity.

Guruji shares with us the teachings of Hindu, and how sexuality is viewed from the Hindu perspective. He also discusses the importance of understanding the real meaning of life, and universal spirituality.

We are not defined by the religion we belong to, and we are not different or divided simply because we do not share the same faith or beliefs. What matters most is how we connect with God and live our lives in a way that honors Him.

Listen to Episode 107 to learn more!

Shownotes:

• Sexuality from the Hindu perspective [6:20]
• How a Hindu teen is taught about sexuality [9:36]
• Effective breathing technique to help balance your energy [18:54]
• What is Kamadeva? [21:25]
• Hinduism sees our bodies as God's creation. [24:42]
• What is Karma? [29:55]
• How to maintain a high level of gratitude [32:16]

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The early stages of marriage are one of the most difficult phases because it is the period of adjustment for both of you. You must learn to understand your partner's physical, emotional and sexual rhythms, attitudes, and decisions because marriage is all about compromise. Communicating about sex is also a crucial part because if you become self-centered and allow your emotions to handle certain situations, you may find yourself in sexual debt.

Sexual debt creates an impact on your marriage and every aspect of your life. Sexually indebted individuals believe that there's nothing wrong within themselves and that their spouse is compelled to gratify their selfish sexual desires. Instead of being sexually indebted, invest your sexuality in a selfless way that yields a feeling of gratitude and wholeness as a "return on your investment".

There is nothing wrong with being indebted as long as you're indebted in a healthy way where you genuinely appreciate your marriage and the love you have together, which gives you the motivation to be the best person you can be for your spouse.

In Episode 106, Andrew and Benjy discuss all of this, as well as the impact of porn addiction on someone's life.

Listen to learn more!

Shownotes:

• What is selfish sex? [3:35]
• How can couples overcome the most difficult conflict in marriage [7:46]
• The significance of communication in a relationship [8:49]
• The difference between being sexually indebted and being indebted in a healthy way [10:35]
• What is sexual debt? [12:15]
• How porn addiction can affect your life [14:22]

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Each person has an internal and external reality. And while some might argue that a person's internal reality is subjective compared to physical reality, it is our internal reality that connects us to our sense of purpose and belonging, which gives our lives meaning and fulfillment.

Internal sex means being real and selfless with your partner. It's all about developing a genuine internal relationship wherein sex is seen as a foundation for a solid connection between spouses. Being spiritually and emotionally naked and vulnerable allows us to discover pieces of ourselves we didn't even know existed and to discover the genuine meaning of intimacy.

Understanding the rhythm of your partner and learning how to adjust to it is an important factor in intimacy. It is learning about your partner's whole being and building a good momentum rhythmically that creates a beautiful harmony in your relationship.

In episode 105, Andrew and Benjy talk about the difference between internal and external sex. They also highlight what rhythm is and its importance in the foundation of a healthy relationship, as well as, the negative impact of porn on how people view and define sex.

Listen to learn more about what internal sex is, the idea of rhythm, the importance of being an internal person, and so much more!

Shownotes:

• What is internal sex? [2:12]
• The characteristic of an internal person [6:36]
• The difference between selfless sex and selfish sex [7:58]
• Real sex is allowing oneself to be vulnerable [11:03]
• What is rhythm in sex? [15:51]
• Quality vs. quantity [22:31]
• What is selflessness in sex? [24:16]
• The spiritual side of sex [25:35]

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At the start of every year, we are all hopeful that this new year will be better than the last. We have a tradition of making New Year's resolutions, where we create goals for the coming year. But the question is: Do we intend to achieve these goals? Or do we just let fate take its course and hope that our lives will be significantly better? To achieve the goals we've set for ourselves, we must change a habit, trait, behavior, or mindset that we previously had to get our desired outcome.

Sometimes, the lack of clarity about what it is that we really want is what's holding us back from growing. The North Star goal helps us be clear on what we want, which provides us with the motivation to take on our life and do things we didn't know we're capable of. It helps us grow and begin to reap all the benefits of having a life worth living.

In this week's episode, Andrew highlights the importance of transforming oneself first in order to achieve one's goals. He talks about how the North Star goal can help you figure out what type of person you want to become.

Learn more about the North Star goal, why 2022 will be the best year for all of us and so much more when you listen to Episode 104!

Shownotes:

• How High Noon can help you create the future of your choice [0:54]
• What is mind-body unity? [2:47]
• The value of the North Star goal [3:38]
• Where does every addiction come from? [9:15]
• The purpose of the 90-day journey of the North Star goal [11:08]
• The danger that comes with stagnation [13:35]
• Why 2022 will be the best year yet for all of us [16:16]

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"If you focus on who you want to be, everything else in your life falls into place."

-Benjy Uyama

Marriage is a life-long commitment that marks the beginning of building a family and committing to your partner. It leads us to a far greater purpose in life, as our responsibilities change, and we consider not just our own decisions but also our partners in everything we do.

The Spartan Warriors are a group of men, some of whom are battling porn addiction, who have decided to start a new life of sexual integrity. They are a group of men who want to become 'marriageable' and be well-prepared for their future marriages.

Because of the North Star goal, there has been a greater level of success in defeating porn addiction by identifying one's purpose, goals, and how a person wants to present themselves in life; the Spartan Program uses the "North Star Goal" approach as a stepping stone towards achieving one's vision and goal.

In this week's episode, Benjy talks about why he created a group called the 'Spartan' Warriors and how this program can help you become a 'marriageable' man. He talks about battling porn addiction, what sexual energy is, and how you can use it to create and find your purpose in life.

Many people struggle with unwanted porn habits to the point where they no longer have control over their sexual drive or energy. Porn addiction can greatly affect your well-being, career, and even your relationships. So if you're someone struggling with porn addiction, High Noon is a great community that can help you battle porn addiction, overcome these bad habits, and gain back your sexual integrity in life.

Learn more about High Noon's Spartan program when you listen to Episode 103!

Shownotes:

• The Spartan group [0:19]
• The Spartan group's North Star goal [1:23]
• The Spartan program [3:07]
• How does the Spartan program work [4:10]
• The nature of porn addiction [09:52]
• Why are some people not serious enough about battling porn addiction [10:27]
• How can your life be at stake because of porn addiction [13:48]
• Where can you use your sexual energy? [15:46]

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We always hear the mantra, "Communication is key", and rightfully so as communication plays an important role in every aspect of our lives, especially when it comes to building a strong foundation for our relationships. As for married couples, communication is vital to avoid misunderstandings, grow together, and understand each other's differences.. It's just as important for couples as it is for singles to have someone in their lives with whom they can talk about anything without feeling judged.

Heavenly sexuality is all about love, acceptance, the ability to express oneself, and communication without shame or guilt. It all comes down to having a healthy relationship with your partner by giving more meaning and significance to sex. Sex does not always have to be a physical act; it can also be about appreciating your partner, learning about sexual development, expressing love and intimacy, and establishing a meaningful connection.

In Episode 102, Andrew explains what heavenly sexuality is all about and the importance of truly understanding it. He discusses how High Noon can help YOU in your sexual integrity journey to finally let go of the addiction or bad habits that might be stopping you to grow.

Listen to learn more about heavenly sexuality, the importance of communication, and so much more!

Shownotes:

• Why feedback is important to the High Noon team [1:19]
• The importance of talking about sexuality [5:03]
• The negative impact of lack of communication between married couples [7:22]
• Communication is a constant flow of connection and intimacy between married couples [9:55]
• Conversation about sex is the foundation of knowing where each other is at [14:18]
• How High Noon helps single people find their accountability partners [17:32]
• The importance of talking about good, heavenly sexuality [18:52]
• How to create a wonderful dynamic of knowing each other [21:03]

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