Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

Sex is more than just a physical act; it's a romantic expression of love and a vehicle for married couples to grow mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually together. Absolute sex means that their hearts and minds align and complement one another. It's about treating your partner with respect and dignity. Looking from a healthy and God-centered perspective, sex is a blessing for married couples to create a strong connection between spouses and build the foundation of their relationship.

Since marriage is a lifetime commitment, the couple should be able to figure out their relationship's purpose and navigate the obstacles that come along with it. As with singles, to find an accountability partner, you must first learn to love yourself and follow the right path to self-improvement. How we understand sexuality has a significant impact on establishing a healthy connection with other people.

In this week's episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about who the 'sex' people are and how they can help married or single people in finding an accountable partner and maintain a healthy relationship in their lives. They discuss how High Noon can help people change their misconceptions about sexuality, overcome porn addiction, and live objectively, peacefully, and intimately with their partners and spouses, even in an over-sexualized culture which is often one of the largest roadblocks in a person's spiritual journey.

Learn more about High Noon, the role of sex in marriage, and how to develop a healthy perspective about sexuality when you listen to Episode 101!

Shownotes:

• The 'sex' people [1:48]
• How porn can influence a person [7:22]
• How High Noon can help to overcome porn addiction [10:36]
• Sexless marriage - a symptom of much deeper problems [12:50]
• Sexuality throughout the history of America [17:42]
• What is 'sex' really all about? [20:33]
• The goal of the 'sex' movement [22:47]
• How porn can negatively impact your relationship with other people [27:35]

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We live in the digital age where the Internet is widely available to almost everyone. This also means that access to pornographic websites has been very easy. Most children nowadays have their own gadgets and as early as the age of three, they have the knowledge of using the internet which is filled with dangerous websites which can be a bad influence and can have a negative impact on their values formation, mental health, and well-being.

There is no pre-written script or ideal time to begin a healthy conversation about porn with your children. But because children are naturally curious, parents must constantly be prepared to talk about this matter and answer questions that they might be thinking of. Starting the conversation in a light-hearted but healthy manner can have a significant impact on their behavior and mindset, not only about pornography but about a variety of other troubling issues which they may be exposed to.

In this episode, we are joined by Marylin Evans, a public speaker and founder of Parents Aware, a website where she offers one-on-one coaching to help parents prepare for the potential monsters they will inevitably encounter in their children's virtual lives. Through her own Media Savvy Mom's Podcast, she assists parents in planning and preparing to speak to their children about pornography and healthy sexuality in a straightforward, open, honest, and compassionate manner.

Marylin brings us along as she describes how her mother's role as an anti-porn activist in Canada made her receptive to the topic about porn as early as her teenage years, and how this affected her ability to start the healthy talk about pornography and sexuality with her children as a parent.

We must protect our children at all costs. Learn more about how to comfortably talk about porn with your kids and how it can help both parents and children be aware of pornography and its bad influence when you listen to Episode 100!

Shownotes

• Starting a healthy conversation about porn with your children [10:23]
• Finding the right flow of conversation with your children [12:49]
• The misunderstanding of how pornography affects individuals [19:18]
• How Marylin started her own website [20:21]
• Implementation of age verification on pornographic websites in Canada [22:32]
• Acknowledging pornography as an issue [26:30]
• Parents Aware's moonshot dream [32:05]
• Learning to start a conversation about the harms of pornography, and healthy sexuality with your parents [34:56]

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"When you are reinventing yourself, it's going to feel strange because it's new.

That newness is actually really good."

-Andrew Love

Each one of us has habits that we've picked up on through the years and we've nurtured. An action that we do every day and becomes a part of our routine over time. The things we do or how we spend our time shape who we are and what kind of life we have is influenced and defined by our habits. We always have the choice of whether we keep our bad habits or cultivate good ones.

You have the ability to reinvent yourself once you recognize and assess whether your habits are advantageous or harmful to your life. Reinventing yourself isn't an easy process. It can be uncomfortable or painful, but we should perceive this discomfort as a result of letting go of an old habit and stepping outside of our comfort zone which eventually leads us to a better life.

In Episode 99, Andrew Love talks about the value of forming a beneficial habit by reinventing oneself, why we may experience an "uncomfortable stage" and how we should respond to it. He also discusses the sense of newness as well as the differences between the newness of a good habit versus a bad one.

We might sense the newness of a good habit in the process of forming it, and this can be misinterpreted as discomfort. The feeling of newness associated with a good habit should not be misconstrued; rather, we should embrace and cherish that painful experience to be able to grow as an individual.

We all want to be the best version of ourselves, and our habits should mirror that desire. Learn more about the importance of developing new habits and how they can help us reinvent ourselves in Episode 99!

Shownotes:

• The uncomfortable stage of self-reinvention [1:07]
• Crucial period of time in the growth process [2:45]
• The sense of newness [4:49]
• The critical time of losing good habit [5:47]
• What is accountability? [10:53]
• The differences between the newness of the good habit and bad habit [13:11]

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We've all experienced having crushes at some point in our lives. Having butterflies in our stomach or feeling nervous around that certain person we like.

A "crush" is a term used to describe someone to whom we have a strong attraction to. It can be someone who helps us establish our standards for love or our ideal partner. Crushing on someone may be both uncomfortable and exciting but it can reveal a lot about ourselves since they are a mix of our unspoken aspirations and desires.

In Episode 98, we are joined by Carina Cunningham, as she shares the three types of crushes, what they are, and the information they reveal about ourselves. She also discusses the value of having a strong foundation of love from parents and siblings, as well as the distinction between a crush and a healthy attraction.

Because crushes are a reflection of ourselves, having admiration for someone can help us grow and understand ourselves better. The three types of crushes discussed in this episode will help you identify what feelings you may have for a person, and how to act and react properly, hopefully to also help you avoid any rash decisions you may regret.

We all have someone in mind that we truly like, and investing our love and energy in that one person should be worth it. Listen to explore and learn about the concept of crushes and truly understand the essence of love in Episode 98!

Shownotes

• What is self-awareness [3:23]
• The "band-aid crush" [5:00]
• The dangerous aspect of band-aid crushes [12:24]
• The "fantasy crush" [13:01]
• Selective hearing [18:32]
• A long-term fantasy crush [20:23]
• The "confused crush" [23:59]
• The developmental misinterpretation of love [26:43]
• Significance of establishing a solid foundation for all types of relationships [30:35]
• The difference between a crush and a healthy attraction [34:00]

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Our mental health affects our emotions, way of thinking, our confidence, and especially our social skills. It has an impact on how we make decisions, cope with stress, make decisions, and interact with others.

Taking a break and spending more time focusing on yourself is essential to healthy overall well-being as it helps you create healthy relationships with other people and learn to love yourself and your weaknesses.

A healthy self-care routine or regiment affects our sexual integrity. Sexual integrity means being honest, transparent, and vulnerable. When we decide to begin our sexual integrity journey, it is important to remember that integrity must begin with ourselves.

In Episode 97, Andrew and Benjy discuss the significance of focusing more on oneself to have stable mental health and how it affects your sexual integrity journey. They also talk about how investing in yourself and having alone time can result in a happy and healthy relationship with your spouse and children. They also touch on the difference between laziness and deliberate rest, as well as the significance of learning to recognize what is best for you.

If you're having problems prioritizing yourself, or if you've decided to start your sexual integrity journey but aren't sure where to begin, this episode will help you grasp the connection between mental health and sexual integrity. For more, check out Episode 97!

Shownotes:

• What is mental health? [3:09]
• Andrew's way of investing time in himself [5:05]
• Benjy's well-balanced self-care [9:22]
• Benefits of taking care of oneself [10:27]
• A good mental state leads to a healthy relationship with your loved ones [13:17]
• Benefits of slowing down [17:11]
• Being truthful to oneself [20:22]
• Difference between laziness and intentional rest [21:41]
• Putting intentional effort into your sexual integrity [24:34]
• Learning to recognize what is best for you [26:11]

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"Rise Up Warrior and take on your life."

- Stephen Baylis

A "North Star Goal" is defined as a single, well-defined objective that you can glance up at to determine if you're on the right track. It comes from the North Star in the sky, Polaris, which you can follow when you become lost and guide yourself on the right path.

Goals are a very important part of our lives. It gives us a sense of purpose and allows us to achieve our maximum potential. Setting a North Star helps us to accomplish our wildest aspirations whether it is to maintain sexual integrity, eliminate porn addiction, or put an end to our bad habits.

In Episode 96, we are joined by Stephen Baylis as he shares his journey to finding sexual integrity, creating a new version of himself, and building his north star goal.

His journey is an inspiration to everyone to show what is possible in terms of growth in a person's life if you're clear about who you want to be and what you want to do in your life. Listen to this week's episode and learn more about how you can invest in yourself, have the freedom of choosing a different path, stay committed, and get to know yourself on a deeper level.

For everyone listening, know that wherever you're at whether you're struggling with porn addiction, masturbation, or whether you're in a relationship that feels strained, the reality is that most of us feel like we've tried and failed, but as long as you progress and keep holding onto your north star goal, you are one step closer to completing your quest.

Shownotes

• High Noon Boot Camp [00:20]
• The North Star Goal [00:56]
• What the North Star goal means to Stephen [5:58]
• Working on yourself [8:28]
• Creating a bridge between what you want and where you're at [10:25]
• Knowing and forming your identity [11:54]
• Building your confidence [12:29]
• Investing in yourself [12:43]
• The freedom of choosing a different path [16:49]
• What helped him focus on his North Star goal [22:32]
• Finding people to support you in being the new version of yourself [27:54]
• Figuring out how to build a life that you can be proud of [35:14]

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"Our lives are the sum total of the choices we have made."

- Dr. Wayne Dyer

We often look back on our lives and see how our big decisions have greatly shaped our current state and situation. But when we finally realize that the small choices we are making can affect our lives and shape our future, we become more careful about choosing what's the best decision to make.

Even in terms of sexual integrity, a lot of people look at the results in their life without realizing that that one decision was influenced and even triggered by one small action in the past.

Your simple habits or routines can create a vibrant spiritual life. Think about the food that you're eating, the thoughts you're having, or even the music that you listen to because all these add up to you being radiant and bringing life or death to the different areas of your day-to-day life.

All these great moments in our lives are a result of all the sound decisions we have made in the past.

In this episode, we will be unpacking the concept of death by 1,000 cuts. It's a concept about how our small decisions can add up and shape who we are as an individual. How our routines, habits, and decisions can affect us long-term and how these small decisions lead to that one big domino effect.

Learn more about this concept, take control, assess your life and see where you're cutting yourself down and change your habits to preserve healthy relationships and maintain sexual integrity in Episode 95!

Shownotes:

• The concept of death by 1,000 cuts [00:13]
• How every single decision leads you to a good or miserable life [2:58]
• The gratitude habit [4:54]
• Creating a routine and good habits [9:26]
• Shifting our perspective in life [13:15]
• Stimulating wonderful emotions to do something productive [14:52]
• How these small decisions create a huge effect [16:57]

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We live in a society where friendship between a man and a woman is being misinterpreted. When two opposite genders create a bond or friendship, some people assume that it's more than that - that it is a sexual or romantic relationship.

But that's not always the case. Whether you're a man or woman, there's nothing wrong with building a friendship with the opposite sex. But since people are afraid of being judged based on their sexual identities, having a friend of the opposite gender was not considered natural, when in fact, our gender has nothing to do with the quality of friendship we can give.

Our personality and values are what matters the most. One can learn so much from having friends of the opposite sex and it helps us in having a healthy and balanced perspective in life in general.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the importance of having friends of the opposite sex, and how it affects marriage and parenting. They also discuss how porn destroys the mind and the way a person sees the opposite gender.

If you're someone who's finding the right path and wants to step out of the misconceptions and assumptions about having friends with the opposite sex, this episode will guide you on your journey. Listen to Episode 94 for more!

Shownotes:

• Misconceptions about women [2:43]
• Entering an eternal relationship with a woman [5:50]
• Healthy friendship with the opposite sex [09:21]
• How unique a woman is in the eyes of God [11:10]
• How to see a woman as a potential spouse [16:36]
• Miseducation about the opposite gender [19:19]
• How to see a person's unique value [21:07]
• Seeing people as your potential spouse [30:53]
• Befriending different types of people [33:20]

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We all have our own image of our ideal spouse. We have different preferences in choosing the person we believe is best for us. That ideal individual might also be the one we ought to marry.

Despite those characteristics, traits, and looks we often see first, it is up to God whom he has planned for us to marry. We ask for His guidance to send us the right person in our lives, oblivious to his plans for us.

Whatever the cause or circumstance, whether we are praying to God for it in preparation or out of desperation, we all have one thing in common: our faith in God's ability to provide us with our hearts' desire of a so-called "ideal companion" or "our forever."

In this episode, we are joined by Roger and Daniela Wetherall, a blessed couple who have been married for 33 years. They are conducting a free webinar program called The Marriage Course designed to help couples invest in their relationship and build a strong marriage.

If you're interested to learn about how a God-designed relationship or marriage works, be inspired and listen to Roger and Daniela Wetherall talk about their marriage and how they trusted God to understand the purpose of their family's journey. Listen to Episode 93 for more!

Shownotes

• How Roger and Daniela met [3:44]
• The idea of commitment [13:21]
• Daniela's maternal instinct as her saving grace [16:08]
• A difficult time in their relationship [18:08]
• Importance of praying to God [23:13]
• Significance of relinquishing expectations [25:27]
• Healthy way of interpreting "making your husband" [31:33]
• Falling in love again after 21 years of marriage [39:37]
• Roger and Daniela Wetherall's journey of marriage [41:33]
• A good trajectory for the future [46:03]
• Importance of being proactive in a relationship [48:34]

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Because we grow up in different types of environments, we have varying understanding or comprehension of the world through our senses and experiences. Our upbringing and the environment and community in which we were raised play a big role in shaping our lives, attitude, and personality as we interact and live from childhood to adulthood.

A child adopts or follows the actions of the people around them without the ability to distinguish between what is right or wrong. This is also when they start to build impressions. Just like children, when someone is exposed to porn, they start to build a concept in their minds of what sexuality is without having an idea of what it portrays or means. Porn will try to create a sexual template inside someone's mind that causes them to have the wrong idea and appreciation of sexuality and relationships.

In this episode, Andrew and Benjy talk about the importance of imprinting and how it affects your impression of what relationships should and shouldn't be. They share how porn creates the wrong interpretation and expectations of people in relationships.

If you want to recondition yourself to start to imprint more with the good people around you, this episode will lead you to a vision for your sexuality, relationships, and what your sex is connected to. You'll also get to know about the importance of clearing yourself up spiritually, mentally, physically, and emotionally before getting married. Listen to Episode 92 to learn more!

Shownotes

• The nature of pornography [2:46]
• Definition of sexual imprinting [4:57]
• How sexual imprinting affects the idea of marriage [8:13]
• How to balance a God-centered approach to sexuality [10:25]
• Pornography is not sexual in nature [14:35]
• Definition of sexuality [16:02]
• What High Noon is all about [16:54]
• Choosing what you imprint to [17:17]

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