Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

No relationship is perfect. There will come a time wherein couples go through a rough patch and it's normal. As they say, it's not always a walk-in-the-park experience. Oftentimes, these challenges are also necessary for a couple to make improvements and adjustments to save the relationship. However, failing to recognize the most obvious signs and the root of the problem may put the couple in a situation where they need to decide whether to break out of it or stay together. But regardless of the hardships, remember that if you and your partner are willing to work things out, you will be able to surpass whatever struggle comes your way.

In Episode 81, we invited a self-made man who helps men who are on the brink of divorce to salvage their marriage. Geoffrey Setiawan is a Youtuber who creates videos to pursue his passion that led to an actual online course for everyone.

He'll be sharing with us how he pivoted from data science to being someone who helps not just men but also women and how they can save their relationships and how they can learn to manage their emotions. He courageously stepped out of his comfort zone to pursue his passion and built his confidence to continue paving his path to help other people as well.

We'll discuss further the following:

• Common reasons for Divorce [15:34]
• Pillars of the Relationship [18:10]
• The Identity Shifting [31:24]
• The Paradox of Change [39:29]
• Conflicts as a part of life [38:27]
• Different terminologies

If you are someone who is trying to change to save your relationship, this episode is just for you. Use the knowledge and be inspired on how you can rebuild a love better than ever.

Join us, and together let us dive deeper to learn more and reflect on the lessons from this episode!

Connect with Geoffrey:

• Website
• Youtube

Shownotes

• The term "Stonewalling" [7:41]
• The fundamental attribution error [8:55]
• Why it's good to have differences in a relationship [16:15]
• Anger and emotion management [20:03]
• Attachment styles [28:28]
• Two parts of self-esteem [29:06]
• Meditation as a tool [33:27]
• Successful vs failed couples [36:13]
• The program "Connection equals freedom" [42:07]

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In wedding ceremonies, we often hear the words "become one flesh" which means union between two individuals. Imagine how wonderful it is to have reached that deep connection and bond filled with love and happiness. This sacred unity is also evident in a sexual relationship in marriage. While it may seem uncomfortable to talk about, you will see how beautiful it is if we will only look at it from God's perspective.

In marriages, sex helps a couple to strengthen the connection not only physically and mentally but also spiritually. Having a common understanding of the value of sex and knowing its importance and its purpose in a relationship can create a special bond between a husband and wife more than we realize. Also, intimacy and closeness can help establish a long-lasting relationship especially if it is rooted in love, respect, trust, and commitment despite many differences in so many aspects.

To lead us into an insightful discussion on sexuality, intimacy, and marriage, we are joined by Cheryl Wetzstein, an award-winning journalist for over 40 years. She is happily married and is successful in her current field. In this episode, she will be sharing with us more about her journey in life- how she was able to manage to pursue her passion being a mom and a wife, and how she was able to keep a healthy relationship with her husband.

Cheryl's writings talk about love, sex, pregnancy, marriage, parenting, marriage renewal, abortion, divorce, gay marriage, pornography, and all about the inconvenient truths of our society.

Learn more about the benefits of sex and marriage, what is sexuality, what is healthy and unhealthy sexuality, and how that pertains to sustainable sexuality and marriage and relationships. Join us and don't forget to visit us here for us to guide you in your journey to build the life of heavenly sexuality that you deserve.

• Understanding what real and healthy sexuality is [2:04]
• How the internet changed everything [4:02]
• Why there's a lot of single people in journalism [6:52]
• Learning how to handle fights in marriage [10:29]
• Benefits of sex and marriage [11:27]
• How a relationship can grow [12:39]
• Rebirth of love and passion in a marriage [14:49]
• Pillars of love [17:21]
• Studying each other's personality types [22:23]
• The cuddle hormone [29:43]
• The problem with hypersexuality [47:09]
• Truly understanding love and sexuality [52:59]

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"If you're still waiting for your special someone, don't give up. They're out there, they're worth waiting for, and you're worth waiting for. God has a great plan for your life."

- Leena Vincenz-Gavin

Nowadays, the evolution of technologies and social media has made it easier for everyone to communicate with each other. Even finding a person to date is now possible with just one click. In modern times like these, more and more teenagers, especially young adults, are taking risks of meeting people through dating sites leading to "meet-ups". As a result, maintaining purity has become far more difficult as you try to remain strong against the pressure and temptations around you.

At the end of the day, only you can decide. Remember that embracing purity is a long journey, and you must be prepared for the many challenges along the way. Sometimes, you may even have to remove certain people in your life especially if they are leading you back to your worldly pleasure and sinful desires. That is why you need to have the right reasons and a clear purpose for why you want to be pure. Make sure that you want to do this because you love God and not because you are forced to do so.

In this episode, Carina Cunningham will be interviewing Leena Vincenz-Gavin, the co-director of the school of love, which is under the High Noon who helps parents have rewarding and fruitful conversations about sex with their kids.

Leena shares her own story growing up being an adolescent and how she was able to surpass all the common issues that come with it, particularly dating. She also opens up about her meaningful moments with her husband from the time they met until they grew together as a couple. As a parent, she pointed out the value of talking to children about sex. In addition, she also shares the difference between wanting a committed relationship versus looking for the right person.

Join us, as we tackle how teenagers can align their goals to their values, handle peer pressure, learn the importance of prayer in their pursuit of purity.

• Value of purity [4:30]
• Seeking out my relationship with God [7:09]
• Aligning your values [11:08]
• Learning to try to let things go [17:33]
• Matching your goals with your values [19:25]
• Putting everything in God's hand and learning to let go [23:47]
• Growing and learning from your experiences [27:02]
• Staying committed in a marriage [30:45]
• Value of purity in saving sex or marriage [33:32]
• Focusing more on the principles of creation [34:03]
• Learning to listen to your children [38:28]

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Challenging ourselves to change for the better can be hard, but what's even harder is when we try to break our old habits. For one, there is no short-cut or even hacks on this.

In order for you to achieve your goal, you need patience, dedication, and consistency. This is because our habits can greatly affect us and have a direct impact on our lives than we imagine. So, changing even just one little thing each day can actually help us have a healthier lifestyle and a more positive outlook in life.

In this episode, Benjy and Andrew exchange views about developing your good habits, creating your identity, and building the image of your ideal self. They also discuss the importance of acknowledging your past mistakes so you can fully accept your new identity. They also emphasize how willpower can stop you from letting your bad habits rule your life considering that you are a human being with sexual integrity who has total control over yourself.

To help us have a clearer understanding of the topic, Benjy openly shares his internal and emotional battle back when he was in middle school and how he learned more about himself through his experiences. Meanwhile, Andrew tells about his desire of having a healthier mind and body by slowly building good habits on a daily basis to be the best version of himself.

Join us, and learn more as we present our views on how changing our habits can help us attain self-improvement, and how giving importance to our physical and emotional health can help maintain our sexual integrity. Lastly, how turning away from our bad habits can regain our self-confidence and self-respect as children of God.

• Adopting a new kind of identity [00:29]
• Learning more about yourself [4:20]
• Cascading effect of transformation [10:02]
• Correlation between physical health and people's integrity [12:20]
• Confidence in being a child of God [21:18]
• Creating our own identity [24:14]
• The idea of the Divine Principle [26:01]
• Emotional habits being more challenging [31:53]
• Controlling our emotions [36:29]

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One of the most important roles of a parent is not just to raise respectful and obedient children, but also responsible individuals. This goes for the Divine principle that centers on the relationship between the True Parent and a Heavenly parent and child. Having this kind of connection can help people, particularly young adults and married couples who make sexual decisions, gain their sexual integrity and learn to practice Godly parenting.

In this episode, Naokimi Ushiroda, President of the Family Federation for World Peace, will acquaint us with Heavenly Parent Holy Community, Sexuality and Religion, the term "absolute sexuality". Here he will share how he managed to open up to his children about one of the critical issues that a parent encounters which is sex, and how he knew and learned about it when he was young. He will also discuss with us the future of the Family Federation.

To further help us through this parenting journey, he will also offer advice on how communication can be used as a tool and foundation of a relationship based on his experience of being married at an early age. Join us to learn more.

• Being guided by your conscience [11:58]
• Controlling yourself [13:30]
• Good sex isn't a commitment [20:55]
• Outlook on sexuality and religion [25:40]
• Concept of Absolute Sexuality [26:51]
• The perspective of true freedom [32:33]
• The future of Family Federation [36:25]
• The reality of the sexualized culture [41:10]
• Process of reclaiming your sexual identity [42:32]

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In life, people say that too much of anything is bad. This phrase is often used to imply that sometimes too much of the things that we like or do can be very dangerous. Some include food, habits, relationships, money, and even social media, and many more. In other words, excess of some, perhaps most things are bad especially when it becomes an addiction, and this is to be examined because it may affect an individual on various aspects.

Now, let us look at how porn addiction, which is one of the current issues brought about by the growth of information, affects an individual's life or the life of a loved one. When someone becomes addicted to pornography, they spend so much time in it that they overlook important duties, responsibilities, and people in their lives. Certainly, internet pornography can be very damaging in that it consumes your life so if one day you suddenly feel the urge to get away from it, there are important decisions to be made.

In this episode, Benjy and Andrew talk about the significant effect of a 90-day session and understand why we need 90 days and what you can get out of these 3 months. Three months is a long period as it can destroy relationships, revive relationships, and create a big impact with that period. In this healing-recovery process, you can save energy instead of focusing on the sexual temptations, practice being honest, have integrity, and just being committed to internal digging and that healing process.

You can't make productive decisions while you're in a self-destructive mindset, so committing to that 90-day change will help you to have a better connection with others, especially to the people that matter to you. It will also allow you to see the impact of your impelling behavior until you experience change. You just have to keep in mind that changing your habit takes time and dedication. Everybody has different amounts of baggage that they have to clean up. Creating that vision, believing in it, and just working towards that vision with daily disciplines will help you overcome that porn addiction. It does not happen overnight, so you need to be patient and trust the process considering every experience is different for each individual. Join us as we tackle how to develop sexual integrity, build healthy habits, and quit porn for good.

• God works in seasons [00:41]
• Church Burnout [8:18]
• Giving selflessly is sometimes the most selfish thing that you can do because it feeds your soul. [9:08]
• Possibilities of people changing in a short period [10:57]
• Working on the relationships, recovery, and healing process [14:00]
• Porn relationship causing you to be anxious or fearful [19:45]
• Making productive decisions [ 20:22]
• 90-day experience as a new way of life [26:20]
• Associates sexuality with intimacy [29:19]
• Wrestling with your emotions [32:44]

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In this digital age, there is no doubt that the use of different technologies and the continuous evolution of global media has been beneficial for us and made it much easier for us to spread and receive information. Because of this, underground industries and the black market are taking advantage of this widening reach, allowing them to revolutionize sex trafficking.

Pornography has become even more accessible to everyone, making it dangerous for young people or children who also use the Internet on a daily basis.

In this episode, we have Lisa Thompson, a member of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation who are the key contributors to fighting human trafficking, raising awareness, and empowering people to end it.

We talk about the similarities of human trafficking vs. pornography, how media has a predatory dependence upon vulnerable women and children, and how she used her voice and bravery to travel the world to do her job and raise awareness on this issue.

Visit their website to learn more.

• National Center on Sexual Exploitation [4:02]
• Combatting sex trafficking [7:21]
• Trafficking Victims Protection Act [10:10]
• Pornhub as a porn aggregator website [12:56]
• Human trafficking is becoming a masterful science for some people [17:22]
• The Internet revolutionized the way sex trafficking happens [18:56]
• Both the pornography and prostitution industry are dependent upon vulnerable people [23:57]
• Pornography is prostitution [26:57]

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A relationship must be built from trust, respect, and faith to pass the trials and struggles in life together. Creating a harmonious relationship makes each person grow, live happily, and create a family with good values and full of positivity.

In this episode, we invited John and Sandra Lowen, an amazing couple that represents heaven and earth. They'll be sharing with us how to unravel the mysteries of love, their journey as a couple, and help us understand how God works in marriage and within couples. Carina Cunningham interviews them about the lessons they learned from each other, the importance of loyalty, a real understanding of the Divine Principle, and a relationship full of gratitude and love.

Each relationship is unique and with understanding, and by creating good relationships with your parents, you also shape yourself into a future parent that's very supportive, full of wisdom and knowledge. Listen to learn more.

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• The final piece of the creation is man understanding woman [2:54]
• Understanding his character by finding his Jewish roots [11:52]
• The real power of being a daughter or son in law [15:00]
• Three blessings of God [17:13]
• Filial piety [18:30]
• Purpose of the blessing [19:36]
• Responsibility of parents [23:16]
• Being a good parent [25:57]
• Being fearless, sitting with our wounds, and helping each other heal [38:41]

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These days, phones or any internet-enabled device are increasingly used to browse the Internet and through this portal, people find it all too easy to log onto different sites. Now, with just a click or two anyone can easily access extremely explicit material such as pornography. Since this is readily available particularly in streaming media, watching it can easily become habitual, which in turn leads to addiction.

To further understand the phenomenon of internet porn addiction, we will be dedicating this episode to Gary Wilson, a neuroscience enthusiast, who generously takes time to share his knowledge and experience for this cause. His research is going to be timeless as we continue to learn from his book that tackles the physiological effects of porn.

Gary's research aims to provide a more concise description of how pornography affects the brain. As result, his research focused on uncovering the reality that pornography has a large cascading effect on your psyche, physiology, and how you interact with yourself and others. Wherever he is, whatever he's doing, his legacy can live on, and he knows that he did a great thing, and it was worth every effort.

Come and join us in this episode as we share the talk that he gave at the National Center on Sexual Exploitation. There he expounded what pornography does to the brain, the physiological effects of porn, and sex addiction claims on sex and sex addicts, comparison of drug addicts to a sex addict, compulsive sexual behavior disorder, and all about fake news about porn. He also cited multiple studies, statistics, and research to further explain his points which are truly informative, enlightening, and beneficial for everyone.

• The world of sex has been so politicized. [5:11]
• Misleading and questionable studies on porn [9:09]
• Big claims on sex addicts [12:11]
• The brain activity of porn addicts [18:03]
• Individuals with greater cue-reactivity to porn had less desire to have sex. [19:28]
• Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder [31:25]
• Demographics of couples who use porn [34:16
• Consequences of regular exposure to sexual media [40:29]
• Pornography consumption effects scale [44:15]

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The family plays a significant role in every individual's life. The importance of family in human life cannot be overstated and it is crucial to create a stable and healthy relationship to preserve the foundation and bond of each member of the family.

Family is a huge factor in every child's overall growth and well-being but we can't deny that no family is perfect. Each one has struggle and imperfections. Some parents experience difficulties when talking to their child about certain topics and children also hesitate to ask for help from their parents who should be their source of support.

In this episode, we have a family who has experienced the blessing to be part of High Noon. The testimony of the Fontaine family will amaze each one of us as they share with us their experiences and struggles as they overcome pornography.

We'll learn more about the big difference that has happened after they joined High Noon, how they settle things instead of avoiding it, creating an open relationship, the meaning of the Divine Principle, and prioritizing honesty and integrity, in their family. They'll also be sharing their advice for other families who are also struggling with porn addiction, as well as words of wisdom for parents & millennials who are listening.

High noon is about living as a family regardless of your age or your position. We help create radiant individuals and families who can have the freedom and confidence to talk to their family members about anything. Check out High Noon Connect to start your journey now.

• Being more compassionate and understanding through High Noon [10:17]
• Growing together and helping each other as a family [16:42]
• Embracing our fallen nature, flaws and imperfections [21:31]
• Helping each other and loving each other despite our flaws [21:31]
• Living in deep isolation and not knowing the impact of our actions [33:12]
• Having sexual integrity in your relationships, perception of life and personal identity [40:54]
• Preventing your past to have power over you [44:33]

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