Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

The foundation of a strong and healthy relationship are proper communication and having God as the bigger focus and center of a sexual relationship, instead of just physical pleasure. If you don't have a common understanding about having sex, the results are going to drive you farther apart, rather than closer together.

Don't compare your sexual relationship with anything or anyone, even your own past or your expectations for the future. Instead, envision yourself to be the person that you want to be, the type of relationship you want to have, and work steadily towards that.

In this episode, Benjy and Andrew talks about the true definition of absolute sex. They'll be sharing their experiences and understand what absolute sex is and isn't. They'll be diving deeper about the Divine Principle, importance of trust and communication in a relationship, how our habits affects our future, and the potential of absolute sex.

It's always good to learn from people who are in a healthy relationship, but remember that you are in a unique relationship that has never existed before. So whether you're single, in a relationship or married, and you feel like finding yourself lost or overwhelmed, High Noon is here to help you overcome unhealthy sexual habits and understand deeper the cause and effects of this addiction.

You can also check out our episode about The Best Reason to Quit Porn.

• We have a societal view that sexuality is the health of a sexual relationship defined and measured by the frequency, but not necessarily quality of the relationship. [3:18]
• A true relationship doesn't matter whose sex drive is stronger or weaker; it is how much you are able to selflessly serve and live for the sake of your spouse. [6:51]
• Everything needs a common base in order for that give-and-receive mutualism to have meaning. [11:5]
• If the reason why you're having sex is because you think your body needs it, but your heart and spirit are not in it. The result is feeling more detached from the relationship over time because of sex. [12:23]
• Sex becomes a wedge in your marriage instead of a binding agent if the reason you're having sex is not pure. [12:40]
• The commitment of being in a marital relationship and being blessed means that no matter what happens, we're going to grow from this experience. [19:50]
• The greatest thing you can do is figure out what the relationship is between the most important areas of your life and create a strong vision for that. [23:32]
• If you're single, this is a perfect time to start customizing your life because in this state you're really engaged in life. [24:53]
• Don't expect to be happy in the future if you can't find happiness here and now. [31:15]

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Leadership refers to the ability to lead others, and no company or community can thrive without it. Being able to lead and be an example are very fulfilling. Showing how to conquer your struggles and help other people do it too can be a simple way of restoring humanity.

For this episode, we'll be highlighting the story of Steve Pierce, a 65-year old American born in Seattle, who's in the seafood business for over 40 years and has been affiliated with High Noon for three years now. His journey as a man, husband, father, and as a facilitator will be a great example for everyone who's also struggling with their porn addiction and masturbation.

He's one of the living testimonies on how High Noon greatly affected and helped him to achieve his goals and become a better person. He'll be sharing with us how to be strong and courageous, how he rebuilt trust among people he loved, and how he preserved the innate desire for goodness and to do the right thing. In return, he receives the learning to love people, learn from their experiences and be an instrument used by God to help those who are on the battlefield.

Many paths will lead you to High Noon, and you can have confidence that you will be with a team that will help you regain trust and hope within a marriage. Join the 15-Day Challenge to gain momentum in your journey towards sexual integrity.

• We shouldn't be taking love, we shouldn't be earning love. We should just give and receive it. [4:40]
• It's very empowering, liberating, and freeing to be seen. [7:10]
• There's no better way than teaching to learn something you teach. [8:14]
• Freeing and restoring ourselves takes time. [11:42]
• Facilitating takes personal growth and development and recovery to a new level. [15:07]
• Don't let the conscience go away. Protect that conscience. Follow it. [18:33]

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Each one of us makes mistakes and bad choices. We are, after all, human and we tend to do things without even thinking twice if it is right or wrong, but this doesn't necessarily mean that we are inherently bad people.

At some point in our life, we decide to take a step back and question everything in our faith. After deep contemplation, we will be filled with that feeling of something missing in our lives. We feel guilt, regret, and shame and these deeply affect us.

In this episode, Carina talks with Daria Kral about what it's like growing up in a faith community, leaving, and then coming back again. They also shared their viewpoints on sexuality and marriage, how to take ownership of your faith, how to build a strong foundation for a relationship, process and progress, and the struggles of a woman with form restoration.

Both of these amazing women will be sharing their thoughts and experiences on how they overcame their struggle with porn and masturbation and teach us that our past doesn't define who we are. No matter if it's a smooth or hard process, remember that every step counts, and each one of us has to go through our process. So if you can relate to today's episode, High Noon has programs and support groups to guide you through your restoration journey.

• It doesn't matter what kind of things you've gone through in your life, there's always a way back. [7:33]
• No matter what your story is, you deserve to and can be blessed to have a family and to have a great relationship. [9:18]
• For a woman, it's really helpful to steam out through a talkative way, to talk about it, and to let it out. [25:15]

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Nowadays, a lot of people struggle with porn addiction due to its vast accessibility especially at this age of the Internet.

People who struggle with porn make it their escape, and just like any form of entertainment, these things produce negative effects on addicted individual.

This episode tackles how people also struggle with quitting porn. There are questions they need to confront themselves with. Questions such as "How serious are you about quitting porn? How far can you endure the process? Are you willing to do anything and take action just to quit this addiction?"

Benjy talks about some philosophies and very practical steps to take your fight seriously and overcome porn once and for all. On the onset, people might feel lost and there's nowhere to go. But know that it is truly an uphill battle especially when you are choosing the right path. Listen up to know how to avoid the red flags and progress into quitting the habit. Eventually, you will come out on the other side and win in life. Here at High Noon, we'll be joining you and guiding you to your path to recovery. Connect with us here.

• Making the serious commitment and constantly making the effort leads you to the right path [4:47]
• The process of healing and recovery comes from our relationships and genuine connection we have in our lives. [8:32]
• There's always a healthy medium, and that is education, support, and group support. [13:06]
• The key is interacting with people who are knowledgeable, supportive and trustworthy that is going to launch your relationship into an area that you never thought possible. [14:29]
• Porn is addictive because it is linking an innate need and desire we have for sexual intimacy with something that has absolutely nothing to do with sexual intimacy at all. [15:46]

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Trauma is defined as an emotional reaction to a traumatic incident or experience such as abuse, freak accidents, natural disaster, etc. As individuals, each of us have our own trauma. We may not see it or feel it on the onset, but these can manifest in our adulthood or even as we become parents.

We all have emotional baggage as individuals and understanding them is the key to becoming better individuals and especially better parents because these childhood wounds from the past will not just affect us. Rather, let these negative experiences inspire us and make us stronger.

This episode is full of wisdom, knowledge, and tips about healing and emotional health. It was a joy to have Hilde Wiemann on the show, a certified family and relationship coach to talk us through childhood wounds and family healing sessions. She will be sharing with us what she has experienced from the beginning of her childhood and how this affected her way of parenting and understanding her children.

We will be tackling how keeping yourself healthy and emotionally stable, healing your family, the importance of communicating with your children, how big events eventually create traumas, and the importance of time, touch, and talk. We'll also touch on some points about different parenting styles, detachment, identifying our traumas, two things that drive us to bad behavior, and the goal of generational healing.

This family healing session is wonderfully essential for those that are ready to take responsibility and clean up the emotional junk they may be holding on to. So whether you're a teenager, an adult, or a married individual, this episode is a must-listen for you.

• When a child becomes a teenager, learn to not step back and not to be afraid of the development. [11:15]
• Learning to be better parents which leads to knowing each other better, and eventually, world peace [12:38]
• Being good parents by having self-awareness and knowing what a child needs and wants [18:07]
• Being more loving and being authentic in support of forgiveness. [18:07]
• Each child is different and every parent needs to study and learn more about their child [21:39]
• Unresolved issues get emotionally passed down to our children, creating a new dysfunction. [50:35]

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" Life is meant for living, not just existing."

- Anon

The main reason for living is to find our purpose, finding that passion, and feel a sense of excitement rather than just living aimlessly. We are living in a world where we are being enslaved mostly by the things around us that we have access to and the environment we belong to: our work, businesses, school, hobbies, or even our addictions.

Pornography is really a huge roadblock for most people and it destroys marriage, relationships, and your life in general. When pornography enters a relationship, it has the potential to break it and ruin it for good.

In this episode, we welcome Benjy Uyama, Sammy's younger brother who will be our new co-host for High Noon. He started his passion as a volunteer, and now, as he experienced the grace and received fulfilling blessings in his life, he would like to also share it to others as well especially those struggling with pornography and in reclaiming their sexual integrity.

Let us get to know Benjy more and listen to how he chose to live the life that he has now - a life of peace, fulfilled dreams, passion and purpose.

• Benjy's journey to developing his passion to help others, particularly to help people receive and experience a fulfilling blessing. [04:21]
• There's nothing more important to us than being able to support people to experience a fulfilling life and a fulfilling marriage. [06:45]
• Focusing on what you can control: your focus on your integrity [11:55]
• Focusing on what you can offer to help the situation [12:15]
• High noon as not just anti-porn or pro-sex movement, but about allowing men and women to experience family of joy, passion, accountability and openness inside of this organization of family. [15:40]

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Marriage is the union of a man and a woman. It is a bond that's blessed by God and it is strongly connected through the power of love, compassion, and harmony. Marriage is a vehicle to bring us closer to god in the end.

In this episode, we have Dr. Tyler Hendricks who will be sharing to us his views and his experience with the Unification movement as it pertains to sex, and also his theories on a variety of very important topics like marriage, civil religion, the three family models, origin of marriage, and a host of vitality elements to provide us wisdom.

Dr. Tyler will also be sharing his personal experiences before he met his wife, lessons he learned from his father and his realizations after so many years. How trusting and faith in God affected his life and understanding more about the sexual relationship of the way God designed sex. Learn more valuable lessons by listening to this episode!

• Seeing how God puts everything together despite all the anger, depression and struggles in your marital and relational journeys [15:04]
• The ownership of eternal love lies with the opposite sex [25:03]
• The universe functions according to the sexual union of male and female [25:12]
• How the general moral value is centered on the family, the Blessing at sexual purity, sexual abstinence before marriage, and absolute fidelity in marriage [38:00]
• If you're afraid to die, it means you're afraid to live. [49:25]

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"If you're dealing with any kind of sexual difficulties and struggles, please connect with someone from High Noon. They've got a whole program for men and women struggling with porn and masturbation. They're programmed to understand more about your past and they have helped me so much." - Carina Cunningham

Human beings have emotions, feelings, and desires. It is normal to have sexual urges but we need to be able to control them to maintain our sexual integrity. Curiosity makes us vulnerable against these urges, so we need to choose a different path, do something different to stop ourselves from our temptations.

In this episode, we'll meet the new member of the team - Carina Cunningham! And her first guest is none other than his loving husband Robert. They share what they've experienced and talk about different approaches to dealing with the matching process.

They will be talking about sexual urges and what to do with them, how to handle them from a single person's point of view, how to change the pattern and switch that perspective that we usually have.

It can be very hard to talk about this with somebody but being able to do so will help you learn more about yourself and why you experience this. High Noon will help you overcome these urges and sexual difficulties so if you're the person who needs this, don't hesitate to connect with us.

• We try to kill sexual urges with willpower and discipline. [3:44]
• We are not guided clearly on what we do when we're feeling strong sexual urges, especially in today's hyper-sexualized culture. [5:33]
• Boredom often leads us to do something negative that's connected to our repression. [7:40]
• Associating sexual urge with something else and thinking about it differently. [8:58]
• It takes intentional effort to change. [9:27]
• Working to become a person who can be in a relationship and use energy, hormones, and pleasure to love a person. [21:36]
• Avoiding a very passive or mindless state that makes you susceptible to urges. [24:29]
• Taking that time to prepare yourself for that moment when you can engage together physically, connected mind, body, and soul. [26:53]
• Avoiding fantasizing or idealizing who your partner is when they're not even your partner. [27:14]
• Normalizing the fact that your love is connected with your sexuality. [34:28]
• Our sexual energy or sexual urges are connected with our love and we need to protect our love. [40:54]
• We will need to see every sexual urge as a preparation, as a second connection with our spirituality. [41:17]

Pornography, like any other freely available drug, has the potential for misuse and overuse. Not only is it accessible, but it's being actively used at an alarmingly high rate.

Overcoming porn addiction isn't as easy as one, two, three. It needs commitment, patience, hard work, determination and perseverance. Especially in today's culture and society where the stigma of porn addiction is still there, overcoming porn addiction is increasingly challenging.

The stigma of porn addiction can make it especially difficult for many people to decide to enter a recovery group or program. The main barriers to seeking treatment for porn addiction are fear of what people will think and how those in need of help will be treated by peers and the society at large.

In this episode, Sammy and Andrew talk about who High Noon programs are made for and who can benefit the most from joining this program, as well as why some people hesitate to join these recovery programs. They'll also be sharing the testimony of Benny who overcame his porn addiction by the help of High Noon programs and community.

Listen to this episode to get help in regaining your sexual integrity or help others in their journey because it's much easier to face that stigma and concentrate on the challenge of healing when we work together.

• The main barrier is that people stop right before they're about to make a big change in their life, for one reason or another. [01:30]
• Using porn as an escape from isolation when what they really needed was connection. [04:01]
• Porn addiction is a sign of weakness and puts into light their behavior that they don't want to acknowledge or to address. [05:20]
• HN Recovery program not as therapy but a gym for sexual integrity to work it out, to have strength and power and clarity. [07:04]
• If you hang out with the right people, then your standards automatically go higher. [08:06]
• If you surround yourself with greatness, greatness is inevitable. [09:49]
• Strength is when you're building integrity even in the face of adversity. [10:33]
• If you're doing well in your life of sexual integrity, it's important to give other people help as well. [11:52]
• The real way to reinvent yourself is attempting to be you. [14:03]
• Strive to change things not on the outside but actually transforming yourself from the inside. [14:46]
• Growth is not possible internally without other people. [16:45]
• When you join groups, you create relationships with yourself and with other people. [17:21]
• Your testimony is extremely valuable. [18:47]

For most people, sex education, abstinence, and purity education aren't comfortable topics to talk about. Each country and culture have their own views and takes about these, and some might even consider this topic not only sensitive but even taboo. However, we must realize how important it is to understand cultural differences that have layers upon layers of traditions, beliefs and varying nuances to deliver the message correctly.

Sex plays an important role in our life, so it's important to promote sexual sanity and further educate people about sexual purity. For today's episode, Dr. Kittel will be sharing his insights on what drives his desire to be a filial child's True Parents, and his journey to different countries while educating them about purity education.

We will also be discussing the CC model or Condoms and Consent, the concept of safe sex, the four realms of the heart, and the virtue of filial piety. We will also be touching on the importance of the expression of love and relationship with family or parents. Listen to this episode to learn more!

• Teaching young people to honor their parents is the foundation for sexual purity. [7:04]
• CC model: Condoms and Consent. [7:10]
• Four realms of heart: Parental love, Conjugal love, Siblings' love, and Filial love. [7:53]
• The ultimate foundation is the parental love itself, the filial love itself [8:13]
• The brother-sister relationship is really important because it's a relationship of love of opposite sexes but doesn't involve sexuality. [17:23]
• Marriage gives stability to our society. [23:27]
• The purpose of human sexuality is to bring a man and a woman together and bond them in the image of God. [24:17]
• There is a purpose of human sexuality that includes pleasure, procreation, reproduction, the existence of the species. [25:01]
• Love creates lineage. [25:46]
• Freedom has to be connected with responsibility. [43:17]
• You can dishonor your parents and your family by misusing sex. [50:15]