Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

To have genuine happiness in life, most people say you need to have a ton of accolades and achievements and reach a certain level of success that will equate to your fulfillment and satisfaction.

But what we do not know is that happiness is not the goal; it is the result of the way you live your life. Joy is a state of mind and being rather than a tangible destination.

In this episode, Andrew and Sammy take us into the concept of having a basic formula to minimize stress, anxiety, and fear in pursuit of having more room for genuine joy, fulfillment, and wholeness.

Having a life of abundant joy and happiness means envisioning and dreaming without limitations and allowing yourself to experience the fullness of life. Let that feeling of winning influence your actions rather than wait aimlessly to achieve your goal. This will put you in a higher state of mind. And when you are connected to that profound sense of security, you will have the deeper sense of contentment.

Being genuinely joyful also means anticipating and planning for a great day ahead and keeping that vision close to your heart.

• The Basic Formula for Joy: Clarity, Experience and Belief (2:48)
• The first part of the formula: Envisioning without limitations (3:56)
• • Your body can repair itself when you allow it to be in a reparative state (5:51)
  • Soaking your mind with possibilities (6:16)
  • Most people don't know what heaven on earth will look like because they haven't given it serious thought (7:57)
• The second part of the formula: Let your body and heart experience it (9:29)
• The Third part of the formula: Be inspired and live in the high state (12:49)
• • The world opens up when you are open (13:38)
  • The things you do have a larger impact because it does not come from the small place of desperation (18:37)
  • You are knocking on the door but not listening because you are only focusing on small things (19:16)
  • Reducing the negative and increasing the positive (19:30)
  • Changing the means to meet the ends, but you've experienced the end already (20:37)
  • It's like not finding the right person but becoming a whole person (21:16)
  • Quantum Way: Feel it first, then the results are the effects (21:53)
• Using this formula for the recovery process (23:12)

In this episode, the High Noon Crew talks about family planning and contraception, which leaves most people with a lot of confusion and misconception. Even more, unmarried couples rarely consider this issue before they profess their love and say their "I Do's".

It's vital to acknowledge that commitment should come first, then everything will fall in its place. Because eventually, it should always come with the perfect balance of planning and willingness to dance with God for as long as you are committed and responsible for it.

We should always bear in mind that in a committed relationship, planning is part of growing and working together on what you love. Family planning is not just about avoiding pregnancy but about planning for your future together with your family.

• Sex comes with a huge responsibility and possibility of life and procreation (3:52)
• The reasons why sex is taboo in a religious environment:
  • Hookup Culture: Sex is not just limited to just committed relationships (7:27)
  • The responsibility that comes with sex (8:42)
• Natural family planning: Symptothermal Method (16:44)
• The side effects of pills (25:36)
• Pills versus condoms (27:43)
• A culture with no planning for the future (37:58)
• Considering age (38:56)
  • You are leaving out potential joy when you do too much micromanaging (48:11)
• Balance of putting everything in God's hands and planning (50:52)
• Be informed and have communication (53:40)

A very exciting episode as Sammy and Andrew introduces the newest future of this organization, High Noon Connect.

In this world where certain topics are just everywhere and we are not certain where to voice out, there is much need for a safe and authentic place to be transparent and put your heart into. One should have space where they can share their best and worst selves. And that is what High Noon connect is for, a desirable home and online community for growth and happiness.

If you want to be a part of an intimate weekly gathering where you can make a difference and be heard, learn more about High Noon Connect in this episode.

• What is High Noon Connect (0:57)
• How did High Noon Connect originated (1:38)
• How High Noon progresses (6:41)
• If they're winning, it means that they're helping you win (13:28)
• A place for people to go, encourage, and inspire one another (15:27)
• With the right heart is how we grow (16:02)

Join us and be connected at:

HN Connect

This episode is a special one as we introduce to you our program, Giving Tuesday 2020 Listen as Sammy, Andrew, Carina and Benjy talk about High Noon leadership style by embodying its virtues: Honesty, Grace, Integrity, Accountability, and Courage.

With High Noon's continued growth, a new paradigm of leadership is emerging organically. We continue to transform leaders by being our best, authentic selves, living by the organization's set principles and empowering others as well to live a life without shadows.

At High Noon, we believe that life and leadership mean creating a better world through redefining oneself and enlightening others to be self-sufficient and grounded to have genuine and lasting peace and joy.

• What is Giving Tuesday 2020 (3:35)
• High Noon Leadership is:
• • Letting loose and discovering a version of yourself that is unafraid to make mistakes and get criticism (8:00)
  • Having humility and being kind to others and myself (10:36)
  • Removing this pedestal idea of perfection and one has figured it all out (14:23)
  • Allowing people to be human and work on themselves (15:32)
• How do you handle honesty:
• • As part of your job (20:28)
  • In reaching the level of accountability: Living up your words (23:47)
  • As a balance of talking and not talking (26:19)
• Letting your results speak for you (28:01)
• Peace starts within yourself (29:12)
• The essence of leadership through transparency (32:53)

This makes for a lovely episode: listen to an inspiring and enchanting love story of High Noon Families' the School of Love project directors, Jario and Leena Vincenz-Gavin.

Married for 13 years, these two have grown a lot and discovered many things about themselves, their work, and each other. Apart from being the fuel for families to mend their relationships, they also became a role model for couples working in the same environment, believing that learning about each other's strengths and weaknesses will help create that perfect balance in marriage and relationships.

As a couple who is committed not just to their relationship but always looks at how they can also serve others, Jario and Leena believe that allowing yourself to adapt to each other will help you create that unique relationship. Also, viewing your sexual relationship as a safe place will lead to emotional harmony and happiness.

• The factors that drive them to be a giver rather than being just a part of the community (14:26)
• How to work as a team:
• • Considering own strengths and weakness (19:33)
  • Committing to every relationship's vision (23:58)
  • Respecting each other's personal space (28:02)
  • Creating a deep communication (29:01)
  • Give and take (32:58)
• Habits and agreements that help their relationship:
• • Invest time for each other (34:35)
  • Give space to what makes the other person happy (41:02)
• Challenges that they face as a couple (46:38)
• Sex is not a physical thing but the trust, bond, connection, and appreciation that goes into that (56:23)
• Even after 13 years, sometimes you can find new ways. (57:44)
• Comparison of sex in gender (1:02:28)
• It's not always about experiencing sex beforehand (1:08:27)
• What it takes to have a better sexual relationship (1:13:17)
• The best thing to learn about sex is through each other (1:22:02)

In this episode, Andrew and Sammy talk about abstinence from sex before marriage, both the struggles and the merits.

There are so many concepts and notions surrounding premarital sex. Most faiths believe that saving yourself for marriage is something very special. But we're all living in an oversexed world where people often get caught up in snares.

The best part towards creating sexual integrity and offering your whole self to only one person is building yourself up to an incredible bachelorette. It is how you groom yourself as a single person in preparation for a relationship.

Premarital sex brings a lot of complications that we are mostly unaware of. It damages us by disassociating us to the real act of love and service. Engaging in sex early on and outside the realm of marriage has makes us numb, bruised, and broken. We need to remember that our heart is our greatest asset. It is the source of our existence. And when we damage our ability to love, it bleeds into every subsequent aspect of our relationship. That is why the closer to a blank slate that we can have, the better.

• Proposed standard in every faith (3:09)
• Accommodating one's lowest self (5:24)
• Having an unblemished record in the past (9:43)
• Individuals that have different views towards sex in their relationship (11:47)
• • Numbness and not caring for others (13:35)
  • Porn adds dimensions of complication to your sexual understanding and experience (15:13)
• Real love (18:52)
• What premarital sex teaches us (22:01)
• Polyamorous Relationships (24:44)
• The heart is like a sticky note (29:39)
• Know what you deserve (34:13)

In this episode, myth-busting is back as Sammy and Andrew have another fallacy to break: Masturbation as a requisite!

Sex has gone through an negative evolution - or should we say devolution - that led to its misinterpretation. Today, masturbation is viewed as a necessary part of life where one could educate themselves about their sexuality and preparation for sex.

What is the common view about masturbation? And should we be so ready to adapt to society's perspective and acceptance of this concept?

To have a fully radiant life, look for the real stuff where you plug into the source of power, love, confidence, knowledge, and wisdom rather than to settle for any substitute. Remember: you don't have to figure things out on your own because sexuality is not a solitary thing.

• What masturbation look like in this era (2:29)
• Lopsided conversations about masturbation (6:34)
• Masturbation is a valuable tool for learning about your sexuality (8:16)
• Misinformation about masturbation from professionals: Tolerating & Demanding it (8:52)
• Alone-Together concept of masturbation (12:03)
• Masturbation as a physiological response to emotional need (14:33)
• Masturbation as preparation for sex (18:37)
• Training yourself to be a part of neediness (19:46)
• Masturbation adds many levels of complexity upon entering a relationship (21:39)
• • Physical nature of the complexity: Good giver of sex by practicing masturbating (24:14)
• You don't have to figure things out on your own (28:38)
• The best way to prepare for incredible sex (34:35)

Join Sammy as he interviews Francis and Zaiya Marchitelli, who share their remarkable journey of sexual integrity.

Listen to this lovely couple's stories and take on how pornography sets unrealistic and illogical expectations and brings it farther from reality. As this couple comes from a multi-racial households, they reflect on their realizations on how important it is to be open and welcoming in your family about sexual struggles.

In this episode, listeners will further understand that sex is not just a physical thing but has more to do with intimacy. There is no such thing as an instant and perfect way to sex because, at the heart of it all, it boils down to how willing you are to figure things out together to make each other happy.

• Francis' journey with pornography: Exposure & Realizations (3:07)
• How he abandon pornography: High Noon as part of Francis' life (10:14)
• Zaiyah's view on his partner's past situation (16:37)
• Tools that can help you overcome pornography (21:23)
• Expectations vs Reality with sex (23:54)
• Be open about it with your family and children (32:06)
• What it takes to have a great fulfilling relationship (35:38)
• It's not impossible to be free with pornography (39:16)

Ready for myth-busting part 2?

In this episode, Sammy and Andrew continue treading through prevailing myths about porn and sex that are relentlessly hurting and damaging people, especially younger generations. They focused on using porn as a platform for education about sex.

Absorbing all of these false ideas causes viewers to inherit more negative concepts than learnings, and these will only weigh a person down.

Remember, relationships and sex are meant to be unique. It's something that you are committed to create and nourish on your own. Be educated wisely by learning how to take care of your relationship first, then real intimate connection through sex will follow.

• We are not just about our physical bodies but multi-dimensional being (2:04)
• Wrong assumptions on making porn a safe space for learning (6:13)
• What porn is precisely teaching us (8:03)
• Why porn is created (10:53)
• Porn is not tailor-made to the relationship you're in (12:57)
• Ethical porn? (16:29)
• Porn as distractions on a person's sexual attention span (19:22)
• Healthy ways to expand the mind in creating a great sexual relationship (25:52)

We're living in a world where there is a lot of misinformation. Most of this appears to be legitimate and widely held unless you peel back the layers and think about it. This misrepresentation of the truth led to the false beliefs or ideas people believe in. And in the area of sex, this quite a difficult situation.

In this episode, Andrew and Sammy did some myth-busting in the world of sex and porn. They talked about how porn affects and distracts relationships accompanied by these assumptions.

In today's generation, it's vital to correlate your future with the things you believe. Take into consideration a lot of things such as the quality of your relationship over time, think about how this misinformation may slowly erode the love, trust, and attraction within the relationship. We have to care about what we participate in because this becomes a part of the feedback loop that shapes our culture, society, and the world around us.

• Watching porn together with your spouse (2:44)
• How does porn with consent affect your relationship with yourself, your partner, and the world around you (5:46)
• What does it look like when a couple participates in these activities (12:07)
• Porn as an education resource (17:49)
• • Where to educate yourself about sex (18:28)
  • Porn is misogynistic (21:09)
• Porn that is instructional rather than sensational (23:26)
• Physical sex should not be the only thing that keeps your relationship going (25:28)
• • Generate genuine connection (26:27)
  • Consider what you want out of a relationship (30:05)
• The emotional affair as a result (31:23)
• Porn as a distraction (35:41)