Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

All single guys, young women, and even those who are already in a relationship out there: listen up!

In this episode, join Sammy and Andrew as they talk about great qualities men should look for in their potential partner that can help build towards having a vibrant life.

In life, it's vital to have an understanding of how relationships work to mitigate any tough patches and potential pain points. It's important to know that you are two independent people who can rely on one another but do not need each other. Hence, choosing someone who is introspective, owns their decisions, and respects their values before entering into a commitment will be the key to a successful marriage.

Remember, marriage should be viewed as not just two people getting along but what you can create together. That it is not a one-time choice, but something you choose and are committed to every single day.

• Importance of choosing great qualities in a partner (4:09)
• Qualities to look for in a wife (9:46)
• • Self-awareness (9:46)
  • • The probing questions in evaluating someone's self-awareness (11:34)
  • Mentally and spiritually stable (13:27)
  • Independent: Self-sufficient or being capable to be on your own (18:58)
  • Strong beliefs held loosely (21:49)
  • • Having a strong foundation within yourself (22:06)
    • Humility: Willing to learn new things (24:28)
  • Character maturity (27:31)
  • • High threshold: Reasonable tolerance for stress or risk (27:36)
  • Comfortable with their femininity (31:15
  • Being able to adjust and compromise (34:37)
  • • Explore and open-mindedness (41:20)
    • Respect their differences (43:13)

The changes happening in the porn industry nowadays are so drastic, peculiarly particularly with the advancement of technology. With the social currency yielded by social media, people have become more vulnerable and, as a result, cultivate the desire to make content where they can gather recognition and validation from others.

In this episode, Sammy and Andrew give us more insights into the inevitable cultural direction that porn is headed to, compounded with the pressure to be a certain way online given the consistently meteoric upsurge of deviating standards, values, and expectations that the online community is dictating.

Are you alarmed when you see in plain sight the paradigm shift in pornography and where it is headed? If so, then it's crucial to have profound awareness that it's not about the emerging platforms, but the phenomena behind it.

• Porn 2.0 or self-produced porn (3:10)
• Factors that cultivate the desire to create pornographic content (5:03)
• The new direction of porn (7:32)
• New platform for sexual content (10:20)
• The different mentalities toward porn (11:26)
• The reasons for the inevitable change in pornography consumption (13:24)
• Pornified Culture: 'Of course' response (14:50)
• Consequences behind the new direction of porn (21:41)
• Cross platforming: How content creators adjust to the needs of their subscribers (24:28)
• How your perspectives differ - from being part of the porn industry to not (28:02)
• Ethical Porn: Cleaner porn production (30:48)
• Statistics on how many people are signing up to the new platform (35:06)
• What you should do as a parent, adults and young individuals (38:13)

With the rise of uncertainty in this challenging world where things are becoming less natural and more chaotic, our lives have been greatly impacted, and for some, turned around.

Given the current state of the world, it makes it hard for us to view social media positively. In fact, it builds up even more stress that's toxic for us. The question is: are you effectively dealing with your stressors or are you just coping?

In this episode, be enlightened as Sammy and Andrew take us along with their personal experiences on how stress negatively and positively affects the different phases of their lives, providing us a sneak peek into how they handle or disconnect with stress and overcome or reconnect with the natural setting of life.

• Why we need to talk about stress: dealing or coping (1:32)
• Different sources where stress originated from (5:07)
• Andrew's personal experience with stress (9:21)
• Factors that affect our stress levels:
• • Social media (11:49)
  • Factors that affect our stress levels: Sleep (13:22)
  • Factors that affect our stress levels: Morning Routines (14:13)
  • Factors that affect our stress levels: Unnatural living cycle (16:15)
• Dealing with stress through grounding (18:18)
• The domino effect of stress (22:22)
• Consequences of not dealing with stress (23:55)
• Difference between Eastern and Western approach (25:24)
• Porn as an escape mechanism to stress (26:26)
• Relationship between stress and sex: Performance Anxiety and Entitlement (27:29)
• Abundance vs Scarcity (29:28)
• Stress is internal, it's all in the mind (29:28)

Andrew is joined by Garett Jonsson, who is a podcast host, public speaker, and one of the fighters for Fight the New Drug, a Utah-based anti-pornography nonprofit organization. Garett once had a behavioral addiction to pornography.

Pornography is generally a secret obsession for most people. However, be inspired by this episode as Garett talks openly about his addiction to pornography and how it affected his life, his first exposure to it, and how he overcomes the compulsion by being involved with different causes such as 30 and 30 and Coast to Coast in Chains where he biked 3,800 miles across the United States. These projects led him to the organization that helped pull him away from the dark side of his addiction.

Listen more to this conversation and be enlightened by the destructive nature of pornography and how you can positively overcome it through the help of a supportive community that will harness and nurture your willpower and drive to change.

• Inception of pornography to his life (4:32)
• Progression of pornography in his early years (9:05)
• Factors that escalated the frequency of his consumption of pornography (11:21)
• Consciousness towards pornography (15:20)
• How he realized and opened his eyes towards pornography: Arrogance, Deceit, and Resentment (17:41)
• Having courage to open up up about his problem to someone (28:45)
• What he and his wife did to overcome the problem (31:49)
• Raising awareness by being involved in various projects: 30 and 30 and Coast to Coast in Chains (32:53)
• Inspiration in his journey through Coast to Coast in Chains (45:50)
• How he started with Fight the New Drug (48:26)
• Formulation of the podcast Considered Before Consuming (50:57)
• How they dwell on negativity such as haters (54:12)
• His advice on dealing with pornography and its harmful effects (1:00:19)
• How to deal with this conversation: His advice for the caregivers (1:10:17)

Relating to the last episode's topic about Human Trafficking with Patrick Erlandsson, Sammy and Andrew are back, this time tackling the issue of consent. Since the line between consent and sex are very muddy these days - especially with the influence of the Internet -it's very important to have a more broad and profound grasp of the levels of consent and its different considerations.

In a world full of entitlements, where somebody's else rights are being taken away, taken for granted, or being coerced, it's necessary to have informed decisions guided by knowing where to stand and by differentiating which are the real relationships and which are not. Hence, getting someone else's consent is not only appropriate - it's vital.

Join us in this episode where we open our minds to a new way of thinking about consent and how it relates to sex.

• Degree of consent on the internet, specifically dark webs (05:08)
• Consent on a one-to-one basis
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• Different levels or interplays of consent (14:58)
• What is true consent? (22:14)
• How to tap into the eagerness in terms of sexuality in a personal relationship (24:49)
• What is beyond consent: How and why it affects things like personal relationships (26:18)
• How important (comfort) consensual real or true sex (32:17)

In this episode, Andrew is joined by Patrick Erlandson, who tackled the dangers of human trafficking and pornography. Sadly, this is still an issue that is rampantly plaguing our world, which gives us all the more reason and why it's crucial to shed some light on, spread awareness about, and stand up against it.

One small, simple step is actually another huge step closer to saving one person from the tragedy of human trafficking. Know the problem exists so you can end it. Take actions by making someone matter, feeling valued and loved, valuing your integrity, and eliminating the vulnerability. Spread awareness by having the right spirit and motivation.

We hope that this conversation enlightens us and serves as that one step closer to help end human trafficking.

• Human Trafficking in Africa and across the world (3:48)
• Definition of Human Trafficking (7:24)
• Misconceptions about Trafficking (11:13)
• Statistics on human trafficking victims within the United States (11:50)
• Factors that lead to being a victim of human trafficking: self-punishing and disconnection with love, adults, trust, and own self-identity (13:32)
• Prostitution vs. Being Trafficked (15:42)
• The reality of being trafficked: Vulnerability & Entitlement (16:32)
• Why vulnerability is promoted to the youth (19:21)
• How entitlement is being created (20:31)
• Entitlement of men towards sex (21:32)
• Pornography as part of entitlement in human trafficking (26:22)
• Two types of traffickers (35:41)
• How to cope human trafficking experience (39:15)
• Damage of pornography to oneself, the family, and the impact of compulsion with pornography (44:47)
• Why you should stop watching, supporting, and doing pornography (49:46)
• There will always be second chances (56:14)
• Have a personal fight against human trafficking (1:03:29)
• How to be aware of traffickers for your family's and your own safety (1:08:31)
• How to sustainably contribute to eliminating human trafficking
• Opposite or antithesis to the commodification of human trafficking: nurture and value human being

Sexuality is an individual's way of self-expression, physically and emotionally. This can be diverse and extremely personal. It is a complex behavior that is affected by certain factors and facets of our lives, which is what this episode is about.

Our guest speaker, Philip David Schanker, guides us to better understand the concept of human sexuality and sexual orientation.

• The concept of human sexuality (5:57)
• What are the factors affecting an individual's sexual orientation? (13:50)
• The importance of Comprehensive Sexuality Education, especially to the youth (22:03)
• The idea of homosexuality and how does it develop (25:52)
• Is it possible to change one's sexuality by choice? (28:31)
• How to deal with Cognitive Dissonance? (33:38)
• A therapist's role on self-development (35:54)
• What is Conversion Therapy? (37:43)
• The comfort of having self-awareness (38:23)
• Benefits of having a healthy support system (41:16)
• How to cope in life with a purpose (49:15)
• How do unhealed wounds, and unmet needs affect our perception in life (53:41)
• The value of respect regardless the sexuality (1:10:38)
• The right of every human to be genuinely happy to whom they chose to be (1:13:20)
• Some advice from Pastor Philip on how to morally raise a child (1:23:02)
• Understanding and accepting one's differences (1:32:34)

In this episode, Andrew and Sammy tackle the importance of having the right approach in making conditions in life. Aiming for success requires discipline, perseverance, hard work, courage, and faith.When you set up a goal and aim to achieve it, even in the simplest form, it will push you towards success and accomplishment of those goals.

• What are the fundamental elements of setting up a condition? (6:12)
• A strong commitment to your goals will make a huge difference in your life (7:42)
• How one's conditions in life should be imposed (9:29)
• Condition acts as a focal point towards stimulating growth (11:15)
• The importance of having the right approach to your life conditions (14:00)
• The difference between duty and faith (15:12)
• How can you achieve a joyful and abundant life? (17:39)
• The idea of living a dynamic lifestyle (20:24)
• Life in a static state hinders self-growth and attracts self-destructive behavior (22:53)
• Some advice from Uncle Jerry Servido on how to set up conditions to deal with your struggles in life (25:18)
• The significance of being clear on your purpose as you make your conditions (27:57)
• Make your discomforts as your starting point to create your life conditions (28:44)

A happy life is a meaningful life. Happiness is a feeling of inner peace and satisfaction. It comes within you, and you can, therefore, create it. In this episode of the Love Life Legacy Podcast, Andrew talks about how what you feed in life grows. This will give us a brighter outlook and approach in dealing with uncertainties we encounter when making decisions.

• How do most people's uncertainties affect their decision making? (2:24)
• How is a negative mindset responsible for having unhealthy decisions? (3:23)
• What are the repercussions of relying too much on our emotions? (4:14)
• How can clarity ease your life? (5:26)
• How Andrew made faith his refuge in handling his problems (8:00)
• What is sexual integrity? (10:03)
• Importance of being optimistic (10:35)
• The benefit of feeding our minds with positive and empowering thoughts (12:38)
• Andrew talks about the idea of "one plus one equals three" (14:18)
• What are the toxins in a relationship? (14:58)
• How does engaging in a toxic relationship affect our well-being? (15:34)
• How do you take part in your own idealism of a perfect relationship? (16:10)
• What are the things to consider in having a healthy relationship? (16:55)
• The substance of having a constant re-evaluation of your relationship to other people (18:01)
• How to live life to the full extent of positivity? (19:30)
• Andrew shares how Uncle David inspires him (19:58)
• Andrew's take on the concept of limitless growth (20:49)

Andrew talks about how with the use of his "North Star Goal" approach there has been a greater level of success in overcoming porn addiction through clarifying one's purpose, goals and how we want to show up in life.

• Why this is the best show ever [0:43]
• Take 10! [1:30]
• Where is Sammy? [2:14]
• What is the "North Star Goal"? [3:20]
• Where did the idea come from? [5:22]
• Take this challenge if you want results [6:20]
• How has the High Noon accountability program improved with "North Star Goals"? [7:40]
• What analogy does Andrew give about goal setting? [11:25]
• North Star Goals in relation to sexual integrity [13:40]
• An example of becoming more present in life [16:45]
• What happens if you just use generalities? [18:55]
• What does self mastery lead to? [23:48]
• Why do you want to sign up for High Noon's programs? [24:05]