Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

Uyanga Love, Andrew's one and only love, shares more candidly about how her experience during pregnancy and mom-hood has caused her struggles. Her vivid recounting of her journey will leave listeners with an opportunity to search within themselves and reflect what it's like to be a mother or a young parent.

She and Andrew also highlight the importance of a support system for young parents, especially the mothers. Though they had tough times, the Loves represent the daily challenges that young families face, and how love and togetherness will help them overcome and gain the balance and stability every family desires.

• Depression is an important label because it helps everyone have a starting point [02:08]
• The essence of motherhood and childbirth is different for every culture [04:57]
• Uyanga recounts her difficult journey in motherhood [08:07]
• People cope with their depression in different ways [15:22]
• The gift of having someone to lean on during depression is valuable [20:43]
• Andrew shares his experience on the birth of their three children [29:05]
• Couples who love each other can pull through despite going through dark days [35:07]
• How crucial it is to look out for those cries for help or attention from loved ones, which can lead them all the more to spiral down to depression [38:41]

Andrew and Sammy invite their wives, Uyanga Love and Yi Gyu Uyama, to share and answer questions about each other's couplehood. We get to hear how their relationships and love have grown (and struggled) over time, shaping them into priceless modes of reality they now share as a family.

• Some common traits of Yi Gyu and Uyanga [5:20]
• More on the Uyama family [6:20]
• More on the Love family [7:20]
• More on the request which led to this podcast [8:30]
• What Sammy and Yi Gyu are most proud of about their family culture? [10:50]
• The importance of the parent's guidance to their children as they were growing up (11:38)
• Differing cultural norms [12:10]
• Sharing on their research about fatherly involvement [13:30]
• What is a point of constant contention in the Uyama's marriage? [15:55]
• How did the Uyamas make a compromise for each other? [21:20]
• The Loves answer the same question… Food & money/ long-term & short-term [30:10]
• Uyanga's shift of perspective on money and sex and it's impact on the relationship. [33:30]
• The Uyama's experience with money [35:20]
• To the Loves: What do you think is important for a good sex life? [37:20]
• Get a midwife/doctor who is good at stitching! [42:20]
• What the Loves admire and respect most about each other? [49:40]
• Some advice about engaging in arguments (55:09)
• What do the Uyamas hope to pass on to their children? [57:15]
• Exuding trust & enthusiasm, being goal-oriented and integrity while being family oriented. [1:00:20]
• Andrew's take on having an adaptive family culture (1:02:21)
• Some fatherly experienced-based advice from Andrew (1:03:38)
• A call to action: Take the challenge with High Noon programs @ www.highnoon.org [1:09:40]

Pornography indeed can be alluring in a sense that it can lead to addiction, anxiety, and changes in behavior. In today's episode of Love Life Legacy Podcast, Kieran Calavan shared his journey of battling over his sexual desires. This discussion is truly fascinating with its relevance to one of the major dilemmas the youths are facing today.

• Sammy pitch in and introduces Kieran to discuss about his victory over pornography (0:36)
• How was Kieran first introduced to porn and how did it develop? (5:30)
• Understanding the essence of sex and the worth of women (9:32)
• How does depression, anxiety, and stress take part with porn addiction? (11:40)
• How are we powerless over our self-addiction and pleasure? (13:41)
• How important it is to have a great support system? (15:20)
• Kieran's journey of fighting over habitual masturbation. (15:55)
• What was Kieran's take to change his habits and overcome porn addiction? (22:14)
• How High Noon contributed to Kieran's success and perspective in life? (27:14)
• Insights on the significance of having sexual integrity. (37:05)

The key to a happy and healthy marriage, aside from love, is intimacy. In today's episode of Love Life Legacy Podcast, Andrew and Sammy talked about different insights on marriage and sex, which go hand in hand. They also tackled the advantages and disadvantages of simple and complex sex and having fixations of a sexual nature.

• Andrew and Sammy tune in from Bali and Korea to discuss sex in simple yet complex ways.
• Why does sex need to be complex? [4:20]
• How does Sammy experience the greatest love from his wife? [6:15]
• Has it always been simple for Sammy to experience love from his wife? [7:30]
• What´s Andrew´s take on simplicity? [9:30]
• What is complex sex? [12:50]
• Golden nuggets from Andrew´s perspective on love [15:00]
• How did cellulite and plastic surgery become such a thing? [17:50]
• Some advice on using your mouth [21:30]
• What does forcing your spouse to be someone else for your own happiness? [22:10]
• How does dignity relate to self-care and making your spouse happy? [24:00]
• Sammy´s sex complexity/simplicity [27:00]
• What is Andrew´s take on a 14 out of 10 sexperience? [29:50]
• Why simplicity trumps complexity [32:40]

• Yuna's first taste of America [04:02]
• What is presented in Hollywood, sex-wise [06:05]
• What does sex mean and how is this term used [07:05]
• Yuna talks about what couples usually ask about sex in marriage [10:37]
• Sex in Hollywood and TV shows [13:08]
• Andrew talks about how young men struggle with the concept that sex is for the other person [18:40]
• Andrew on living and loving for the sake of the other person [22:28]
• God's design for sex [23:30]
• Andrew on negative attachments to sex [27:27]
• Being brainwashed about dating and relationship [32:29]
• The difference between vulnerability and being the real you [35:59]
• The idea of performing during sex and why it's detrimental [35:59]
• Creating a great marriage but not based on superficial sex [45:11]
• Yuna on talking to God and being empowered [50:20]

The most connected system in our entire body is our heart and our mind. In fact, about 90% of that information is coming from your heart to your mind. This explains how you can intellectualize your feelings and turn thoughts and emotions into meaningful information.

Neuroplasticity and epigenetics are also effective methods for approaching porn addiction positively. Because you know that you can manage your addiction and behavior by reprogramming your brain, you can overcome it much easier and with more joy.

• Andrew on the importance of neuroplasticity and encouraging listeners to do more research [00:54]
• What is neuroplasticity? [04:35]
• Why does neuroplasticity matter? [06:33]
• Rationalizing your thoughts and feelings [09:17]
• Andrew discusses reticular activating system [11:48]
• Creating a validation loop [14:19]
• Using this mental technology to create a future you desire and making it a reality [18:27]
• How the Ascend 90-Day program helps [21:24]
• How you can change and turn your thoughts and feelings into whatever you want [24:43]

• Introducing Gene and his approach to achieving what he wanted in his marriage [1:00]
• What is Gene currently experiencing as great? [3:50]
• What did Gene experience from the age of 13? [4:45]
• What did Gene do to clarify what he wanted in his life? [7:30]
• How has Gene dealt with the conflict within himself? [9:00]
• How has Gene's pursuit of his inner desire play out since he met his wife? [11:20]
• How did practicing honesty create a shift in Gene's relationship? [15:45]
• How has having a family meant so much for Gene? [19:00]
• What view of children does Gene share is so important for him? [21:20]
• How did getting a mentor/therapist facilitate more clarity and healing for Gene? [25:30]
• What childhood experience was something that repeatedly came up for Gene in his therapy process? [29:50]
• How has dealing with these childhood experiences and being honest and vulnerable about them been for Gene? [31:30]
• How did Gene's relationship with his father develop through his therapy process? [36:00]
• What impact did the men's retreat have on Gene? [38:25]
• What resources does Gene share with the audience that he has benefitted from? (vipassana retreats, Therapist Philip Schanker & Mankind project warrior retreat) [44:30]
• What does Gene share about how he experiences sex? [48:20]
• How does choice play a big role in Gene's current relationship? [49:44]
• A call from Andrew for supporting HighNoon [51:15]

Many people subscribe to the belief that pornography and masturbation are a 'guy thing', but an ever-growing number of women are being affected as well. In this episode, we will be hearing from one young woman who has battled with PMO issues since she was young and dealt with it alone because she assumed she was the only female that struggled with such issues.

This episode introduces us to Sunny and Sunmarie Burns: two people who have an amazing love story that leans toward the realistic without losing the romantic.

Listen to this delightful couple's take on why preparation and intentionality are vital to having a wonderful married life in your marriage. They also go a little deeper into the practical benefits of natural family planning and how this has helped shaped their marriage, which is going strong ten years down the road.

Lastly, the Burnses highlighted the immense value of being completely honest with each other and letting all your flaws out in the open to give way to honesty, respect, trust, and full acceptance. And won't you agree that these are the elements of not just a successful marriage but a great sex life as well?

Introducing the Burns [00:45]

The Burns' background [02:51]

Sunmarie recalls their first anniversary and years of being together [04:58]

Sammy tells of the Burns' remarkable marriage and intertwined relationship [06:51]

Sunny shares about building the foundation of a relationship on honesty [10:23]

Sunmarie recalls how Sunny came clean about his addictions and how she reacted [13:54]

Sunny shares his perspective on that moment of coming clean [16:33]

Sunny recalls their courtship phase and beyond [19:48]

Sammy highlights the Burns' point about being cautious with intimacy [27:26]

Sunny shares how their relationship transitioned to getting more physical [34:08]

Sunmarie on contraceptives [36:47]

Sunny on a challenging time in their marriage and sex life [38:30]

Sunny on delayed gratification [44:13]

The Rhythm Method and Natural family planning [45:46]

How sex in the movies is so unrealistic [52:42]

Sunny on constantly developing their sex life [54:30]

Sunmarie on the success they had with natural family planning [63:11]

Sunny on finding integrity in yourself [68:29]

Book Recommendations:

"Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts"

"Questions Couples Ask"

In this episode, Andrew and Sammy tackle a much-debated topic not just among couples, but especially among married ones: attraction. But in their discussion, they dig deeper into how most people's experience of attraction is manufactured by outside influences, especially by porn. They also share their personal experiences on resetting their own sexual attractions. Listen now to know more about how to solve this debacle.

What is manufactured attraction? Where do our thoughts come from? [02:46]

Framework for attraction [05:23]

Societal attraction and individual attraction [08:48]

The concept of imprinting and how it hurts a relationship [09:27]

Sammy's experience of cleaning his "sexual palette" [11:32]

The model of repetition as advanced by pro-porn psychologists [15:56]

Simple versus complex sex [21:23]

Sexual detox [30:09]

Conditioning yourself to nurture love for your spouse or partner [32:17]

Referencing neuroplasticity [35:39]