Love, Life, Legacy: A Show About Sex

In this episode, Andrew and Sammy tackle a much-debated topic not just among couples, but especially among married ones: attraction. But in their discussion, they dig deeper into how most people’s experience of attraction is manufactured by outside influences, especially by porn. They also share their personal experiences on resetting their own sexual attractions. Listen now to know more about how to solve this debacle.

What is manufactured attraction? Where do our thoughts come from? [02:46]

Framework for attraction [05:23]

Societal attraction and individual attraction [08:48]

The concept of imprinting and how it hurts a relationship [09:27]

Sammy’s experience of cleaning his “sexual palette” [11:32]

The model of repetition as advanced by pro-porn psychologists [15:56]

Simple versus complex sex [21:23]

Sexual detox [30:09]

Conditioning yourself to nurture love for your spouse or partner [32:17]

Referencing neuroplasticity [35:39]

Join Andrew as he interviews Tim Rarick, a professor and a speaker at BYU Idaho, who seeks to make complex ideas simplified. In this episode Tim helps to explain why people struggle with deep emotional issues and how ties can be mended through focusing on being integrity to what we yearn for in relationships.

An introduction of Tim Rarick [0:11]

Who does Tim work with? [3:00]

Is dealing with porn a global issue? [4:30]

What are the main causes of problems for families? [8:20]

What ways can parents help their children inherit healthy intimacy? [10:00]

What do studies and research show about the need for intimacy? [11:30]

How do you solve the real issue and what does Tim compare it to? [14:20]

What are examples of intimacy that have an important impact on society? [16:10]

What are the results of not receiving unconditional love as a child? [19:50]

What do most women who have worked in the porn industry have in common in relation to men? [21:05]

What does Tim recommend doing to deepen your intimacy and to recreate a good script? [23:30]

A good story of change in a woman's life. [30:05]

Tim sharing on a breakthrough in his own relationship to his son. [35:00]

What is a good way to be prepared for marriage? [38:00]

What are behavioural patterns for healthy relationships? [42:15]

What benefits exist in relational stability? [47:00]

Book tips

Bonds that make us Free, by C. Terry Warner

How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk, by John Van Epp

Join Andrew as he interviews Tim Rarick, a professor and a speaker at BYU Idaho, who seeks to make complex ideas simplified. In this episode Tim helps to explain why people struggle with deep emotional issues and how ties can be mended through focusing on being integrity to what we yearn for in relationships.

An introduction of Tim Rarick [0:11]

Who does Tim work with? [3:00]

Is dealing with porn a global issue? [4:30]

What are the main causes of problems for families? [8:20]

What ways can parents help their children inherit healthy intimacy? [10:00]

What do studies and research show about the need for intimacy? [11:30]

How do you solve the real issue and what does Tim compare it to? [14:20]

What are examples of intimacy that have an important impact on society? [16:10]

What are the results of not receiving unconditional love as a child? [19:50]

What do most women who have worked in the porn industry have in common in relation to men? [21:05]

What does Tim recommend doing to deepen your intimacy and to recreate a good script? [23:30]

A good story of change in a woman’s life. [30:05]

Tim sharing on a breakthrough in his own relationship to his son. [35:00]

What is a good way to be prepared for marriage? [38:00]

What are behavioural patterns for healthy relationships? [42:15]

What benefits exist in relational stability? [47:00]

Book tips

Bonds that make us Free, by C. Terry Warner

How to Avoid Falling in Love with a Jerk, by John Van Epp

Are humans designed to check each other out? Can we even control our eyes? Are religious people doomed to never look at attractive people again without some sort of repercussion? We are discussing how to best use our sight so that our eyes are used for the greater good in today's episode.

0:00 Introduction

1:00 Discussion of current COVID-19 status

6:00 Comparison of the dangers of COVID to the danger of porn

8:00 How do we deal with looking at attractive people?

19:00 What are some real life examples of how to deal with your eyes?

26:00 When does most ogling happen?

28:00 What is objectification?

35:00 What does "healthy looking" look like?

40:00 The difference in controlling porn and controlling our eyes

46:00 How can we invest our sexual energy wisely and create meaningful relationships with others?

Are humans designed to check each other out? Can we even control our eyes? Are religious people doomed to never look at attractive people again without some sort of repercussion?

We are discussing how to best use our sight so that our eyes are used for the greater good in today’s episode.

0:00 Introduction

1:00 Discussion of current COVID-19 status

6:00 Comparison of the dangers of COVID to the danger of porn

8:00 How do we deal with looking at attractive people?

19:00 What are some real life examples of how to deal with your eyes?

26:00 When does most ogling happen?

28:00 What is objectification?

35:00 What does “healthy looking” look like?

40:00 The difference in controlling porn and controlling our eyes

46:00 How can we invest our sexual energy wisely and create meaningful relationships with others?

Our esteemed guest today is former High Noon director and relationship coach John Williams! Join John and Sammy as they discuss why good people fall into bad habits, the struggle to gain self-love and how we can start building true relationships with others.

0:00 John Williams introduction

6:30 Why do good people do bad things?

12:30 Why can good people be especially vulnerable to dangerous behaviors?

24:30 How does a lack of self esteem contribute to bad habits?

31:30 What can be done to overcome these habits and boost self esteem?

42:00 What feelings drive people to make bad decisions?

45:00 How can you find the right person to share with?

52:00 What questions can we ask ourselves to begin the process of self-improvement?

Our esteemed guest today is former High Noon director and relationship coach John Williams! Join John and Sammy as they discuss why good people fall into bad habits, the struggle to gain self-love and how we can start building true relationships with others. 

0:00 John Williams introduction

6:30 Why do good people do bad things?

12:30 Why can good people be especially vulnerable to dangerous behaviors?

24:30 How does a lack of self esteem contribute to bad habits?

31:30 What can be done to overcome these habits and boost self esteem?

42:00 What feelings drive people to make bad decisions?

45:00 How can you find the right person to share with?

52:00 What questions can we ask ourselves to begin the process of self-improvement?

It's another solo-cast with Andrew Love, as he talks about the path he took to getting married, his victories and struggles in his marriage, and his recommendations for how you can overcome your own struggles!

• Where is Andrew tuning in from when sharing this podcast? [0:10]
• What gets old? [1:50]
• What are our bodies? [2:20]
• Why is listening to Andrew's experience helpful? [3:10]
• What is a good way to look at love? [4:07]
• What was Andrew's marriage commitment like? [5:25]
• What was Andrew's dating process like? [7:01]
• How did Andrew's training process of abstinence helpful? [9:00]
• How did Andrew's life change when he started having children? [10:30]
• What Mongolian tradition did Andrew struggle with which his wife was missing? [12:45]
• What struggles did Andrew endure with his wife? [13:15]
• What is marriage for the vast majority of humans? [19:10]
• What got Andrew through this difficult phase? [19:50]
• What does Andrew recommend in the time of struggle? [20:45]
• Which person would you choose to spend life with? [22:10]
• What is commitment to Andrew? [23:50]
• How can you save struggle and pain from happening? [24:50]
• What is High Noon about and how does it relate to sex? [26:10]
• What is different about Andrew's wife that has happened after 7 years of marriage? [28:00]
• How does Andrew compare sex before marriage to what he has experienced in it? [29:00]
• What game is Andrew encouraging us to play? [31:00]
• Closing thoughts and encouragements. [32:30]

It’s another solo-cast with Andrew Love, as he talks about the path he took to getting married, his victories and struggles in his marriage, and his recommendations for how you can overcome your own struggles!

• Where is Andrew tuning in from when sharing this podcast? [0:10]
• What gets old? [1:50]
• What are our bodies? [2:20]
• Why is listening to Andrew’s experience helpful? [3:10]
• What is a good way to look at love? [4:07]
• What was Andrew’s marriage commitment like? [5:25]
• What was Andrew’s dating process like? [7:01]
• How did Andrew’s training process of abstinence helpful? [9:00]
• How did Andrew’s life change when he started having children? [10:30]
• What Mongolian tradition did Andrew struggle with which his wife was missing? [12:45]
• What struggles did Andrew endure with his wife? [13:15]
• What is marriage for the vast majority of humans? [19:10]
• What got Andrew through this difficult phase? [19:50]
• What does Andrew recommend in the time of struggle? [20:45]
• Which person would you choose to spend life with? [22:10]
• What is commitment to Andrew? [23:50]
• How can you save struggle and pain from happening? [24:50]
• What is High Noon about and how does it relate to sex? [26:10]
• What is different about Andrew’s wife that has happened after 7 years of marriage? [28:00]
• How does Andrew compare sex before marriage to what he has experienced in it? [29:00]
• What game is Andrew encouraging us to play? [31:00]
• Closing thoughts and encouragements. [32:30]

What would you give up for the love of your life? Would you give up your bad habits? Would you even give up your cell phone???? Well, we discuss matters of the heart and mind with our great guest Seijin.

:30 Introduction to Seijin Tranberg

3:50 Seijin's background

9:30 How did Seijin prepare for his marriage/Blessing?

14: 40 How did Seijin realize he was in a negative space with his sexuality?

20:00 What drove Seijin to start consuming pornography?

23;00 How did Seijin feel when using pornography?

28:45 How did Seijin begin overcoming pornography through his relationship with his father?

45:00 How did Seijin continue reaching out to others?

48:00 What tricks does Seijin use for overcoming his bad habits?