In this episode, we explore how meaningful relationship shifts often begin with subtle internal changes rather than big conversations or shared agreements. We look at what it means to take responsibility for our own resistance, reconnect with the playful parts of ourselves, and embody the energy we want to experience with our partner.

As we soften into this inner work, our partners naturally feel the shift - an organic invitation rather than pressure or control. And finally, we discuss when it’s time to bring these changes into conversation, especially if deeper values or lifestyle shifts are unfolding.

Chapters

00:00Introduction to Long-Term Relationships

03:05The Importance of Self-Reflection

05:08Creating Change in Relationships

08:03Internal Work Before External Change

12:00Understanding Conditioning and Beliefs

15:10Transforming Negative Patterns

18:42The Role of Self-Compassion

22:09The Power of Intuition

23:23Mirroring in Relationships

27:51Navigating Fear in Change

32:20Communicating Change to Your Partner

Join us in pondering what love really is in this episode of Love Under the Scope. We've all been sold a story by the media, society and our families around the term 'love'. We're shown endless images of grand gestures, passionate love making and star-crossed lovers-turned married soulmates living happily ever after. But what's there at a deeper level?

We'll take a deep dive on what's going on when we're really experiencing love. Plus, how to develop love from within and become a skilled "love-bender"

In this episode, we tackle the hard truth around feeling like your partner's parent. Whether you're a man or woman listening, there's something here for you if you feel you are in this dynamic.

We'll get into:

• What the parent-child dynamic is in a romantic relationship
• How do we get into a dynamic like this
• Steps for starting to address and unwind the dynamic

And hopefully, you'll walk away feeling a little less alone in your experience. Feeling like a parent to your partner is actually a common phenomenon. There are manageable, practical steps you can take to disengage from the dynamic and create more connection in your relationship.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics

04:05 Understanding the Parent-Child Dynamic

12:53 Exploring the Roots of Responsibility

30:17 Conditioning and Its Impact on Relationships

30:58 The Impact of Childhood Conditioning on Adult Relationships

42:54 Unwinding the Mother-Child Dynamic in Relationships

57:13 Building Awareness and Setting Boundaries for Change

We're constantly getting messages around why our relationship needs to be fixed and perfected. Social media tells us to compare and 'test' the love that we have with our partner. And the self-help world says that there is always something to be worked on.

I know I've felt like it's never enough, there is always something "wrong" that needs us to work our butts off to fix.

What if everything we ever desired was here right now, and we're here missing the forest for the trees. That's the topic of today's episode.

I'll get into why we might feel like we can't see the beauty in our current relationships. And I'll talk about why it's so important to see the love in our relationships with clarity and appreciation.

In this episode, we discuss how self-hatred and inner criticism can quietly sabotage your relationships. That harsh inner voice that says you’re not enough doesn’t just affect your confidence - it shapes how you show up with your partner, too.

We explore where that voice comes from - childhood conditioning, societal pressure, and fear of rejection - and how it creates walls that block real connection. We wrap up by talking about how to move toward self-acceptance by meeting your thoughts with compassion, curiosity, and honesty, so you can start showing up in love from a place of truth instead of self-doubt.

Some breakups hit us like a truck. The deep well of emotion that we're faced with after a breakup can make us feel alone, rejected, helpless and lost (to name a few). We might wonder if we'll ever be happy again...

In this episode, we'll get into a few reasons why breakups are so painful. What about the dissolving of a long-term relationship is so earth-shattering. Why are we brought to our knees in some cases?

I'll also share some pointers for easing the process of emotional release that happens after a breakup. You'll learn a few ideas for supporting yourself in letting go and moving forward with the life you desire.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Love Under the Scope

03:33 Understanding Breakups and Their Pain

07:31 The Complexity of Breakups

21:12 Emotional Phases of Breakups

24:39 Strategies for Moving Through a Breakup

40:00 Finding Gratitude in Breakups

It's a question so many of us in relationships have asked: can you keep the passion alive, even after so many years together? The short answer is YES! The long answer is best captured by listening to the full episode.

We'll cover what that 'spark' actually is, how we lose it and how we can re-create and maintain the flames. The best part: you might be able to stir up some excitement that you've never felt in your relationship before!

In this episode of Love Under the Scope, we'll explore the complexities of emotional comfort in relationships. We'll get into the importance of understanding emotional triggers, how to offer and receive comfort during high emotional states, and the skills required to navigate these challenging moments. We'll also discuss the need for patience, practice, and open communication between partners to foster a supportive environment where both individuals can express their emotions without shame.

Takeaways

• Facing difficult topics strengthens relationships.
• Emotional triggers are common in all couples.
• Offering comfort is about providing support, not fixing.
• Receiving comfort requires vulnerability and openness.
• Emotions should be allowed to flow without shame (within reason).
• Communication is key in understanding emotional needs.
• Self-reflection helps in identifying emotional triggers.
• Partners should support each other through emotional states.
• No emotion is permanent; they come in waves.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Love Under the Scope

03:02 Understanding Emotional Triggers

09:24 Offering Comfort to Your Partner

28:43 Receiving Comfort from Your Partner

42:47 Conclusion and Reflection

The source of your triggers with your partner might not be what you think. Often times, we default to projecting and blaming our partner for all of our problems.

News flash: that tactic isn't going to help you feel empowered as an individual or in your relationship.

In this episode, we'll explore the real source of triggers and how you can use inner work to address the issue at the root.

Your core beliefs about the opposite sex inform the very foundation of your relationship and/or dating life. Frustrating patterns that come up for you over and over again around men (or women) can be traced back to childhood conditioning.

So, how do we form our beliefs? And how do we even know what we believe (since a lot of our beliefs are stored deep in the subconscious)?

Listen in to this episode and find out. I'll also discuss how we can work through limiting beliefs about the opposite sex and empower ourselves to create a more loving relationship with our partner.