Lovin' Sheila: The Podcast

In this episode, Sheila returns to the foundational practices that keep us grounded, centered, and well. After waking up with a full mind and reflecting on how easily we drift from the basics, she shares the simple, essential things that protect our peace, strengthen our relationships, and keep us aligned with who we are.Sheila opens up about reclaiming mental clarity — taking control of her thoughts, her nervous system, and what she allows into her spirit. From updating her whiteboard to logging the lessons she’s learned over the years, she talks about choosing peace on purpose and keeping reminders close so we don’t lose sight of what matters.This episode revisits the pillars of the Lovin’ Sheila journey:Faith as the foundationPutting yourself firstReleasing yourself from people‑pleasingEstablishing and protecting boundariesProtecting your peace from chaos and patterns of negativityBeing true to yourself Sheila reminds us that just like cars need maintenance, we do too. When we drift from the basics, life pulls us off center — but returning to what grounds us restores our strength, dignity, and self‑respect.This episode is your tune‑up: a call to return to what keeps you whole, aligned, and operating on all cylinders. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, equipped for purpose, and responsible for protecting the gift of your well‑being.Watch the entire episode for a heartfelt reminder to get back to the basics — your healing, your progress, and your peace are depending on YOU!

This is the very first Lovin’ Sheila Catch Up. It’s my space to pause, reflect, and expand on the conversations we’ve been having on the podcast — to share the ‘why,’ offer encouragement, and speak directly to the women who need it.In this Catch Up, I talk about repurposing our pain so we can help other women heal and soar. That was the takeaway from my conversation with Ama Karikari. Even though the topic was difficult, it was necessary. I’ve moved beyond much of the pain and disappointment of my past, but I know there are women who are living through it right now. I stand with them — reminding every woman that on the other side, there is happiness, healing, and hope.We also revisit my conversation with Kiana and Andrew Joyner and highlight the importance of financial compatibility. It’s a crucial part of choosing aligned partnership.I introduce the ‘Let Them Theory’ — but emphasize that the most important part is the Let Me. Let me grow, let me heal, let me choose differently, let me create the life I want.And that’s the heart of it: we must keep working on creating the life we want to live. Start by falling in love with yourself and your life. From there… believe, trust, and create

In this episode, I sit down with Kiana and Andrew Joyner of Soul Journey Project to unpack the real dynamics that create disconnection, resentment, and communication breakdowns in relationships. We explore the deeper patterns beneath the surface — identity, emotional safety, nervous system healing, and the inner work required for soul‑aligned partnership. If you’re ready to understand love on a deeper level, this conversation is for you.

This is an important and eye‑opening episode. Ama K. Karikari joins me to talk about emotional abuse — and we go straight to one of the most overlooked forms: the silent treatment. We break down the damage it causes, the confusion it creates, and how women can finally be free from its grip.Ama defines what the silent treatment really is and explains why all forms of abuse — emotional, financial, physical — are rooted in manipulation and control. From there, we talk about the path forward: healing, sisterhood, and reclaiming your voice.Ama also shares her workbook and her Sister Soaring group, offering tools and community for women ready to rise.

Sometimes, even after we’ve healed, we still slip back into our factory setting of survival mode.Don’t be too hard on yourself — you’re human.Healing isn’t linear. You may take a few detours.But stay the course. Don’t lose heart.Build a network of support.Know who to call.Know who truly has you.That’s one of the tools that keeps you out of survival mode…and firmly in your Soft Girl Era.

Are you healed… or emotionally unavailable?In this episode, I break down the real difference between the two — because many of us confuse “protecting our peace” with avoiding connection. Healing is supposed to make us more available, not more closed off.We talk about boundaries, fear, vulnerability, the tightrope between readiness and avoidance, and how to ease yourself back into emotional availability with wisdom and discernment.If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re healed or hiding… this one is for you.Topics in this episode: • Healing vs. emotional unavailability• Boundaries vs. avoidance• Fear of disappointment• Becoming emotionally available again• The “minutes restriction” of re‑entering relationships• Self‑awareness and calling yourself out• Beauty for ashes — opening up againSubscribe for more: healing, identity, purpose, relationships, and becoming whole.A

We start with the truth that not everyone will see you — and sometimes it’s the people closest to you who overlook you. The Bible reminds us that a prophet is without honor in their own country, and that reality can create real angst.But here’s the shift:Don’t fight to be seen.Don’t beg for recognition.Maybe that’s simply not the group you’re called to serve.Shake it off and stay available to the people who are assigned to your voice.And once we settle that, we move into the heart of the episode: making sure your vision is clear. I’m sharing 5 practical tips to keep your vision unclouded and your purpose protected.

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In this episode, Sheila shares the real journey to healing.Sometimes doing the work — setting boundaries, raising our standards, protecting our peace — can accidentally make us emotionally unavailable. We’re so focused on not getting hurt again that we stop putting our hearts on the table.But healing is like rehab for athletes. When they’re on IR, they’re unavailable for the game — but only for a season. They rehab to get stronger, healthier, and ready to play again.Our healing should do the same for us.Do the work… and then get back in the game.

Our Relationships Matter: A Conversation with Monica Tanner, RLT Coach

In this episode of Lovin’ Sheila, I sit down with RLT coach Monica Tanner for a powerful and eye‑opening conversation about what makes relationships thrive. We explore the real issues couples face — not from a place of fear or blame, but from a place of intentionality, skill, and growth.

Together, we dive into the essential elements that successful relationships learn to navigate, including:

• Asking for what you want with clarity and confidence

• Dealing with conflict in a way that strengthens connection

• Growing together without losing your individuality

• Becoming “we” while maintaining a strong sense of self

• Building the skillset required for a thriving, resilient partnership

• Understanding that every interaction matters — each one contributes to the overall health of the relationship

• Entering relationships informed, even though none of us were given a manual or training

This conversation is for anyone who wants to love better, communicate better, and show up with more intention in their relationships — whether you’re dating, married, healing, or rediscovering yourself.

Tune in to Episode 51 and join us as we unpack what it really takes to build relationships that last.

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In this milestone 50th episode of Lovin’ Sheila, we’re diving into the power of creating and sustaining positive momentum. Momentum is a force — and it belongs to no one. That means it’s not gifted, granted, or guaranteed. It’s something we must build, protect, and reclaim for ourselves.In this episode, I share moments from my own life when I lost momentum, and why I’m excited that losing it isn’t the end of the story. Because if momentum belongs to no one, then we all have the ability to get it back.I walk through key principles to help you regain your forward motion:self‑awareness, perspective, finding the takeaway, letting things go, calling a time‑out, and more. These aren’t just tips — they’re tools to help you stay aligned, stay grounded, and stay in control of your own energy.This episode is your reminder to be assertive, protect your peace, and take ownership of your momentum. No one can do it for you. And the good news is — you’re fully capable of doing it for yourself.