LOVING LIFE AT HOME - Christian Marriage, Biblical Parenting, Creative Homemaking, Purposeful Living

Little known fact: Today (April 9) is Winston Churchill Day in the US. So today, I'm taking some of my favorite quotes from the British Bulldog, examining them in light of scripture, and applying them to marriage. I hope you'll listen in!

- Luke 12:48 - “From everyone who has been given much, much will be required....”

- Romans 12:10 - “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” 

- Philippians 4:8 - “...whatever is true... honorable... right... pure... think about these things.”

- Luke 6:38 - “Give, and it will be given to you...good measure—pressed down, shaken together....” 

- James 1:19 - "Let everyone be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger.”

- James 1:2-3 - “Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials....” 

- 1 Peter 1:6-7 - “In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief ....” 

- 2 Cor. 4:17 - “For our light and momentary affliction is producing for us an eternal weight of glory...."

- Heb. 12:11 - "No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful. Later on, however...."

- Isaiah 41:10 - “Do not fear, for I am with you; do not be afraid, for I am your God. I will strengthen you....”

- Psalm 23:4 - "Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil...."

- Philippians 4:13 - “I can do all this through him who gives me strength.”

- Galatians 6:9 - “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap...."

- John 15:5 - “I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit..."

- Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara - “the remarkable power of giving people more than they expect”

- EP 78: 7 Ways to Ruin Your Marriage

- EP 75: Emphasize Your Husband's Good Points

- The Good News about Marriage by Shaunti Feldhahn

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Proverbs 14:1 tells us, “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”

I normally like to focus on the first part of that verse and consider, “What are some wise ways we can build our homes and strengthen our family relationships?”

But instead of taking my usual approach and discussing how to nurture your marriage and make it better, today I’d like to examine some very common and very foolish habits that tear down our homes and the people we live with and put unnecessary strain on relationships and threaten to ruin marriages. 

So today, I present you with 7 WAYS TO RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE--GUARANTEED.

- Proverbs 14:1 - "The wise woman builds her house, But the foolish tears it down with her own hands."

- Philippians 2:3-4 - "Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merelylook out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others.”

- Philippians 4:8 - Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” 

- 1 Corinthians 13:7 - "Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things."

- Colossians 3:13 - "Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

- Ephesians 5:33 - "However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband."

- 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 - "The husband must fulfill his duty to his wife, and likewise also the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does; and likewise also the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Stop depriving one another, except by agreement for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer, and come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."

- James 5:16 - "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective."

- 5 Ways to Ruin Your Day — Guaranteed

 - EP 75 - Emphasize Your Husband's Good Points

- Enough with the Excuses

- Time to Turn Your Thinking Around  (the poem I wrote that can be read forwards and backwards)

- One-Year Bible Reading Plan

- 31 Verses to Pray over Your Husband

- Praying Boldly for Yourself

- Prayer for a Happy Marriage

- A Wise Woman Builds Coloring Page

- Love Your Husband/ Love Yourself - the first book I ever wrote (and I still stand behind every word!)

- 25 Way to Communicate Respect for Your Husband: A Handbook for Wives

- 25 Ways to Show Love to Your Wife: A Handbook for Husbands

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This week on Loving Life at Home I'm answering a couple of questions about starting a family during medical school, but the principles also apply to other decisions people put off while waiting for perfect timing.

- Ecclesiastes 4:12 - "Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

- Psalm 127:3 - "Children are a blessing and a gift from the LORD."

- Philippians 4:19 - "And my God will supply all your needs according to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus."

- Having Babies in Medical School? - the post I wrote 17 years ago on this same topic

- Then Comes Baby in a Baby Carriage - having babies matures us in important ways

- Postponing Motherhood: At What Cost? - another good argument for not waiting for "the perfect time"

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- John 3:16 - "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son that whosoever believes in Him shall not perish but have everlasting life."

- Romans 12:10 - “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.”

- A Prayer for Singles - free printable prayer guide

- The State of a Union - How grows your marriage?

- In Praise of the Manly Man - a poem I wrote for my husband

- A Fish wihout Fins - one of my very first poems to my husband

- A Hero in the Making - yet another poem I wrote me husband

- 30-Day Love Your Wife Challenge - free email challenge for husbands

- 30-Day Respect Challenge - free email challenge for wives

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Pop quiz: Which would you prefer?

(a) That your husband focus his thoughts on your loveliest, most noble and praiseworthy characteristics?

(b) That he ignore your good points completely and concentrate instead on your most annoying and bothersome flaws?

That's an easy answer, as far as I'm concerned. So shouldn't you make every effort to treat your spouse the way you'd want to be treated yourself by emphasizing your husband's good points?

- Philippians 4:8 - "Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things."

- EP 10 - We Find What We Look For

- Love Is a Verb by Gary Chapman

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My youngest daughter and I just got home from a fun-filled mother-daughter retreat our homeschool co-op sponsors every January. The theme of this year's retreat was "Standing in the Truth," and in this week's episode, I'm sharing the major points of a talk I gave at the retreat on that same topic. I hope you'll listen in and let me know what you think in the comment section below.

- John 14:6 - ""I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me."

- Acts 4:12 - "Salvation is found in no one else, for there is no other name under heaven given to mankind by which we must be saved.”

- James 2:19 - "You believe that God is one. You do well; the demons also believe, and shudder."

- 2 Peter 1:10 - "Therefore, brethren, be even more diligent to make your call and election sure, for if you do these things you will never stumble."

- Matthew 7:22-23 - "Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? ..."

- Ephesians 4:13-14 - "...no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine...."

- Psalm 139:13 - "For You created my innermost parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb."

- 1 Corinthians 10:31 - "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God."

- 1 Thessalonians 5:17 - "Pray without ceasing."

- Philippians 4:6 - "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God."

- James 4:8 - "Draw near to God and He will draw near to you..."

- Heb 10:23-25 - "Let us hold fast to the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful...."

- Isaiah 64:6 - "...all our righteous acts are like filthy rags...."

- Eph 6:10-18 - "Finally, be strong in the Lord and in the strength of His might. Put on the full armor of God..."

- EP 27: God Wants the Whole Pie

- EP 28: Bible Memory Tips

- One-Year Bible Reading Plan

- Free Printable Prayer Guides

- Armor of God Printables

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Are sibling squabbles driving you crazy? Do you crave a respite from all your kids' bickering? Then listen in today as I answer another reader's question: "How can I get my kids to stop fighting?"

-1 John 4:20-21 - "...the one who loves God should love his brother also."

- Luke 6:31 - "Do to others as you would have them do to you."

- Galatians 5:13 - "...do not use your freedom to indulge the flesh; rather, serve one another humbly in love."

- Proverbs 6:16-19 - "... things which the LORD hates... one who spreads strife among brothers."

- Galatians 6:9 - "Let us not grow weary of doing good, in due season we shall reap."

- Psalm 133:1 - "Behold how good and how pleasant it is For brothers to live together in unity!"

- EP 44: Cultivating Friendships between Siblings

- Stop Sibling Squabbles in 5 Simple Steps

- Help! My Kids Won't Stop Fighting!

- Teaching Kindness (Free Printable)

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For the new year, I want to tackle some of the questions that have been piling up in my inbox, starting with how to deal with neighbors who aren’t very neighborly. Listen in for four tips on getting through to the people who live nearby.

- Matthew 5:14  - “You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden.”  

- Proverbs 27:10 – “...Better is a neighbor who is near than a brother who is far away.”

- Matthew 22:36-39 - "... You shall love your neighbor as yourself."

- 25 Ways to Be a Good Neighbor -  a blog post I wrote several years ago

- On Loving Your Neighbor - more about our move into the Mayberry-ish neighborhood

- Love Your Neighbor Coloring Page - hand-drawn design featuring Mark 12:31

- Good Neighbor Conversation Starters - to prompt good family discussions on this topic

- The Gospel Comes with a House Key - book by Rosaria Butterfield

- Loving My Actual Neighbor - book by Alexandra Kuykendall

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There is great power in prayer, and Christians should be careful never to neglect this amazing privilege and vital discipline. That's why God commands us to "pray without ceasing.

What's more, God will always answer our prayers -- though not necessarily in the manner we hope or expect.

- 1 Thess. 5:17 - "Pray without ceasing."

- Psalm 139:13-16 - "For You formed my inward parts; You wove me in my mother’s womb...."

- Matthew 9:35 - "Jesus went through all the towns...healing every disease and sickness."

- John 9:39 - "...the blind will see and those who see will become blind.”

- Mark 2:9-12 - "Which is easier, to say to the paralytic, ‘Your sins are forgiven’; or to say, ‘Get up...'"

- Isaiah 55:8-9 - "'For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,” declares the LORD."

- John 9:2-3 - "Who sinned, this man or his parents, that he would be born blind?”

- James 5:14-15 - "Is anyone among you sick? Let him call for the elders of the church, and let them pray..."

- James 4:2 - "You have not because you ask not.”

- Matthew 7:7 - “Ask, and it shall be given to you; seek, and you shall find....”

- Our Daily Lifeline  - We should pray hardest when it's hardest to pray

- A Good Reminder - If you pray only when you're in trouble, you're in trouble

- Free Printable Prayer Guides - You'll find a full listing here of all the guides we offer, ready for downloading

- The Complete Collection - This time-saving bundle includes my prayer guides and other related resources

- Colossians 1:16-17 – “For by Him all things were created, both in the heavens and on earth, visible and invisible, whether thrones or dominions or rulers or authorities—all things have been created by Him and for Him. And He is before all things, and in Him all things hold together.”

- John 10:28-29 – “I give them eternal life, and they will never perish. No one can snatch them out of My hand. / My Father who has given them to Me is greater than all. No one can snatch them out of My Father’s hand.”

- Romans 8:28 – “And we know that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.”

- Proverbs 24:5 - “The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength.”

- Proverbs 24:6 - “Only with sound guidance should you wage war, and victory lies in a multitude of counselors.”

- Matthew 6:34 - “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”

- Philippians 4:7 - "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

- Psalm 139:16 - "Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them."

- Ephesians 2:10 - "For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do."

- Psalm 90:12 - “So teach us to number our days, that we may apply our hearts to wisdom.”

- Psalm 127:2 - "It is vain for you to rise up early, To retire late, To eat the bread of painful labors; For He gives to His beloved even in his sleep."

- Suffering by Paul David Tripp

- Leaning on the Everlasting Arms

- How Firm a Foundation