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Who you are today did not begin when you became an adult. It began with the experiences, relationships, and messages you absorbed as a child.

In this powerful episode of Becoming Her, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Carole Evans, public speaker and host of the Faith and Works Podcast, for an honest conversation about how childhood experiences shape our adult identity. Through her own personal story, Carole shares how the wounds, beliefs, and patterns we carry from childhood often follow us into adulthood, influencing the way we love, trust, communicate, and see ourselves.

Together, we explore why healing requires more than simply moving on. It requires understanding where those patterns began and allowing faith to guide the transformation. Carole reminds us that while our childhood may explain many of our struggles, it does not have to define our future. Through faith, self-awareness, and intentional healing, we can rewrite the story we have been living.

If you have ever found yourself asking:

Why do I keep repeating the same patterns?

Why is it so hard to trust myself or others?

How do I break free from the beliefs I learned as a child?

This conversation is for you.

Your childhood may have written the first chapters of your story, but through healing and faith, you get to write the rest.

About Our Guest

Carole Evans is a public speaker and the host of the Faith and Works Podcast, where she encourages others to live with purpose, faith, and resilience. Drawing from her own life experiences, Carole speaks candidly about the lasting impact of childhood, the importance of healing, and how faith can become the foundation for becoming the person God created you to be.

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Being independent is a strength. Living in isolation is a survival strategy.

Somewhere along the way, many women learned that relying on others led to disappointment, abandonment, or pain. So we built lives where we could do everything ourselves. We called it independence. But what if what we're really experiencing is isolation?

In this powerful conversation, Coach Tammy Nicole and certified life coach, speaker, and author Jayna Palmer unpack the subtle but life-changing difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation. Together, they explore how unresolved trauma, fear, and self-protection can quietly keep us disconnected from the very relationships and support we desire.

Jayna K. Palmer is an international speaker, author, and identity disruptor known for her raw truth, emotional intensity, and unforgettable stage presence. As the founder of the Resurrect Her Voice Movement, she helps women recognize the voices driving their decisions, expose the destructive patterns keeping them stuck, and take ownership so they can finally shift direction. Her work focuses on identity transformation, toxic patterns, forgiveness, personal power, and helping women reclaim the voice trauma tried to silence. Her message is simple yet profound: Your past may explain you, but it does not own you.

In this episode, you'll discover:

• The difference between healthy independence and emotional isolation.
• Why hyper-independence is often rooted in survival, not strength.
• How fear, shame, and past experiences influence our relationships.
• Practical ways to reconnect with yourself and others without losing your independence.
• Why healing requires courage, vulnerability, and ownership.

If you've ever said, "I've got it," while secretly wishing someone would simply show up for you, this conversation will challenge, encourage, and empower you to choose connection over self-protection.

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Website: https://www.iamtammynicole.com
Coaching: [email protected]
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What does freedom really mean?

For many women, freedom has been defined by other people's expectations, past wounds, responsibilities, relationships, or even survival. But true freedom is not simply doing whatever you want. It's having the courage to live in alignment with who you truly are.

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with Alpha Mshihiri, therapist, coach, and advocate for personal transformation, to explore what it means to redefine freedom on your own terms. Together, they unpack the difference between external freedom and internal freedom, how past experiences can quietly keep us emotionally imprisoned, and why healing is often the pathway to true liberation.

You'll hear an honest conversation about identity, faith, relationships, personal responsibility, and the courage it takes to stop living for everyone else's approval. Whether you're breaking free from limiting beliefs, unhealthy relationship patterns, people-pleasing, or fear, this episode will challenge you to examine what freedom looks like in your own life.

In This Episode We Discuss:

• What freedom really means beyond the surface
 • The hidden chains that keep people emotionally stuck
 • How faith and healing work together in personal transformation
 • The difference between independence and true freedom
 • Practical steps to begin creating a life that feels authentic and aligned

If you've ever felt trapped by expectations, fear, guilt, or old versions of yourself, this conversation will remind you that freedom isn't something you find. It's something you choose.

Thank you for listening to Loving Me Before I Love You. If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may need this message.

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Until next time, remember: the most important relationship you'll ever have is the one you have with yourself. 💜

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What if the very thing standing between you and the life you desire is your unwillingness to let go?

In this thought-provoking episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with author, speaker, and time strategist Chrystal Wood Hawley for a powerful conversation about releasing what no longer aligns with the woman you're becoming.

Whether it's an outdated belief, an unhealthy relationship, a limiting mindset, unrealistic expectations, or even commitments that no longer fit your season, detachment is often the bridge between where you are and where you're meant to be.

Together, Coach Tammy and Chrystal explore:

✨ Why we hold on to things that no longer serve us
 ✨ The hidden cost of emotional, mental, and time debt
 ✨ How fear, guilt, and familiarity keep us stuck
 ✨ Recognizing when it's time to release people, habits, and patterns
 ✨ Creating space for healing, growth, and alignment
 ✨ Practical ways to move forward without carrying yesterday into tomorrow

Chrystal shares a unique perspective on how our relationship with time impacts our ability to let go and move forward. She challenges listeners to examine not only what they're holding onto emotionally, but what they're continuing to invest their precious time in despite knowing it's no longer serving them.

If you've been feeling weighed down, stretched thin, or stuck between who you were and who you're becoming, this episode is your reminder that every new chapter requires a release.

Sometimes growth isn't about doing more. It's about finally putting down what was never meant to come with you.

About Our Guest

Chrystal Wood Hawley is the founder and CEO of Let's Talk Time, a time strategy firm based in Atlanta, Georgia, where she helps individuals and organizations increase time traction through transformative goal setting. She is the author of Let's Talk Time: Own Your Hours. Rule Your Life. and is on a mission to teach women how to stop compounding time debt and transform their lives by understanding their relationship with time.

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📱 Instagram: @cw_hawley | @lets.talk.time
💼 LinkedIn: Chrystal Wood Hawley

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On Loving Me Before I Love You, we believe healing begins when we choose ourselves. This conversation is a reminder that releasing what no longer serves you isn't loss, it's making room for the life, peace, and purpose you've been praying for.

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What if the life you've built isn't actually freedom... it's familiarity?

In this thought-provoking episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with transformational guide Gabriela Rojas to explore the powerful difference between living freely and simply living comfortably.

Many of us settle into routines, relationships, careers, and identities that feel safe, but safety and freedom are not always the same thing. Together, Tammy and Gabriela unpack how comfort can quietly become a cage, keeping us from the growth, healing, and expansion we deeply desire.

Drawing from her own journey through profound loss and self-discovery, Gabriela shares how heartbreak became the catalyst that led her back to herself and ultimately inspired her mission to help women reconnect with their inner wisdom, spiritual health, and personal power.

In this episode, we discuss:

✨ The difference between comfort and true freedom
 ✨ How fear disguises itself as security
 ✨ Why self-mastery is essential to creating the life you desire
 ✨ The role spiritual health plays in personal transformation
 ✨ How to recognize when you've outgrown a season of your life
 ✨ Practical ways to begin choosing alignment over familiarity

If you've been feeling stuck, restless, or like there's more waiting for you on the other side of your comfort zone, this conversation will challenge you to ask yourself a powerful question:

Am I truly free... or have I simply become comfortable?

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What does it really mean to be a man in today’s world… when strength is no longer silence, and leadership requires emotional awareness?

In this powerful and necessary conversation, we sit down with Dr. Timothy Brantley—male mentor, counselor, author, and minister—to unpack what emotional intelligence looks like for the modern man. This isn’t surface-level talk. This is about the inner work men were never taught to do… but are now being called to rise into.

Together, we explore how many men were conditioned to suppress emotion, disconnect from vulnerability, and equate feelings with weakness… and how that mindset is quietly impacting relationships, communication, and connection. Dr. Brantley brings truth, wisdom, and accountability as we discuss what it takes for a man to lead emotionally, not just logically.

This episode will challenge both men and women. Because while women are doing the healing work, many are still asking… where are the emotionally available men? And the truth is… they exist, but they’ve had to unlearn everything they were taught about what it means to “be a man.”

If you’ve ever struggled with emotional connection in relationships, misunderstood a man’s silence, or wondered how emotional intelligence plays a role in love, leadership, and legacy… this conversation is for you.

Connect with Dr. Timothy Brantley:
 TikTok & Instagram: @relationshiptrainer
 Website: www.drtcbrantley.com

Now listen… if you’re ready to stop navigating relationships from confusion, hurt, or survival mode, and start showing up with clarity, confidence, and emotional awareness… I got you.

My coaching programs are designed to help you do the real work. The kind that transforms how you see yourself, how you communicate, and what you allow in your life. Tap into that next level version of you by joining my coaching program. Visit stan.store/iamtammynicole to get started.

And don’t just listen to this episode… engage with it. Share your biggest takeaway. Send your questions. Let’s have real conversations that lead to real change.

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This is more than a podcast… this is where healing meets accountability, and growth becomes a lifestyle.

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Somewhere along the way, many of us were taught that “no” needs to be softened… explained… justified… made palatable for everybody else.

But here’s the truth nobody likes to say out loud…
 Every time you over-explain your no, you are asking for permission to honor yourself.

And that right there… is where we lose our power.

In this deeply layered and eye-opening episode, I sit down with David Lea to unpack what it really means to say no without explanation and why that simple word carries so much weight… especially for men. This is also why women must also learn the power of the word "No"

We explore the difference between a man’s no and a woman’s no, and how conditioning, trauma, and identity shape the way we show up in our boundaries. David brings a powerful masculine perspective rooted in trauma-informed polarity work, breaking down how our inability to say no is often tied to deeper emotional wounds… not just communication habits.

This conversation is not surface-level.
 We get into the body… the nervous system… the patterns… the truth.

Because saying no isn’t just about setting a boundary.
 It’s about reclaiming your voice… your safety… and your self-respect.

In this episode, we talk about:
 • Why “no” feels so hard to say without guilt
 • The energetic difference between masculine and feminine boundaries
 • How trauma impacts your ability to choose yourself
 • Why over-explaining is a form of self-abandonment
 • How to begin standing in your no with clarity and confidence

If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes when you meant no…
 If you’ve ever felt the need to explain yourself just to be understood…
 If you’ve ever questioned whether your needs were “too much”…

This episode is going to meet you right where you are… and challenge you to rise.

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Ready to stop explaining and start standing in your power?

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YouTube: https://youtube.com/@daringdeeplycoaching

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Because “no” is not rejection…
 It’s redirection back to yourself.

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What does it truly mean for a man to lead, provide, and be fully present?

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole sits down with life coach, author, speaker, and entrepreneur FL Tha Lifecoach for a real conversation about the role of men in relationships, families, and the community. Together, they unpack the deeper meaning behind purpose, provision, and presence, and why all three matter when building healthy homes, healthy relationships, and emotionally safe environments.

This episode goes beyond money and masculinity stereotypes. It explores emotional leadership, nervous system regulation, generational patterns, identity, healing, accountability, and the pressure many men silently carry while trying to show up for the people they love.

FL Tha Lifecoach shares wisdom from over 20 years of experience helping people recognize unhealthy patterns, reconnect with their authentic selves, and break free from survival mode through his Dare2BU movement and 5R Framework:
 Recognize the Pattern. Regulate the Body. Receive the Revelation. Build the Rhythm. Put It on Repeat.

As a husband of 27 years, father of three boys, former business owner, and coach, FL brings both lived experience and practical tools to a conversation our communities desperately need.

This episode will challenge both men and women to rethink what true leadership, love, and emotional presence really look like.

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 Website: FL Tha Lifecoach Website

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Some wounds don’t bleed where people can see them…
 but they shape how you love, how you trust, and how you show up in every relationship.

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, we’re getting honest about the father wound… the unspoken hurt many carry but few know how to name.

I’m joined by Jarratt DAMN, host of It's About DAMN Time, who brings raw truth, reflection, and real-time growth into this conversation. Together, we unpack how the absence, inconsistency, or emotional unavailability of a father can quietly shape identity, self-worth, and the way we navigate love.

This isn’t about blame.
 This is about awareness.
 This is about healing what was never acknowledged.

In this episode, we talk about:
 • How the father wound shows up in adulthood… especially in relationships
 • The emotional patterns you inherited but never questioned
 • What it looks like for men to do the inner work out loud
 • Releasing the need for validation from the very place that hurt you
 • Choosing healing, even when the apology never comes

Jarratt shares his journey as a father, a man, and someone committed to becoming better one truth at a time. His perspective will challenge you to stop running from the questions… and start asking the ones that actually set you free.

Because healing isn’t about having all the answers…
 It’s about having the courage to face what you’ve been avoiding.

Ready to stop carrying what was never yours?
My Self-Love Reset Program is designed to help you rebuild your identity, set boundaries without guilt, and finally choose yourself with clarity, confidence, and courage.
Join me here: https://stan.store/iamtammynicole

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If this episode speaks to you, don’t just sit with it… do something with it.
 Your healing is waiting on your honesty.

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Let’s tell the truth…
 A lot of moms aren’t struggling because they don’t love their children.
 They’re struggling because they don’t know how to love themselves without feeling guilty for it.

In this episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, we’re getting into something that will either free you… or confront you: Creating Boundaries as a Mom Without Guilt.

I’m joined by Shajuan Alexander, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, private practice owner, and founder of The Culture of Health, PLLC. She’s not just talking theory… she’s living this. As a mother, entrepreneur, and coach, Shajuan helps women expand beyond survival mode and step into lives that actually reflect who they are.

And baby… this conversation is going to check you in the best way.

Because somewhere along the line, many moms were taught:
 “If I say no, I’m selfish.”
 “If I choose me, I’m neglecting them.”
 “If I set boundaries, I’m a bad mother.”

And that belief right there?
 That’s the very thing draining you.

In this episode, we unpack:
 • Why guilt shows up the moment you try to set boundaries
 • The difference between being a present mom and an overextended one
 • How people-pleasing is quietly shaping your parenting
 • What it actually looks like to say no… and mean it
 • How to create boundaries that protect your peace without disconnecting from your children
 • The truth about modeling self-love for your kids through your actions

This isn’t about doing less for your children…
 It’s about no longer abandoning yourself while doing everything for them.

Because the version of you that’s burnt out, resentful, and overwhelmed…
 that’s not the legacy you’re trying to leave.

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You don’t need permission to take care of yourself…
 but if you’ve been waiting on it… this is it.