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What if self-worth was not a vibe, not a quote, not a cute affirmation you post on Instagram… but something measurable, rewritable, and rooted in science?

In this transformative episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, I sit down with Karlyn Benn, Licensed Professional Counselor, Liberation Strategist, Author, and Speaker with over 15 years of experience helping women build real self-worth from the inside out.

Karlyn’s work did not begin in a textbook. It began in her own mirror.

She knows what it feels like to believe you are not pretty enough, not smart enough, not thin enough, not enough. And instead of staying stuck in that narrative, she studied it. She challenged it. She rebuilt herself.

Together, we unpack:

• Why so many high-functioning women still struggle with feeling “not enough”
 • The psychology behind people-pleasing and perfectionism
 • How your inner critic is formed and how to retrain it
 • The difference between confidence and true self-worth
 • Practical strategies to prioritize yourself without guilt

This is not surface-level motivation. This is the science behind why you abandon yourself and how to stop.

If you are tired of performing for approval…
 If you are exhausted from trying to earn love…
 If you are ready to silence that inner voice that says you are lacking…

This episode will challenge you and free you at the same time.

Because self-worth is not something you chase.
 It is something you cultivate.

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Let’s keep doing the inner work.

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What happens when a woman stops shrinking?
 What changes when she decides she will no longer dilute her voice to make others comfortable?

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, I sit down with Melissa Morehead, a fearless leader, U.S. Navy veteran, ordained minister, community advocate, and the unapologetic force behind Melissa Morehead, LLC. Known as the Fear Fighter Life Coach, Melissa is committed to helping women dismantle fear at its core and rewrite the narratives that have kept them stuck.

We talk about what it truly means to give yourself permission. Permission to evolve. Permission to pivot. Permission to take up space without apology. Permission to outgrow versions of yourself that no longer fit.

Melissa opens up about her journey from military service to ministry, from civic leadership to motherhood and grandmotherhood, and how each chapter strengthened her voice. From serving as a School Board Trustee to leading Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion efforts at the state level, she reminds us that purpose is not about position. It is about impact.

This conversation is for the woman who feels called but fears the criticism.
 For the woman who has been conditioned to play small.
 For the woman who is tired of asking for permission to be who she already is.

If you have ever wrestled with fear, questioned your worth, or wondered whether you are too much, this episode will remind you that you were never too much. You were just becoming.

Listen in. Lean in. And walk away ready to show up fully, boldly, and unapologetically.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where growth isn’t about aesthetics. It’s about alignment.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dominique Beeks, a new business owner navigating the uncomfortable but necessary journey of finding herself, using her voice, and owning her truth in rooms she once felt too small to enter. This is not a glow up story about perfection. It’s about permission.

We talk about:
 • what playing small really looks like in adulthood
 • fear, self doubt, and the courage to be seen
 • identity shifts that come with entrepreneurship
 • learning to take up space without apology
 • choosing growth even when confidence feels shaky

This conversation is for the woman who knows she’s meant for more but hasn’t fully stepped into it yet. The one standing at the edge of her next level, wondering if she’s ready. Sis, readiness comes after obedience, not before it.

Connect with our guest:
 Social Media: @dominiquebeeks

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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. Your glow up isn’t about being louder. It’s about finally standing where you belong.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, the place where we challenge the stories we’ve been told about who we are and who we’re allowed to become.

In this episode, I’m joined by Melissa Maughan, Personal Brand and Messaging Strategist, for a powerful conversation about false labels, identity distortion, and the quiet ways women learn to shrink themselves to fit expectations in both life and business. This is about the mirror we’ve been handed versus the truth we’ve been avoiding.

Melissa helps purpose driven women live and lead without compromise. Her work centers on helping women stop echoing what the world expects and start using their own voice to build visibility, authority, authentic connection, and meaningful growth. Because who you are matters more than what you do.

In this episode, we explore:
 • how false labels form and why they stick
 • the danger of confusing perception with truth
 • identity erosion in life, leadership, and business
 • what it really means to be a voice, not an echo
 • breaking free from boxes that were never built for you

This episode is for the woman who’s tired of performing, tired of being misunderstood, and tired of trying to prove herself in rooms that never saw her clearly. If you’ve been ready to rewrite your narrative, this conversation will meet you at the mirror.

Connect with our guest, Melissa Maughan:
 Instagram: https://instagram.com/themelissamaughn

Facebook: https://facebook.com/themelissamaughn

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/themelissamaughn

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@themelissamaughn

Email: [email protected]

Melissa’s work includes the Compromise-Free Brand Method™, a done-for-you, one-on-one experience helping coaches and leaders clarify their message, build their brand, and show up confidently without shrinking or selling out.

If today’s episode stirred something deeper and you’re ready to do the inner work:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. The mirror may lie, but your truth doesn’t. It’s time to choose it.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where we stop romanticizing survival bonds and start telling the truth about what love actually is.

In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Ibbie, licensed mental health therapist and social psychologist, widely known as The Attachment Doc. Dr. Ibbie specializes in attachment theory and relational trauma healing, helping individuals and couples understand the patterns that keep them stuck, anxious, avoidant, or emotionally starving in relationships that feel intense but unsafe.

This conversation gets real about:
 • the difference between love and attachment
 • why chemistry is not compatibility
 • how childhood wounds wire adult relationships
 • anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment patterns
 • what secure attachment actually looks like in real life
 • how to stop mistaking emotional intensity for love

If you’ve ever stayed because it felt familiar, chased because it felt urgent, or tolerated because leaving felt unbearable, this episode will put language to what your nervous system has been screaming.

Connect with our guest:
 Social Media: @dr.ibbiearo

If today’s episode cracked something open and you’re ready to heal intentionally:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. Attachment will keep you bonded to pain. Love will never ask you to abandon yourself.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where self love isn’t gendered, and accountability belongs to everyone in the room.

In this episode, I’m joined by Louis “Louie V” Vick for a real conversation about self love from the male perspective. No fluff. No posturing. Just truth. Louie V blends professional presence with unfiltered real talk, the kind that challenges comfort zones and calls people higher without crossing lines. He says what most people think but don’t articulate, and he says it from lived experience.

We get into:
 • what self love actually looks like for men
 • how unhealed men show up in relationships
 • why loving yourself first isn’t selfish, it’s necessary
 • accountability, emotional maturity, and growth
 • what women misunderstand about men and vice versa

This episode is for women who want healthier relationships and are open to understanding how men process identity, love, and responsibility. It’s also for men willing to look in the mirror and do the work instead of pointing fingers.

Connect with our guest, Louie V:
 TikTok & Facebook: @thelouiev
 Instagram: @_thelouiev
 YouTube: @the_louiev

If today’s conversation expanded your perspective and you’re ready to deepen your self love journey:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. The ultimate relationship starts with you. Anything built without that foundation will eventually collapse.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, the space where we challenge the labels that keep us boxed in and exhausted.

In this episode, I’m joined by transition coach Lena Wilson for a necessary conversation about identity, evolution, and the fear women feel when they begin to outgrow the titles that once defined them. Wife. Mother. Professional. Caregiver. Leader. Strong one. When your worth has been attached to what you do, who are you allowed to be when those titles shift or fall away?

We unpack:
 • why women cling to titles even when they no longer fit
 • the grief and guilt that comes with identity transitions
 • how performance replaces presence
 • what it looks like to choose self definition over expectation
 • permission to evolve without explanation

This episode is for the woman standing at the edge of change, wondering if she’s allowed to want more without betraying who she’s been. If you’ve been feeling restless, unseen, or misaligned, this conversation will speak directly to you.

Connect with our guest:
 Social Media: @coachlenawilson

If today’s episode opens something up and you’re ready to go deeper:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. You are not your titles. You are the woman bold enough to become who you truly are.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where we stop glamorizing survival and start telling the truth about what it costs.

In this episode, I sit down with Shat’e Hayes, a recent divorcee who opens up about the quiet unraveling that happens after motherhood, marriage, and burnout collide. This is not a story about starting over overnight. It’s about losing yourself in pieces and choosing, one breath at a time, to come back home.

We talk about:
 • the grief that comes after the divorce papers are signed
 • burnout disguised as strength
 • the shame women carry for wanting more
 • what self discovery looks like when life doesn’t go as planned

This conversation is for the woman who held everything together until she couldn’t. The one who kept showing up while falling apart in private. If you’ve ever wondered who you are after pouring yourself into everyone else, this episode will meet you right where you are.

If this episode stirred something in you and you’re ready for support on your healing journey:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. Finding yourself isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you were before you learned to disappear.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where we talk about the parts of you that get lost while you’re busy being everything for everyone else.

In this episode, I’m joined by Jessica Toussaint for a powerful conversation about identity, self-concept, and the psychological cost of living inside roles you were never meant to disappear into. Daughter. Mother. Partner. Professional. Strong one. The responsible one. The healer. Somewhere along the way, you stopped asking who you are outside of what you do.

We unpack:
 • how roles slowly replace identity
 • why women are praised for self abandonment
 • the difference between responsibility and erasure
 • how early conditioning teaches us to perform instead of exist
 • practical ways to reconnect with the woman underneath the labels

This episode is for the woman who looks successful on the outside but feels fragmented on the inside. The one who keeps showing up while quietly losing herself. If you’ve ever asked, “Who am I without my titles?” this conversation will sit with you long after it ends.

If today’s episode opens something up and you’re ready to do the deeper work:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. You are not your roles. You are the woman who existed before them, and she deserves to come back home.

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Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, the space where we peel back the layers and stop pretending for the sake of love. 

Today’s episode is not surface cute. This one asks that question we avoid when the world isn’t clapping, the lashes come off, and the mask is sitting on the bathroom counter: Who am I when no one sees me?

I sat down with mental health expert Lenita Sanford, known across social media as @shanimentalhealth. Her platform ministers directly to the silent wounds of daddy issues, abandonment, and the impact those early patterns have on how we choose men, how we show up in love, and whether we ever truly feel worthy of healthy relationships.

Together, we unwrap:
 • the identity we perform vs the identity we protect
 • how father wounds shape the self-concept we carry into adulthood
 • why love feels safer in fantasy than reality
 • steps to break the cycle of pleasing, pretending, and performing
 • what accountability looks like when healing becomes real work

This conversation will pull something out of you. No sugarcoating. If you’re tired of shrinking, tired of being strong, tired of being loyal to pain, this episode will invite you to see the version of yourself that deserves better.

Connect with our guest:
 Website: lenitasanford.mysamcart.com
 Social: @shanimentalhealth

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Sis, listen closely. Who you are when nobody’s watching is who you’re becoming. And she deserves to be seen.