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What are your children really learning from you… not from what you say, but from how you live?

In this powerful and honest conversation, I sit down with Kamia Hayes, wife, mother of six, and founder of Capacity Liberation Group™, to unpack a truth many women avoid… you cannot teach self-love if you are constantly abandoning yourself.

Kamia doesn’t just talk about motherhood, she lived the exhaustion of pouring into everyone else while running on empty. And one day, she saw it clearly… her children were watching her neglect herself in real time. That moment became her turning point.

Because let’s be real…
 Your kids don’t learn self-worth from your words.
 They learn it from your boundaries.
 From your standards.
 From what you tolerate.
 From how you treat yourself when life gets hard.

In this episode, we talk about what it really means to model self-love in front of your children, even when it feels uncomfortable, even when it requires change. We dive into:

• The silent lessons children absorb from self-sacrificing mothers
 • Why “doing it all” is not the badge of honor we think it is
 • How to start choosing yourself without guilt
 • The connection between your identity and your parenting
 • What it looks like to break generational cycles in real time

This is not about perfection. This is about awareness, ownership, and making a different choice… not just for you, but for the little eyes watching you.

Kamia’s message is simple but life-changing…
 The greatest gift you can give your children is a mother who knows who she is.

Connect with Kamia Hayes:
Website: www.capacityliberated.com

Instagram: Instagram – @kamiahayes
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Facebook: Facebook – @kamiamhayes

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It’s Trash Day – www.itstrashdaybook.com

Free Gift for Listeners:
You Are Not Last – A reflection guide for the woman who keeps putting herself at the bottom of her own list
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If this episode spoke to you, don’t just sit with it… do something with it.
 This is the work we do inside coaching. Learning how to choose yourself without losing yourself.

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And as always… this is Loving Me Before I Love You… where we stop performing love, and we start becoming it.

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What happens when the strongest woman in the room is silently carrying guilt she never talks about?

In this raw and deeply personal solo episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, Coach Tammy Nicole opens up about the hidden weight of mom guilt from the perspective of a single mother who made the difficult decision to leave her marriage, while balancing motherhood, chronic illness, business, and the pressure to “be everything” for everyone.

This conversation goes beyond the surface-level version of mom guilt and dives into the emotional reality many women quietly carry:

✨ Feeling guilty for missing moments
 ✨ Feeling responsible for how life turned out for your children
 ✨ Struggling to prioritize yourself without shame
 ✨ Trying to heal while still showing up for everybody else
 ✨ Wondering if you’ve failed your children because life didn’t look the way you imagined

Coach Tammy Nicole also speaks directly to women who do not have children but still experience guilt around motherhood, nurturing, legacy, and identity.

This episode is honest, healing, reflective, and full of the self-love truths women need to hear.

Because motherhood should never require abandoning yourself.

If you’re ready to reclaim your voice, your worth, and your power, join the coaching program designed to help women gain clarity, confidence, and courage to live unapologetically as themselves.

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Connect with Coach Tammy Nicole:
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This one right here… this is for the woman who woke up one day and realized the house got quiet… and somewhere along the way, so did she.

In this episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, we’re asking a question that hits deeper than most are ready to admit… Who are you outside of motherhood?

I’m joined by returning guest Evelyn Smith, who you may remember from Season 1 when we unpacked self-love and career. But this time… life looks different. Evelyn is stepping into a new chapter as a recent empty nester, and baby… this conversation is real, raw, and necessary.

Because let’s be honest…
 Motherhood can become your identity if you’re not careful.
 You give, you pour, you sacrifice… and then one day, your children no longer need you in the same way… and now you’re left asking… who am I now?

We talk about:
 • The emotional shift of becoming an empty nester
 • Grieving the role while still being grateful for it
 • Rediscovering yourself beyond being “mom”
 • The fear, the freedom, and the identity crisis no one prepares you for
 • How to reconnect with the woman you were before… and the one you’re becoming now

This episode is not about losing motherhood… it’s about expanding beyond it.

Because you were always more than what you did for everybody else.

If you’ve been feeling lost, disconnected, or unsure of who you are in this season… this conversation is your mirror and your permission slip.

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It’s time to meet the version of you… that’s been waiting on you.

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Some betrayals don’t just break your heart…
 they break your identity.

What do you do when the person you built a life with…
 the one you trusted for decades…
 becomes the very reason you have to find yourself all over again?

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, I sit down with Teras Smith, a businesswoman who opens up about experiencing betrayal through infidelity in her 24-year marriage. But this isn’t just a story about what was done to her… it’s about what she chose to do for herself after.

Teras shares what it felt like to lose herself in the midst of loving someone else, how she navigated the pain, the confusion, and the rebuilding process, and the moment she realized her healing was no longer about the relationship… it was about her identity.

This conversation is for the woman who is silently questioning herself…
 the one trying to make sense of the hurt…
 the one wondering if she’ll ever feel like herself again.

Inside this episode, we talk about:
 • What betrayal really does to your self-worth and identity
 • The truth about losing yourself in long-term relationships
 • How to begin rebuilding trust… with yourself first
 • Finding clarity, confidence, and power after heartbreak
 • Why your healing is bigger than what happened to you

Teras is using her voice and her story to bring awareness, strength, and confidence to women walking through betrayal… reminding you that what tried to break you can actually introduce you to the version of you you’ve been missing.

If you’ve ever felt lost in love, this episode will help you find your way back home to yourself.

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There comes a moment when you realize…
 the pain didn’t start with you,
 but the healing?
 That responsibility found your name.

In this deeply honest and necessary conversation, I sit down with Jamiliah Zadravec, affectionately known as Jay, a faith-led soft life content creator who is redefining what healing really looks like. Not the performative kind. Not the “I’m over it” kind. But the kind that requires boundaries, truth, and choosing peace… even when it’s uncomfortable.

Jay, the voice behind Jay’sSoftLife, shares her journey of navigating family wounds without losing herself in the process. With humor, wisdom, and a whole lot of honesty, she breaks down what it means to stop carrying what was never yours, to release guilt, and to understand that breaking cycles does not require you to break yourself.

This episode is for the woman who is tired of being the strong one at her own expense. The one who’s ready to heal but refuses to keep bleeding for the sake of family loyalty.

We talk about:
 • What family wounds really look like when you stop romanticizing them
 • Why boundaries feel like betrayal… but are actually self-respect
 • Letting go of guilt when you choose yourself
 • Healing without losing your softness
 • How faith and self-awareness can coexist in your healing journey

Because let’s be real…
 Some of us weren’t raised, we were survived.
 And now you’re being called to do something different.

Connect with Jay:
Follow her journey and daily doses of truth + healing:
Instagram / TikTok: @JaysSoftLife

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If this episode spoke to you, don’t just sit with it…
 Move with it.

Because healing isn’t just about understanding your story.
 It’s about deciding you’re no longer going to live trapped inside of it.

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Trauma is a word we hear often, but many people don’t truly understand how deeply it lives in the body, the mind, and the choices we make every day.

It shows up in our relationships.
 It shows up in our fears.
 It shows up in the way we protect ourselves from being hurt again.

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, I sit down with Alinda Quinn, founder of Synergy in Bloom, a trauma-informed coaching collaborative dedicated to helping survivors and coaches understand the deeper science behind trauma and healing.

Alinda brings both professional knowledge and lived experience to this conversation. With certifications and extensive training in trauma coaching, crisis intervention, neurodivergence support, relationship abuse recovery, and creativity coaching, she has dedicated her life to helping others understand that trauma does not have to define the rest of their story.

It’s personal.

After navigating her own painful experiences, Alinda discovered that some of our deepest wounds can eventually become our greatest sources of strength. Her healing journey showed her that serving others was not just meaningful work. It became one of the most powerful paths to her own recovery.

Through Synergy in Bloom, she now helps coaches and helpers become more trauma-informed while also teaching them how to care for themselves as they support others.

Because one of the biggest truths in helping professions is this:

You cannot pour healing into others while ignoring your own wounds.

In this episode, we talk about:

• What trauma actually does to the brain and body
 • Why unresolved trauma shows up in our everyday behaviors and relationships
 • The difference between coping and true healing
 • Why helpers, coaches, and leaders must prioritize their own healing
 • How turning pain into purpose can create ripple effects that impact countless lives

This conversation reminds us that healing isn’t about pretending the trauma didn’t happen.

It’s about understanding it, processing it, and learning how to move forward with compassion for ourselves.

Because when one person heals, the impact spreads further than they will ever know.

Ready to Reclaim Your Voice, Worth, and Power?

If you are a woman who looks strong on the outside but feels overwhelmed, disconnected, or stuck internally, my 90-Day Reclaim Your Power Coaching Program was created for you.

This experience is designed to help women rebuild their identity, release emotional wounds, and develop the confidence to walk in clarity and purpose.

Inside the program we work through:

• Self-identity and self-love
 • Breaking people-pleasing patterns
 • Setting boundaries without guilt
 • Releasing emotional baggage from the past
 • Developing confidence and clarity in who you are

Learn more and apply here:
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Podcast Host: Coach Tammy Nicole

Questions for the show:
 [email protected]

Interested in being a guest:
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Healing sounds beautiful when people talk about it.

It sounds peaceful.
 It sounds empowering.
 It sounds like a destination.

But the truth is… healing often begins with opening the emotional suitcase you’ve been dragging behind you for years and finally looking inside.

And what you find in there isn’t always pretty.

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, I sit down with Siobhan Middleton, a woman who made the brave decision to begin unpacking the emotional weight she had been carrying after experiencing divorce and life transitions that forced her to face herself in a deeper way.

Rather than pretending everything was fine, Siobhan chose to begin the real work of healing. Through her journey, she has also created a space for other women to do the same by launching a movement focused on helping women acknowledge their pain, process it, and rebuild their lives with intention.

In this honest and heartfelt conversation, we talk about what healing actually looks like when the cameras are off and the applause is gone.

In this episode we discuss:

• The emotional weight many women carry after divorce and life changes
 • Why ignoring your pain only makes the baggage heavier
 • The courage it takes to begin unpacking your past
 • What healing truly looks like beyond the social media quotes
 • How sharing your story can become part of your restoration

Healing isn’t about pretending the past didn’t happen.

It’s about opening the suitcase, pulling everything out, deciding what still belongs in your life and what you’re finally ready to leave behind.

Because the truth is, you can’t walk freely into your future while carrying baggage that no longer serves you.

Ready to Reclaim Your Voice, Worth, and Power?

If you’re a woman who appears strong in public but feels overwhelmed, lost, or disconnected in private, my 90-Day Reclaim Your Power Coaching Program was created for you.

Inside this transformative experience we work through:

• Rebuilding your identity
 • Releasing emotional baggage from the past
 • Setting boundaries without guilt
 • Developing confidence rooted in self-love
 • Learning how to show up fully as the woman you were designed to be

Learn more and apply here:
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Podcast Host: Coach Tammy Nicole

Questions for the show:
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Interested in being a guest on the podcast:
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It starts the moment you decide to open the suitcase.

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Have you ever walked into a room knowing you belong there, yet a quiet voice in your mind whispers, “What if they find out you’re not as good as they think?”

That voice has a name.

Imposter syndrome.

And for many high-achieving women, especially women who carry multiple roles and responsibilities, it shows up at the exact moment they are supposed to be standing in their power.

In this powerful episode of Loving Me Before I Love You, I sit down with Dr. Sabryna Herring-Antwine, a licensed psychologist, speaker, and mental health professional who has dedicated her career to helping individuals understand their minds, challenge limiting beliefs, and step into the confidence they deserve.

Dr. Sabryna brings both professional insight and real-life wisdom as we unpack why imposter syndrome shows up even in the most accomplished women and what it actually takes to move beyond it.

Together we talk about:

• What imposter syndrome really is and why so many successful women experience it
 • How self-doubt can quietly sabotage opportunities and growth
 • The difference between humility and shrinking yourself
 • How past experiences and conditioning shape our confidence
 • Practical ways to challenge the voice of doubt and reclaim your authority

This conversation is a reminder that the problem is not that you are unqualified.

The problem is that you have been taught to question your own brilliance.

Ready to Reclaim Your Voice, Worth, and Power?

If you’re a woman who appears successful on the outside but privately wrestles with self-doubt, boundaries, or identity, my 90-Day Reclaim Your Power Coaching Program was created with you in mind.

Inside this transformative experience we focus on:

• Rebuilding your self-identity
 • Setting healthy boundaries without guilt
 • Releasing people-pleasing patterns
 • Developing confidence rooted in self-love
 • Learning how to show up fully as the woman you were designed to be

Learn more and apply here:
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Podcast Host: Coach Tammy Nicole

Questions for the show:
 [email protected]

Interested in being a guest on the podcast:
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At some point in every woman’s life, there comes a moment where she has to look in the mirror and ask herself a hard question. Am I actually becoming the woman I said I would be?

Not the woman everyone else needed.
 Not the woman shaped by expectations, survival, or fear.
 But the woman she promised herself she would become.

In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Nikkole Malone. She is a wife, mother, author, and the founder of Breaking Ground, a faith-based coaching program helping aspiring entrepreneurs move from fear to foundation.

Nikkole shares her story of knowing deep down she was called for more, yet wrestling with doubt, hesitation, and the weight of stepping fully into her purpose. With nearly a decade of experience in sales and operations and a heart rooted in faith, she made the decision to stop waiting and start building with God.

Through her work with Breaking Ground, Nikkole now helps faith-filled visionaries turn their God-given ideas into real businesses that create both impact and income. Her belief is simple but powerful. When faith meets strategy, vision becomes viable and legacy is built.

In this episode we talk about:

• The moment you realize you are no longer willing to stay the same
 • What it really takes to become the woman you said you would be
 • Moving from fear and hesitation into faith and action
 • Building a life and business aligned with purpose
 • Why becoming her requires letting go of who you used to be

This conversation is about identity, obedience, and the courage to step into the version of yourself that has been waiting for you all along.

Because the truth is, becoming her isn’t about perfection.
 It’s about alignment.

Ready to reclaim your voice, worth, and power?

If you are a woman who is successful on the outside but quietly struggling within, my 90-Day Reclaim Your Power Coaching Program was created for you.

Inside this experience we work through identity, boundaries, self-forgiveness, and confidence so you can finally live the life you know you were designed to live.

Learn more:
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Podcast Host: Coach Tammy Nicole

Questions for the show:
 [email protected]

Interested in being a guest:
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There comes a moment in life when the noise quiets down just enough for you to hear the truth you’ve been avoiding.

Not the truth other people told you.
 Not the truth you performed for the world.

But the truth that whispers, you’ve been abandoning yourself.

In this deeply personal solo episode, I open up about what it really meant for me to finally choose me. Not in a selfish way. Not in a trendy social media kind of way. But in the real, uncomfortable, soul-searching kind of way that requires honesty, accountability, and courage.

For years, I did what many women do. I showed up for everybody. I carried responsibilities. I fulfilled expectations. I played the roles that made everyone else comfortable. On the outside it looked like success, strength, and stability.

But inside there was still a quiet question.

Where am I in all of this?

In this episode I walk you through the moment that realization hit me and what it looked like to stop performing life and start living it intentionally. We talk about what finding yourself actually means and why so many women struggle with it.

Because finding you is not about getting your hair done, your nails done, or taking a vacation.
 Finding you means sitting with your thoughts. Listening to your own voice. Understanding what you feel, what you want, and what you’re no longer willing to tolerate.

In this episode we explore:

• Why so many women lose themselves in responsibility and routine
 • What it truly means to find yourself again
 • The uncomfortable process of hearing your own thoughts
 • Why choosing yourself requires letting go of the version of you that kept everyone else comfortable
 • How choosing yourself changes every relationship in your life

Choosing yourself is not the end of the story.

It’s the beginning of becoming the woman you were always meant to be.

Work With Coach Tammy Nicole

If this episode resonated with you and you’re ready to stop surviving and start becoming, my 90-Day Reclaim Your Power Coaching Program was created for women who are ready to do the real work.

This experience is designed for successful women, especially single mothers, who look strong in public but feel lost in private.

Inside the program we focus on:

• Rebuilding your self-identity
 • Setting boundaries without guilt
 • Releasing people-pleasing patterns
 • Forgiving yourself and others
 • Developing the confidence to walk in clarity and power

You don’t have to keep figuring it out alone.

Learn more and apply here:
 stan.store/iamtammynicole

Stay Connected With The Show

Questions for the podcast:
 [email protected]

Interested in being a guest:
 [email protected]

Merchandise and resources:
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Follow Coach Tammy Nicole:
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 @CoachTammyNicole

If this episode spoke to you, share it with another woman who may be ready to finally choose herself too. Because the moment you choose you… everything in your life begins to change.